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The elusive FTM (female to male)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's has always been a fantasy to play with an individual transitioning from female to male. I have noticed on the site there are one or two but they usually aren't looking to meet guys. Would love to know if there are any out there looking for some fun?
Sorry if I have used the wrong terminology or offended anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Coz being fetishised is so sexy. Most people won't jugs want to be something you can tick off your bucketlist"
Take your point but is it any different to wanting a gym fit guy, a BBC, a "unicorn" etc. Aren't most of our sexual preferences fetishised in some way? |
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"Coz being fetishised is so sexy. Most people won't jugs want to be something you can tick off your bucketlist"
Don't see the difference with a couple wanting a bi lady/man to join them, somebody else wanting a bbw, a bbc or whatever. You made the op sound wrong. But people do have a sexual bucket list. I know I do. And if that's his thing. I don't see a problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Coz being fetishised is so sexy. Most people won't jugs want to be something you can tick off your bucketlist
Don't see the difference with a couple wanting a bi lady/man to join them, somebody else wanting a bbw, a bbc or whatever. You made the op sound wrong. But people do have a sexual bucket list. I know I do. And if that's his thing. I don't see a problem."
Just because it's not a problem for you or him, doesn't mean it's not a problem for someone else.
I won't have my gender status fetishised by random people. I'm not up for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had so many meets with so many people over the years .
And every meet has ticked something off our bucket list , as it has with those we have met .
Was the meet with the pregnant lady purely a fetish meet ? Or the lactating female ? Or every couple , single guy , group session , tv/ ts / tg ?
The short people , the tall people , the large people and the thin ones ? Perhaps they were , and meeting a female to make would be just the same as the rest of our meets .
A meet is a meet , fun is fun , and anyone who thinks they are worth more than that isn't going to gel with us . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Coz being fetishised is so sexy. Most people won't jugs want to be something you can tick off your bucketlist
Don't see the difference with a couple wanting a bi lady/man to join them, somebody else wanting a bbw, a bbc or whatever. You made the op sound wrong. But people do have a sexual bucket list. I know I do. And if that's his thing. I don't see a problem.
Just because it's not a problem for you or him, doesn't mean it's not a problem for someone else.
I won't have my gender status fetishised by random people. I'm not up for that. "
It's bound to be a problem for someone, it normally is. If that's what he likes and he finds some one like that and they like it then what's the problem.
Otherwise they can do what the majority of the female population does with me, ignore and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I might be a bit grumpy today and looking at this wrongly, but this is a sex site.
People are going to want to fulfil fetishes here If it offends you being the object of someones fantasies don't have a profile on a sex site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I might be a bit grumpy today and looking at this wrongly, but this is a sex site.
People are going to want to fulfil fetishes here If it offends you being the object of someones fantasies don't have a profile on a sex site."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I regularly turn people down because they say they want a first experience with a trans girl.
I know everyone has a first at some point but I don't want to be it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I regularly turn people down because they say they want a first experience with a trans girl.
I know everyone has a first at some point but I don't want to be it. "
And that's fine, it's ok for them to be fulfilling a fetish as long as your getting what you want too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Coz being fetishised is so sexy. Most people won't jugs want to be something you can tick off your bucketlist
Take your point but is it any different to wanting a gym fit guy, a BBC, a "unicorn" etc. Aren't most of our sexual preferences fetishised in some way? "
There is a big difference between being genuinely attracted to a particular type of person and only wanting to fuck someone because they are novel and so you can say you have. This is not the first time the OP has put up a request like this for Transmen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Coz being fetishised is so sexy. Most people won't jugs want to be something you can tick off your bucketlist
Take your point but is it any different to wanting a gym fit guy, a BBC, a "unicorn" etc. Aren't most of our sexual preferences fetishised in some way?
There is a big difference between being genuinely attracted to a particular type of person and only wanting to fuck someone because they are novel and so you can say you have. This is not the first time the OP has put up a request like this for Transmen. "
We all have different requirements in terms of what we look for in a relationship vs casual sex.
If you think some one only wants sex with you because your novel then the choice is yours isn't it.
If the OP has posted about it before, then maybe that's cos it's something he'd really really like to try.
I'd quite like to have a fffm 4 some, yes because it's novel and yes so I could say I've had one does that mean It wouldn't be amazing (at least for me)?
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can understand why many trans girls/guys find it offensive, it's no different to people objectifying each other - some people don't care, but others simply don't want to be reduced to being someone's sexual kick.
I would imagine that's harder for trans folk who are already often striving for validation, and wanting to be valued as who they are not what they are?
Yes this a sex site but we all want and expect a bit of respect and attraction of some sort from people we meet that isn't *solely* based on what, rather than who. Personally I think those who are strong enough to be themselves in a world which is still learning to understand them deserve extra respect.
Sorry I'm waffling on, point is be attracted to the person not the novelty. Hope I've not ruffled anyone's feathers.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can understand why many trans girls/guys find it offensive, it's no different to people objectifying each other - some people don't care, but others simply don't want to be reduced to being someone's sexual kick.
I would imagine that's harder for trans folk who are already often striving for validation, and wanting to be valued as who they are not what they are?
Yes this a sex site but we all want and expect a bit of respect and attraction of some sort from people we meet that isn't *solely* based on what, rather than who. Personally I think those who are strong enough to be themselves in a world which is still learning to understand them deserve extra respect.
Sorry I'm waffling on, point is be attracted to the person not the novelty. Hope I've not ruffled anyone's feathers.
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This...entirely this.  |
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"It's has always been a fantasy to play with an individual transitioning from female to male. I have noticed on the site there are one or two but they usually aren't looking to meet guys. Would love to know if there are any out there looking for some fun?
Sorry if I have used the wrong terminology or offended anyone. "
Good post op!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can understand why many trans girls/guys find it offensive, it's no different to people objectifying each other - some people don't care, but others simply don't want to be reduced to being someone's sexual kick.
I would imagine that's harder for trans folk who are already often striving for validation, and wanting to be valued as who they are not what they are?
Yes this a sex site but we all want and expect a bit of respect and attraction of some sort from people we meet that isn't *solely* based on what, rather than who. Personally I think those who are strong enough to be themselves in a world which is still learning to understand them deserve extra respect.
Sorry I'm waffling on, point is be attracted to the person not the novelty. Hope I've not ruffled anyone's feathers.
This...entirely this. "
So a transitioned female to male should get extra respect because they're different and struggle to be validated ? Not in my book , they are no different to anyone else and their meet would be treated as so . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can see the interest in meeting someone who's transitioning. "
Ah but because you respect them as an individual or because they are transitioning Clem ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can see the interest in meeting someone who's transitioning.
Ah but because you respect them as an individual or because they are transitioning Clem ?"
Because they are transitioning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can see the interest in meeting someone who's transitioning.
Ah but because you respect them as an individual or because they are transitioning Clem ?
Because they are transitioning. "
Yep , good answer .
Just as we choose to play with a woman with big tits as that's what we fancy at the time . Or a guy with a big cock , or a tv , or any other type . It's what we fancy at the time .
So wanting to play with a transitioning guy or girl is no different . The criteria for wanting it is exactly the same as any other type of person one wants to meet . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" After all, I fancy women and i fancy mermaids. I blame disney for making the little mermaid too hot  "
And the mermaids in pirates of the Caribbean! Swoon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I regularly turn people down because they say they want a first experience with a trans girl.
I know everyone has a first at some point but I don't want to be it. "
99% of the time that means scam a free blowjob whilst offering nothing, then leaving immediately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I mean, saying 'I want to meet someone who is transitioning' is just weird. It's like saying 'I want to meet someone who is currently having treatment for cancer' or similar. Like, why are you fetishising a medical condition? It would be equally as weird to say 'I want to meet someone with depression' and objectifying someone that way.
When you meet a transman you should treat them no different to a man anyway - unless they advise anyway. The same as a transwoman.
However what I believe *most* people mean when they say that want to meet a transperson is that they want to meet a *crossdresser*. They don't want to meet a transman, they want to meet a boyish woman who still has a vagina. They don't want to meet a transwoman, they want to meet a woman with tits (fake or real) or still has a dick.
It wears very thin when you're a queer/trans person. Very thin indeed. |
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"I can understand why many trans girls/guys find it offensive, it's no different to people objectifying each other - some people don't care, but others simply don't want to be reduced to being someone's sexual kick.
I would imagine that's harder for trans folk who are already often striving for validation, and wanting to be valued as who they are not what they are?
Yes this a sex site but we all want and expect a bit of respect and attraction of some sort from people we meet that isn't *solely* based on what, rather than who. Personally I think those who are strong enough to be themselves in a world which is still learning to understand them deserve extra respect.
Sorry I'm waffling on, point is be attracted to the person not the novelty. Hope I've not ruffled anyone's feathers.
This...entirely this.
So a transitioned female to male should get extra respect because they're different and struggle to be validated ? Not in my book , they are no different to anyone else and their meet would be treated as so ."
This is exactly what I think. I treat everyone pretty much the same. It's only when we treat people the same that people start to fit in with society. I don't make one rule for one rule for another. And anyway. This is a sex site. There are about a zillion fetishes on here. Why should this one be any different. Somebody had a thread about liking red hair with glasses earlier. A fetish if you will. I have red hair and glasses. Am I a fetish. Frankly I don't care. I'm not going to pretend anyone likes me for me. This is a sex site. Some people might want more. So they can just go ahead and block the people who don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Everyone has the right to be treated with respect and dignity. Without exception.
Everyone has the responsibility to think for themselves. It doesn't take the brains of the archbishop to realise going on a sex site means some people will want to have sex with you because you have big boobs/small ears/face like Shreks scrotum or are transgender (delete as appropriate).
In all those cases, you've been objectified. Like it or not, not everyone is going to be after a deep meaningful relationship. That's because this is a NSA sex site, not on line dating or Mumsnet.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Wow I never thought this post would create such a great read. Just to voice my opinion, yes asking to meet a female to male TS, is a sort of sexual bucket list wish. However, that doesn't mean I am objectifiying an individual and only wanting to meet them to tick them off my list. End of the day there needs to be some sort of spark, connection or understanding (in my personal opinion) for great sex. It's not merely me asking then throwing myself at the first person to say yes. |
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