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By *aughtySx OP TV/TS
over a year ago
Wigan Bolton North West |
If you have regular meets on here and they buy you gifts do you accept them?
A guy has just bought me a gift but unsure if I should accept it or not as I don't want him getting the wrong impression?? 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would feel uncomfortable. Refusing a gift can be pretty awkward too.
I just feel that nsa sex is a reciprocal arrangement and one person giving gifts upsets the balance."
What they said  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I made someone send a brand new car back once. If I want something I'll buy it (not off here). And sorry but I'm not for sale.
Forward it to my address   "
It was a long time ago. It will be classed as a 'classic' or rust bucket by now. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I knitted a scarf for a regular meet. Last thing he bought me was a deck of top trumps cards. If you know someone well, I don't see an issue getting them a small gift. I've been given sex gifts by one off (so far) meets as well - there was something we both wanted to try and I now own an anal hook as a result. I bought a cock ring for a meet once because he was intrigued at the idea and I was walking past a sex shop on my way home so I popped in and got him one. Gifts are like compliments; they can be accepted without having to reciprocate. The intent behind them can be what makes receiving either feel uncomfortable, not the act itself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I,d accept a gift from my FWB but not any other men.. Likewise I have bought him a Christmas present but would not buy any other man one. Depends on the circumstances really. I was once told I had to wash a guys sheets and towells after sex, then bring them to next meet, thus I would have to meet him again. I stopped meeting him.xxx |
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I see nothing wrong with accepting gifts. Almost everyone I've met, I've considered a friend by the time anything happened---and some people just take pleasure in giving gifts.
I don't ask for anything, I don't expect it, but when it happens, it's always nice to know someone is thinking of me enough to bring me something that will make me smile even more. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't have a problem with it if I know them well. My fuckbuddy has bought me lingerie before because he is a perv and gets a lot of enjoyment out of seeing me wearing them and I enjoy his reaction. A lot. I buy him craft beer and ridiculous condoms. I would feel uncomfortable if it was expected or somebody I hadn't met bought me things because I don't want to feel obligated. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I have no problem with it in a way it's similar to showing up with a bottle of wine.
I don't really see it as such a big deal.
Just so long as it's a gift for the right reasons and not an exchange or something like that. |
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A couple I used to visit wanted cigars and wine every time I went as well as a cash contribution if there were snacks been provided so gave them up. Have given sexy lingerie as a thank you to a good friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I graciously accepted the offer of a large bar of chocolate in exchange for my services  "
What a meanie I would have asked for two bars and be fed it by hand 
I was given a nice bottle of wine though and a box of lindor recently but think that was only to try and get in my knickers  |
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I don't feel uncomfortable giving or receiving gifts...as long as they are relevant if that makes sense.
For me it simply shows the 'saw this and thought of you' thing.
Maybe I'm naive, who knows. Or, maybe I just have a kind hearted nature. My 'normal' friends and I get each other stuff because we think they'll like it, just to be nice and know you've done something that could brighten their day 
It's nice to be nice. |
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"A couple I used to visit wanted cigars and wine every time I went as well as a cash contribution if there were snacks been provided so gave them up. Have given sexy lingerie as a thank you to a good friend. "
Cheeky git's,that's pretty low. |
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A guy I see bought me two keyrings not long after we met. One was part of a joke that we shared the first time I went to his house, and the other was just because. I felt weird about it when he told me he had got me something, but I got over it when I saw what it was. However, he's offered to buy me things such as clothes (because nothing fits) and stuff, but I just can't accept it.. |
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"I could use some new socks if anyone fancies a quickie?
Primark ok? 
Poundland have a nice range of Harry Potter socks "
Ooh thanks I'll go and grab some,need to bride the men into my bed with something don't I!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone said I'll buy you xyz if you have sex with me I'd laugh at them.
If someone brought something along for use during the evening I'd contemplate using it.
I had one man from a different site tell me, after we had arranged to meet, that he had bought me a birthday gift from Tiffany. It was a little uncomfortable but, as it was a stationary set, it didn't feel too bad. |
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"Ive received a few gifts in the way of flowers, wine, chocolate, vodka. But had some nice gifts off a fwb who bought me a pandora bracelet and charms "
Thats nice, someone from russia bought me three different types of russian vodka and some chocolates, i have had a nice bunch of roses, sherry and wine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends what it is
If they bough me a bottle of wine then I would accept it as buying a bottle for somebody you are meeting seems normal to me in any situation, if I go round to a friend's house for a natter and catch up I'll take a drink
Anything more than that I wouldn't accept it, I had a guy turn up with underwear for me once and I wouldn't accept it, simply because I don't want to feel obligated or have anybody feel they had a hold over me
Last thing I would want is if I decided to stop meeting somebody them throw back in my face all the things they have given me or see me as a gold digger
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I'm quite taken with those ceramic frying pans so if any lady would like to shower me with a gift!, would happily christen it too with a meal for two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I'm quite taken with those ceramic frying pans so if any lady would like to shower me with a gift!, would happily christen it too with a meal for two. "
You drive a hard bargin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course you do! Why not? Long as it isn't money as I would be concerned!
..had loads of gifts from meets....without me asking for any of course.
Have given a few of my special friends little gifts in return.
If a guy wants ti o buy the special lady he is meeting a gift then let him. As long as he doesn't think you should be obliged to have sex in return. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I actually had someone from here buy and send me a gift as he felt he wanted to, he wasn't looking to meet me or for anything in return apart from the feelings he enjoyed knowing he had bought something for me.
We had chatted and although I know it is unusual, I went with it as he explained how much he wanted to and seemed sincere.
We agreed to have it sent to my "safe place" as I really wasn't comfortable giving out my address.
We are still in touch on occasion.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a guy wants ti o buy the special lady he is meeting a gift then let him. As long as he doesn't think you should be obliged to have sex in return."
why else would a guy off here buy you a gift? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the context & the intent behind it.
Everyone meets in a different way so I don't see a problem giving / receiving gifts. There's a big difference between that & people trying to buy favours.
I've been given a book, it was something that was unique to him & it made me smile.
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