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I've been reading a quite a few of the amazing stories on here. I think it's great how many people are into the lifestyle.
My question is to the couples on here. How did you start? How do you speak to a partner about the subject when you're not sure how they would react?
Ive been talking fantasies in bed for the first time and it seems to turn her on quite a bit but seems hard to bring up outside of the bedroom. |
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"Show her your profile and veri and see how she reacts. "
Ha that's a fair point. In all honestly I set this account up a while ago and have never met anyone on here. I didn't even know someone had posted a random verification so have removed it.
I have only chatted to people on here about their experiences. Probably best update my profile |
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"Show her your profile and veri and see how she reacts.
Ha that's a fair point. In all honestly I set this account up a while ago and have never met anyone on here. I didn't even know someone had posted a random verification so have removed it.
I have only chatted to people on here about their experiences. Probably best update my profile "
Sure sure  |
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"Show her your profile and veri and see how she reacts.
Ha that's a fair point. In all honestly I set this account up a while ago and have never met anyone on here. I didn't even know someone had posted a random verification so have removed it.
I have only chatted to people on here about their experiences. Probably best update my profile
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You don't have explain yourself, nor do you need approval from some of these people
Although i wouldn't bother. It won't end well  |
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"Show her your profile and veri and see how she reacts.
Ha that's a fair point. In all honestly I set this account up a while ago and have never met anyone on here. I didn't even know someone had posted a random verification so have removed it.
I have only chatted to people on here about their experiences. Probably best update my profile
You don't have explain yourself, nor do you need approval from some of these people
Although i wouldn't bother. It won't end well "
thanks mate, appreciate that |
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Paul was always open about the lifestyle when I first knew him and I was intrigued so I asked him if we could go to a club together. After quite a while of talking about it to make sure I knew what I was doing he agreed...we went...the rest is history.  |
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"Paul was always open about the lifestyle when I first knew him and I was intrigued so I asked him if we could go to a club together. After quite a while of talking about it to make sure I knew what I was doing he agreed...we went...the rest is history. "
 ah that's great! Must be nice to meet someone who shares the same ideas from the start |
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"Paul was always open about the lifestyle when I first knew him and I was intrigued so I asked him if we could go to a club together. After quite a while of talking about it to make sure I knew what I was doing he agreed...we went...the rest is history. ah that's great! Must be nice to meet someone who shares the same ideas from the start"
It's wonderful and I certainly feel blessed  |
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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago
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I bought the subject up wiv Mr the very first nite we hooked up.. Asked him about fantasies and has he ever had a 3sum wiv either ffm or mmf..and it went from ther. He already had a profile on here wen we met. 20mths later and stil together I bring the subject up to whoever im wiv as its a part of me..cant join me then its 'see ya later then love'
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"I've been reading a quite a few of the amazing stories on here. I think it's great how many people are into the lifestyle.
My question is to the couples on here. How did you start? How do you speak to a partner about the subject when you're not sure how they would react?
Ive been talking fantasies in bed for the first time and it seems to turn her on quite a bit but seems hard to bring up outside of the bedroom. "
Just tell her you are on a swinging site and would she like to join you |
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"In all honestly I set this account up a while ago and have never met anyone on here. I didn't even know someone had posted a random verification so have removed it."
A verification only shows if you choose that they do.
Must have been someone who hacked your account and met someone and published the veri? |
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"In all honestly I set this account up a while ago and have never met anyone on here. I didn't even know someone had posted a random verification so have removed it.
A verification only shows if you choose that they do.
Must have been someone who hacked your account and met someone and published the veri?"
Possibly the Russians... |
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"In all honestly I set this account up a while ago and have never met anyone on here. I didn't even know someone had posted a random verification so have removed it.
A verification only shows if you choose that they do.
Must have been someone who hacked your account and met someone and published the veri?"
And they would have got away with it if it hadn't been for you pesky kids. Scoooooooby dooby doooooooo. |
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"I've been reading a quite a few of the amazing stories on here. I think it's great how many people are into the lifestyle.
My question is to the couples on here. How did you start? How do you speak to a partner about the subject when you're not sure how they would react?
Ive been talking fantasies in bed for the first time and it seems to turn her on quite a bit but seems hard to bring up outside of the bedroom. "
If you can't bring it up outside the bedroom how will you decide how to proceed once you are swinging?
Set some time aside when you know you won't be interrupted, tell her what you would like and be prepared to listen (really listen) to her response, answer questions honestly and discuss everything. If the end result is that she says no, drop it and respect that.
Be aware that once you let the genie out of the bottle it can be difficult to get back in.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I'd say its a conversation you need to have before you start doing it on your own.
After youve already gone behind thier back you'll have ruined thier trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My partner knew when he met me that I enjoyed this lifestyle, over the years and many conversations, he decided to try, we took it very slowly, he now has his own profile, and is ready to try his first larger gathering. Time, patience, trust and communication is the key. |
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We'd only been a couple for a few weeks, and realised we both liked variety. We'd both had quite a bit of extramarital play when married to our exes.
One night we were in bed watching a porn DVD filmed in La Chambre, with real people in 3somes, 4somes and larger orgies. I asked if she'd like to try that, and she said yes, so we went to La Chambre the following Saturday. We didn't do a swap that night, but we loved the scene so much we went to the cub at least once a month after that, and soon did our first full swap. That was 12 years ago and we've been swinging regularly ever since.
So our advice is, just choose the moment and ask! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I talked my husband into it...something he had done before so it was easy for him to agree that we should try it..and we have had some great times swinging and hope for more to come. |
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By *4pleasureCouple
over a year ago
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The Mrs and I watched a movie where the main couple ended up swapping with their friends. Basically at the end of the movie I asked her if she would be interested in something like that. She said it could be fun with the right people. After that we just had an open and honest discussion about the subject. My best advice is to get everything on the table so to speak, so there will be no problems when you get to your first meet and can be confident she will be comfortable with whatever happens.
Good luck |
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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago
Loughborough |
We did sexfantasyquiz* and it turned out we both wanted to shag in public, we went to XT with no intention of swinging, a hot couple asked us to join them, he both hesitated and eventually said no, we had "the discussion" the next day and here we are 10 years later.
*might not have this exact one but something similar. Partner A answers question as to their likes and things they want to try. The answers get saved aren't displayed, you then hand it over to partner B and they do the same. At the end it only shows the things you both want to try. |
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Just pick your moment when you're both feeling happy and relaxed and mention it, ideally talk about fantasies and bring it into the conversation that way.
Be prepared for her to say no though, then you'll have to decide whether you can settle to just a sex life with her or whether you'll have to look at different options. |
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