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I've never had an orgasm from penetrative sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're get plenty of guys claim they will now 
I was hoping for more tips from women. Many men have tried. All have failed  "
You know you're body. Men don't  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never, ever
Ever ever ever.
Ever. "
I have
Sorry, I know that doesn't help you. I've heard many women don't cum through penetration though, so if it's any consolation, you're not alone?
As long as you're getting some form of orgasm I guess that's the main thing?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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_rincess peach. If that works for you then Hey nothing else matters. I don't always cum when I have penetrative sex even though it goes on for ages. I still enjoy it. The trick is going with the flow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with using a bullet on your clit while fucking. It does help. I never used to cum from penetrative sex but lately that's changed. Which in turn has helped me relax more about it. Hence more orgasms. I find being on top also helps |
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"I agree with using a bullet on your clit while fucking. It does help. I never used to cum from penetrative sex but lately that's changed. Which in turn has helped me relax more about it. Hence more orgasms. I find being on top also helps "
That relaxing thing....
That's part of my problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The best orgasm I've had during penetrative sex was the guy's cock hitting my g-spot and a vibe on my clit.
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I was going to suggest something similar... like a We-Vibe.
There is a school of thought that suggests that the g-spot can be trained or "awoken".
Personally I've found that the orgasm starts in the mind. Perhaps you just need to find that special guy who makes you feel so good by the end of the evening that he'll make you cum from a kiss. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree with using a bullet on your clit while fucking. It does help. I never used to cum from penetrative sex but lately that's changed. Which in turn has helped me relax more about it. Hence more orgasms. I find being on top also helps
That relaxing thing....
That's part of my problem. "
What bothered me was guys pointing out I didn't cum and focusing on it too much. Caused a lot of pressure for me which doesn't help at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try going on top and grinding your clit against him while he's inside you xx"
Also try putting a pillow under your bum. It might just be an angle thing. If you're on top riding him put the pillow under his bum to raise his pelvis. |
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"I agree with using a bullet on your clit while fucking. It does help. I never used to cum from penetrative sex but lately that's changed. Which in turn has helped me relax more about it. Hence more orgasms. I find being on top also helps
That relaxing thing....
That's part of my problem.
What bothered me was guys pointing out I didn't cum and focusing on it too much. Caused a lot of pressure for me which doesn't help at all "
I'm with you there. I tell the guys not to expect it or feel bad if it doesn't happen. They see it as a personal challenge then, and think they're gonna be the cure. I am guilty of faking because I've not wanted to burst their bubble 
I know it's in my head, but at the same time I can cum if there's a toy involved so it can't all be in my head right?
I also wonder if I've over stimulated with toys and lost sensitivity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree with using a bullet on your clit while fucking. It does help. I never used to cum from penetrative sex but lately that's changed. Which in turn has helped me relax more about it. Hence more orgasms. I find being on top also helps
That relaxing thing....
That's part of my problem.
What bothered me was guys pointing out I didn't cum and focusing on it too much. Caused a lot of pressure for me which doesn't help at all
I'm with you there. I tell the guys not to expect it or feel bad if it doesn't happen. They see it as a personal challenge then, and think they're gonna be the cure. I am guilty of faking because I've not wanted to burst their bubble
I know it's in my head, but at the same time I can cum if there's a toy involved so it can't all be in my head right?
I also wonder if I've over stimulated with toys and lost sensitivity."
Yeah I know what you mean. It's like a mental block then all focused on the cumming rather than just going with the flow. I had an orgasm recently from penetrative sex. No toys or anything. I was on top and just had the angle right and he let me control it. So now I know it's possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree with using a bullet on your clit while fucking. It does help. I never used to cum from penetrative sex but lately that's changed. Which in turn has helped me relax more about it. Hence more orgasms. I find being on top also helps
That relaxing thing....
That's part of my problem.
What bothered me was guys pointing out I didn't cum and focusing on it too much. Caused a lot of pressure for me which doesn't help at all "
your lucky most guys don't know the difference oops but relaxing lots of other stimulating ways to make a lady happy and the added fun of finding them works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree with using a bullet on your clit while fucking. It does help. I never used to cum from penetrative sex but lately that's changed. Which in turn has helped me relax more about it. Hence more orgasms. I find being on top also helps
That relaxing thing....
That's part of my problem.
What bothered me was guys pointing out I didn't cum and focusing on it too much. Caused a lot of pressure for me which doesn't help at all "
That's why I only concentrate on my orgasm
Joke! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I heard recently that its to do with how near to the entrance of the vagina your clit is and how big your clit is.
Totally believe this. Mines diddy and high up. "
Yep me too
There IS a position that takes a bit of getting into and the guy does need a longer penis but you enter the lady in the flattish missionary and then, keeping inside. SLOWLY the lady closes her legs so she's under him, he needs to 'ride high' and with practice that means he can run against the clitoris at the same time . I've tried it with a lovely fella and it worked ! |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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Go for positions like cowgirl or other positions where your clit gets a good amount of friction and where you have the control over the motion and avoid positions like doggy where the body contact is minimal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have but not with everyone... just have to find the position that hits the spot. I found I was only able to do it after playing with myself and finding what worked for me. |
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"I heard recently that its to do with how near to the entrance of the vagina your clit is and how big your clit is.
Totally believe this. Mines diddy and high up.
Yep me too
There IS a position that takes a bit of getting into and the guy does need a longer penis but you enter the lady in the flattish missionary and then, keeping inside. SLOWLY the lady closes her legs so she's under him, he needs to 'ride high' and with practice that means he can run against the clitoris at the same time . I've tried it with a lovely fella and it worked !"
I used to have a fwb who liked me to fuck her in missionary with her legs closed. She always seemed to get off, while I did nothing particularly different or special, so win-win! I can vouch for it! |
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I have had partners who were the same.
But with one lovely lady we found that with her on top and me raising my hips (either with a pillow/ cushion or by me lifting my ass off the bed) we found that we could get th angle to stimulate the clit.
It does help with some foreplay beforehand, but we had fun experimenting different positons until we found the right one.
Don't put any pressure on yourself and find the right position for you and have fun doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It is 90% mental I once knew a woman who when she was married hardly ever came.
When she split up she just got this massive attitude change maybe it was confidence maybe it was that she could relax. She used to call it being in the zone, but once she was there she could cum very easily, and over and over |
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"I heard recently that its to do with how near to the entrance of the vagina your clit is and how big your clit is.
Totally believe this. Mines diddy and high up. "
Yes you need a longer penis as you probably have a deeper g spot.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can cum through penetrative sex and its much more intense and lasts longer than a clitoral orgasm but it is only achievable when I'm sitting on top, having a patient partner and lots of foreplay. If a guy is in a hurry it won't work! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm lucky in that I orgasm easily, and always have multiple orgasms, incl penetrative only orgasms.
However sex with me is very much in my mind. I get totally in the zone and anything can happen. But if my mind isn't triggered into action then my body won't react at its best.
You need to learn what works for you, and then show/tell your man. Dont put pressure on yourself either to cum. Just relax and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have cervical stimulation orgasms. No idea why, but I feel the sensation high up inside and it travels throughout my lower abdomen. It doesn't come from my clitoris. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's all about a mental connection and your body and a connection with somebody else and feeling comfortable with them "
I agree with this......I can come quite easily with someone I've got to know and can relax with...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a man's perspective, i haven't had penetrative sex for many years. On the rare ooccasions I'm with a woman, I'm finding mutual masturbation much hornier, that is, if she's ok with that.
The other thing is, being nearly 60 and getting on a bit, my erections sometimes let me down and self stimulation in front of a woman who's doing the same, can be very erotic.
so OP, I hope your having orgasms of some sort?! Xx |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I have had but only when there's been clitoral stimulation as well (sometimes just through penetration when the angle's just right for pubs contact; easier to do when I'm on top). I have had an anal orgasm through penetration though. That was a bit of a surprise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do orgasm from penetrative sex, normally only after an orgasm from clitoral stimulation. The best, position for me is me on top, with us both sat up and my legs around his back. Gentle rocking gets me almost there, then I lean back.  amazing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I usually need clit stimulation of some kind. However With my partner it's different he can make me cum without clit stimulation but it's more to do with other things he's doing at the same time, and he makes me focus on him and I can usually cum when he tells me to then, but obviously he's not just randomly telling me to cum he can feel the difference with the way my vaginal muscles are squeezing him so he knows when to ask me to cum which then generally triggers a amazing orgasm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I heard recently that its to do with how near to the entrance of the vagina your clit is and how big your clit is.
Totally believe this. Mines diddy and high up.
Yep me too
There IS a position that takes a bit of getting into and the guy does need a longer penis but you enter the lady in the flattish missionary and then, keeping inside. SLOWLY the lady closes her legs so she's under him, he needs to 'ride high' and with practice that means he can run against the clitoris at the same time . I've tried it with a lovely fella and it worked !"
That but from behind works well for me and a longer penis is optional |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm exactly the same. Can only cum during penetration if I have direct clitoral stimulation at the same time!
Find that to be much quicker/easier if I'm comfortable with someone too though. More relaxed I guess.
I often take a toy to a meet or play with my clit while being fucked does the trick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's more of a mental thing for women.
Feeling totally comfortable with a partner.
I had a girlfriend I couldn't make cum. Never had any trouble before..... or since.
She seemed to enjoy my tongue ??
But I don't think it was ever going to be enough. |
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