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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.
Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ? |
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over a year ago
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Twenty nine years married next month, swinging for maybe seven or eight, still arguing, still happy.
Conversely, we've swung with loads of couples who divorced and remarried and who didn't swing in their previous marriage. |
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Been together 30yrs swinging last 7 just to add to our enjoyment and both still as happy as day one , you need to be a strong couple in strong relationship and this as enhanced ours , we have decided to keep having fun while we can ?????????? |
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"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.
Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"
I don't know if there are any statistics. However I don't think that being more open and understanding your partner better is the sole preserve of swingers. I do think that swinging might occur as a result of being open and understanding in some cases but I don't think it's safe to assume that swingers have a lower divorce rate or better relationships. |
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If its a solid relationship swinging is fun, if its used to paint over problems & cracks in a marriage avoid.
We have been swinging & shooting films for 20 yrs & have literally gone through hundreds of people in that time between us & we are still best friends who trust each other 100%. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everybody is different.I got chatting and quite close to a local swinging couple and she actually admited she only does it to keep him happy and feed his lust for other women.
They won't meet single guys and she's not bi but she said if she didn't agree to him wanting to use other women then she feared he would leave her.
Yet there's women on here that enjoy swinging too so I guess it's all about doing what makes you both happy and if you have trust and love then you will have the same chances of staying together as any other normal couple |
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Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
We have just been discussing this. We have been married for nearly 35 years. Swinging for the last 3 years together. Together being the operative word. We discuss likes, dislikes, people we wish to meet. We agree when we should go out and when we need us time. We are open and honest with each other. We don't see the need and never will cheat on each other. We go out as a couple, we play with others in the same room. Then we leave together, and have some very happy memories. At this moment in time we are enjoying the fun we are having. Xxxxxx  Suzi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know about saving it but I do think that if my ex had given swinging more thoght n we had tryed it then we may of lasted longer. As it was we were togther 15 years. Xxx |
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By *atcoupleCouple
over a year ago
Suffolk - East Anglia |
Next year is our 40th wedding anniversary and we've been swinging for over 5 years.
We love each other to bits and love every minute together. He still gets the same buzz during an innocent cuddle with her as when we were first going out together as youngsters.
We treat swinging as purely physical recreation.
Now....
Look at so many couples who have unsatisfactory sex lives; there are several signs of unhappiness therein. Sneeking off, resentment, furtiveness,
to name but a few.
Much of happy swinging has to do with maturity and being able to handle sexual situations without envy, mistrust or jealousy.
It doesn't work for everyone,agreed, but for those that it does work for, then enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope, destroyed our marriage, now separated. Swang for 5-6yrs happily, and then things started to go wrong, long story. "
Did that include 1 on 1 meets for you or your ex?  |
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"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.
Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"
For some actual statistics see here:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging_(sexual_practice)
under the section "Prevalence".
Mr ddc |
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"Next year is our 40th wedding anniversary and we've been swinging for over 5 years.
We love each other to bits and love every minute together. He still gets the same buzz during an innocent cuddle with her as when we were first going out together as youngsters.
We treat swinging as purely physical recreation.
Now....
Look at so many couples who have unsatisfactory sex lives; there are several signs of unhappiness therein. Sneeking off, resentment, furtiveness,
to name but a few.
Much of happy swinging has to do with maturity and being able to handle sexual situations without envy, mistrust or jealousy.
It doesn't work for everyone,agreed, but for those that it does work for, then enjoy."
Very well written and I agree totally x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates "
For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.
Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"
Been together 20 years, married 13 years in December and swinging almost 12 years. No idea if it's helped or not . |
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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago
Loughborough |
"For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think? "
We have lots of male/female/couples as friends, we just happen to fuck some of them from time to time.
There's about as much chance as us running off with one of our vanilla friends as there is us doing it with our swinger friends.
One of us cheating indicates that there's something wrong with the relationship in the first place. If the relationship is good nobody is cheating |
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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago
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"For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?
We have lots of male/female/couples as friends, we just happen to fuck some of them from time to time.
There's about as much chance as us running off with one of our vanilla friends as there is us doing it with our swinger friends.
One of us cheating indicates that there's something wrong with the relationship in the first place. If the relationship is good nobody is cheating"
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We would say its helped its made life far more interesting and fun we love each other to bits and sex is different from swinging its got passion, we've been together 23 years swinging for 11 of those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates
For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think? "
Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope, destroyed our marriage, now separated. Swang for 5-6yrs happily, and then things started to go wrong, long story.
Did that include 1 on 1 meets for you or your ex? "
That was the agreements we play together. So always was together and could see what each other was doing.
It was great fun while we played together.
20+ years married and a solid one, till one day it all changed.
That could of happened in a normal life.
So who knows ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If its a solid relationship swinging is fun, if its used to paint over problems & cracks in a marriage avoid.
We have been swinging & shooting films for 20 yrs & have literally gone through hundreds of people in that time between us & we are still best friends who trust each other 100%."
How nice is that? We met on here 2 yrs ago and are having the fabbest time.. best relationship we have ever had.. we have our moments but who doesn't? |
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We have been together for 26 years and have been swinging on and off for st least 11 years. We have such a solid relationship and feel that swinging has just helped keep the fun in our sex life. We took things slowly, taking a couple of years before we did full swap to ensure we were both happy. We use our swinging as an extra and not the be-all in our lives. We also ensure that we do things together as a family and keep an active social life with our own friends. Our single rule is that we never play alone. It has worked for us and we look forward to our adventures together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If its a solid relationship swinging is fun, if its used to paint over problems & cracks in a marriage avoid.
We have been swinging & shooting films for 20 yrs & have literally gone through hundreds of people in that time between us & we are still best friends who trust each other 100%.
How nice is that? We met on here 2 yrs ago and are having the fabbest time.. best relationship we have ever had.. we have our moments but who doesn't? "
Starting to think it would be great to meet a like minded person on here x |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi I was just wondering everyone know the divorce rate in the UK is about 40% plus.
Do swinging couples stay together because they are more open and understand their partner better. What do you think ?"
We have stayed together.we don't have to shag behind each other's back, we do it in front of each other!  |
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"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates
For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think? "
I agree with the above. Part of the attraction of swinging for me is that I meet couples outside my usual circle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates
For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?
Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles? "
Anyone choosing a sex partner. The criteria for selection seems to be far higher than NSA sex would seem to require. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope, destroyed our marriage, now separated. Swang for 5-6yrs happily, and then things started to go wrong, long story.
Did that include 1 on 1 meets for you or your ex?
That was the agreements we play together. So always was together and could see what each other was doing.
It was great fun while we played together.
20+ years married and a solid one, till one day it all changed.
That could of happened in a normal life.
So who knows ?? "
Ok. Thanks. May i ask, was it infidelity or some other cause that ended it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some really interesting points in this thread.
We have been swinging for just over 2 years, married for 10 years - swinging has brought us closer together because we have learnt more about what brings us sexual fulfilment and we have shared some amazing experiences. It has not all been easy but the main thing is we have communicated with each other rather than sneaking off to get sexual thrills without consent of spouse. m x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates
For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?
Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles?
Anyone choosing a sex partner. The criteria for selection seems to be far higher than NSA sex would seem to require. "
Ah yes I see what you mean now. It does seem to be the case that quite often people are blurring the lines between NSA and dating. It probably shouldn't be a concern for us if people are vulnerable and are potentially getting hurt, but it does if these are people we might cross paths with.
We've found swinging a bit of a minefield lately, it wasn't quite like this when we first got into it 12 years ago.
Probably sounds a bit callous - but I'm not, we're both actually quite emotional people, so we prefer to keep boundaries clear.
-Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think swinging helps coz you don't get sexually bored and sneak around but it is also tricky keeping sex and emotions separate, some struggle not developing feelings especially with regular playmates
For me I see regular playmates and 1 on 1 meets as the greatest risk to a marriage or partnership. It is never the physical play (cock in pussy) that destroys a relationship as the man or woman is physically exactly the same after as they were before. It is the emotional infidelity that threatens for me.
I do wonder why so many appear to choose what is supposed to be a casual, NSA, physical sex partner using the same criteria as they use to find a husband or lover?
They want chemistry, physical attraction, strong liking, respect, all building an emotional relationship before sex and this is often spiced by several social meets. They seem to want to be great friends. Emotion grows large in those situations I fear. What do others think?
Sorry, slightly confused by the question, are you referring to couples who play separately, or singles meeting couples and other singles?
Anyone choosing a sex partner. The criteria for selection seems to be far higher than NSA sex would seem to require.
Ah yes I see what you mean now. It does seem to be the case that quite often people are blurring the lines between NSA and dating. It probably shouldn't be a concern for us if people are vulnerable and are potentially getting hurt, but it does if these are people we might cross paths with.
We've found swinging a bit of a minefield lately, it wasn't quite like this when we first got into it 12 years ago.
Probably sounds a bit callous - but I'm not, we're both actually quite emotional people, so we prefer to keep boundaries clear.
-Mr "
Exactly what I believe. I have seen posts where a woman in a couple meets the same man every week and spends the night with him alone. He wines and dines her before sex. For me that is just dangerously toying with emotions. |
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