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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me its a preference, I don't want to look like an old prune next to the guy I,m with lol.  "
I can understand that, but surely the ' 44 is not 45' thing is a bit pedantic? Some will look much younger than others and some older, and it's not really about mental maturity... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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Makes a change they are stipulating OVER 45. The mens profiles I read usually only want UNDER 45. Luckily I just squeak in there.
I think it is up to the person whose profile it is. If they let it slide and let 44 year olds in, then the next level is 43, then 42 and so on, til they may as well have said 40 and over. They have set a limit and are sticking to it. Good for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me its a preference, I don't want to look like an old prune next to the guy I,m with lol.
I can understand that, but surely the ' 44 is not 45' thing is a bit pedantic? Some will look much younger than others and some older, and it's not really about mental maturity... "
Very true, I did have 40 and over as my preference but got numerous messages from guys just under so changed it to 35. Now I get messages from guys just under that age range lol. |
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The thing is, that if it's a person who doesn't regularly change their profile, then next year, the unqualifyiing 44yo will be 45, despite that person being a year too young for the person with the profie....unless of course next year it is changed to 46 and over, and spells out that 45 isn't 46  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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No, because then they'd qualify. It's an age restriction, not a people restriction.
I know - same person only one year older, but a limit is a limit. Age is really the only one we can set, apart from no singles or something, so it's one way of controlling the amount of messages they get.
Cor, we do spend a lot of time on here talking about other peoples profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kate has a plus 10yrs preference, that she stipulated when we first joined and up to now, she has stuck to it.
I used to have "no below 40" preference, but we have a number of friends who fall below this now, so I've had to change it.
It's a hard job, playing with young women, but someones got to do it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"so what if it pedandtic, its their profile and their choice as to who they play with and who they dont.
if you dont meet their criteria move on and find someone whose criteria you do meet!!!"
I totally agree, and to be honest I'm really not mentally interested in someone that would go out of their way to type that. Just wanted to understand the thought process, which this thread is helping to explain.  |
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Dear God,preferences on a profile?
Dont these ppl know you have to say yes to everyone who offers or you are not a real swinger?Its in the rule book,when this issue was brought before the SHC(swinging high Court),Lord Vicci's ruling was final on the subject.
"The swingee,hence forth refereed to as x must reply to all mail within the time period afore mentioned.Should X indicate a personal preference in said mail they will be judged in contravention of the Swinging Act of 1973.
There shall be no reason for X to state preferences or biases in their profile,nor shall profiles be allowed that use wit or humour."
Hope that clears things up .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always find that if you're at a party or a club then age restrictions go out of the window
I would never ask the age of some gorgeous guy im chatting to,because im never going to say ooooh your 2 years out sod off,its the person that counts and how you interact and feel about them,not their age 
But on this site I use it mainly as an indicator and its not set in stone |
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they were probably fed up with messages from guys starting" i know im 2,3,4 ect years outta your preference but ....." least with making a clear statement it will make "some" think twice before messaging when they arent what the person wants.
may seem padantic to the op but hes not on the recieveing end of numerous messages from people outside his preferences chancing their arm . then when you message saying sorry opening up the "but why " or " its only a number " conversations. so just saves alot of hassles if made plain and upfrount then stops wasting both parties time . |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Just read a profile that stipulates 45 and over, and spells out that 44 isn't 45! As we're all different, isn't it really just a number?"
bearing in mind you have 20 to 60 on your profile..... isn't it just a tad hypocritical to be having a go at others while having one of your own?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just read a profile that stipulates 45 and over, and spells out that 44 isn't 45! As we're all different, isn't it really just a number?"
no age isnt just a number
people look different at different ages
age is sexual experience
maturity or lack of it
Age is having common interests and being about to talk and get on with people
I would never meet an 18 year old as i dont like the 'baby face' look nor would i have anything at all to talk to them about, as at my age my interests would bore them and most likely visa versa
Nor would i meet a 60 year old because bodys of a certain age do not appeal to me either
So no age isnt just a number  |
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"they were probably fed up with messages from guys starting" i know im 2,3,4 ect years outta your preference but ....." least with making a clear statement it will make "some" think twice before messaging when they arent what the person wants.
may seem padantic to the op but hes not on the recieveing end of numerous messages from people outside his preferences chancing their arm . then when you message saying sorry opening up the "but why " or " its only a number " conversations. so just saves alot of hassles if made plain and upfrount then stops wasting both parties time . "
this ^^^^^ |
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"Just read a profile that stipulates 45 and over, and spells out that 44 isn't 45! As we're all different, isn't it really just a number?
no age isnt just a number
people look different at different ages
age is sexual experience
maturity or lack of it
Age is having common interests and being about to talk and get on with people
I would never meet an 18 year old as i dont like the 'baby face' look nor would i have anything at all to talk to them about, as at my age my interests would bore them and most likely visa versa
Nor would i meet a 60 year old because bodys of a certain age do not appeal to me either
So no age isnt just a number "
Totally agree, I also have a lower age limit..it's about shared experiences/decades... who want to have to explain something they've said in conversation, to a 'toyboy' (for want of a better word) which may have happend years before they were born..I'm not saying that I'd get on with everyone in my age group, but it's my taste and preference, and everyone has that right to chose who they play with.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just read a profile that stipulates 45 and over, and spells out that 44 isn't 45! As we're all different, isn't it really just a number?
bearing in mind you have 20 to 60 on your profile..... isn't it just a tad hypocritical to be having a go at others while having one of your own? "
Not at all. The question isn't addressing the age range. 20-60 is merely a guide to my preference. If I'm honest, I probably wouldn't entertain meeting someone under 25 unless the initial message showed extreme maturity. I certainly wouldn't look at a message and dismiss the person because they were 61 if my profile stated 20-60.
My question is addressing (as others on the thread have realised) the number and stating the fact that whilst the person is happy with a 45+, they will not be happy with 44+ ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just read a profile that stipulates 45 and over, and spells out that 44 isn't 45! As we're all different, isn't it really just a number?
no age isnt just a number
people look different at different ages
age is sexual experience
maturity or lack of it
Age is having common interests and being about to talk and get on with people
I would never meet an 18 year old as i dont like the 'baby face' look nor would i have anything at all to talk to them about, as at my age my interests would bore them and most likely visa versa
Nor would i meet a 60 year old because bodys of a certain age do not appeal to me either
So no age isnt just a number "
You've actually backed up the reason for my question!
Why stipulate that 45 isn't 44 when we all mature differentely in every aspect according to our own life experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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", but surely the ' 44 is not 45' thing is a bit pedantic? Some will look much younger than others and some older, and it's not really about mental maturity... "
Sigh...no, it's not pedantic, it really is personal preference. When I was meeting I stated over 45s only, I also said straight and no marrieds. Bi curious and separated men felt they could message me, and I should respond because they thought I was being pedantic: where do you stop?!!
More to the point, when will some people allow others the respect of having what they like on their profile and get over themselves if it excludes them!
As for the nonsense about age just being a number - if that was the case then we wouldn't need "age of consent", "age you're allowed to vote", "age you can drive" etc...it matters in some things! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, because then they'd qualify. It's an age restriction, not a people restriction.
I know - same person only one year older, but a limit is a limit. Age is really the only one we can set, apart from no singles or something, so it's one way of controlling the amount of messages they get.
Cor, we do spend a lot of time on here talking about other peoples profiles."
If some people spent less time scrutinising and writing about people profiles they DON'T meet, instead of trying to link up with those they do, we'd have less whinging threads...but hey, it's obviously too much to ask! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think your missing the point here, people take the time to create profiles to specify what they are personally looking for so they get replies from the kind of people that they are personally looking for and if people take the time to read their profiles it saves them messaging them if they are not what the other people are looking for.So in a way if you read the profile then if you reply and your not what the other person is looking for then its your own fault for replying. Evey one is different and enjoys different things so you have to respect that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As for the nonsense about age just being a number - if that was the case then we wouldn't need "age of consent", "age you're allowed to vote", "age you can drive" etc...it matters in some things! "
Slightly difference concept comparing age of consent to a years difference on a profile. How many people check someones ID when they meet to verify the age? You don't. It becomes (in most cases) a matter of attraction. I've been told I look several years younger than my age, although my mental capacity could be perceived as being several years older. For the sake of swinging, at what point is my age +/- 12 months really relevant?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As for the nonsense about age just being a number - if that was the case then we wouldn't need "age of consent", "age you're allowed to vote", "age you can drive" etc...it matters in some things!
Slightly difference concept comparing age of consent to a years difference on a profile. How many people check someones ID when they meet to verify the age? You don't. It becomes (in most cases) a matter of attraction. I've been told I look several years younger than my age, although my mental capacity could be perceived as being several years older. For the sake of swinging, at what point is my age +/- 12 months really relevant?
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Ok we down to personal choices AGAIN lol...but of course some people forget the boxes they tick and of course what they say in the profiles...eg wont meet smokers, age meet range, no married men...yet have gangbangs/cybersex as a list of interests.
currently blowing my smoke while wanking at some woman on webcam...she wont meet smokers tho... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dear God,preferences on a profile?
Dont these ppl know you have to say yes to everyone who offers or you are not a real swinger?
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lol that reminded me of a message I got when I was arranging a gangbang when I was part of a couple.
We had stipulated and age bracket. I think it was 25-45. The ex didn't want anyone to young there.
We got a message from a young lad about 22 or 23. We politely told him thanks but no thanks and explained why. The conversation went something like this:
Lad "I thought it was a gangbang
Me "It is, what's your point"
Lad "So it shouldn't matter about age"
Me "Why shouldn't it?"
Lad "Because it's a gangbang were just going to fuck her"
Me "You have a lot to learn! Just because it's a gangbang doesn't mean she's just going to let anyone fuck her! Bye"
I couldn't believe it! How naive? |
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By *otswbabeCouple
over a year ago
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We like toyboys, Im not apologising for it, its what we do lol Not hard and fast on the age but most who succeed with us are in their twenties so 45 yos who say they are the tops in bed and look younger are just wasteing their time, which is of course their choice! |
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"Just read a profile that stipulates 45 and over, and spells out that 44 isn't 45! As we're all different, isn't it really just a number?"
I am sure someone else must have said this.... it's their choice. |
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