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Most comfortable venue for first timers
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As per title, Mrs H has suggested that having a guest here or us going to theirs would be better for our first proper experience. I however think a club or hotel is a better shout. We are both initially shy so yeah the club idea may be too much  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I would say a club.
There's zero pressure or expectation at a club, and I know that can be true of a private meet, however if you don't get along, or click, they don't show, or the conversation dries up you're a bit stuck there, or leave and the evening is wasted.
there are also those who will agree to a social meet and say they have no expectations, but when you do meet up it becomes a different story. And of course, if it goes wrong, as new to the scene it can really knock your confidence.
At a club there are no expectations, there's no pressure.
You can sit back and just enjoy each other's company, whilst taking in the atmosphere.
You'll have the opportunity to talk to lots of people in the scene and get to know it more, and if you don't quite click with someone it's much easier to extract yourselves and move on to chat to someone else and still have a great evening.
It's a better opportunity to gain more confidence, get comfortable, you'll see things, scenario's and people that will spark discussions between yourselves about your own limits and boundaries, and maybe push them at a pace that you are both comfortable with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I would say a club.
There's zero pressure or expectation at a club, and I know that can be true of a private meet, however if you don't get along, or click, they don't show, or the conversation dries up you're a bit stuck there, or leave and the evening is wasted.
there are also those who will agree to a social meet and say they have no expectations, but when you do meet up it becomes a different story. And of course, if it goes wrong, as new to the scene it can really knock your confidence.
At a club there are no expectations, there's no pressure.
You can sit back and just enjoy each other's company, whilst taking in the atmosphere.
You'll have the opportunity to talk to lots of people in the scene and get to know it more, and if you don't quite click with someone it's much easier to extract yourselves and move on to chat to someone else and still have a great evening.
It's a better opportunity to gain more confidence, get comfortable, you'll see things, scenario's and people that will spark discussions between yourselves about your own limits and boundaries, and maybe push them at a pace that you are both comfortable with."
 Totally agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Cheers for the advice, makes a lot of sense and tbh that was how I thought it would be like when we nearly went to a local club a couple of years ago, before it shut down 
We have a contact literally 5 min walk away who has been gaggin to fuck her for a while now, I'm tempted to send her round there or get him to come here but unfortunately kids get in the way of spontaneous moments like that. Oh how to be carefree again lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ChrisNiki are right - go to a club. It's a public space and you can do as you please. A one-to-one meeting in someones house would be extremely uncomfortable for you by the sounds of things - think of the pressure to perform with complete strangers!
Meeting people in this world is all about the blend, and attempting that with 4 people is really difficult - at a club you have WAY more options, and WAY less pressure. |
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I would suggest a club. In fact, although it's a bit of a drive I would suggest Chameleons in Darlaston for you on a Saturday night (couples night). That would allow you to experience the environment with zero pressure to do anything. Chams is also a club where everyone gets changed down to a towel/underwear so there are no worries about what to wear and everyone is in the same boat, which is very liberating.
So I'd suggest go there - grab a drink in the bar, spend some time in the hot tub(s) and then have a good wander around. If something happens then great, but if not then you will at least get a feel for the place/scene. |
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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago
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Club Atlantis Evolution in Burslem, Stoke-on-Trent is very friendly and welcoming. Think chic and sophisticated nightclub with swinging going on!
Checkout the Club's website and the reviews on here. |
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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago
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Guys have to agree with other posters ref a club
At least st a club you can choose to play or not or just have a drink & chat with other couples in the scene
We might be heading to Swindon on 17 th
Happy to walk you in & have a drink |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Excellent advice from ChrisNick. Try an upmarket wet club like Liberty Elite. The venue is not at all intimidating and getting your clothes off (if you want to) helps to overcome the paychological hurdle between having a polite drink at the bar and playing for the first time.
Just getting your clothes off and playing with each other with others around you is a lovely, gentle way to get started.
We clubbed first and it was an excellent experience. Yet to have a successful meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first experience I went to the couples home as they felt more in control It did go well but there was the understanding that we would treat it as a social as opposed to a play. Fortunatly we got on and we did play that night and we became good friends
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the advice everyone, I'm going to suggest a club in the new year once she finally lets little one have a babysitter.... it's been a testing year lol |
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