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Ladies - would you require to have at least one social meet before having sex with someone?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Question for the ladies here.
I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.
Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge? |
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Nope,my spare time is precious, if I want to go for a drink etc I have friends for that ?? I broke that 'rule' once and met someone for a coffee, he was a complete nutter and stalked me. I met him to be kind. I wouldn't have had sex with him even if I had been blind enough to arrange that type of meet. I can tell someone sorry but your photos are twenty years ut of date etc x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social first then go away to decide if we want to see each other again. I handed out way too many pity shags in the beginning before deciding on my "Social First" rule. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.
Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally yes. But I have met someone on a previous site and after chatting for ages we met and I knew I had to have him then and there. He oozed sex. Utter filth.
So we booked a hotel room and that ''twas the start of a few months of hot fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes always a social in a public place for the first meet.
I'm the stupid woman who didn't do that when joining here and ended up in a difficult situation.
If the guy isn't happy with a social then he isn't worth me shaving my minky and legs for in the first place. Ha ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a social as such but i do insist on meeting in public first only for my safty and to see if i want to shag them before i commit myself to it
But if we like each other i see no point in going home and arranging another meet, i want a shag now not a week on Thursday when we are both free again 
I only really do one off meets so if we dont shag on the first meet the chances are we never will |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.
Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick.
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As a guy I have no problem meeting first. It works for us both! If you want to go ahead fine but it's possibly more enjoyable with a social! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.
Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "
It's amazing how many men think meeting for a drink to see if you want to fuck is dating
If thats your idea of a date no wonder your single  |
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When I met men alone I wasn't ever interested in a social as I wasn't looking forma relationship. Same think now when I meet with my partner. I dont have a problem meeting other women socially before sex .... if they need that, but again I am not looking for any relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With the odd slip, my first meets have always been social meets. I like to gage the chemistry before jumping into the bed with them, if the chemistry is right, the next meet is really charged with the anticipation of the naughtiness to come. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always do a social meet first, for both safety and to see if there is any chemistry.
I don't know how I'd handle meeting for sex straight away - what if we don't like each other in the flesh? Could be awkward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We meet for a combination of friendship and sex, so even repeat meets will have some sort of social element to it. Happy to play on first meet though if all goes well.
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Always a social meet with someone I've never met before.
Allows both of us to check there's chemistry there and also for me to gage what they are Like.
Since joining this site I've met single GUYS that have had very scary, violent meets that has forced them to back away from this lifestyle, so I'm well aware of the real dangers out there of meeting strangers off the Internet.
I'm very selective over who I meet and with new people I'm very cautious
Once I've met them and my full H & S checks completed, then the naughty and spontaneous me comes out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always a social first. To check the chemistry and for a psycho check. I've arranged to meet in a club on first meeting but that's because the safety aspect is taken care of then.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"With the odd slip, my first meets have always been social meets. I like to gage the chemistry before jumping into the bed with them, if the chemistry is right, the next meet is really charged with the anticipation of the naughtiness to come. "
I love your logic! That anticipation would be so exciting! Half of the pleasure would be even before the meet! It would be slow-burn excitement just like winding up a spring. Once you meet and let the spring go - oh baby!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I met away from clubs I always had a social, as there was no guarantee i would be attracted to them in person. I did meet one that I liked in person and we took things further the same day, but as there was only one I gave up on meets away from clubs. If I meet someone at a club there's always the chance I'll meet them away from the club though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rea insisted on a social first, and I agreed and supported her on that matter.
It irons out any doubts and gives an idea of whether there is any chemistry and compatibility.
A social works both ways of course, after all we had some tell us sorry but you're not what I / We are looking for, and that is priceless.
The other thing a social helps to do us out the time wasters, if they can't turn up for a social then they're hardly likely to turn up for a sexy session. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to have a social first as no matter how much I chat to them online and think there's an attraction, it often isn't the case when I meet them in person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "
Same for me - with men and couples.
If I've decided to meet them, then I've pretty much decided that I'm ready to play with them.
No sex on the first meet means that there won't be a second one!
But when meeting another women, then anything is open as it may turn into a progressing friendship....
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Always a social first. If I'm not connecting with a brain and personality, then there's little chance of connecting physically. Meeting again for sex is always way hotter after having met a three-dimensional person first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am surprised at the number of women who like social meets as a precursor to sex. I have reached the point where, if the guy will not meet me in a public place, he just will never meet me. I have had some interesting reactions from men when asking for a social meet first. I like to grab a quick coffee, form an impression and go away to decide if it is going further. Thought I would be in the minority to be honest. Glad to see I am not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Question for the ladies here.
I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.
Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"
Not really... prefer to just meet random guys at clubs.. couples we have but its a sure fire way for me to go off the idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I only meet me guys at clubs - that way you can have a social at the club and then if you like each other, the facilities are all there to be enjoyed. And if you don't click, both can go off and find someone they are interested in, without there being any accusations of anyone being a "timewaster" for not wanting to shag them.... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Mainly a social first. But it does depend on the person. I've met before in the hotel bar and then fucked within the hour. I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting someone I don't know without anyone around me in my hotel room due to there being a couple of times when the other person has been very far removed from how they were originally described. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mainly a social first. But it does depend on the person. I've met before in the hotel bar and then fucked within the hour. I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting someone I don't know without anyone around me in my hotel room due to there being a couple of times when the other person has been very far removed from how they were originally described."
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all. "
Another thumbs up from me. To take it further we never "meet" - we only play in clubs. That way I can have sex with strangers but have the advantage of seeing what they look like first. |
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If I were meeting someone without J then I would meet them somewhere public first (Costa/Pub etc) but that might lead to sex if we clicked and both wanted to. I would never go to someone's hotel room or home without having met them first - just from a safety perspective.
I much prefer to message for a bit first though, you can get a sense of whether you will get on from messages so that's more likely to expedite the fun after the meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.
Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "
You go girl! My exact thoughts precisely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the time social first but I have had meets where its been spontanaeous and had sex as soon as we met, maybe the sexual attraction and chemistry was there but most of the time it is a social and if we get on a kiss. Usually by the 2nd meet I would expect to have sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion I prefer meeting in person before anything happens, people can be a bit more forward over a keyboard so I like to chat usually over a coffee and see what we are like in real life together |
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Social first always. And I go away and decide before a play date.
The time I broke that rule was the time I was fighting a guy off me in a hotel room and it scared the shit out of me.
Always, ALWAYS a social. And no guarantee of play after that (depends how the social goes.)
Plus I can't tell if I have chemistry with a guy without a social. I like chemistry.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for the ladies here.
I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.
Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"
Always meet in a public area have a coffee and a chat. If there is a spark of attraction then will go "all the way" on a 1st meet.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nah ...I'm a right slut! !...I always go with the thought there's going to be sex ...I do my ground work ..don't rush into meeting and I'm more or less sure we're going to get on..hence all my meets have been successful and we've ended up shagging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.
Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "
Always coffee/social meet first, my safety is my priority |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It varies for me. If we have been chatting for a while then no need for a social. Occasionally, if it's a new friend, I may say meet at mine for a chat first but I normally have my lingerie on under a dress ready for action.
I very very good with my choices now. I've had one total fuck-up since joining! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Public social first and if we click, get jiggy same day.
Funnily enough, numerous men won't meet for a social. My safety is more important than your dick. "
In total agreement here..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Definitely a social initially .... maybe two ... I have standards and I wont lower them ...
Sex with a total stranger is simply out of the question ..."
Best way as far as I'm concerned x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for the ladies here.
I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.
Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"
If I've decided to meet somebody it would be for sex. Provided they make the first move. I'm not here to date after all... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not a social as such but i do insist on meeting in public first only for my safty and to see if i want to shag them before i commit myself to it
But if we like each other i see no point in going home and arranging another meet, i want a shag now not a week on Thursday when we are both free again
I only really do one off meets so if we dont shag on the first meet the chances are we never will"
Same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We really thought we were in the minority here as we never do socials .
It's purely about the sex and one offs are perfect .
I would say if we did socials we would have only played with half the people we have , as the boredom and mundanity of sitting chatting about mindless drivel with someone you just want to have sex with is futile and pointless .
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"Yes always a social in a public place for the first meet.
I'm the stupid woman who didn't do that when joining here and ended up in a difficult situation.
If the guy isn't happy with a social then he isn't worth me shaving my minky and legs for in the first place. Ha ha "
Minky pmsl!!!!
I'm so using that expression lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.
Exactly the same here "
Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me. |
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"Question for the ladies here.
I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.
Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"
As I'm meeting in my home and I'm using restraints etc, it's important I feel comfortable and sexually attracted to the person.
The same applies to my meets. They are coming into my home and put in vulnerable positions, they need to feel safe with me.
I have dodged many a bullet having a social meet first! |
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"When I met men alone I wasn't ever interested in a social as I wasn't looking forma relationship. Same think now when I meet with my partner. I dont have a problem meeting other women socially before sex .... if they need that, but again I am not looking for any relationship"
I don't see the correlation between meeting someone for a coffee to ascertain whether you want to invite them into your home for sex and dating!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I met men alone I wasn't ever interested in a social as I wasn't looking forma relationship. Same think now when I meet with my partner. I dont have a problem meeting other women socially before sex .... if they need that, but again I am not looking for any relationship
I don't see the correlation between meeting someone for a coffee to ascertain whether you want to invite them into your home for sex and dating! "
It's because everything on the forum is one extreme or the other. If you want a social you're looking for a relationship, if you don't you'll fuck anyone and have no standards  |
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"I always do a social meet first, for both safety and to see if there is any chemistry.
I don't know how I'd handle meeting for sex straight away - what if we don't like each other in the flesh? Could be awkward "
That's why I meet socially first. I met a man in an out of the way hotel when I first started...The less said about that encounter the better!  |
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"Question for the ladies here.
I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.
Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"
Not necessarily |
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"Always a social meet with someone I've never met before.
Allows both of us to check there's chemistry there and also for me to gage what they are Like.
Since joining this site I've met single GUYS that have had very scary, violent meets that has forced them to back away from this lifestyle, so I'm well aware of the real dangers out there of meeting strangers off the Internet.
I'm very selective over who I meet and with new people I'm very cautious
Once I've met them and my full H & S checks completed, then the naughty and spontaneous me comes out "
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"We really thought we were in the minority here as we never do socials .
It's purely about the sex and one offs are perfect .
I would say if we did socials we would have only played with half the people we have , as the boredom and mundanity of sitting chatting about mindless drivel with someone you just want to have sex with is futile and pointless .
Mrs "
For me I've not wanted to have sex with them. One guy I didn't even sit down as he was a cunt from the off. Fantastic in messages and on the phone. I dodged a bullet not meeting in my home for sure.
I have a partner, not looking to date. He plays in clubs whilst I watch, I play alone.
Horses for courses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always a social for us as we learned early on here it doesn't matter how well you get on through messages, texts and phone calls are no substitute for face to face but if all goes well we are happy to play on first meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question for the ladies here.
I generally have to have a social meet first before sex on a second or third meet.
Do you have a rule that it is first, second or third meet (or more) before taking the plunge?"
We only meet for sex. The 'social' is the time beforehand when we chat and see if we want to go further. Time is very precious and this works well for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.
Exactly the same here
Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me. "
Personally I'm very picky about who I invite into my home and have sex with. No knitting and biscuits on my socials - it's more of a couple of drinks to see if the guy is sound enough to be brought back to where I live. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.
Exactly the same here
Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me.
Personally I'm very picky about who I invite into my home and have sex with. No knitting and biscuits on my socials - it's more of a couple of drinks to see if the guy is sound enough to be brought back to where I live."
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By (user no longer on site)
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i dont meet single men and meet couples with a good long term friend of mine - so no social required for that - ladies only at clubs first usually - of but if any of that were to change i would have social first - |
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"No. I only meet for sex. No need for a social at all.
Exactly the same here
Me too. If I want a social I'll pop down to the WI with my knitting and biscuits. When I get the horn, it's get round to mine within 30 mins and fuck me.
Personally I'm very picky about who I invite into my home and have sex with. No knitting and biscuits on my socials - it's more of a couple of drinks to see if the guy is sound enough to be brought back to where I live."
Same for me. My socials are during my lunch break or in the evening after work before I get my train...so no long, drawn out protracted meet. Just long enough to ascertain chemistry etc.
Arranging a meet and just getting jiggy with a total stranger doesn't work for me, but unlike some on this thread I wouldn't be dismissive and condescending to those who play differently to me! |
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"Nah ...I'm a right slut! !...I always go with the thought there's going to be sex ...I do my ground work ..don't rush into meeting and I'm more or less sure we're going to get on..hence all my meets have been successful and we've ended up shagging "
Exactly this. I do my homework before we even meet. We chat on here to establish a vibe and if you are interesting and serious, then whatsapp so we see each other in real time. Then we arrange a meet and fuck. If we don't get past the first two stages, then what's the point of a social.
But I have done socials because I had nothing better to do and was curious.
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