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To Wink or not to Wink ... that is the question?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We have now been on here a little while and getting to know the ropes (sometimes literally) and wondered if sending a Wink is something that most people do ... or do you just send a polite message with the subtext "we fancy the ass of you and would love to tangle in the undergrowth". Despite being a bit opinionated and gobby when you get to know us we are quite shy and I (Carla) find it particularly difficult making the first approach. S doesn't have the same problem but he isn't the one trawling the back alleys of Fab for excitement as he is up to his arse in knocking down walls at the moment and is knackered.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Winks are just a lazy way of saying hello so we tend to ignore them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get thousands,,never ever look at them

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Send the text - nobody who is receptive to winks ever complains about being messaged instead...but the reverse isn't true...

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By *onnie and JohnCouple over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"I get thousands,,never ever look at them"

Mikki, all that time spent to get your attention wasted..lol..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't mind people winking, but I do tend to ignore them unless its someone I've already chatted to...

however they tend to be off people who aren't really what I'm looking for.... but at least if I don't delete them, they can't wink at me again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've been on and off here several times and in the early days winks are so much easier, it's a way of showing you are interested without the terror of rejection, lol. Useful tool

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By *workoutMan over a year ago

Cradley Heath

I don't mind them, I've had some very interesting conversations that could very well lead to meets from a bit of mutual winking.

If I was out and liked the look of someone I wouldn't engage in conversation without any initial eye contact to gauge whether it would be well received or not. I personally look at winks as the online equivalent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Winks are just a lazy way of saying hello so we tend to ignore them"

Im a lazy then. I wink.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I see a wink as 'I'm interested but don't have the time right now to send a message'

Although given that 90% of my winks come from blokes it may well just be a lazy hello

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I know lots of women that wink, because they want the man to initiate the conversation and just letting them know that they're interested.

You ladies can wink away as far as I'm concerned

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think they are a bit of fun and I kind of like a bit of fun.

Think lazy is a bad generalisation, where fun is what it is.??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't look at mine other than to delete them

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

As a solo female who only meets solo males, I don't even look at who has winked me. There are so many thousands of people in my 'potential meet' list, and so many better ways to choose who to interact with. In fact, I would disable the option to wink at me, if this feature was available.

However, I think winks could work better for groups who have a smaller list of potential meets (e.g. couples-looking-for-same and bisexual-solo-females-looking-for-same).

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

We don't mind winks,you can just leave them there if they are from someone who doesn't fit what you are looking for.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are good if you wink and get one back you can start chatting. If not then you know your not for them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So the general opinion seems to be don't bother to wink ... no beating about the bush and just spit it out so to speak. Gawd I've just realised that the last part of that sentence is filled with sexual innuendo ... will have to go take my pills. S

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By *ihimbiherCouple over a year ago

lightwater

Delete all winks.

Lazy lazy lazy

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"They are good if you wink and get one back you can start chatting. If not then you know your not for them "

Had more fun off winks than I have off the forum, know why now.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"So the general opinion seems to be don't bother to wink ... no beating about the bush and just spit it out so to speak. Gawd I've just realised that the last part of that sentence is filled with sexual innuendo ... will have to go take my pills. S"

Is it a suppository...?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I delete most.winked one or 2 back and tend to get message then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

winking is not lazy, if we like a profile but not sure if they will like us due to what they ask for, we wink them, it then gives them a choice to look at us and reply if it suits them or not if they dont

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By *aitinkCouple over a year ago

York

Whether it is nobler in the mind to suffer the slings and arrows of outraged fabbers...

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By *iverpool 2Couple over a year ago

Liverpool

We like winks, it's a way of people letting us know we've caught their attention x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not to wink

Boring and unimaginative

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never send winks as I find they get ignored even more than messages. And when I've received a wink and messaged the sender, 9 times out of 10 that message gets ignored too.

Winks are bullshit