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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok..so I get many of them each day and I I hate being rude. So what do you normally do? (It's clear by the way they haven't read my profile as mine is fairly specific)
Ignore and block
Answer saying fine thanks or answering with just a few kisses. xx. That's a polite way to me of acknowledgement but not encouragement
Tell them to sod off
Or answer saying..'you haven't read my profile'. Etc
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its obvious they haven't bothered to read it I just delete without response now. I used to reply to every message but I'm fed up of pointless conversations on here now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the messages are from men then we are used to it, no reply means no thanks.
No need to feel rude not replying, it's expected that we won't get replies from those that aren't interested in us.
If you must reply, just go for "thanks but you're not for me " If you put a reason it invites further messages.
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I get a fair few messages from straight guys and I used to be polite and answer them, but gave up when all you then get back is stuff like "oh I just want to get sucked" or "I fancy giving it a try" so I rarely respond to any straight guys now.
Most other messages I at least give a polite reply to.
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"Send my cut n paste reply; "thank you for your message but it has not been deemed interesting enough to warrant a reply"
Then block.
That would just make me laugh as it is a reply of sort's "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If its obvious they haven't bothered to read it I just delete without response now. I used to reply to every message but I'm fed up of pointless conversations on here now "
Exactly this. If they haven't bothered reading profile to realise they straight away aren't going to be a match then why bother wasting your time and making the effort replying?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok..so I get many of them each day and I I hate being rude. So what do you normally do? (It's clear by the way they haven't read my profile as mine is fairly specific)
Ignore and block
Answer saying fine thanks or answering with just a few kisses. xx. That's a polite way to me of acknowledgement but not encouragement
Tell them to sod off
Or answer saying..'you haven't read my profile'. Etc
Answers please on a postcard!"
I'm happy to report that as a male i dont have to worry about this problem...! |
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"Just be as ignorant as they are and delete it no reply
I do this "
Yep, this
I have it clear on my profile I'll just be deleting if they can't be bothered to read the profile, makes me feel better about it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Message back saying "please re-read our profile in full"
The usual reply is "Sorry"
Being polite to people costs nothing and takes no effort at all regardless if they have or haven't read our profile  |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
"Send my cut n paste reply;
"thank you for your message but it has not been deemed interesting enough to warrant a reply"
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I thought that was a site generated automatic reply, not a reply from the user |
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"Send my cut n paste reply;
"thank you for your message but it has not been deemed interesting enough to warrant a reply"
I thought that was a site generated automatic reply, not a reply from the user "
Haha I've been giving that one away for ages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok..so I get many of them each day and I I hate being rude. So what do you normally do? (It's clear by the way they haven't read my profile as mine is fairly specific)
Ignore and block
Answer saying fine thanks or answering with just a few kisses. xx. That's a polite way to me of acknowledgement but not encouragement
Tell them to sod off
Or answer saying..'you haven't read my profile'. Etc
Answers please on a postcard!"
I reply with thanks not interested
Genuine people read the profiles  |
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"Send my cut n paste reply; "thank you for your message but it has not been deemed interesting enough to warrant a reply"
Then block. "
I am sooooooo tempted now to send you a really interesting message |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Ok..so I get many of them each day and I I hate being rude. So what do you normally do? (It's clear by the way they haven't read my profile as mine is fairly specific)
Ignore and block
Answer saying fine thanks or answering with just a few kisses. xx. That's a polite way to me of acknowledgement but not encouragement
Tell them to sod off
Or answer saying..'you haven't read my profile'. Etc
Answers please on a postcard!"
Delete and block, if they can't be arsed,why should you  |
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By *illnatMan
over a year ago
wherever i need to be |
"I always read profiles... then I know if its worth sending a message or not. Lol
This, why do they waste their own time, desperation maybe? "
Possibly.
For me I need to know if I would be wasting my time. My circumstances aren't too everyone's taste lol.
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"Ok..so I get many of them each day and I I hate being rude. So what do you normally do? (It's clear by the way they haven't read my profile as mine is fairly specific)
Ignore and block
Answer saying fine thanks or answering with just a few kisses. xx. That's a polite way to me of acknowledgement but not encouragement
Tell them to sod off
Or answer saying..'you haven't read my profile'. Etc
Answers please on a postcard!"
When visible, my profile clearly states what I'm looking for/what's on offer etc. It's not ambiguous in any way.
I also state I will not respond to anyone outwith my profile: and I don't!
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By *cot611Man
over a year ago
carterton |
I write messages individually based on the profile I've read and always use the code word that is asked for. The majority are read and that's it, but on a few occasions I've been thanked for the nice message even if I'm not what they're looking for, which is better than getting nothing back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This does our tits in. If you don't put what you are looking for in a profile then you attract the idiots. Then you only have the idiots that just message because you've posted an update or new picture. Can't even be arsed to block these days, just delete. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"I write messages individually based on the profile I've read and always use the code word that is asked for. The majority are read and that's it, but on a few occasions I've been thanked for the nice message even if I'm not what they're looking for, which is better than getting nothing back"
If our profile is clearly read, but they are not for us, I would always reply. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This does our tits in. If you don't put what you are looking for in a profile then you attract the idiots. Then you only have the idiots that just message because you've posted an update or new picture. Can't even be arsed to block these days, just delete."
I am extremely specific in what I state in my profile but I do post regular updates and very occasionally a new pic so I can assume that many may message because of this without even looking at my profile |
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By *illnatMan
over a year ago
wherever i need to be |
"This does our tits in. If you don't put what you are looking for in a profile then you attract the idiots. Then you only have the idiots that just message because you've posted an update or new picture. Can't even be arsed to block these days, just delete.
I am extremely specific in what I state in my profile but I do post regular updates and very occasionally a new pic so I can assume that many may message because of this without even looking at my profile"
Quite possible but I sometimes wonder if the way the site is set out I.e. Pics first then the profile if that makes it more likely for folk to message? Peek at pics and not scroll down? |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Less than 1 percent of messagees appear to have read our profile "
Probably the same, currently sitting on 25 unsolicited friend requests & 15 winks all from couples  None of their profiles say the female plays alone so we assume they haven't read the profile..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This does our tits in. If you don't put what you are looking for in a profile then you attract the idiots. Then you only have the idiots that just message because you've posted an update or new picture. Can't even be arsed to block these days, just delete.
I am extremely specific in what I state in my profile but I do post regular updates and very occasionally a new pic so I can assume that many may message because of this without even looking at my profile
Quite possible but I sometimes wonder if the way the site is set out I.e. Pics first then the profile if that makes it more likely for folk to message? Peek at pics and not scroll down?"
On the desk top site the photos are at the bottom of the profile text. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"This does our tits in. If you don't put what you are looking for in a profile then you attract the idiots. Then you only have the idiots that just message because you've posted an update or new picture. Can't even be arsed to block these days, just delete.
I am extremely specific in what I state in my profile but I do post regular updates and very occasionally a new pic so I can assume that many may message because of this without even looking at my profile
Quite possible but I sometimes wonder if the way the site is set out I.e. Pics first then the profile if that makes it more likely for folk to message? Peek at pics and not scroll down?"
We actually think "New public pics" "Hot pics" & "Most Fabbed" should be dropped or at least the ability to link direct to profile removed as we think most come via there bypassing the actual blurb of the profile completely.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I write messages individually based on the profile I've read and always use the code word that is asked for. The majority are read and that's it, but on a few occasions I've been thanked for the nice message even if I'm not what they're looking for, which is better than getting nothing back"
Same for me |
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"I write messages individually based on the profile I've read and always use the code word that is asked for. The majority are read and that's it, but on a few occasions I've been thanked for the nice message even if I'm not what they're looking for, which is better than getting nothing back
If our profile is clearly read, but they are not for us, I would always reply."
Yep...same here! |
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