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single/married guys perspective on swingerwives

By *unksAlive OP Couple over a year ago

york

always wondered do single or married swinging men look upon the swinger wife as- i wish my wife was like that? im happy to swing but my wife is mine and that is it? if i had a wife i would keep swinging seceret? if i had a wife i would want her to swing with me?

cmon guys just wondering - genuine question from a long married swinging couple

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

if I was married, I would support whatever WE both wanted to do..

if one of us didn't.. WE WOULDN'T.

and only if our relationship was strong,honest,loving and respectful of each others needs.

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By *andy muncherMan over a year ago

Nottingham

"always wondered do single or married swinging men look upon the swinger wife as- i wish my wife was like that? im happy to swing but my wife is mine and that is it? if i had a wife i would keep swinging seceret? if i had a wife i would want her to swing with me?

cmon guys just wondering - genuine question from a long married swinging couple"

having started out as a cpl a real cpl who turned to swinging i can _iew this from both sides and now being single guy for over year and have met many cpls not saying any more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would love a girlfriend who is a swinger, for me its the most horny thing in the world u both enjoying it, I have been single for 3 years and I can honestly say that I will not settle down with a girl unless she is a swinger. I feel that once you have swung, u can't go back lol

And as for jealousy when I see a swinging couple HELL YEA, I want that in my life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my first wife was into swinging i loved seeing her turned on give oral or been fucked, lady i am with now would never swing i would love it if she would but i know she never will, we do go on nude beach and swimming pool i love her looking slim and sexy, pity she as such low sex drive lol, that why you find me on here alone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think ultimately it boils down to why anyone does it.

We all have our reasons and they are varied.

Respect is the key element though, and even that can take different forms!

- Am I making any sense? -

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"if I was married, I would support whatever WE both wanted to do..

if one of us didn't.. WE WOULDN'T.

and only if our relationship was strong,honest,loving and respectful of each others needs.

Once again the wisdom of View has hit it on the head perfectly there.

You should write a book View, The Zen of Swinging

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

would love it if my wife would be involved too. but not sure how to bring it up or even if she would be up for it??

the thought of seeing her with someone else is amazing.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

cmon guys just wondering - genuine question from a long married swinging couple"

I think you might me looking at two different prospectives...

there is probably an element in some that say "I wish my wife/partner was like that and would swing".... but I am willing to bet that are many more that would say "wouldn't want that in a million years"....

speak to some married men in clubs and you hear

"god i wouldn't want my wife doing this!"

"I would never bring my wife here"...

and there is a big element to having there cake and eating it..... they do it because they can, they do it because there groin controls there brains....

you will also get single guys on here (we all know who they are) who made the following grand announcement:

"I have found the love of my life, I would never want anyone to swing, let alone play with her.... oh, by the way, thanks for all letting me have sex with your wives... goodnight!!!!!"

and then....come back two minutes later when it doesn't work out... under a different name pretending it didn't happen.....

I think the single "single" guys who get it right realise they are an "extra" to any loving relationship... and not a "replacement"..

and in that respect have a different mindset from the beginning... and those are the people who tend to be the successful ones...

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

I think the single "single" guys who get it right realise they are an "extra" to any loving relationship... and not a "replacement"..

and in that respect have a different mindset from the beginning... and those are the people who tend to be the successful ones...

I don't mind being a couples sex toy that comes out the box once in a while

Just don't shove any batteries anywhere, I'm self charging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

cmon guys just wondering - genuine question from a long married swinging couple

I think you might me looking at two different prospectives...

speak to some married men in clubs and you hear

"god i wouldn't want my wife doing this!"

"I would never bring my wife here"...

and there is a big element to having there cake and eating it..... they do it because they can, they do it because there groin controls there brains....

you will also get single guys on here (we all know who they are) who made the following grand announcement:

"I have found the love of my life, I would never want anyone to swing, let alone play with her.... oh, by the way, thanks for all letting me have sex with your wives... goodnight!!!!!"

and then....come back two minutes later when it doesn't work out... under a different name pretending it didn't happen.....

I think the single "single" guys who get it right realise they are an "extra" to any loving relationship... and not a "replacement"..

and in that respect have a different mindset from the beginning... and those are the people who tend to be the successful ones...

"
best answer so far...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

cmon guys just wondering - genuine question from a long married swinging couple

I think you might me looking at two different prospectives...

speak to some married men in clubs and you hear

"god i wouldn't want my wife doing this!"

"I would never bring my wife here"...

and there is a big element to having there cake and eating it..... they do it because they can, they do it because there groin controls there brains....

you will also get single guys on here (we all know who they are) who made the following grand announcement:

"I have found the love of my life, I would never want anyone to swing, let alone play with her.... oh, by the way, thanks for all letting me have sex with your wives... goodnight!!!!!"

and then....come back two minutes later when it doesn't work out... under a different name pretending it didn't happen.....

I think the single "single" guys who get it right realise they are an "extra" to any loving relationship... and not a "replacement"..

and in that respect have a different mindset from the beginning... and those are the people who tend to be the successful ones...

You've written what I couldn't be arsed to write!

Well said that man!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the single "single" guys who get it right realise they are an "extra" to any loving relationship... and not a "replacement"..

and in that respect have a different mindset from the beginning... and those are the people who tend to be the successful ones...

I don't mind being a couples sex toy that comes out the box once in a while

Just don't shove any batteries anywhere, I'm self charging.

Honestly, sometimes you're just no fun!

*Puts lube away*

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By *andy muncherMan over a year ago

Nottingham

I think the single "single" guys who get it right realise they are an "extra" to any loving relationship... and not a "replacement".. and in that respect have a different mindset from the beginning... and those are the people who tend to be the successful ones...

If only a few more guys would see it like this , they would get a lot more meets this the mindset you have to have it works for me thats why i have so many repeat meets

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

cmon guys just wondering - genuine question from a long married swinging couple

I think you might me looking at two different prospectives...

speak to some married men in clubs and you hear

"god i wouldn't want my wife doing this!"

"I would never bring my wife here"...

and there is a big element to having there cake and eating it..... they do it because they can, they do it because there groin controls there brains....

you will also get single guys on here (we all know who they are) who made the following grand announcement:

"I have found the love of my life, I would never want anyone to swing, let alone play with her.... oh, by the way, thanks for all letting me have sex with your wives... goodnight!!!!!"

and then....come back two minutes later when it doesn't work out... under a different name pretending it didn't happen.....

I think the single "single" guys who get it right realise they are an "extra" to any loving relationship... and not a "replacement"..

and in that respect have a different mindset from the beginning... and those are the people who tend to be the successful ones...

Take a bow _abio great answer xxx

. If more guys took this gents attitude there wouldn't be so much bitching and the world of swinging would be bliss instead of the numerous one liner emails xx hugs _abio xxx

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By *mumaWoman over a year ago

Livingston

standing ovation for _abio and his wisdom x

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