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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it just me.....if a man can't accommodate he's immediately deemed to be 'cheating' but if a woman can't it's 'for other reasons' and therefore fine? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before joining here, I always assumed that the woman would rather accom anyway, so she is in the safety of her own home/familiar surroundings, as opposed to going to a strangers house. Evidently not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me.....if a man can't accommodate he's immediately deemed to be 'cheating' but if a woman can't it's 'for other reasons' and therefore fine? "
I dont accomodate and never expect the guy to. I much prefer we split the cost of hotel room.
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"Is it just me.....if a man can't accommodate he's immediately deemed to be 'cheating' but if a woman can't it's 'for other reasons' and therefore fine? "
Its not that at all but then again women often have children to look after and don't want strangers in the house and far less men are left with the kids. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes, yeah.
People assume a woman has kids if she can't accom but many men have kids too."
Not many men have full time custody though. So yes whilst it seems unfair, are there that many genuine reasons why men can't accommodate?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes, yeah.
People assume a woman has kids if she can't accom but many men have kids too.
Not many men have full time custody though. So yes whilst it seems unfair, are there that many genuine reasons why men can't accommodate?
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Most people share custody. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Before joining here, I always assumed that the woman would rather accom anyway, so she is in the safety of her own home/familiar surroundings, as opposed to going to a strangers house. Evidently not. "
Good in theory, but you never know who you're meeting on here.... And they then have your address  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we'd never accommodate, any meets are hotel room, unless the other party is happy to host then we'd think about it.
but this would only apply if we played outside our regular party group.
Horses for courses we guess.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For me I live where I work so would rather keep the two sides of my life separate and I regularly have my children stay with me hence why I can't accommodate. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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" I would ask them what is the reason they can't accommodate. I know people who flatshare, live with parents, live with family etc it's not always that they are cheating."
I live with parents so I can't accommodate - though I am often in Manchester so people are always welcome to come to hotel room   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never judge a guy who cant accommodate and if he says he lives at home or with mates then i believe him. However I think coupled with no veris and no photos then perhaps we do sometimes assume they are married.. rightly or wrongly. |
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"I never judge a guy who cant accommodate and if he says he lives at home or with mates then i believe him. However I think coupled with no veris and no photos then perhaps we do sometimes assume they are married.. rightly or wrongly. "
Fantastic username.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we'd never accommodate, any meets are hotel room, unless the other party is happy to host then we'd think about it.
but this would only apply if we played outside our regular party group.
Horses for courses we guess.
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This totally |
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I find hotels to be a neutral setting. I'd imagine the same for clubs and parties.
If it works out and you meet again, it can be at personal lodgings. If it doesn't then both can go back to their respective sanctuaries.  |
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