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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"is there a fab site just for to meet black guys?
Just use the ethnicity search on here and that's all you'll get "
There should be an option for the reverse. IE a way for black guys to find women and couples who're looking for BBC |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No one is suggesting leaving anyone out. It's just some of us are more attracted to black men. We all have preferences
Kinky  "
don't worry I know, I was just being sarcastic about people who actually think like that lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"is there a fab site just for to meet black guys?
Just use the ethnicity search on here and that's all you'll get
There should be an option for the reverse. IE a way for black guys to find women and couples who're looking for BBC"
It would help save people time |
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By *MFC PartiesWoman
over a year ago
Here, There & Everywhere |
"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls"
Not very complementary towards the female half of the couple that left you a verification- I bet you didn't tell her that before you fucked her! |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
There Is an ethnicity filter in advanced search... It does mean you searching though... I'd suggest that's the best way for ladies anyway... You know better than any description what you're looking for.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls
Not very complementary towards the female half of the couple that left you a verification- I bet you didn't tell her that before you fucked her! "
 busted. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls
Not very complementary towards the female half of the couple that left you a verification- I bet you didn't tell her that before you fucked her!
busted. Lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls
Not very complementary towards the female half of the couple that left you a verification- I bet you didn't tell her that before you fucked her!
busted. Lol"
As if by magic his public pictures have disappeared. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls"
As long as they don't just lie there like a fish and they suck your cock .... apparently.
If I was your wife I'd be tempted to send a rocket propelled grenade attack ..... and I know just which orifice I'd aim for!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls
As long as they don't just lie there like a fish and they suck your cock .... apparently.
If I was your wife I'd be tempted to send a rocket propelled grenade attack ..... and I know just which orifice I'd aim for!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls
Not very complementary towards the female half of the couple that left you a verification- I bet you didn't tell her that before you fucked her! "
This is why I love you Helen
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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5''11 strong, intellingent professional black male looking to meet with couples and females. I'd rather get to know you so we can have a laugh and enjoy the time spent in bed as well as out of it but saying that I am not averse to last minute meets should the occasion arise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab couldn't do a site for separate preferences
Bmfc is the best place to meet blackmen "
Thing is if the same was said for white men don't think it would go down well a filter option to save both ways peoples time would be easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wish there were a few bi-curious or bi black guys that would like to meet white guys - I've only ever met one on here - come on guys "
I agree with you on this. A black bi couple looking for a white bi guy would be ideal. I've only met 1 bi black couple before. It was a lot of fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess it would make my life easier finding local women who ARE interested in meeting Black guys, a lot of the time I'm liking pictures, then reading profiles then seeing 'white guys only'! |
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By *irceWoman
over a year ago
Gloucester |
Frikin amazing....you say only meet white on here and get roasted...wows.
Hmmm anyone brave enough to post up a white seekers...
Guess i have over stepped my bad white view again....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Frikin amazing....you say only meet white on here and get roasted...wows.
Hmmm anyone brave enough to post up a white seekers...
Guess i have over stepped my bad white view again.... "
It's the way of the world now |
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By *irceWoman
over a year ago
Gloucester |
"Frikin amazing....you say only meet white on here and get roasted...wows.
Hmmm anyone brave enough to post up a white seekers...
Guess i have over stepped my bad white view again....
It's the way of the world now"
It would be nice to have some balance, it is not okay to favor one group whatever colour....or has history been forgotten.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Frikin amazing....you say only meet white on here and get roasted...wows.
Hmmm anyone brave enough to post up a white seekers...
Guess i have over stepped my bad white view again....
It's the way of the world now
It would be nice to have some balance, it is not okay to favor one group whatever colour....or has history been forgotten...."
This is a sex site , so it's really a mute point because people are just here to get their jollies |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls
Not very complementary towards the female half of the couple that left you a verification- I bet you didn't tell her that before you fucked her! "
I was just thinking that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Once you go Turk, you go berserk, if you go Portuguese you drop to your knees"
If you meet a spaniard, you just want his scabbard (I come from Spain but on the border border with Portugal, do I get bonus points?) |
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"Fab couldn't do a site for separate preferences
Bmfc is the best place to meet blackmen
Thing is if the same was said for white men don't think it would go down well a filter option to save both ways peoples time would be easier."
Think it has been said once or twice on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"is there a fab site just for to meet black guys?
Just use the ethnicity search on here and that's all you'll get
There should be an option for the reverse. IE a way for black guys to find women and couples who're looking for BBC"
This! |
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"is there a fab site just for to meet black guys?
Just use the ethnicity search on here and that's all you'll get
There should be an option for the reverse. IE a way for black guys to find women and couples who're looking for BBC
This!"
Oh, yes ! |
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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago
Ramsgate |
"Oi !!!!! Don't forget us Bisexual men we would love a bit of black cock or pussy lol
Exactly. I love black cock or pussy"
I love black cock but black bi guys are not easy to find on this site  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right "
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?"
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!!"
Black men aren't excluded from any club in the country, are they? What is the point then of a Black Man's Fan Club? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!!
Black men aren't excluded from any club in the country, are they? What is the point then of a Black Man's Fan Club?"
It's to promote interracial sex....for ladies that enjoy the pleasures of black men.
You should really start a white man's fan club... but only allow non white women to be members.. I want 10% of all profits |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!!
Black men aren't excluded from any club in the country, are they? What is the point then of a Black Man's Fan Club?
It's to promote interracial sex....for ladies that enjoy the pleasures of black men.
You should really start a white man's fan club... but only allow non white women to be members.. I want 10% of all profits "
Pre-tax? No way 
But seriously, why not a White Man's Fan club? I have never heard of one. That too would promote interracial sex for ladies that enjoy the pleasures of White men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!!
Black men aren't excluded from any club in the country, are they? What is the point then of a Black Man's Fan Club?
It's to promote interracial sex....for ladies that enjoy the pleasures of black men.
You should really start a white man's fan club... but only allow non white women to be members.. I want 10% of all profits
Pre-tax? No way
But seriously, why not a White Man's Fan club? I have never heard of one. That too would promote interracial sex for ladies that enjoy the pleasures of White men"
Ok this is just from what I have seen in my short time living and visiting in the U.K. . Black men of African/Caribbean decent are mostly who I met and interacted with while I was there. Most were successful and dated white women and black women. I didn't meet any black guys with a Indian or Asian wife.
What I did notice was ever mixed race woman I met told me they did not date black men. I didn't ask why because it's non of my business. Now the Indian people I did meet they would only date white or Indian. The Muslims I met would only date Muslims or white.
So From my short interactions, I came away with the conclusion that black men are the 3rd or last choice for women in the U.K. when it comes to attraction , dating and marriage.
So in reality you would not need a white mans fan club because they are the 1st choice for most women or worst case 2nd choice in dating and the swinging world.
Starting a Try a white man fan club would be more appropriate....... you would probably only get women looking for citizenship as members. Lol
The Blackman fan club was created to save black men and the couples/women that love them. Time and resources when looking for suitable playmates. If BMFC wasn't around most black guys would pay good money for clubs and parties and then hope to find the one or two couples out of 50 that plays with black guys.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!!
Black men aren't excluded from any club in the country, are they? What is the point then of a Black Man's Fan Club?"
The Point of a black mans fan club, is to find people who like black men! Simple really.
In this country the Majority is made up of Caucasian - Fact. All the other Ethnic Minority groups that are classed as Black don't even equate to 1M - fact. So; this means wherever you go you will find white people (which is also a fact). So as a majority, you have the luxury of choice! So statistically, you'll will always find white men that will be partial to you whatever type of club you'll go to. Fact.
You however, (and I assume you get lots of messages) get to filter people out to suit your preferences! As an ethnic minority, we don't get that same luxury, we will be rejected before we even get started (if people are attracted for whatever other reason, then fair enough, but our physical appearances such as race, we have no control over), reading some of the profiles out there quote "not into black/bbc, not being racist,etc..."
Now the point of a black mans fan club is to find some who are/or attracted to black men as a starting point to find people that would give the opportunity to play/meet whatever!
So why would someone, who has the MAJORITY complain, when minority's want a little help,it will make both of us happier, so I don't see or message people who will reject me upon race.
Furthermore, black fan clubs do not reject White patrons! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
Not going to quote both of you
Fair enough; if that is what it is
But I see as many "bbc only" (which incidently, I think, fetishsizes Black men) as "no Blacks"
For me, I prefer to meet with people who are culturally similar to myself and have found little or no difference between Black or White men. And although I have visited a Black Man's Fan club (once or perhaps, twice), most of the Black men I met were in mainstream clubs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not going to quote both of you
Fair enough; if that is what it is
But I see as many "bbc only" (which incidently, I think, fetishsizes Black men) as "no Blacks"
For me, I prefer to meet with people who are culturally similar to myself and have found little or no difference between Black or White men. And although I have visited a Black Man's Fan club (once or perhaps, twice), most of the Black men I met were in mainstream clubs"
I tend to run from the BBC only couples or women..... |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Not going to quote both of you
Fair enough; if that is what it is
But I see as many "bbc only" (which incidently, I think, fetishsizes Black men) as "no Blacks"
For me, I prefer to meet with people who are culturally similar to myself and have found little or no difference between Black or White men. And although I have visited a Black Man's Fan club (once or perhaps, twice), most of the Black men I met were in mainstream clubs
I tend to run from the BBC only couples or women....."
Is that why you are Athletic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not going to quote both of you
Fair enough; if that is what it is
But I see as many "bbc only" (which incidently, I think, fetishsizes Black men) as "no Blacks"
For me, I prefer to meet with people who are culturally similar to myself and have found little or no difference between Black or White men. And although I have visited a Black Man's Fan club (once or perhaps, twice), most of the Black men I met were in mainstream clubs
I tend to run from the BBC only couples or women.....
Is that why you are Athletic? "
You're so retarded |
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By *MFC PartiesWoman
over a year ago
Here, There & Everywhere |
Bbcnyc and Code Black - Thanks so much for taking the time out to so eloquently explain the ethos of the BMFC
I established the BMFC over 13 years ago as i was truly fed up of going to swingers clubs with my then partner who was usually the ONLY Black Guy in the club!!
Swingers clubs were a VERY different animal back then as you couldnt just apply for membership - you had to be either recommended by an existing member or be a business owner
Pre internet days swinging was not as mainstream and was rather underground so if you /knew you knew'
So tbh the idea back then was a very selfish one on my part
I had NO IDEA that the concept would have grown the way it has - evidence that people like what we offer and the way that we offer it!!
We will NEVER use the phrases BBC (i HATE that phrase) when we refer to or promote our parties as the guys that attend our parties are SO MUCH MORE than a cock!!
The only difference between a BMFC party and any other swingers party out there is that we strive to be a place where Black Guys and the Ladies/Couples who are INTO Black Guys will feel welcomed, relaxed and WANTED
In my 13 years, we have NEVER refused ANYONE based on the colour of their skin - but we HAVE refused admission due to being under the influence of alcohol or not being suitably dressed
There are many reasons as to why guests attend our parties - and those same reasons may be why some would never attend
But we will keep on doing what we do while there is a demand - while venues continue to approach me with offers of expansion and while we have the passion to deliver a first class professional service |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
I just do not get Race based Preference. I just dont.
I have had sex with members of all the major Races (white, Black, Asian, Oriental) and had a great time with all. One person is hot one is not. Limits like this just baffle me. |
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"I just do not get Race based Preference. I just dont.
I have had sex with members of all the major Races (white, Black, Asian, Oriental) and had a great time with all. One person is hot one is not. Limits like this just baffle me."
Attraction for me. I'm attracted to black guys. I'm rarely attracted to Asian and even less oriental. Just what different people like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just do not get Race based Preference. I just dont.
I have had sex with members of all the major Races (white, Black, Asian, Oriental) and had a great time with all. One person is hot one is not. Limits like this just baffle me."
That's because you're a bloke  |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
I think we all lean towards the type of person we are with.
I love the sheen of sweet on dark ebony Skin. The shape of oriental features the nipples on Asian Woman and the red head Green Eyed are sexy Kriptonite to me.
And while this will sound cheesy the personality of the person i am fucking often is the sexiest bit.
That comes in all colours.
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"I think we all lean towards the type of person we are with.
I love the sheen of sweet on dark ebony Skin. The shape of oriental features the nipples on Asian Woman and the red head Green Eyed are sexy Kriptonite to me.
And while this will sound cheesy the personality of the person i am fucking often is the sexiest bit.
That comes in all colours.
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Personality and chemistry trump everything  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like tanned European, mix race, or light skinned pakistani girls. Not into white girls ot black girls
Not very complementary towards the female half of the couple that left you a verification- I bet you didn't tell her that before you fucked her!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think we all lean towards the type of person we are with.
I love the sheen of sweet on dark ebony Skin. The shape of oriental features the nipples on Asian Woman and the red head Green Eyed are sexy Kriptonite to me.
And while this will sound cheesy the personality of the person i am fucking often is the sexiest bit.
That comes in all colours.
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I agree, I find most races individually a turn on love black ladies and orientals as much as I like white or Caucasian women 
Does it seem that more with women are into black guys than black women are into white guys ?
Nothing's wrong with this as we like what we like or are turned on by it just seems more one way than the other. ? |
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"is there a fab site just for to meet black guys?
Just use the ethnicity search on here and that's all you'll get
There should be an option for the reverse. IE a way for black guys to find women and couples who're looking for BBC"
Good point!
Tbh it mystifies me that you can't do proper searches for all profile details if you want them and then 'reverse' them accordingly as you just suggested!
Eg height,ethnicity, body type etc etc
To me it's the only way fab falls down compared to most dating sites!
Without being mean - I'd love to be able to put my preferences in so, for instance, guys under my height, or guys who are thin or large, don't spend ages composing a message to me when realistically I'm just not going to meet them. I've had some fab messages from these guys and I feel really bad for them!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose it would get way too complicated to put every preference down, but if people put honest forthright requirements in the profile and others actually read it then it should be fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some racist bigot use preference as a cover up."
This.
What I always find amusing about these threads is the amount of socially awkward white people there are here who cant stop going on about their racial preferences. Its so pathetic.
You like black guys, big whoop. Whats the need in a million threads in order to discuss it?? |
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"Some racist bigot use preference as a cover up.
This.
What I always find amusing about these threads is the amount of socially awkward white people there are here who cant stop going on about their racial preferences. Its so pathetic.
You like black guys, big whoop. Whats the need in a million threads in order to discuss it?? "
Isn't that the same for most things on fab? Bbw's - big boobs - bums!
You name it there are a thousand threads for it! X |
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"Some racist bigot use preference as a cover up.
This.
What I always find amusing about these threads is the amount of socially awkward white people there are here who cant stop going on about their racial preferences. Its so pathetic.
You like black guys, big whoop. Whats the need in a million threads in order to discuss it?? "
To get reactionary posts from black guys  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some racist bigot use preference as a cover up.
This.
What I always find amusing about these threads is the amount of socially awkward white people there are here who cant stop going on about their racial preferences. Its so pathetic.
You like black guys, big whoop. Whats the need in a million threads in order to discuss it??
To get reactionary posts from black guys "
This |
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"Some racist bigot use preference as a cover up.
This.
What I always find amusing about these threads is the amount of socially awkward white people there are here who cant stop going on about their racial preferences. Its so pathetic.
You like black guys, big whoop. Whats the need in a million threads in order to discuss it?? "
If you notice the threads go round in circles...
In fact there are only 73 topics discussed on Fab and they go round and round... |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
Never really understood these type of preference. I accept people have them. Just cant really understand why swingers of all people enforce them.
With the wonderful befet of people and experiences to be had in swinging limiting the choice seams a bit well limiting.
But each to thier own send your unwanted Black/ white/ Asian/ oriental / gods and Goddesses to me for recycling. Lol
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"Please keep an eye to Cupids "Black Magic" the first such Cupids club event will organised in late February & ALL will be welcome xx Cupids "where the customer comes first""
Ah excellent. We have been debating travelling NW and not sure on which club to try |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
Heres a revolutionary Idea.
How about a we like Sex Fan Party.
Any shape any colour any gender older younger (over 18 of course) whips chains soft swing romantic erotic social naked fun fans party.
A cum one cum all take your pick and have a ball party. Send out invites to every preference you can think of and then ask people to name the ones you have not thought of.
Sounds like a night i would travel to Manchester for.
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"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!!
Black men aren't excluded from any club in the country, are they? What is the point then of a Black Man's Fan Club?
The Point of a black mans fan club, is to find people who like black men! Simple really.
In this country the Majority is made up of Caucasian - Fact. All the other Ethnic Minority groups that are classed as Black don't even equate to 1M - fact. So; this means wherever you go you will find white people (which is also a fact). So as a majority, you have the luxury of choice! So statistically, you'll will always find white men that will be partial to you whatever type of club you'll go to. Fact.
You however, (and I assume you get lots of messages) get to filter people out to suit your preferences! As an ethnic minority, we don't get that same luxury, we will be rejected before we even get started (if people are attracted for whatever other reason, then fair enough, but our physical appearances such as race, we have no control over), reading some of the profiles out there quote "not into black/bbc, not being racist,etc..."
Now the point of a black mans fan club is to find some who are/or attracted to black men as a starting point to find people that would give the opportunity to play/meet whatever!
So why would someone, who has the MAJORITY complain, when minority's want a little help,it will make both of us happier, so I don't see or message people who will reject me upon race.
Furthermore, black fan clubs do not reject White patrons! "
Well said.
Everyday and everywhere in this country and every sphere of life is white man's fan club. There's no need to start something that already exists everywhere but not mentioned. |
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"I just do not get Race based Preference. I just dont.
I have had sex with members of all the major Races (white, Black, Asian, Oriental) and had a great time with all. One person is hot one is not. Limits like this just baffle me."
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
"As a black woman I can say once you go white you see the light
No you mean once you go white , your credit score goes right
But more to the point, are there any White Men's Fan Club?
Yes! EVERY CLUB IN THE COUNTRY!!
Black men aren't excluded from any club in the country, are they? What is the point then of a Black Man's Fan Club?
The Point of a black mans fan club, is to find people who like black men! Simple really.
In this country the Majority is made up of Caucasian - Fact. All the other Ethnic Minority groups that are classed as Black don't even equate to 1M - fact. So; this means wherever you go you will find white people (which is also a fact). So as a majority, you have the luxury of choice! So statistically, you'll will always find white men that will be partial to you whatever type of club you'll go to. Fact.
You however, (and I assume you get lots of messages) get to filter people out to suit your preferences! As an ethnic minority, we don't get that same luxury, we will be rejected before we even get started (if people are attracted for whatever other reason, then fair enough, but our physical appearances such as race, we have no control over), reading some of the profiles out there quote "not into black/bbc, not being racist,etc..."
Now the point of a black mans fan club is to find some who are/or attracted to black men as a starting point to find people that would give the opportunity to play/meet whatever!
So why would someone, who has the MAJORITY complain, when minority's want a little help,it will make both of us happier, so I don't see or message people who will reject me upon race.
Furthermore, black fan clubs do not reject White patrons!
Well said.
Everyday and everywhere in this country and every sphere of life is white man's fan club. There's no need to start something that already exists everywhere but not mentioned."
Fact the UK population of "non-white" peoples is 18% and the UK population of Black + Black British is 3+% or 1.9+ Million according to the 2011 Census. (That is if you do not use the Sociological Political Definition of the term Black which actually includes Irish for reasons of shared experiences of predudice.) The term BME is used to more appropriatly discribe people taken as a whole of non "white" ethnicity. (Actually we are pink but you get the point.)
Now the suggestion that we need a white persons fan club.
No clealry we do not. The suggestion of which is deeply dodggy or lacking in any understanding of the nature of race diacrimination in the UK.
The point i was trying to make is this.
People are sexy. People are the some total of all the factors that make them who they are not just one, no matter how defining that one factor appears to some people.
I do not understand why people fixate on a single factor when a Person is so much more.
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"is there a fab site just for to meet black guys?
Just use the ethnicity search on here and that's all you'll get
There should be an option for the reverse. IE a way for black guys to find women and couples who're looking for BBC"
Just put bbc in the bame search |
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"It certainly would. Is frustrating sometimes finding women (black or white) who are interested in black men. . Just search bbw haha "
And why / how does that help ?? |
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"Bbcnyc and Code Black - Thanks so much for taking the time out to so eloquently explain the ethos of the BMFC
I established the BMFC over 13 years ago as i was truly fed up of going to swingers clubs with my then partner who was usually the ONLY Black Guy in the club!!
Swingers clubs were a VERY different animal back then as you couldnt just apply for membership - you had to be either recommended by an existing member or be a business owner
Pre internet days swinging was not as mainstream and was rather underground so if you /knew you knew'
So tbh the idea back then was a very selfish one on my part
I had NO IDEA that the concept would have grown the way it has - evidence that people like what we offer and the way that we offer it!!
We will NEVER use the phrases BBC (i HATE that phrase) when we refer to or promote our parties as the guys that attend our parties are SO MUCH MORE than a cock!!
The only difference between a BMFC party and any other swingers party out there is that we strive to be a place where Black Guys and the Ladies/Couples who are INTO Black Guys will feel welcomed, relaxed and WANTED
In my 13 years, we have NEVER refused ANYONE based on the colour of their skin - but we HAVE refused admission due to being under the influence of alcohol or not being suitably dressed
There are many reasons as to why guests attend our parties - and those same reasons may be why some would never attend
But we will keep on doing what we do while there is a demand - while venues continue to approach me with offers of expansion and while we have the passion to deliver a first class professional service"
You established the concept of people having a sexual interest in black men?! You must have be over 100s of years old. The interest has always been there, you've just found a way to make money out of it. |
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By *il_MissBMFCWoman
over a year ago
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" You established the concept of people having a sexual interest in black men?! You must have be over 100s of years old. The interest has always been there, you've just found a way to make money out of it. "
Lol.. So are all swingers clubs tarred under the same brush? As in, making money out of sex? Don't be so silly... Clubs and organisers like ourself create a safe environment for people to do so. Putting on a bloody good party atmosphere, enabling people to socialise with others who are likeminded. If people didn't want to come and didn't like the idea of the BMFC (and all others who wish to replicate what we have), then they wouldn't come and we wouldn't be so successful.. Pretty simple really... |
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over a year ago
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" You established the concept of people having a sexual interest in black men?! You must have be over 100s of years old. The interest has always been there, you've just found a way to make money out of it.
Lol.. So are all swingers clubs tarred under the same brush? As in, making money out of sex? Don't be so silly... Clubs and organisers like ourself create a safe environment for people to do so. Putting on a bloody good party atmosphere, enabling people to socialise with others who are likeminded. If people didn't want to come and didn't like the idea of the BMFC (and all others who wish to replicate what we have), then they wouldn't come and we wouldn't be so successful.. Pretty simple really... "
Not many other swingers clubs have race tied into their core business model. People come because they are all about getting laid in the here and now and not thinking beyond that.
Black people are their own worst enemies sometimes. I bet you most of the black men who come to your club would have complained about other aspects of their life where they feel excluded/disadvantaged because of being a black man.
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
Having space were people feel valued and wanted. I get that. I also get why in some places and clubs people may not feel that way.
I have a problem with the idea that someone is "special" becouse of the colour of thier Skin. That equally applies to "white" people and any other.
The problem does not lie in the concept of a BMFC but in the Society that see's this "special" distinction at all.
Untill the colour of your skin is seen by society as only just one factor in the quality of your person, than a need for a BMFC will continue. As swingers i had hoped that we would understand that better than most and move beyond such limited vision. |
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By *il_MissBMFCWoman
over a year ago
Various Venues Across The UK |
" You established the concept of people having a sexual interest in black men?! You must have be over 100s of years old. The interest has always been there, you've just found a way to make money out of it.
Lol.. So are all swingers clubs tarred under the same brush? As in, making money out of sex? Don't be so silly... Clubs and organisers like ourself create a safe environment for people to do so. Putting on a bloody good party atmosphere, enabling people to socialise with others who are likeminded. If people didn't want to come and didn't like the idea of the BMFC (and all others who wish to replicate what we have), then they wouldn't come and we wouldn't be so successful.. Pretty simple really...
Not many other swingers clubs have race tied into their core business model. People come because they are all about getting laid in the here and now and not thinking beyond that.
Black people are their own worst enemies sometimes. I bet you most of the black men who come to your club would have complained about other aspects of their life where they feel excluded/disadvantaged because of being a black man.
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So for people having preferences, that's wrong?
Would you complain about a BBW night 'making money' off women who are of the larger size? And so on and so on...
Like I said earlier, if people didn't want to come to our parties - they wouldn't and other clubs wouldn't want to use our concept either if it didn't work! We didn't start off to 'make money' if you actually read Helens original post. But seems you've only read what you wanted to and picked the negatives out of it.
Anyway, it seems you're not interested in our parties or anything similar.. I'd say I think you're missing out, but I'm sure you would disagree |
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over a year ago
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As I said before, I don't have a problem meeting black men; there are plenty who spend time searching for women who want them. I can also search myself, for black men, via the site's search options.
I was put off meeting men who attended black men events after talking to some of the men who attend them. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Please keep an eye to Cupids "Black Magic" the first such Cupids club event will organised in late February & ALL will be welcome xx Cupids "where the customer comes first""
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Having space were people feel valued and wanted. I get that. I also get why in some places and clubs people may not feel that way.
I have a problem with the idea that someone is "special" becouse of the colour of thier Skin. That equally applies to "white" people and any other.
The problem does not lie in the concept of a BMFC but in the Society that see's this "special" distinction at all.
Untill the colour of your skin is seen by society as only just one factor in the quality of your person, than a need for a BMFC will continue. As swingers i had hoped that we would understand that better than most and move beyond such limited vision."
I like black men for the same reason I like ginger haired men - I find their distinctiveness attractive. It has nothing to do with societal 'mores', it is to do with what I like.
The problem with people having preferences is that those who are not included tend to think that they are considered lesser. It's not the case, or at least not with me. I don't discriminate against non-black or non-ginger, and refuse to meet the,. I just find black and ginger men more attractive. |
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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"Frikin amazing....you say only meet white on here and get roasted...wows.
Hmmm anyone brave enough to post up a white seekers...
Guess i have over stepped my bad white view again.... "
I don't think they're roasting, I think it's more of case I've been on many a profile of women that I would like to get to know and it reads white Only which is fine. What is being said it would be easier if you could filter it out automatically. Incidentally I am half white, however that will never be taken into consideration as people
Generally only tend to see the black. Before anyone starts this is a mere observation, from personal experience |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
"Having space were people feel valued and wanted. I get that. I also get why in some places and clubs people may not feel that way.
I have a problem with the idea that someone is "special" becouse of the colour of thier Skin. That equally applies to "white" people and any other.
The problem does not lie in the concept of a BMFC but in the Society that see's this "special" distinction at all.
Untill the colour of your skin is seen by society as only just one factor in the quality of your person, than a need for a BMFC will continue. As swingers i had hoped that we would understand that better than most and move beyond such limited vision.
I like black men for the same reason I like ginger haired men - I find their distinctiveness attractive. It has nothing to do with societal 'mores', it is to do with what I like.
The problem with people having preferences is that those who are not included tend to think that they are considered lesser. It's not the case, or at least not with me. I don't discriminate against non-black or non-ginger, and refuse to meet the,. I just find black and ginger men more attractive."
Absolutly nothing wrong with that. Individual preference based on genuine attraction is fine.
It is in the abstract and precived sterio-typing that the problem lay. The "special" concept sits directly in the Sterio-typing of people.
Genuine, i like this or that, is fine. A lot of people are looking for 'experiences' however and that does not sit well with me. Events that promote Experiences need to be carful that they are not just feeding into a perpetuation of a Sterio-typing that leads to a closing down or genuine inclusion.
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I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious |
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By *MFC PartiesWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious "
The very reason that we NEVER use that phrase when promoting our parties! |
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"Having space were people feel valued and wanted. I get that. I also get why in some places and clubs people may not feel that way.
I have a problem with the idea that someone is "special" becouse of the colour of thier Skin. That equally applies to "white" people and any other.
The problem does not lie in the concept of a BMFC but in the Society that see's this "special" distinction at all.
Untill the colour of your skin is seen by society as only just one factor in the quality of your person, than a need for a BMFC will continue. As swingers i had hoped that we would understand that better than most and move beyond such limited vision.
I like black men for the same reason I like ginger haired men - I find their distinctiveness attractive. It has nothing to do with societal 'mores', it is to do with what I like.
The problem with people having preferences is that those who are not included tend to think that they are considered lesser. It's not the case, or at least not with me. I don't discriminate against non-black or non-ginger, and refuse to meet the,. I just find black and ginger men more attractive.
Absolutly nothing wrong with that. Individual preference based on genuine attraction is fine.
It is in the abstract and precived sterio-typing that the problem lay. The "special" concept sits directly in the Sterio-typing of people.
Genuine, i like this or that, is fine. A lot of people are looking for 'experiences' however and that does not sit well with me. Events that promote Experiences need to be carful that they are not just feeding into a perpetuation of a Sterio-typing that leads to a closing down or genuine inclusion.
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I get where you are coming from and I actually admire you for your open-mindedness which is a rarity indeed. I wish I could extrapolate your attitude towards this to all of society. But the truth is that is how society and the system operates. And Fab being a microcosm of our society is likely to have some of those same ways of seeing things.
In a way you are right that we have to be vigilant as individuals not to feed into what can sometimes be a damaging stereotype (we all know just how effective these can be!), but this is a big fight against society in general. |
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"I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious "
I agree with you - there is now a tendency for BBC to be a synonym for black men. That can be very damaging and I personally have seen a lot of black men on this site use this to describe themselves which is sad. As a person, you are way more than what is between your legs and you should not or let anyone define you as such!
But hey, I live in hope! |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
"Having space were people feel valued and wanted. I get that. I also get why in some places and clubs people may not feel that way.
I have a problem with the idea that someone is "special" becouse of the colour of thier Skin. That equally applies to "white" people and any other.
The problem does not lie in the concept of a BMFC but in the Society that see's this "special" distinction at all.
Untill the colour of your skin is seen by society as only just one factor in the quality of your person, than a need for a BMFC will continue. As swingers i had hoped that we would understand that better than most and move beyond such limited vision.
I like black men for the same reason I like ginger haired men - I find their distinctiveness attractive. It has nothing to do with societal 'mores', it is to do with what I like.
The problem with people having preferences is that those who are not included tend to think that they are considered lesser. It's not the case, or at least not with me. I don't discriminate against non-black or non-ginger, and refuse to meet the,. I just find black and ginger men more attractive.
Absolutly nothing wrong with that. Individual preference based on genuine attraction is fine.
It is in the abstract and precived sterio-typing that the problem lay. The "special" concept sits directly in the Sterio-typing of people.
Genuine, i like this or that, is fine. A lot of people are looking for 'experiences' however and that does not sit well with me. Events that promote Experiences need to be carful that they are not just feeding into a perpetuation of a Sterio-typing that leads to a closing down or genuine inclusion.
I get where you are coming from and I actually admire you for your open-mindedness which is a rarity indeed. I wish I could extrapolate your attitude towards this to all of society. But the truth is that is how society and the system operates. And Fab being a microcosm of our society is likely to have some of those same ways of seeing things.
In a way you are right that we have to be vigilant as individuals not to feed into what can sometimes be a damaging stereotype (we all know just how effective these can be!), but this is a big fight against society in general."
Thanks. It is a big struggle but one we can and must win. We all have a stake in it. Without a world that values people as people we are left with one that values people as comodities. There in lies the road to Fasism and destruction.
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"I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious
I agree with you - there is now a tendency for BBC to be a synonym for black men. That can be very damaging and I personally have seen a lot of black men on this site use this to describe themselves which is sad. As a person, you are way more than what is between your legs and you should not or let anyone define you as such!
But hey, I live in hope!"
I'm sorry, I'm just a BBC on swinging sites... in real life I'm a educated successful Blackman.
The reason BBC is so prevalent on sex sites is because most black men sign up to live out a fantasy. They want to step out of their comfort zone and satisfy all their carnal desires... in real life and on their vanilla dating profiles they don't want to be identified as BBC and list all their positive attributes.
So try to take the term BBC with a grain of salt |
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"I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious
I agree with you - there is now a tendency for BBC to be a synonym for black men. That can be very damaging and I personally have seen a lot of black men on this site use this to describe themselves which is sad. As a person, you are way more than what is between your legs and you should not or let anyone define you as such!
But hey, I live in hope!
I'm sorry, I'm just a BBC on swinging sites... in real life I'm a educated successful Blackman.
The reason BBC is so prevalent on sex sites is because most black men sign up to live out a fantasy. They want to step out of their comfort zone and satisfy all their carnal desires... in real life and on their vanilla dating profiles they don't want to be identified as BBC and list all their positive attributes.
So try to take the term BBC with a grain of salt"
I totally agree with you on this one. I ignore whether a man uses the term on his profile and see beyond that. I think its about ownership of the label. My OH's single profile fits many of the stereotypes people want to hear (for whatever reason) and I met him. Strangely enough he is a real man, with depth, experience and compassion .... I didn't doubt that in any way before I met him, even though he had used the term on his profile.
I do agree though, that for some white couples, involving a black man in their swinging lives is just a matter of seeing that man as a label, but that is more a matter of their life experiences and attitude to black men as a group in general as to anything else. |
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
"I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious
I agree with you - there is now a tendency for BBC to be a synonym for black men. That can be very damaging and I personally have seen a lot of black men on this site use this to describe themselves which is sad. As a person, you are way more than what is between your legs and you should not or let anyone define you as such!
But hey, I live in hope!
I'm sorry, I'm just a BBC on swinging sites... in real life I'm a educated successful Blackman.
The reason BBC is so prevalent on sex sites is because most black men sign up to live out a fantasy. They want to step out of their comfort zone and satisfy all their carnal desires... in real life and on their vanilla dating profiles they don't want to be identified as BBC and list all their positive attributes.
So try to take the term BBC with a grain of salt
I totally agree with you on this one. I ignore whether a man uses the term on his profile and see beyond that. I think its about ownership of the label. My OH's single profile fits many of the stereotypes people want to hear (for whatever reason) and I met him. Strangely enough he is a real man, with depth, experience and compassion .... I didn't doubt that in any way before I met him, even though he had used the term on his profile.
I do agree though, that for some white couples, involving a black man in their swinging lives is just a matter of seeing that man as a label, but that is more a matter of their life experiences and attitude to black men as a group in general as to anything else. "
I am sure your OH is all you say he is. The point however is that Most people are. The fact that it needs to be stated proves the point why objectifing people as BBC or BWC or any other single factor label is dangerious. Not everyone understands the fact that people are rounded. Or thier experience of "other" is limited/ non Existent or negative. As the saying goes one bad apple does not the whole bunch spoil.
You like your other half. That should need no justification or defense, and I am sure you mean well. It is not however the issue. Society as a whole needs to get with the program folks. Non of us should feel the need to defend our choices in this way. The fact that we do feel we must is the crux of the problem.
When , like you i am sure, we chose people as whole persons to play with or live with that choice requires no defense becouse it is NOT based on one factor but on sevral that values the person as a whole and not one single thing. The things that we value come in many packages some are not in the rapping paper we expected. |
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"I just do not get Race based Preference. I just dont.
I have had sex with members of all the major Races (white, Black, Asian, Oriental) and had a great time with all. One person is hot one is not. Limits like this just baffle me."
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"I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious
I agree with you - there is now a tendency for BBC to be a synonym for black men. That can be very damaging and I personally have seen a lot of black men on this site use this to describe themselves which is sad. As a person, you are way more than what is between your legs and you should not or let anyone define you as such!
But hey, I live in hope!
I'm sorry, I'm just a BBC on swinging sites... in real life I'm a educated successful Blackman.
The reason BBC is so prevalent on sex sites is because most black men sign up to live out a fantasy. They want to step out of their comfort zone and satisfy all their carnal desires... in real life and on their vanilla dating profiles they don't want to be identified as BBC and list all their positive attributes.
So try to take the term BBC with a grain of salt
I totally agree with you on this one. I ignore whether a man uses the term on his profile and see beyond that. I think its about ownership of the label. My OH's single profile fits many of the stereotypes people want to hear (for whatever reason) and I met him. Strangely enough he is a real man, with depth, experience and compassion .... I didn't doubt that in any way before I met him, even though he had used the term on his profile.
I do agree though, that for some white couples, involving a black man in their swinging lives is just a matter of seeing that man as a label, but that is more a matter of their life experiences and attitude to black men as a group in general as to anything else.
I am sure your OH is all you say he is. The point however is that Most people are. The fact that it needs to be stated proves the point why objectifing people as BBC or BWC or any other single factor label is dangerious. Not everyone understands the fact that people are rounded. Or thier experience of "other" is limited/ non Existent or negative. As the saying goes one bad apple does not the whole bunch spoil.
You like your other half. That should need no justification or defense, and I am sure you mean well. It is not however the issue. Society as a whole needs to get with the program folks. Non of us should feel the need to defend our choices in this way. The fact that we do feel we must is the crux of the problem.
When , like you i am sure, we chose people as whole persons to play with or live with that choice requires no defense becouse it is NOT based on one factor but on sevral that values the person as a whole and not one single thing. The things that we value come in many packages some are not in the rapping paper we expected. "
Well put!
Too add to this,there are exceptions to every rule. I have been to parties and seen profiles and interacted with guys who totally wear the BBC tag with nothing else to offer. Therein lies the problem - one apple spoils the whole lot. This means that people approach you expecting you to be the same and to lead with your cock and that's demeaning.
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By *andemanMan
over a year ago
bedforshire |
"I don't think the term BBC helps in all this.
Personally I'm attracted to black guys for their appearance. Just like some guys like blonde women. I really don't think that's wrong or offensive.
I do however think BBC is and the assumption that all black guys are is tedious
I agree with you - there is now a tendency for BBC to be a synonym for black men. That can be very damaging and I personally have seen a lot of black men on this site use this to describe themselves which is sad. As a person, you are way more than what is between your legs and you should not or let anyone define you as such!
But hey, I live in hope!
I'm sorry, I'm just a BBC on swinging sites... in real life I'm a educated successful Blackman.
The reason BBC is so prevalent on sex sites is because most black men sign up to live out a fantasy. They want to step out of their comfort zone and satisfy all their carnal desires... in real life and on their vanilla dating profiles they don't want to be identified as BBC and list all their positive attributes.
So try to take the term BBC with a grain of salt
I totally agree with you on this one. I ignore whether a man uses the term on his profile and see beyond that. I think its about ownership of the label. My OH's single profile fits many of the stereotypes people want to hear (for whatever reason) and I met him. Strangely enough he is a real man, with depth, experience and compassion .... I didn't doubt that in any way before I met him, even though he had used the term on his profile.
I do agree though, that for some white couples, involving a black man in their swinging lives is just a matter of seeing that man as a label, but that is more a matter of their life experiences and attitude to black men as a group in general as to anything else.
I am sure your OH is all you say he is. The point however is that Most people are. The fact that it needs to be stated proves the point why objectifing people as BBC or BWC or any other single factor label is dangerious. Not everyone understands the fact that people are rounded. Or thier experience of "other" is limited/ non Existent or negative. As the saying goes one bad apple does not the whole bunch spoil.
You like your other half. That should need no justification or defense, and I am sure you mean well. It is not however the issue. Society as a whole needs to get with the program folks. Non of us should feel the need to defend our choices in this way. The fact that we do feel we must is the crux of the problem.
When , like you i am sure, we chose people as whole persons to play with or live with that choice requires no defense becouse it is NOT based on one factor but on sevral that values the person as a whole and not one single thing. The things that we value come in many packages some are not in the rapping paper we expected.
Well put!
Too add to this,there are exceptions to every rule. I have been to parties and seen profiles and interacted with guys who totally wear the BBC tag with nothing else to offer. Therein lies the problem - one apple spoils the whole lot. This means that people approach you expecting you to be the same and to lead with your cock and that's demeaning.
I am here to have kinky, filthy fun but can still do it without being fetishised."
Yep i know that feeling. Some men do us no faviours! Either its the No i am not the dickhead you dated previously!
Or
No actually I am not going to buy you gifts to get in your nickers!
I strong suspect that Woman have similar problems caused by the behaviour of some other woman.
People need to try to treat people as clean slates. But for these kind of problems i can see how some might struggle.
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