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Tips for new swingers as a couple,
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Communicate constantly. Be sure you know what youreally both wanting. If one of you doesn't then make sure you talk about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi guys
We're new to swinging
What tips would u recommend
Also tips for our relationship to help build trust etc what is key when swinging
Thank you "
Honesty honesty and more honesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably the biggest thing rules. Establish where your boundaries are and stick to them. If necessary write them down.
If I could have a pound for every time I heard "I thought that would be OK...." |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi guys
We're new to swinging
What tips would u recommend
Also tips for our relationship to help build trust etc what is key when swinging
Thank you "
It's important you have trust before you start swinging and yes, clear boundaries and stick to them. Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Communication.
Respect.
Boundaries.
Not taking swinging too seriously.
Knowing when to take a step back from swinging and enjoy time with each other, so your sex life doesn't become dependent on it.
Get yourselves out and meeting other swingers at clubs and socials, not just forumites. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust and boundaries and communication and absolute honesty. Yes write it all down and maybe run through as many scenarios as you could imagine and see if any conflicts occur. I sometimes smile at the 'take one for the team' scenarios where one person would like to play with someone in the other couple but the other isn't so sure about their counterpart ( lol that was surprising difficult to describe) I've never gone for it if I was dead set against them though. |
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We set boundaries, and stick to them
If another couple wants to swap, they'll likely be willing to next week, take time to talk and agree what you both want or don't want
You can't turn back clocks! Swinging is not a rush, the club will be open next week to go back |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"Hi guys
We're new to swinging
What tips would u recommend
Also tips for our relationship to help build trust etc what is key when swinging
Thank you "
I hope we are reading too much into "Also tips for our relationship to help build trust".
If either of you have doubts about your partner be very careful swinging may not be for you.
It takse a lot of trust in a partner to share them sexually with others.
We always recommend that people only swing when they are in a secure relationship, if there are doubts swinging will only accentuate them |
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One thing that often causes a problem is that people don't like saying "no" once things have got underway. Along with everything else that's been said I would add, never be afraid to stop proceedings and ask for a private chat with your partner and never, ever take one for the team.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing that often causes a problem is that people don't like saying "no" once things have got underway. Along with everything else that's been said I would add, never be afraid to stop proceedings and ask for a private chat with your partner and never, ever take one for the team.
Enjoy "
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I'd suggest a night out at a swing club. If you feel Quest is a little too close to home, why not try another venue within 40 mins drive.
Go with the intention of being a bit of a fly on the wall, meet and chat to new friends there.
If you go with the intention of just dipping your toes in the pool, everyone will respect that and be lovely! |
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"....stop proceedings and ask for a private chat with your partner and never, ever take one for the team.
Enjoy "
We've stopped mid flow whilst playing, other couple accepted we needed 5 minutes, then we played on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are really new & have had the same thought process. Had some great tips off here & most are very similar to what has been said on here.
We hope to go to a club soon to "be a fly on the wall" and see how we feel once in the right environment!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just remember when you try a club that if you fancy a play it doesn't mean it has to be with anyone else. Our first time at a club together (Mr had been with a previous partner ) we attempted to play with someone but there were some 'performance issues' with them so we had sex with each other in the public area and it was so hot !!! |
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