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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know it's not the sexiest subject but the recent Grindr case in the news has made me think about safety when meeting.
I'm still shocked when people expect to come straight to my house or go to theirs without meeting in a public place first, something that I would never do for safety reasons.
I also notice that fab doesn't make any statements about safety (that I have seen) unlike many other sites which recommend meeting in public and other safety measures.
Just wondering what others thought about this? Does meeting in public spoil the fun and make it less like swinging and more like a date? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do what I'm happy with I don't need anyone else including Fab to tell me how to meet other's."
funny as fook you
can we're gonna get on like a house on fire
always liked a bossy type |
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"I do what I'm happy with I don't need anyone else including Fab to tell me how to meet other's.
funny as fook you
can we're gonna get on like a house on fire
always liked a bossy type "
Thought you said you were nice! It just naffs me off when people tell me how to arrange meets,not talking about you op by the way. |
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Be cautious always, as there has been a marked increase in sexual offences arising due to internet meeting services.
Keep records, recruit a friend as a safety minder, use public spaces, CCTVs in public, recording you with your meet.
I did suggest a new Fab feature, where users offered/accepted meetings between them, that were private from all other users, apart from you and admin. This could leave a good evidence trail, should something ever happen, as well as maybe deter no-shows etc. Would you use it?
I also don't like profiles where they expect you to trawl offsite to see their photos. Fab has a decent photo allowance, so there's limited reason/excuse potential for not having photos here. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
Gut feeling gives a lot away. If there's something that doesn't float well, then it's probably best to look around for someone else. There's always plenty. I think people all too often look superficially and wonder why they get a shit meet |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I did suggest a new Fab feature, where users offered/accepted meetings between them, that were private from all other users, apart from you and admin. This could leave a good evidence trail, should something ever happen, as well as maybe deter no-shows etc. Would you use it?
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I might use that feature. I will often tell a friend if I'm meeting someone, but sometimes I don't want to bother them with my shenanigans! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gut feeling gives a lot away. If there's something that doesn't float well, then it's probably best to look around for someone else. There's always plenty. I think people all too often look superficially and wonder why they get a shit meet"
Gut feeling for sure. When I first joined fab I was chatting to a guy who was adamant about coming straight to my house. I had major weird vibes and told him to get lost, but I worry about what would have happened if I hadn't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fab does make suggestions for safety and people should also use their common sense.
Indeed.
https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#safe_meeting"
Ha! I've never ever read the FAQ's! Interesting reading... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab does make suggestions for safety and people should also use their common sense.
Indeed.
https://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#safe_meeting
Ha! I've never ever read the FAQ's! Interesting reading..."
All commonsense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Gut feeling gives a lot away. If there's something that doesn't float well, then it's probably best to look around for someone else. There's always plenty. I think people all too often look superficially and wonder why they get a shit meet
Gut feeling for sure. When I first joined fab I was chatting to a guy who was adamant about coming straight to my house. I had major weird vibes and told him to get lost, but I worry about what would have happened if I hadn't."
A bit of common sense goes a long way; I only meet people who are verified by a meet, then arrange to see them for a coffee first and only then plan anything further. I don't drink and take my own car so I can leave if needed. Like you, OP I've also trusted my gut when someone on the surface seemed perfectly fine but gave off a weird vibe. I also think a buddy system is a good idea and would encourage single ladies to do this x  |
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Please remember that the chances of anything bad occurring are practically minuscule.
That said. If someone doesn't indicate to me that they've at least had the sense to consider the possibility I wouldn't want to meet them. I think this indicates stupidity and rashness, traits which are more likely to lead to problems in the future.. |
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By *lk GuyMan
over a year ago
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As a guy I don't really tell anyone about my meets or my life style but I understand from a woman's point of view you've got to be more careful and it is a fair point with your put.
I like social meet first just in case you don't like the person or the picture is fake Or. was taking years and months ago |
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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
well the comments from you single girls is what matters on this thread .[we think]as we always meet as a couple.if you meeting fabbers you have a bit of lee way.check verries.ask for face pic. see how long they been members for speak on phone .try and meet in club .never just meet in back street and get in car ect. and if you do meet some one text a friend where you are [you dont have to say swinging ]just that you on a blind date . |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"I know it's not the sexiest subject but the recent Grindr case in the news has made me think about safety when meeting.
I'm still shocked when people expect to come straight to my house or go to theirs without meeting in a public place first, something that I would never do for safety reasons.
I also notice that fab doesn't make any statements about safety (that I have seen) unlike many other sites which recommend meeting in public and other safety measures.
Just wondering what others thought about this? Does meeting in public spoil the fun and make it less like swinging and more like a date?"
I only meet in clubs. Too risky to meet elsewhere as there are too many weirdos around who insist that they are not weirdos 
[ still waiting for a weirdo who claims to be a weirdo; not gonna meet him though; just for research purposes ] |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all fun and games till you meet a fucking dickhead..I bounce in clubs and you wanna see the wankers I throw out...and I have 4 guys to back me up...
I'd love to see a bird chuck a big nobhead outta her gaff that is having a psychotic moment  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a guy, if I was meeting a couple, then don't really see a problem with meeting at theirs for example.
However if it was a single woman then, I always offer to meet in a public place, for a social drink... See how things pan out. Much safer that way and would imagine much more reassuring.
Each to their own I guess. |
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