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What would you do if didn't fancy anyone at a small hotel/Motel room meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I made the mistake of going to a small gathering
One of the guys was a creep. Didn't understand the word gentle or no
I've taken the other female so I sat on the loo seat whilst they had a mmf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Walk away..always an option for either party"
I'd turn it into a social and we'd head to the bar for a drink if that ever happened to me.... and scratch my head wondering how I'd managed to get it wrong. If I've got to the stage of meeting, then we already get on great so at least we'd be able to have a laugh about it. I really can't see that happening though. |
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"I wouldn't be in that situation cos I'm not that desparate for a fuck, and I certainly wouldn't just fuck anyone. "
This, this and then this!
Always a social of some kind before deciding. Many a social has turned into more, and even more have had me decline it going further.
I'll never put myself in that position of being in someone's room/home and have to say no.
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If someone else has forked out for a hotel room specifically to meet you then it puts you in an awkward position if the Sparks don't fly for you!
As others have said - have a social first if at all possible!
If you're meeting someone in a hotel half-way where you live a long way from each other - then do everything you can to cover as many bases as possible - ie make sure the pics you've swapped are recent, honest and clear - and chat on the phone several times to make sure your personalities click!
That's what I've always done - and I've never had a bad hotel meet yet - in fact they've been amongst my best meets!  |
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"I wouldn't be in that situation cos I'm not that desparate for a fuck, and I certainly wouldn't just fuck anyone.
Why I always have a social first. "
Well ..... this.
Which is why I don't understand all the 'would you like to join me in my hotel room' type messages *some* men send out without so much as a face pic, or *any* pics (and often a one line profile).
Do people really take that big a gamble? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't happen. If we we still swinging it'd be a social first and if there was no chemistry then it's cheerio, and we're off.
This sort of situation can work both ways, we might turn up and be a turn off for them, so the safety of a social works every time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell them it's your fantasy to have sex with a hotel room service guy
Put them in the corridor, lock the door and when they knock shout out wrong room"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bit of a non-question really.....but should it ever happen there is a magic invention........
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........it's called a door. The one marked exit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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firstly, I never book a hotel meet without a social first...... okay, thats so not true, but I like to think that I would one day hold that principle.....
However I have an agreement with anyone I meet (single lady wise) that should she not be that enamoured of me (or vice versa), the hotel room is hers and I will toddle off. Which is why I do not drink until I have had confirmation that I shall be staying the night.
Yes I pick up the bill, does this make me desperate? No (I hope not at least), its just about managing expectations, this is all discussed before hand (I wonder if anyone will attest to this  ) and therefore I and my potential play partner are not put under any pressure.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think we'd get ourselves into that situation tbh. Seems very extreme to go to the expense of booking a hotel for the purpose of sex unless everybody is sure.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"firstly, I never book a hotel meet without a social first...... okay, thats so not true, but I like to think that I would one day hold that principle.....
However I have an agreement with anyone I meet (single lady wise) that should she not be that enamoured of me (or vice versa), the hotel room is hers and I will toddle off. Which is why I do not drink until I have had confirmation that I shall be staying the night.
Yes I pick up the bill, does this make me desperate? No (I hope not at least), its just about managing expectations, this is all discussed before hand (I wonder if anyone will attest to this ) and therefore I and my potential play partner are not put under any pressure.."
I will attest to this. I thoroughly enjoyed the hotel room without him -- the cheese board was immense!
(and I let him come back in the end)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"firstly, I never book a hotel meet without a social first...... okay, thats so not true, but I like to think that I would one day hold that principle.....
However I have an agreement with anyone I meet (single lady wise) that should she not be that enamoured of me (or vice versa), the hotel room is hers and I will toddle off. Which is why I do not drink until I have had confirmation that I shall be staying the night.
Yes I pick up the bill, does this make me desperate? No (I hope not at least), its just about managing expectations, this is all discussed before hand (I wonder if anyone will attest to this ) and therefore I and my potential play partner are not put under any pressure..
I will attest to this. I thoroughly enjoyed the hotel room without him -- the cheese board was immense!
(and I let him come back in the end) "
I love the fact that you failed to tell the dear readers that I was off saving a mans life at the time and return a veritable hero, only to be told that the cheese board had been delicious; even the paramedics gave me a pat on the back and you....you ate my cheese! |
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"firstly, I never book a hotel meet without a social first...... okay, thats so not true, but I like to think that I would one day hold that principle.....
However I have an agreement with anyone I meet (single lady wise) that should she not be that enamoured of me (or vice versa), the hotel room is hers and I will toddle off. Which is why I do not drink until I have had confirmation that I shall be staying the night.
Yes I pick up the bill, does this make me desperate? No (I hope not at least), its just about managing expectations, this is all discussed before hand (I wonder if anyone will attest to this ) and therefore I and my potential play partner are not put under any pressure..
I will attest to this. I thoroughly enjoyed the hotel room without him -- the cheese board was immense!
(and I let him come back in the end)
I love the fact that you failed to tell the dear readers that I was off saving a mans life at the time and return a veritable hero, only to be told that the cheese board had been delicious; even the paramedics gave me a pat on the back and you....you ate my cheese!"
Is that a euphemism? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"firstly, I never book a hotel meet without a social first...... okay, thats so not true, but I like to think that I would one day hold that principle.....
However I have an agreement with anyone I meet (single lady wise) that should she not be that enamoured of me (or vice versa), the hotel room is hers and I will toddle off. Which is why I do not drink until I have had confirmation that I shall be staying the night.
Yes I pick up the bill, does this make me desperate? No (I hope not at least), its just about managing expectations, this is all discussed before hand (I wonder if anyone will attest to this ) and therefore I and my potential play partner are not put under any pressure..
I will attest to this. I thoroughly enjoyed the hotel room without him -- the cheese board was immense!
(and I let him come back in the end)
I love the fact that you failed to tell the dear readers that I was off saving a mans life at the time and return a veritable hero, only to be told that the cheese board had been delicious; even the paramedics gave me a pat on the back and you....you ate my cheese!"
All. The. Cheese.
Yeah, yeah you saved Mike's life. I prioritised the cheese. Whatevs. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"firstly, I never book a hotel meet without a social first...... okay, thats so not true, but I like to think that I would one day hold that principle.....
However I have an agreement with anyone I meet (single lady wise) that should she not be that enamoured of me (or vice versa), the hotel room is hers and I will toddle off. Which is why I do not drink until I have had confirmation that I shall be staying the night.
Yes I pick up the bill, does this make me desperate? No (I hope not at least), its just about managing expectations, this is all discussed before hand (I wonder if anyone will attest to this ) and therefore I and my potential play partner are not put under any pressure..
I will attest to this. I thoroughly enjoyed the hotel room without him -- the cheese board was immense!
(and I let him come back in the end)
I love the fact that you failed to tell the dear readers that I was off saving a mans life at the time and return a veritable hero, only to be told that the cheese board had been delicious; even the paramedics gave me a pat on the back and you....you ate my cheese!
All. The. Cheese.
Yeah, yeah you saved Mike's life. I prioritised the cheese. Whatevs."
Get (another) room guys... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"firstly, I never book a hotel meet without a social first...... okay, thats so not true, but I like to think that I would one day hold that principle.....
However I have an agreement with anyone I meet (single lady wise) that should she not be that enamoured of me (or vice versa), the hotel room is hers and I will toddle off. Which is why I do not drink until I have had confirmation that I shall be staying the night.
Yes I pick up the bill, does this make me desperate? No (I hope not at least), its just about managing expectations, this is all discussed before hand (I wonder if anyone will attest to this ) and therefore I and my potential play partner are not put under any pressure..
I will attest to this. I thoroughly enjoyed the hotel room without him -- the cheese board was immense!
(and I let him come back in the end)
I love the fact that you failed to tell the dear readers that I was off saving a mans life at the time and return a veritable hero, only to be told that the cheese board had been delicious; even the paramedics gave me a pat on the back and you....you ate my cheese!
All. The. Cheese.
Yeah, yeah you saved Mike's life. I prioritised the cheese. Whatevs.
Get (another) room guys..."
Only if I can have the cheese board this time! |
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The person I thought 'had' invited us, I HAD met before & was a very successful meet, However the person that 'actually' invited us had exactly the same Christian name,was the same age,from the same area,hence the easy mistake...x
Noway would we ever arrange to meet ppl in a hotel/motel etc without meeting socially before,clubs and larger parties are very different,as there's room to WANDER OFF,but in a tiny bedroom it's a impossible(hence the need to have ascertained mutual chemistry prior to the meet xx (hope that explains it more clearly) I'd clicked delete and not Post so wasn't aware my full thread wasn't printed!! xx
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Just to add ...we only lived a few miles away from the motel & so had no intention of staying the night & therefore would have noway needed to book a room, as we drove there & could easily drive back home on the same night xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but the night ends with a social and leave removing the knives from our backs as we walk away.
What do you mean?"
Figure of speech.
People may be upset that you have decided not to play with them. So they give you the evil eye as you walk out. |
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Thank you all for the lovely messages & replies to our thread ~ x
We did leave after about 40 mins & NP's@all when we did ~ the hosts partner called me the following night & we had a lovely 2Hr chat.. & explained that she would have done exactly the same had she have been in the same situation & apologised that her young swing partner had "yet again"exaggerated and was very immature!! Bless her xx
Just to recap~ we would NEVER play with ppl without 1st arranging a social meet |
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