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over a year ago
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Are we wasting time looking for a FFM on here?
Hard to engage with single girls; they're obviously deluged
Hard to get girls in couples to play on their own
When we get close, we suffer serious timewasting, and messing about
We are an attractive couple and I didn't think it would be so hard to find a girl to have sex with.... on a sex site!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most couples play for their pleasure, as we presume you guys do, so you won't find many couples where the female of the couple willing to fly solo x"
Plenty of single girls though... they're either coupled up, only play in clubs, or just here for the social side of things it seems? |
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over a year ago
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"I'm looking to play with couples and have done but I find if I go to a club which is my preference couples don't want a single female and prefer to play with other couples"
God we'd be interested in you!! |
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"I'm looking to play with couples and have done but I find if I go to a club which is my preference couples don't want a single female and prefer to play with other couples
God we'd be interested in you!! "
Will send friend request if you like. Am just about to go offline xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've met a few single woman, I suppose it comes down to the numbers game, there's a lot more people looking to meet single woman than there is single women...supply and demand and all that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm looking to play with couples and have done but I find if I go to a club which is my preference couples don't want a single female and prefer to play with other couples
God we'd be interested in you!!
Will send friend request if you like. Am just about to go offline xx"
Accepted  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm looking to play with couples and have done but I find if I go to a club which is my preference couples don't want a single female and prefer to play with other couples"
Really? We've never been to a club yet, but I'm surprised to read that. |
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"Are we wasting time looking for a FFM on here?
Hard to engage with single girls; they're obviously deluged
Hard to get girls in couples to play on their own
When we get close, we suffer serious timewasting, and messing about
We are an attractive couple and I didn't think it would be so hard to find a girl to have sex with.... on a sex site!
Cx"
Question. Do you meet couples as a single girl? Like a swap, Friday I come play with you and Saturday you come and play with us as a single girl? |
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We've managed to hook up with quite a few single women through here; some of them are now regular friends, play mates and pets. You just have to be selective, stick to your standards and invest time in making them feel comfortable. Meeting them socially and connecting with them in a non-sexual environment is key to build their trust... And they they will reveal the fact that they have very few limits !
Good luck, the time and investment is worth it,
Flick xx |
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"I'm looking to play with couples and have done but I find if I go to a club which is my preference couples don't want a single female and prefer to play with other couples
Really? We've never been to a club yet, but I'm surprised to read that. "
I have been several times on couples nights to clubs and that seems to be the way it has been with the exception of one time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single fem and have been searching for a couple to play with. I've been lucky and met 2 great couples, but it really isn't easy to find a suitable couple, where everyone is happy.
It can be hard work finding a right man, let alone a right man and woman, but when it does happen, it's so worth all the effort |
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I may be wrong but I see it like this from most of the couples I be read about on here that are looking for a single female. They want the single female to put on a show with the F in the couple so M can either watch or join in. You'll normally find M isn't allowed to have much contact with the single. I see this as all a bit selfish for the single girl who ends up being used purely for the couples pleasure alone.
Why don't couples just play with other couples (swinging), as long as the girls are bi then the men can take turns to sit back if they like. Yes we would play with single women but we wouldn't want her to feel used for our sexual pleasure only. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we wasting time looking for a FFM on here?
Hard to engage with single girls; they're obviously deluged
Hard to get girls in couples to play on their own
When we get close, we suffer serious timewasting, and messing about
We are an attractive couple and I didn't think it would be so hard to find a girl to have sex with.... on a sex site!
Last I looked it was a swinging site
Cx"
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over a year ago
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"I may be wrong but I see it like this from most of the couples I be read about on here that are looking for a single female. They want the single female to put on a show with the F in the couple so M can either watch or join in. You'll normally find M isn't allowed to have much contact with the single. I see this as all a bit selfish for the single girl who ends up being used purely for the couples pleasure alone.
Why don't couples just play with other couples (swinging), as long as the girls are bi then the men can take turns to sit back if they like. Yes we would play with single women but we wouldn't want her to feel used for our sexual pleasure only. "
 a lot of couples just seek a single fem as a playtoy. Then they wonder why they can't find one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another couple here seeking the elusive single lady. We too suspect clubs will be the solution.
We are looking for bi F where all 3 play with all for mutual pleasure all around so no one feels excluded.
Great to see some ladies in this thread interested in couples, shame you are all up north!! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I've met some fantastic couples and not been made to feel like a fuck toy but more like it was a mutual fuck fest of enjoyment. I do think entering into the couple's dynamic can be tricky and establishing that connection with not one but two even more so. I think that with persistance and respect you'll find what you are seeking OP - as mentioned earlier clubs are a good way to strike up chat and see what happens. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most couples play for their pleasure, as we presume you guys do, so you won't find many couples where the female of the couple willing to fly solo x
Plenty of single girls though... they're either coupled up, only play in clubs, or just here for the social side of things it seems?"
Or looking for single males....? (Most seem to be). But I agree ffm is one of the harder tricks in the book......I've managed it a few times...including (oddly) a previous lesbian couple who "just wanted to try a guy between them" I struck lucky merely by being geographically closest to them not by any special magic!
If you are a single guy, I think the easiest is to "double book" single women.....worked for me a few times (even took 3 at once to the old "Lodge" for a hornyporny party). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Me and Matt have had FFMs before, with friends and randoms ad hoc. To plan one is becoming a bit of a nightmare, but having said that, it will happen eventually. |
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over a year ago
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"I've met some fantastic couples and not been made to feel like a fuck toy but more like it was a mutual fuck fest of enjoyment. I do think entering into the couple's dynamic can be tricky and establishing that connection with not one but two even more so. I think that with persistance and respect you'll find what you are seeking OP - as mentioned earlier clubs are a good way to strike up chat and see what happens. Good luck!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am a single woman and I will not meet a couple, also I have been part of a couple where the guy wanted ffm and nobody would meet us so why should I be an object of a couples fantasy?"
Not really swinging then, more dating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We've managed to hook up with quite a few single women through here; some of them are now regular friends, play mates and pets. You just have to be selective, stick to your standards and invest time in making them feel comfortable. Meeting them socially and connecting with them in a non-sexual environment is key to build their trust... And they they will reveal the fact that they have very few limits !
Good luck, the time and investment is worth it,
Flick xx"
You guys are hogging all the single women! Seriously though, best advice. OP you mention on your profile that you'll wait for the right woman, so keep contacting. As you can see there is both resentment and cautiousness coming from single women. Cultivating trust by talking things over is the answer. Yes, it is a lot of wooing if you expected a "sex contacts site" style arrangement. Put your charm to work, you'll do ok |
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not impossible but it is damn hard to set up. We have been here for a couple of years and only managed a couple of FFM meets. Its down to finding someone that is comfortable with you and you are happy to play with. Most single ladies on here are inundated with offers and it may be you are just slipping through the cracks. Dont dis pare. When it does happen it will be all the sweeter. Regular meets take effort FFM is the gold medal meet. Most couples want it. |
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I'd love all the attention of a couple but one of our rules is that I can't play alone with couples, I can play alone with guys but not more than one person at a time. Although I'm happy to kiss and play with boobs, I'm not really interested in anything further and understandably I think most couples are looking for a fully bi woman. Surprises me that couples would take preference over a single lady at a club though! |
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It's not impossible , we have had a few ffm experiences, that have worked really well for all of us.
Maybe get a bit more verified to give the single girl more confidence in you. Also, if it comes across as you are focused on just that aspect of play it can put plenty of single ladies off.
Read the other threads on this subject too, making sure it is a true 3 way completely equal experience for all is paramount, not a show or a 'box ticker' .
I'd suggest going to a club. You'll get your verification's up, build up some experience and single girls can chat to you there in a relaxed environment, and get a feeling whether it will be right for them.
Good luck, sure it will work out x |
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"I'm looking to play with couples and have done but I find if I go to a club which is my preference couples don't want a single female and prefer to play with other couples
Really? We've never been to a club yet, but I'm surprised to read that.
I have been several times on couples nights to clubs and that seems to be the way it has been with the exception of one time. "
Ah OK, maybe it's that particular club? But that's a shame. |
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"I may be wrong but I see it like this from most of the couples I be read about on here that are looking for a single female. They want the single female to put on a show with the F in the couple so M can either watch or join in. You'll normally find M isn't allowed to have much contact with the single. I see this as all a bit selfish for the single girl who ends up being used purely for the couples pleasure alone.
Why don't couples just play with other couples (swinging), as long as the girls are bi then the men can take turns to sit back if they like. Yes we would play with single women but we wouldn't want her to feel used for our sexual pleasure only.
a lot of couples just seek a single fem as a playtoy. Then they wonder why they can't find one."
we've never had a problem finding single ladies for FFM but it's not our primary goal, our goal is to play with however we fancy and click with either single female/male or couple!
OP trying to get a couple to loan you the female  would you do the same? If not, why should others! |
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"I may be wrong but I see it like this from most of the couples I be read about on here that are looking for a single female. They want the single female to put on a show with the F in the couple so M can either watch or join in. You'll normally find M isn't allowed to have much contact with the single. I see this as all a bit selfish for the single girl who ends up being used purely for the couples pleasure alone.
Why don't couples just play with other couples (swinging), as long as the girls are bi then the men can take turns to sit back if they like. Yes we would play with single women but we wouldn't want her to feel used for our sexual pleasure only.
a lot of couples just seek a single fem as a playtoy. Then they wonder why they can't find one.
we've never had a problem finding single ladies for FFM but it's not our primary goal, our goal is to play with however we fancy and click with either single female/male or couple!
OP trying to get a couple to loan you the female would you do the same? If not, why should others! "
From what our admittedly limited experience is with FFM 1 person tends to be the centre of attention for the other 2. IF thats the F over the couple its usually less fractious as if you are concentraing on part of the couple then the single F can feel they are only there to full fill that persons fantasy. Its an off centre dynamic that you dont usually see with a couple swap.
We as a couplle prefer on the first meet at least to make the lady our centre. Only once we are more comfortable together do we suggest other dynamics to try. |
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For the single ladies in the thread that have had a ffm. What has been your experience and how would it have been better/perfect for you personally?
Asking as a couple that have only spent time with other couples and a single male once but it's something we'd like to do (not with the urgency many seem to want).
We'd like to make it good for all involved so interested in pepoles experience and thoughts.
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From what our admittedly limited experience is with FFM 1 person tends to be the centre of attention for the other 2. IF thats the F over the couple its usually less fractious as if you are concentraing on part of the couple then the single F can feel they are only there to full fill that persons fantasy. Its an off centre dynamic that you dont usually see with a couple swap.
We as a couplle prefer on the first meet at least to make the lady our centre. Only once we are more comfortable together do we suggest other dynamics to try."
Great advice, totally agree. |
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It's a confidence thing too OP. I look at your pics and clearly you've got an amazing body. Almost intimidating to those of us who maybe have body issues.
I'm pretty confident in my own skin, but I had the "there's no way they'd find me attractive" thought go through my head instantly.
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"It's a confidence thing too OP. I look at your pics and clearly you've got an amazing body. Almost intimidating to those of us who maybe have body issues.
I'm pretty confident in my own skin, but I had the "there's no way they'd find me attractive" thought go through my head instantly.
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We find you extremely attractive and certainly not out of reach geographically!!  |
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Unicorns are hard to find, and if you're lucky enough to meet one, respect them and look after them! We've had an FFM and we as a couple both wanted her to enjoy herself also. We wanted all three of us to have a good time together |
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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago
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"I am a single woman and I will not meet a couple, also I have been part of a couple where the guy wanted ffm and nobody would meet us so why should I be an object of a couples fantasy?
Not really swinging then, more dating. "
I will not do for others that they will not do for me! There has to be some give and take surely?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are we wasting time looking for a FFM on here?
Hard to engage with single girls; they're obviously deluged
Hard to get girls in couples to play on their own
When we get close, we suffer serious timewasting, and messing about
We are an attractive couple and I didn't think it would be so hard to find a girl to have sex with.... on a sex site!
Cx"
Not at all. Get to a few clubs. Maybe some socials. You may then get some party invites and I am sure you will find them along the way. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Are we wasting time looking for a FFM on here?
Hard to engage with single girls; they're obviously deluged
Hard to get girls in couples to play on their own
When we get close, we suffer serious timewasting, and messing about
We are an attractive couple and I didn't think it would be so hard to find a girl to have sex with.... on a sex site!
Cx"
its not a sex site, its a swingers site... |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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I don't play with couples any more. It's really difficult to find one that can make it through initial conversations without implying you're a free hooker there to please them. Or some kind of birthday gift or surprise.
Then you get through the initial conversation and are presented with a list of rules that pretty much limit everything other than you provided oral sex for both of them, but not to expect it in return.
People say that some single guys have a bad attitude or expectation on here... I find some couples much worse.
Perhaps it's the 'sub' part of my username and they assume that 'sub' means that I'm up for being ordered about and used for their pleasure.
Obviously I'm not saying this is always the situation but there are some couples ruining it for others. I know a lot of my single bi friends feel exactly the same way about playing with couples. |
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I met with a very sexy, intelligent 'couple' for a social, we had built up what I thought was a fairly good rapport via messages, but, sadly the social meet was so awful. They just kept having 'private chats', whispering and giggling with each other, looking me up and down and I felt extremely excluded and I decided if they made me feel that uncomfortable over coffee, I really wouldn't want to share a bed with them. However, I did learn from that experience, my partner and I are interested in exploring with lady (I would very much like to pop my bi cherry), and I feel my 'social' with that couple has given me an insight into how to make the lady feel.. it has to be a mutually pleasing experience for all, not a selfish 'couples' fantasy.. she needs to feel special, spoiled, included and desired! So I know, we will both endeavour to make any lady we meet feel that way, as well as fulfilling our own fantasies too.. xx |
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"I don't play with couples any more. It's really difficult to find one that can make it through initial conversations without implying you're a free hooker there to please them. Or some kind of birthday gift or surprise.
Then you get through the initial conversation and are presented with a list of rules that pretty much limit everything other than you provided oral sex for both of them, but not to expect it in return.
People say that some single guys have a bad attitude or expectation on here... I find some couples much worse.
Perhaps it's the 'sub' part of my username and they assume that 'sub' means that I'm up for being ordered about and used for their pleasure.
Obviously I'm not saying this is always the situation but there are some couples ruining it for others. I know a lot of my single bi friends feel exactly the same way about playing with couples. "
Heard this argument a few times and it's true that single females attract couples that have loads of rules, jealousy issues, selfish intentions and are generally not much fun, the clues are always there in the profile, the obvious is "couple looking for female only" lol
So just avoid those couples, never get the argument "oh I avoid couples because of this & that" don't tar everyone with the same brush eh! after all no one tats all single guys as selfish idiots even though some are xx |
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"It's a confidence thing too OP. I look at your pics and clearly you've got an amazing body. Almost intimidating to those of us who maybe have body issues.
I'm pretty confident in my own skin, but I had the "there's no way they'd find me attractive" thought go through my head instantly.
We find you extremely attractive and certainly not out of reach geographically!! "
I second that Mr C xx |
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"I don't play with couples any more. It's really difficult to find one that can make it through initial conversations without implying you're a free hooker there to please them. Or some kind of birthday gift or surprise.
Then you get through the initial conversation and are presented with a list of rules that pretty much limit everything other than you provided oral sex for both of them, but not to expect it in return.
People say that some single guys have a bad attitude or expectation on here... I find some couples much worse.
Perhaps it's the 'sub' part of my username and they assume that 'sub' means that I'm up for being ordered about and used for their pleasure.
Obviously I'm not saying this is always the situation but there are some couples ruining it for others. I know a lot of my single bi friends feel exactly the same way about playing with couples.
Heard this argument a few times and it's true that single females attract couples that have loads of rules, jealousy issues, selfish intentions and are generally not much fun, the clues are always there in the profile, the obvious is "couple looking for female only" lol
So just avoid those couples, never get the argument "oh I avoid couples because of this & that" don't tar everyone with the same brush eh! after all no one tats all single guys as selfish idiots even though some are xx"
OR.... I just want to have sex with a woman and my man at the same time, and I don't want to have any other man apart from mine?
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"I met with a very sexy, intelligent 'couple' for a social, we had built up what I thought was a fairly good rapport via messages, but, sadly the social meet was so awful. They just kept having 'private chats', whispering and giggling with each other, looking me up and down and I felt extremely excluded and I decided if they made me feel that uncomfortable over coffee, I really wouldn't want to share a bed with them. However, I did learn from that experience, my partner and I are interested in exploring with lady (I would very much like to pop my bi cherry), and I feel my 'social' with that couple has given me an insight into how to make the lady feel.. it has to be a mutually pleasing experience for all, not a selfish 'couples' fantasy.. she needs to feel special, spoiled, included and desired! So I know, we will both endeavour to make any lady we meet feel that way, as well as fulfilling our own fantasies too.. xx"
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"I don't play with couples any more. It's really difficult to find one that can make it through initial conversations without implying you're a free hooker there to please them. Or some kind of birthday gift or surprise.
Then you get through the initial conversation and are presented with a list of rules that pretty much limit everything other than you provided oral sex for both of them, but not to expect it in return.
People say that some single guys have a bad attitude or expectation on here... I find some couples much worse.
Perhaps it's the 'sub' part of my username and they assume that 'sub' means that I'm up for being ordered about and used for their pleasure.
Obviously I'm not saying this is always the situation but there are some couples ruining it for others. I know a lot of my single bi friends feel exactly the same way about playing with couples. "
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"I don't play with couples any more. It's really difficult to find one that can make it through initial conversations without implying you're a free hooker there to please them. Or some kind of birthday gift or surprise.
Then you get through the initial conversation and are presented with a list of rules that pretty much limit everything other than you provided oral sex for both of them, but not to expect it in return.
People say that some single guys have a bad attitude or expectation on here... I find some couples much worse.
Perhaps it's the 'sub' part of my username and they assume that 'sub' means that I'm up for being ordered about and used for their pleasure.
Obviously I'm not saying this is always the situation but there are some couples ruining it for others. I know a lot of my single bi friends feel exactly the same way about playing with couples.
Heard this argument a few times and it's true that single females attract couples that have loads of rules, jealousy issues, selfish intentions and are generally not much fun, the clues are always there in the profile, the obvious is "couple looking for female only" lol
So just avoid those couples, never get the argument "oh I avoid couples because of this & that" don't tar everyone with the same brush eh! after all no one tats all single guys as selfish idiots even though some are xx"
We only meet single ladies and we only have one rule....make sure you wash first! Then it's pretty much do unto us as you would have us do unto you......or BUNDLE!!!!!  |
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"Are we wasting time looking for a FFM on here?
Hard to engage with single girls; they're obviously deluged
Hard to get girls in couples to play on their own
When we get close, we suffer serious timewasting, and messing about
We are an attractive couple and I didn't think it would be so hard to find a girl to have sex with.... on a sex site!
Cx"
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"Are we wasting time looking for a FFM on here?
Hard to engage with single girls; they're obviously deluged
Hard to get girls in couples to play on their own
When we get close, we suffer serious timewasting, and messing about
It does happen.We've had 3 FFM with different ladies And all 3 times were sooooo sexy. Don't give up its definitely worth the wait
We are an attractive couple and I didn't think it would be so hard to find a girl to have sex with.... on a sex site!
Cx"
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