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Does being bi put off women an couples
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I like sex with both men and women, to be honest with men it's quite a recent thing, but as a result it seems to turn some women and couples off, and I do miss the feel of a women. Do women see me as less of a man or something, or are the couples threatened in any way? |
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over a year ago
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No not less of a man but I wouldn't go with a bi sexual man just doesn't turn me on knowing that you would go with both man and woman sorry just my feelings |
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over a year ago
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It may well do...people have preferences but think what a great opportunity you've opened up also...you may well appeal to those types of people who play the way you like to play... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm afraid we are also not seeking bi men or couples with bi men.
I don't need to explain the reasons why but basically MrJ is straight and would have nothing to offer. We like all involved in our play to be happy with our shenanigans. |
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over a year ago
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"I like sex with both men and women, to be honest with men it's quite a recent thing, but as a result it seems to turn some women and couples off, and I do miss the feel of a women. Do women see me as less of a man or something, or are the couples threatened in any way?"
Of course couples are threatened, there's global warming, uncertainty over leaving the EU, interest rates are sure to rise eventually and Ken Barlow has had a stroke, we should all feel threatened in our search for inner peace and security.
Other than that, good luck with your eclectic sexual shenanigans.  |
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Happily, the couples I meet are more than happy that I'm bisexual and the straight couples haven't cared less cos I said I wouldn't touch the guy or lick my lips when I looked at him or anything iffy or suspect. |
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We don't take offence if anyone is turned off by us being bi.
Everyone can like or dislike who they like. There isn't a law saying that any two people must have sex - even if both describe themselves as straight.
Our view is that we want to have fun, however that manifests itself. By being open about being bi, it puts that on the table should potential of bi play be on the menu. If it's not - no biggie. Just as long as it's FUN.
We do find people who are militantly straight and let us know about it, complete turn-offs though. Horses for courses and all that!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Happily, the couples I meet are more than happy that I'm bisexual and the straight couples haven't cared less cos I said I wouldn't touch the guy or lick my lips when I looked at him or anything iffy or suspect. "
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over a year ago
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It's not for us him is straight so bi is not what we are after, sorry that just us other people may like it though. We do however get a lot of messages and winks of bi males but I tend to just block them, I like straight males knowing I'm going to get all the attention without thinking if the male is looking at him thinking he's wants that cock and not my body to play with. Is that selfish of me.  |
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"It's not for us him is straight so bi is not what we are after, sorry that just us other people may like it though. We do however get a lot of messages and winks of bi males but I tend to just block them, I like straight males knowing I'm going to get all the attention without thinking if the male is looking at him thinking he's wants that cock and not my body to play with. Is that selfish of me. "
You're making the assumption your partner is sexually attractive to males. He might not be.  |
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"I like sex with both men and women, to be honest with men it's quite a recent thing, but as a result it seems to turn some women and couples off, and I do miss the feel of a women. Do women see me as less of a man or something, or are the couples threatened in any way?"
Try being a bi transvestite !! |
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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"I like sex with both men and women, to be honest with men it's quite a recent thing, but as a result it seems to turn some women and couples off, and I do miss the feel of a women. Do women see me as less of a man or something, or are the couples threatened in any way?"
Not at all, I have been away on holiday with 2 different bi men and had a great time xx |
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I actually think it makes a man more masculine to admit that he can find another guy attractive and want to be intimate with one
My husband is orally bi so we are happy to meet a straight or a bi guy
It surprises me more the amount of guys that are straight on their profile but then message saying they would like to play with my husband
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"It's not for us him is straight so bi is not what we are after, sorry that just us other people may like it though. We do however get a lot of messages and winks of bi males but I tend to just block them, I like straight males knowing I'm going to get all the attention without thinking if the male is looking at him thinking he's wants that cock and not my body to play with. Is that selfish of me.
You're making the assumption your partner is sexually attractive to males. He might not be. "
Very true but he's attractive to me. Well I hope so we've been together 24 years. |
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"It's not for us him is straight so bi is not what we are after, sorry that just us other people may like it though. We do however get a lot of messages and winks of bi males but I tend to just block them, I like straight males knowing I'm going to get all the attention without thinking if the male is looking at him thinking he's wants that cock and not my body to play with. Is that selfish of me.
You're making the assumption your partner is sexually attractive to males. He might not be.
Very true but he's attractive to me. Well I hope so we've been together 24 years. "
I'm pleased to hear it  just don't fall into the stereotypical thinking that all bi men really, really fancy all other men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has been brought up before - thing is
Many straight men don't agree with the Bi man thing ...alpha male shit n all that!
So, many women won't go with Bi men as it's decreases their chances of going with the straight guys ...just the world we live in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's not for us him is straight so bi is not what we are after, sorry that just us other people may like it though. We do however get a lot of messages and winks of bi males but I tend to just block them, I like straight males knowing I'm going to get all the attention without thinking if the male is looking at him thinking he's wants that cock and not my body to play with. Is that selfish of me.
You're making the assumption your partner is sexually attractive to males. He might not be.
Very true but he's attractive to me. Well I hope so we've been together 24 years.
I'm pleased to hear it just don't fall into the stereotypical thinking that all bi men really, really fancy all other men."
Just you.
Hi Steve, how are you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like sex with both men and women, to be honest with men it's quite a recent thing, but as a result it seems to turn some women and couples off, and I do miss the feel of a women. Do women see me as less of a man or something, or are the couples threatened in any way?"
We only meet bi males , such a turn on ( mrs) |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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I don't care if he is bi or straight as long as he is manly (not macho) and is paying attention to me, when in a MFM. If he wants sex with another man then so be it, but I wont be hanging around watching |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"No not less of a man but I wouldn't go with a bi sexual man just doesn't turn me on knowing that you would go with both man and woman sorry just my feelings
Exactly this for me too "
And us |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"It's not for us him is straight so bi is not what we are after, sorry that just us other people may like it though. We do however get a lot of messages and winks of bi males but I tend to just block them, I like straight males knowing I'm going to get all the attention without thinking if the male is looking at him thinking he's wants that cock and not my body to play with. Is that selfish of me.
You're making the assumption your partner is sexually attractive to males. He might not be. "
So true
A girlfriend and I attend the same gym and we are both bisexual. Although we don't go out of our way to advertise the fact, over the years it has become known
And it is true that sometimes we do end up, briefly, looking at an attractive woman in the changing room, but that is it. Funny then that it is only ever the shortest, fattest, ugliest women who behave negatively as if we might be interested in them  Maybe, that is what they hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im happy to meet bi men, as I find it a huge turn on.
Preservere and you will find plenty of couples who are happy to have you join them and play bi.
So much fun to be had with both men and women.
Good luck in your search and enjoy |
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Thank you all for your feedback. Some mixed as you would expect but generally I'm being told to stick with it. I also have to say that of the women who enjoyed the company of a bi man there are some incredibly hot ones out there. I just wish I lived further up the country xx |
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"Happily, the couples I meet are more than happy that I'm bisexual and the straight couples haven't cared less cos I said I wouldn't touch the guy or lick my lips when I looked at him or anything iffy or suspect. "
These are my thoughts but I put my profile back to straight there should be a fab straight meaning your not boring as fuck and you actual want to enjoy life and live a little. I'm not attracted to blokes but i will suck and fuck them or vice versa, but that is only if it is mutual, and people say Brexit voters are bigots, no it's you homophobic's, |
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We have no problem with bi guys tbh we prefer them as we find they have no hang ups and are more interesting swinging is a way to explore what you want so if people are put off let them we are on here to have fun so enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like sex with both men and women, to be honest with men it's quite a recent thing, but as a result it seems to turn some women and couples off, and I do miss the feel of a women. Do women see me as less of a man or something, or are the couples threatened in any way?
Of course couples are threatened, there's global warming, uncertainty over leaving the EU, interest rates are sure to rise eventually and Ken Barlow has had a stroke, we should all feel threatened in our search for inner peace and security.
Other than that, good luck with your eclectic sexual shenanigans. "
We are leaving the EU ???
And some men like other men ???
OMG whats happening in the world |
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"Not less of a man
No...
But the idea of 2 guys having sex does nothing for me
So I don't meet bi guys "
But if you're having one on one sex with a guy, what does 2 guys having sex have to do with it?
That's the part I don't get. Being a bi dude doesn't mean you have to have a man involved in everything you do! |
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"Happily, the couples I meet are more than happy that I'm bisexual and the straight couples haven't cared less cos I said I wouldn't touch the guy or lick my lips when I looked at him or anything iffy or suspect.
These are my thoughts but I put my profile back to straight there should be a fab straight meaning your not boring as fuck and you actual want to enjoy life and live a little. I'm not attracted to blokes but i will suck and fuck them or vice versa, but that is only if it is mutual, and people say Brexit voters are bigots, no it's you homophobic's, "
The problem is that It's this sort of thinking that perpetuates this ridiculous stigma on this site about bi guys.
There is no 'fab straight'. You are not 'straight', you are bisexual as you have said that you will suck and fuck if it's mutual. Thats exactly the definition of 'bi' on a sex site. It's nothing to do with finding someone attractive in this context - fab is not a dating site - it's about where your boundaries are play-wise. I'm the same as you...don't find guys attractive and could never shack up with one, but in terms of sex I find it a huge turn on. There is no way in the world I could be described as 'straight' though.
So why not list yourself as bi? Is it because of the ignorance of others who will 'not meet a bi guy'? Well I guess I understand but all it does is make a mockery of that status being used at all and in turn perpetuate the stigma as you often see a complaint of 'bi guys posing as straight'
Why not just put down what you are into in your profile, put your status as bi and if some people don't want to play with you then fuck 'em.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I list myself as bi curious. I am definitely more hetero. But happy to be orally bi only.
I assume the problem that 'straight' couples have is the percieved danger of a bi leaping on the man in a fevered sexual frenzy?
Well that is really not the case, I bring out my bi side if it is required, if it isn't then it stays firmly hidden.
This is usually achieved by something called 'communication' discussing the boundaries.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The OP raises this question we lots of times and it responses will/do divide people lots.
For the majority of people, the perceptions fall into two distinct views;
1. FF sex = Big turn on two women touching each other, kissing, licking and even fucking each other etc etc
2. MM sex = dirty men
A very large majority of men become/switch becoming Bi as a result of dabbling in 3somes/4somes etc (I for one) - along that sexual journey it can turn out that the men involved touch each other - orally normally
3. Females suck Cock - great sight of a cock in their mouths
4. Man sucks cock = dirty man
In the simplest of explanations above - which by no means are laid down in sexual law, do highlight how easy it is that we misinterpret MM/FF contact
5. FF fuck each other = awesome turn on
6. MM fuck each other = dirty man
Same principle, same exposure to anal sex, one just happens to be plastic/rubber, the other real cock
That's just my opinion on this sensitive subject from a bisexual mans view point
J ...sits and watch the Trollers have a go lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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But the idea of 2 guys having sex does nothing for me
So I don't meet bi guys "
Genuine question - when you're having sex with someone do you spend much time thinking about the other people that they might have had sex with? |
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I just think the whole thing is daft.
If I am having sex with someone I couldn't care less if on another day they are into S&M or dressing up as a baby or a cabbage or something.....
Likewise, if I was really into dressing up as a cabbage and we played and I only found out afterwards that they too like dressing up as a cabbage but don't put that on their profile for fear of the anti-cabbage brigade then it would be hugely disappointing.
I think the use of the status is simple :
Straight = Will not entertain same sex play
Bi-Curious = Like the idea of trying, but haven't yet
Bisexual = Open to the idea of same sex play
The key here is not the status, but the profile itself - which should seek to clarify the exact position if needed....ie. Oral Only, Will Play Straight, No Kissing, Into Oral/Anal etc.....
But we seem to have a situation now where everyone is so terrified of people judging them based on that status that they are lying about their status and not putting anything on their profile. Which can not only lead to the cabbage scenario but also leads to animosity and continuation of prejudice when a straight couple turn up to play with a guy only to find him wearing a cabbage costume.
If you are a bloke and you like playing with cock from time to time then for gods sake just put bi and to hell with the people who are not looking beyond the status. |
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"I think the use of the status is simple :
Straight = Will not entertain same sex play
Bi-Curious = Like the idea of trying, but haven't yet
Bisexual = Open to the idea of same sex play"
The main problem being. Vary rarely do people actually read profiles. We do, but we get more than enough people message saying "nice profile" who clearly, haven't even glanced at the first line.  |
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