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Is the grass always greener
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
"Yes its greener but only because its fake!
Can you explain please"
Maybe you could take the lead in this regard?
You seem to have something you think you're saying, but we're all scrabbling around trying to establish a context for your metaphor.
What's the actual problem? |
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"It is part of the human condition that we think about the things we haven't got rather than about what we do.
Simple dig up the grass and start again...why faff about?"
Yes, grass is easy to grow and metaphor is cheap...
Life can be a little more complicated, although as I say humans have a tendency to overcomplicate matters further  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"The grass maybe greener but it still has to be looked after and sooner or later s will appear, will you then want to go in search for greener grass again !!!!!"
s are often just flowers in the perceived 'wrong' place..accept and enjoy what is, what comes and goes whats in the now..there isnt a past and there isnt a future, change comes from within in an instant, when you really want it...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up"
I'm afraid it will be your wife who ultimately makes the decision now. Give her the space she has asked for. |
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"Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up
I'm afraid it will be your wife who ultimately makes the decision now. Give her the space she has asked for. "
and if you want her pray she's not like me,I moved on...he lost everything for a shag. Clearly myself and my children lost as well,enormously! I tried to tell myself he was just fucking her,but my heart told me differently,we were dead! |
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I asked him to move out,I alway's thought we'd probably get back together,but 7 months later I found someone else so that was that. I don't think people realise their actions at time,how people are prepared to lose everything for a shag. |
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"Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up"
A horrible situation to be in. Give your wife a few days space, sort your own head out and decide what you really want and can live with going forward. Then ask your wife to meet you to talk, mediation might help. Good luck with whatever happens. |
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This reminds me of a Punk girl who had dyed her pubic hair green and had had the words 'Keep off the grass' tattooed above it. After attending a gyno appointment, she awoke from her anaesthesia to discover her green pubes shaved and scrawled in biro above her tattoo, the words 'Sorry love, had to mow the lawn.....'
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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up"
2 weeks ago and yesterday you put up a status to meet people?? |
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I have made the same choice, didn't sleep around, but needed something more in my life.
I know it might take a long time to find it, and I will always hold something dear for my ex, as we spent 22 years together and she gave me two wonderful children.
We have not broken nastily and I hope it stays that way, and I hope that one day I will meet my perfect woman, but 1st I have to work on myself at getting happy and enjoying life as it comes.
You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ?? |
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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It appears to me that your wife has made the right decision. If you haven't had a wake up call, but you are still on this site looking for women then you don't deserve to get her back. One vote for team wife from me. |
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"I have made the same choice, didn't sleep around, but needed something more in my life.
I know it might take a long time to find it, and I will always hold something dear for my ex, as we spent 22 years together and she gave me two wonderful children.
We have not broken nastily and I hope it stays that way, and I hope that one day I will meet my perfect woman, but 1st I have to work on myself at getting happy and enjoying life as it comes.
You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ??"
I agree with you to an extent. The problems start when the pursuit of your own happiness means other people are made miserable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have made the same choice, didn't sleep around, but needed something more in my life.
I know it might take a long time to find it, and I will always hold something dear for my ex, as we spent 22 years together and she gave me two wonderful children.
We have not broken nastily and I hope it stays that way, and I hope that one day I will meet my perfect woman, but 1st I have to work on myself at getting happy and enjoying life as it comes.
You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ??
I agree with you to an extent. The problems start when the pursuit of your own happiness means other people are made miserable."
But if a person is unhappy how can they make others happy? |
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You only get one life on this planet, so do and be with those who make you happy ??
I agree with you to an extent. The problems start when the pursuit of your own happiness means other people are made miserable.
But if a person is unhappy how can they make others happy?"
It's a conundrum to be sure. Life is never straightforward is it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes I'm on this site as I like talking never met anyone. I thought it would add the spice back to things and hopefully get the wife into this. I love her dearly and wish I could turn back the clock.
Yes I asked to meet but does that mean I want to sleep with someone??? No it doesn't. Maybe I just wanted to talk with someone who doesn't know me or the wife and for them to just listen Whilst I talk |
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"Yes I'm on this site as I like talking never met anyone. I thought it would add the spice back to things and hopefully get the wife into this. I love her dearly and wish I could turn back the clock.
Yes I asked to meet but does that mean I want to sleep with someone??? No it doesn't. Maybe I just wanted to talk with someone who doesn't know me or the wife and for them to just listen Whilst I talk "
If you just want someone to talk to about your problems you may be in the wrong place. I personally couldn't think of anything worse,I come on here for sex and a distraction,not to listen to others issue's at home. We're all on here for different reasons though so you may find someone. |
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"Yes I'm on this site as I like talking never met anyone. I thought it would add the spice back to things and hopefully get the wife into this. I love her dearly and wish I could turn back the clock.
Yes I asked to meet but does that mean I want to sleep with someone??? No it doesn't. Maybe I just wanted to talk with someone who doesn't know me or the wife and for them to just listen Whilst I talk "
This is a genuine suggestion. You could contact Relate for relationship counselling. |
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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I understand and sympathize with your reply. Ask yourself this question. If your wife finds out that you are on this site for whatever reason.. Going to help or hinder you mending the relationship. If yes then stay... If no... And I think no is the answer.. Then leave and have as clean as possible plate with nothing to mess up a makeup if she comes back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys n girls. What happened was i couldn't live with the guilt of sleeping with someone else. I told the wife who obviously wasn't happy. Now I'm so confused as to who I want n why I want them. My head is fraggled I'm sofa surfing. It's all my doing. It's been 2 weeks n I think I have realised it's the wife i want but she doesn't seem to be interested. Had said she doesn't think she wants to forgive n move on with me. She has asked for a few days break with no contact. Sorry to bore you all with my fuck up"
You shouldn't of confessed unless you planned to leave your marriage. But you can't undo it now, so hold on tight, ride the storm and whatever happens, it will all work out one way or another. Good luck with your wife,keep the lines of communication open and be patient with her. X |
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