That's an interesting question! It kind of asks if some things are best kept as fantasy? Some suggest that when one has to be careful what one wishes for as once you have it /done it...it's too late? Perhaps this this is more relevant for couples wishing to explore the swinging scene for the first time? I have only questions. No answers! Though I will consider your question OP. |
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There are many aspects of BDSM we're fascinated by but we're not sure how far we'd go.
I often fantasise about my wife in a gangbang scenario, but it's not something I'd be sure putting into reality. |
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"There are many aspects of BDSM we're fascinated by but we're not sure how far we'd go.
I often fantasise about my wife in a gangbang scenario, but it's not something I'd be sure putting into reality. "
It's tricky right? Because once you have gone there, you can't undo it! I know that I am not a true swinger in that sense that if I were in a relationship I know I would struggle to see my partner with other women. It's also one of the reasons I don't play with couples because I would feel awkward, even though his partner /wife is consensual. I can't get past it psychologically. |
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"There are many aspects of BDSM we're fascinated by but we're not sure how far we'd go.
I often fantasise about my wife in a gangbang scenario, but it's not something I'd be sure putting into reality.
It's tricky right? Because once you have gone there, you can't undo it! I know that I am not a true swinger in that sense that if I were in a relationship I know I would struggle to see my partner with other women. It's also one of the reasons I don't play with couples because I would feel awkward, even though his partner /wife is consensual. I can't get past it psychologically. "
Well it's good to be self aware at least.
We have pushed boundaries. We've communicated a lot and we're very deliberate about how we take things. But at other times we've jumped in feet first, our first MMF was completely spur of the moment. |
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We like the surface edges of bdsm but seeing a 3 strand 4 ft barbed wire whip get bought out at an event made us realise it can be way too extreme for us.  |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Bareback gangbang or noncon play. Not because the latter is too disturbing in real life, more that I can't take roleplaying setiously so I keep sniggering through what should be the tense bits. I'm a hammy actor! |
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Extreme fun can emerge from experience, so whilst it may seem extreme and you enjoy watching it... In time and you experiment and build confidence then the extreme may become a reality.
Often extreme activities that are watched are often undertaken by very experienced people who's 1st bit of advice will probably be take it slow and build up to whatever extreme action you'd like to experience .
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Bareback gangbang or noncon play. Not because the latter is too disturbing in real life, more that I can't take roleplaying setiously so I keep sniggering through what should be the tense bits. I'm a hammy actor!"
Off topic but I must just say this your a dead ringer for the actress Katee Sackhoff  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"No, if i want to do something i just do it"
This is me as long as its under terms i find acceptable and I'm inspired I will play in what ever way the mood takes me .  
It just so happens all my moods are dominate which means the limits of the object of my lust will be explored to the fullest |
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"Extreme fun can emerge from experience, so whilst it may seem extreme and you enjoy watching it... In time and you experiment and build confidence then the extreme may become a reality.
Often extreme activities that are watched are often undertaken by very experienced people who's 1st bit of advice will probably be take it slow and build up to whatever extreme action you'd like to experience .
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That sounds like good advice. We're making inroads to meeting people who can take us in that direction, we've already had something on our bucket list ticked of with the help of a Domme. |
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"Bareback gangbang or noncon play. Not because the latter is too disturbing in real life, more that I can't take roleplaying setiously so I keep sniggering through what should be the tense bits. I'm a hammy actor!"
I'm with you on the noncon thing,not because of the sniggering,but because i cant act to safe myself.
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We've read about Cuckhold scenarios and some of them have turned us on but I can't see us ever having the bottle to try it out.
Also Bukake play looks so cool but again it will probably stay in the fantasy locker |
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