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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do couples on here sometimes get jealous if their other half is looking at /messaging one particular profile?
I'll be honest I don't think I'd like it but I'm not technically a swinger. Just curious as to how people deal with this on here. Thanks. |
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We both log on and read the messeges. It's mainly me who does the messaging back (male) but that's because Lisa prefers that but we both have input into what's being said. But on the other hand when it comes to meets it's her who is in charge. I can imagine some couples getting jealous though but there will always be a goid reason behind it I suppose |
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"We both log on and read the messeges. It's mainly me who does the messaging back (male) but that's because Lisa prefers that but we both have input into what's being said. But on the other hand when it comes to meets it's her who is in charge. I can imagine some couples getting jealous though but there will always be a goid reason behind it I suppose"
I was with a lovely couple at the weekend, they're more like friends though (not on here) and have a very open relationship. I have encountered couples where the female doesn't seem happy and this puts me off meeting couples as I can do without conflict. Especially if someone is being coerced. |
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Jealousy is an odd one and I think it is potentially very destructive if you are attempting to swing as a couple if one or both of you suffer from it.
The barometer I use is "do I find it a turn on if my wife messages one person a lot?" and yes I would, it doesn't threaten me at all. But that's because I'm secure in my relationship with her. As she is with me.
If I had any doubts, then I would be jealous without question and that is where the potential pitfalls lie. I think that unless you are 100% doing this to enhance what you have between each other, rather than 'to find something better or more exciting', then things can rapidly deteriorate in a relationship.
There are many reasons why people could be jealous, some very valid indeed, some less so. However if it is there, it has the potential to cause chaos.
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I'd love it if hubby got a bit more action on here lol It's always me (nev female) that responds to the messages though as they are always off blokes. Would love some ladies to come & chat with us! I wouldn't get jealous & he doesn't get jealous when I chat....we are on this site for a reason  |
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"We both log on and read the messeges. It's mainly me who does the messaging back (male) but that's because Lisa prefers that but we both have input into what's being said. But on the other hand when it comes to meets it's her who is in charge. I can imagine some couples getting jealous though but there will always be a goid reason behind it I suppose
I was with a lovely couple at the weekend, they're more like friends though (not on here) and have a very open relationship. I have encountered couples where the female doesn't seem happy and this puts me off meeting couples as I can do without conflict. Especially if someone is being coerced. "
That's exactly what puts us off. I like the Mrs to call the shots as she knows what I'm comfortable with and what I'm not. I see it as as long as she is happy then I am happy as I know she would never overstep any boundaries we have. My biggest issue is I always want guys to treat her with the respect I do. |
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"We both log on and read the messeges. It's mainly me who does the messaging back (male) but that's because Lisa prefers that but we both have input into what's being said. But on the other hand when it comes to meets it's her who is in charge. I can imagine some couples getting jealous though but there will always be a goid reason behind it I suppose
I was with a lovely couple at the weekend, they're more like friends though (not on here) and have a very open relationship. I have encountered couples where the female doesn't seem happy and this puts me off meeting couples as I can do without conflict. Especially if someone is being coerced.
That's exactly what puts us off. I like the Mrs to call the shots as she knows what I'm comfortable with and what I'm not. I see it as as long as she is happy then I am happy as I know she would never overstep any boundaries we have. My biggest issue is I always want guys to treat her with the respect I do. "
I'm interested in hearing from the female half of couples about their experiences.
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"We both log on and read the messeges. It's mainly me who does the messaging back (male) but that's because Lisa prefers that but we both have input into what's being said. But on the other hand when it comes to meets it's her who is in charge. I can imagine some couples getting jealous though but there will always be a goid reason behind it I suppose
I was with a lovely couple at the weekend, they're more like friends though (not on here) and have a very open relationship. I have encountered couples where the female doesn't seem happy and this puts me off meeting couples as I can do without conflict. Especially if someone is being coerced.
That's exactly what puts us off. I like the Mrs to call the shots as she knows what I'm comfortable with and what I'm not. I see it as as long as she is happy then I am happy as I know she would never overstep any boundaries we have. My biggest issue is I always want guys to treat her with the respect I do. "
Interesting, the biggest issue we have with swinging lately is other women being disrespectful to my wife. |
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"We both log on and read the messeges. It's mainly me who does the messaging back (male) but that's because Lisa prefers that but we both have input into what's being said. But on the other hand when it comes to meets it's her who is in charge. I can imagine some couples getting jealous though but there will always be a goid reason behind it I suppose
I was with a lovely couple at the weekend, they're more like friends though (not on here) and have a very open relationship. I have encountered couples where the female doesn't seem happy and this puts me off meeting couples as I can do without conflict. Especially if someone is being coerced.
That's exactly what puts us off. I like the Mrs to call the shots as she knows what I'm comfortable with and what I'm not. I see it as as long as she is happy then I am happy as I know she would never overstep any boundaries we have. My biggest issue is I always want guys to treat her with the respect I do.
Interesting, the biggest issue we have with swinging lately is other women being disrespectful to my wife. "
Respect is a two way street. |
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"We both log on and read the messeges. It's mainly me who does the messaging back (male) but that's because Lisa prefers that but we both have input into what's being said. But on the other hand when it comes to meets it's her who is in charge. I can imagine some couples getting jealous though but there will always be a goid reason behind it I suppose
I was with a lovely couple at the weekend, they're more like friends though (not on here) and have a very open relationship. I have encountered couples where the female doesn't seem happy and this puts me off meeting couples as I can do without conflict. Especially if someone is being coerced.
That's exactly what puts us off. I like the Mrs to call the shots as she knows what I'm comfortable with and what I'm not. I see it as as long as she is happy then I am happy as I know she would never overstep any boundaries we have. My biggest issue is I always want guys to treat her with the respect I do.
Interesting, the biggest issue we have with swinging lately is other women being disrespectful to my wife.
Respect is a two way street. "
Thanks for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jealousy is an odd one and I think it is potentially very destructive if you are attempting to swing as a couple if one or both of you suffer from it.
The barometer I use is "do I find it a turn on if my wife messages one person a lot?" and yes I would, it doesn't threaten me at all. But that's because I'm secure in my relationship with her. As she is with me.
If I had any doubts, then I would be jealous without question and that is where the potential pitfalls lie. I think that unless you are 100% doing this to enhance what you have between each other, rather than 'to find something better or more exciting', then things can rapidly deteriorate in a relationship.
There are many reasons why people could be jealous, some very valid indeed, some less so. However if it is there, it has the potential to cause chaos.
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"Enhancement" over "Excitement" every time. |
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We tend to respond to messages together, particularly if it is messages arranging meets, or first messages to other ladies or couples.
General chatting could be either or both of us. It works well for us 
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"We tend to respond to messages together, particularly if it is messages arranging meets, or first messages to other ladies or couples.
General chatting could be either or both of us. It works well for us
Bun "
That's the thing, I receive messages from the male half and it just puts me off. If I were to ever meet a couple off here it'd be after speaking to the female half first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I (the missus) run our account, but we did go through a stage where I replied to messages from single guys and G replied to couples. As far as I'm aware he's never had an issue with me chatting with anyone, and I certainly haven't been concerned about him chatting.
I think the only time either of us might have an issue would be if it was on Kik and it wasn't a group conversation. As long as we can both see what's being said and is all open there's no problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Both read and reply to messages. Although I do have some guys i just have general chit chat with on here. Hubby does not mind as he can see the messages and reply if he wants. |
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"We tend to respond to messages together, particularly if it is messages arranging meets, or first messages to other ladies or couples.
General chatting could be either or both of us. It works well for us
Bun
That's the thing, I receive messages from the male half and it just puts me off. If I were to ever meet a couple off here it'd be after speaking to the female half first. "
All our meets with single ladies have come about by there being a really good girl/girl communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well I always like to chat to the lady on the phone first girl on girl chat is really important to us. I never really get jealous when he is getting a lot of messages from a lady and vice versa because we have a little thing called communication. Plus if there was any jealousy we would not be swinging in the first place. What annoys me is when we get messages from single guys who address it to me only!
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