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Is anyone else attracted to selfishness?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone. "
I would guess that you are very much not alone OP, but a lot of men don't want to admit it or are not even aware of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I would guess that you are very much not alone OP, but a lot of men don't want to admit it or are not even aware of it."
That's interesting you think they wouldn't admit it. I wouldn't say it's embarrassing but maybe it could be taken as a sign of weakness? |
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Selfish in what way though, its not a bad thing to be selfish if youre just looking after number one, doing whats best for you and likeing yourself, better than being a martyr. I dont especialy like people who compain about selfish people because they like to make out they themselves are saints, the holyer than though types. Not all of them some are though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone. "
What exactly do you mean about selfish? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What exactly do you mean about selfish? "
I like the brutally honest and a little selfish type. It's hard to put a finger on it without it sounding strange. I think I like women that know what they want and like to get it. Not in a mad narcissistic kind of way. Maybe there's another word for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To echo everyone else, what do you mean by selfish? I wouldn't say I was attracted to selfish people as such, but I find martyrs and victims and doormats a massive turnoff too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone. "
Nope, you are not alone. I guess it becomes a problem when selfishness veers towards narcissism. Narcissists are dangerous people
Nice arse btw  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone.
Nope, you are not alone. I guess it becomes a problem when selfishness veers towards narcissism. Narcissists are dangerous people
Nice arse btw "
Yeah I've had enough encounters with narcissists to last a life time  I feel like I know how to spot them now at least.
Thank you. Yours isn't too bad either  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To echo everyone else, what do you mean by selfish? I wouldn't say I was attracted to selfish people as such, but I find martyrs and victims and doormats a massive turnoff too. "
When someone knows what they want and goes after it. Maybe there are other words to describe it but I feel like selfish describes it best
I've been sat here trying to articulate my thoughts but I just can't   it's really hard to describe! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Confidence and assertiveness is desirable, regardless of gender.
You have to put yourself first, who else will?
But a dictionary definition of selfish is someone who lacks consideration for other people, which isn't attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Selfish in what way? There's lots of different ways that you can be selfish.
I like people who put themselves first in their lives. Does that make them selfish? Maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone.
Nope, you are not alone. I guess it becomes a problem when selfishness veers towards narcissism. Narcissists are dangerous people
Nice arse btw "
I actually like a narcissist. I find I know where I stand with them. I'm dating a guy now who is incredibly narcissistic and it's really working for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To echo everyone else, what do you mean by selfish? I wouldn't say I was attracted to selfish people as such, but I find martyrs and victims and doormats a massive turnoff too.
When someone knows what they want and goes after it. Maybe there are other words to describe it but I feel like selfish describes it best
I've been sat here trying to articulate my thoughts but I just can't it's really hard to describe! "
I would have said assertive. And I find that attractive in a person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To echo everyone else, what do you mean by selfish? I wouldn't say I was attracted to selfish people as such, but I find martyrs and victims and doormats a massive turnoff too.
When someone knows what they want and goes after it. Maybe there are other words to describe it but I feel like selfish describes it best
I've been sat here trying to articulate my thoughts but I just can't it's really hard to describe!
I would have said assertive. And I find that attractive in a person."
Yeah perhaps you're right. Maybe assertive with sprinkles of selfishness now and again I think I just like to indulge people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone.
Nope, you are not alone. I guess it becomes a problem when selfishness veers towards narcissism. Narcissists are dangerous people
Nice arse btw
I actually like a narcissist. I find I know where I stand with them. I'm dating a guy now who is incredibly narcissistic and it's really working for us."
I don't think you're alone. A lot of women seem to be attracted to narcissists, but unlike you, they are mistaking narcissism for confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone.
Nope, you are not alone. I guess it becomes a problem when selfishness veers towards narcissism. Narcissists are dangerous people
Nice arse btw
I actually like a narcissist. I find I know where I stand with them. I'm dating a guy now who is incredibly narcissistic and it's really working for us.
I don't think you're alone. A lot of women seem to be attracted to narcissists, but unlike you, they are mistaking narcissism for confidence. "
I suspect it helps if you have a similar personality disorder.
(And I would extend your 'women' to 'people'.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've come to realise that I'm very attracted to selfish women. Pretty sure it's always been a thing for me but I'm not sure why!?
Tell me I'm not alone.
Nope, you are not alone. I guess it becomes a problem when selfishness veers towards narcissism. Narcissists are dangerous people
Nice arse btw
I actually like a narcissist. I find I know where I stand with them. I'm dating a guy now who is incredibly narcissistic and it's really working for us.
I don't think you're alone. A lot of women seem to be attracted to narcissists, but unlike you, they are mistaking narcissism for confidence.
I suspect it helps if you have a similar personality disorder.
(And I would extend your 'women' to 'people'.)"
Quite possibly, but I seem to see/know more narcissistic men than women. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"what is the self? only than can you define what subjective 'ishness' you are talking about.
You had to go all deep and murder the thread, didn't you?  "
thread and self killer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree. Apart from the physical interaction, I think good sex,and sensuality, is about the meeting of minds as well. That won't happen if one person is keeping that side of themselves hidden, and not shared |
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