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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How important are face pictures? I get lots of messages from men saying they would love to meet me, yet they've no idea what my face looks like. I joke to them that I could look like Shrek for all they know.
Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
What's anyone else's thoughts on this? |
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"Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
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It would seem so 
It's a big turn off for me, even if, and this is rare, the profile of said messenger is a good one. Desperation just isn't attractive at all. Added to which, if they don't care what you look like it makes me feel very objectified ... |
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over a year ago
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If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I've been chatting to a guy for a while, seen his face pic and quite fancy meeting up with him. He hasn't once asked for mine which I find a bit odd!!! Usually if they send me a pic I'll send mine but this time I wanted to see whether he would ask... |
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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago
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We never ask for or send face pictures and our profile states this.... but then we only do couple + couple meetings with people we have met before at parties.
The problem with pictures are that some of the best people we have met are the ones whose pictures may not have prompted us to travel long distance for.. and some of the visually most attractive people have not been as much fun...
So going on pictures alone can be very misleading..
In the early days when we would send out pictures a couple sent us theirs and visually they looked just like us and anyone giving a verbal discription of them but looking at our picture would genuinely think they were talking about us. When they received our picture in the very same pose the reply came back. Sorry you are not for us... explain that lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been chatting to a guy for a while, seen his face pic and quite fancy meeting up with him. He hasn't once asked for mine which I find a bit odd!!! Usually if they send me a pic I'll send mine but this time I wanted to see whether he would ask..."
I'd happily swap face pics with you if we lived closer and had the chance of meeting.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting. "
That's so shallow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow."
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We never ask for or send face pictures and our profile states this.... but then we only do couple + couple meetings with people we have met before at parties.
The problem with pictures are that some of the best people we have met are the ones whose pictures may not have prompted us to travel long distance for.. and some of the visually most attractive people have not been as much fun...
So going on pictures alone can be very misleading..
In the early days when we would send out pictures a couple sent us theirs and visually they looked just like us and anyone giving a verbal discription of them but looking at our picture would genuinely think they were talking about us. When they received our picture in the very same pose the reply came back. Sorry you are not for us... explain that lol "
Personally though, I have to find someone physically attractive to take things further.
I've often told people that they aren't for me. If there is no physical attraction then my mind isn't stimulated. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually. "
How? You're saying that you don't care what people look like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How important are face pictures? I get lots of messages from men saying they would love to meet me, yet they've no idea what my face looks like. I joke to them that I could look like Shrek for all they know.
Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
What's anyone else's thoughts on this?"
I've met people without seeing a face pic first, just because I meet them for a drink doesn't mean I'm obligated to fuck them does it?
If it works out that we both are attracted, great. If I'm not attracted to her, we can still have a laugh and a joke and tell our life stories of fab or pof etc.
But to get to the meet stage with me, I'd already have to like your personality  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually.
How? You're saying that you don't care what people look like. "
Exactly.
I hate to break it to you, but 'shallow' would be someone who says they do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How important are face pictures? I get lots of messages from men saying they would love to meet me, yet they've no idea what my face looks like. I joke to them that I could look like Shrek for all they know.
Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
What's anyone else's thoughts on this?"
I would say yes, desperate and shallow, some are not all, it amazes me on here how much attention a shadow can get with not one picture from what I've been told, sometimes it's worse than blind date!  .. me personally I need to see a face, has to be an attraction, yes I get it's a sex site but still has to be a mutual attraction |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How important are face pictures? I get lots of messages from men saying they would love to meet me, yet they've no idea what my face looks like. I joke to them that I could look like Shrek for all they know.
Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
What's anyone else's thoughts on this?
I've met people without seeing a face pic first, just because I meet them for a drink doesn't mean I'm obligated to fuck them does it?
If it works out that we both are attracted, great. If I'm not attracted to her, we can still have a laugh and a joke and tell our life stories of fab or pof etc.
But to get to the meet stage with me, I'd already have to like your personality "
Yes I'm in agreement that I have to like their personality, first and foremost.
How do you know who to look out for then if you haven't seen a face picture ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How important are face pictures? I get lots of messages from men saying they would love to meet me, yet they've no idea what my face looks like. I joke to them that I could look like Shrek for all they know.
Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
What's anyone else's thoughts on this?
I would say yes, desperate and shallow, some are not all, it amazes me on here how much attention a shadow can get with not one picture from what I've been told, sometimes it's worse than blind date! .. me personally I need to see a face, has to be an attraction, yes I get it's a sex site but still has to be a mutual attraction "
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Isn't shallow and desperate, two totally different things?
Shallow, is usually judging people by their looks etc. Only wanting to meet a certain type.
Desperate, that implies, meeting anyone regardless of what they look like. |
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By *r.ringMan
over a year ago
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"I've been chatting to a guy for a while, seen his face pic and quite fancy meeting up with him. He hasn't once asked for mine which I find a bit odd!!! Usually if they send me a pic I'll send mine but this time I wanted to see whether he would ask..."
I think as you show half your face in your pics there is a clear indication that you are very attractive and not ten years older than you say you are. I've been caught out in the past with old pics and women saying they are younger than they are. So after a first chat I ask for a face pic. Not to see them so much but to judge if there profile age is truthful. It is only what most women do in return to us men.
As someone else has said. You send a pic and the reply comes back sorry I don't find you attractive. Is that not the same??? |
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually. "
That's what I was thinking! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually.
That's what I was thinking!"
He is saying he would have sex with a woman, regardless of whether he found her attractive. Thats shallow.
To me, I want a man to be with me because he finds me attractive, not just because I'd open my legs for him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Isn't shallow and desperate, two totally different things?
Shallow, is usually judging people by their looks etc. Only wanting to meet a certain type.
Desperate, that implies, meeting anyone regardless of what they look like."
I understand what you're saying. But having sex with someone that you don't find attractive, is a huge no in my book. It's shallow and desperate all rolled into one x |
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually.
That's what I was thinking!
He is saying he would have sex with a woman, regardless of whether he found her attractive. Thats shallow.
To me, I want a man to be with me because he finds me attractive, not just because I'd open my legs for him."
Shallow people judge other's on their look's,he's the opposite! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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How do you know who to look out for then if you haven't seen a face picture ?
Er, because they know what I look like and will introduce themselves  "
Ah so they see you but you don't see them. Each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually.
That's what I was thinking!
He is saying he would have sex with a woman, regardless of whether he found her attractive. Thats shallow.
To me, I want a man to be with me because he finds me attractive, not just because I'd open my legs for him.
Shallow people judge other's on their look's,he's the opposite!"
Desperate ebough to shag someone who doesn't find attractive though. Nice. Personally I couldn't lower my standards to do that
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its always funny but we are happy to send a face pic after few messages
The other day we got chatting to couple nd happily let them see face pics they lived at other end of country so was just chat
Askedfora peek in return got told they only let ptential meets see face pics ..i replied with you wont mind if i dont let you see ours again then
The response ok bye and they blocked us!
Can only assume they are butt ugly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How do you know who to look out for then if you haven't seen a face picture ?
Er, because they know what I look like and will introduce themselves
Ah so they see you but you don't see them. Each to their own "
Obviously I will see them when they introduce themselves. Funnily enough no one's turned up in a burkha yet so it's fine, and like I said, I'm not obliged to fuck them if I'm not attracted to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually.
That's what I was thinking!
He is saying he would have sex with a woman, regardless of whether he found her attractive. Thats shallow.
To me, I want a man to be with me because he finds me attractive, not just because I'd open my legs for him.
Shallow people judge other's on their look's,he's the opposite!
Desperate ebough to shag someone who doesn't find attractive though. Nice. Personally I couldn't lower my standards to do that
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Men and women are just different imo. Sex is a bit less personal for the average man. |
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How true is that? As a man myself I'm ashamed to say it is true of alot of guys, but not all. What's wrong with treating people with respect? Sex is a very intimate thing, and once you get to know the person, the better it is. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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How do you know who to look out for then if you haven't seen a face picture ?
Er, because they know what I look like and will introduce themselves
Ah so they see you but you don't see them. Each to their own
Obviously I will see them when they introduce themselves. Funnily enough no one's turned up in a burkha yet so it's fine, and like I said, I'm not obliged to fuck them if I'm not attracted to them. "
Very true. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.
I would've thought it was the opposite of shallow, actually.
That's what I was thinking!
He is saying he would have sex with a woman, regardless of whether he found her attractive. Thats shallow.
To me, I want a man to be with me because he finds me attractive, not just because I'd open my legs for him.
Shallow people judge other's on their look's,he's the opposite!
Desperate ebough to shag someone who doesn't find attractive though. Nice. Personally I couldn't lower my standards to do that
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Men and women are just different imo. Sex is a bit less personal for the average man."
Yes, men and women think so differently, but that is what makes things interesting |
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow."
why is that shallow?. surely only meeting someone if they have a nice face is more shallow.its not all about a pretty face u know,some may be more attracted to a nice body that comes with some easy going banter and personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can say, of the three who I did meet with out pictures, one being a couple, who are actually now my best friends.
The other two were quite stunning, when I asked why they didn't offer or mention their face picture, both replied with "Shallow, and personality" comments, one who was extremely confident as she had every right to be claimed she loved seeing guys faces when they realise it's her they're meeting  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.why is that shallow?. surely only meeting someone if they have a nice face is more shallow.its not all about a pretty face u know,some may be more attracted to a nice body that comes with some easy going banter and personality."
I would hate to think someone has sex with me who wasn't attracted to me.
For me it's about the whole package, personality matters first, but I have to fancy them physically too. I'm honest about it and will only meet those who I find attractive as a whole. If you think that's shallow, then that your perogative to think that |
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"We never ask for or send face pictures and our profile states this.... but then we only do couple + couple meetings with people we have met before at parties.
The problem with pictures are that some of the best people we have met are the ones whose pictures may not have prompted us to travel long distance for.. and some of the visually most attractive people have not been as much fun...
So going on pictures alone can be very misleading..
In the early days when we would send out pictures a couple sent us theirs and visually they looked just like us and anyone giving a verbal discription of them but looking at our picture would genuinely think they were talking about us. When they received our picture in the very same pose the reply came back. Sorry you are not for us... explain that lol
Personally though, I have to find someone physically attractive to take things further.
I've often told people that they aren't for me. If there is no physical attraction then my mind isn't stimulated."
hey I totally agree with you |
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"How important are face pictures? I get lots of messages from men saying they would love to meet me, yet they've no idea what my face looks like. I joke to them that I could look like Shrek for all they know.
Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
What's anyone else's thoughts on this?"
You don't look like Shrek! Because that' means you'd look like me!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How important are face pictures? I get lots of messages from men saying they would love to meet me, yet they've no idea what my face looks like. I joke to them that I could look like Shrek for all they know.
Are men really that shallow and desperate that they would meet anyone, regardless of whether they found a woman physically attractive?
What's anyone else's thoughts on this?
You don't look like Shrek! Because that' means you'd look like me!! "
Haha that's better. Someone keeping this thread light hearted |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can say, of the three who I did meet with out pictures, one being a couple, who are actually now my best friends.
The other two were quite stunning, when I asked why they didn't offer or mention their face picture, both replied with "Shallow, and personality" comments, one who was extremely confident as she had every right to be claimed she loved seeing guys faces when they realise it's her they're meeting "
Good for her. I'm not that confident about my looks and would hate to be told that they didn't find me attractive in public . |
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"If the pictures are very hot, I don't necessarily need to find the face attractive for casual sex. I'd need to see a race pic eventually anyway though so I could recognise them when meeting.
That's so shallow.why is that shallow?. surely only meeting someone if they have a nice face is more shallow.its not all about a pretty face u know,some may be more attracted to a nice body that comes with some easy going banter and personality."
I don't just meet someone for looks. I'm not that shallow, but for me, looks are part of the whole package. If that's too much for people to understand then so be it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That's so shallow.why is that shallow?. surely only meeting someone if they have a nice face is more shallow.its not all about a pretty face u know,some may be more attracted to a nice body that comes with some easy going banter and personality.
I don't just meet someone for looks. I'm not that shallow, but for me, looks are part of the whole package. If that's too much for people to understand then so be it."
I think everyone understands. It was your incorrect use of the word 'shallow' that was causing confusion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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That's so shallow.why is that shallow?. surely only meeting someone if they have a nice face is more shallow.its not all about a pretty face u know,some may be more attracted to a nice body that comes with some easy going banter and personality.
I don't just meet someone for looks. I'm not that shallow, but for me, looks are part of the whole package. If that's too much for people to understand then so be it.
I think everyone understands. It was your incorrect use of the word 'shallow' that was causing confusion. "
We shall agree to disagree. Forums are meant to be fun after all |
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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago
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"Isn't shallow and desperate, two totally different things?
Shallow, is usually judging people by their looks etc. Only wanting to meet a certain type.
Desperate, that implies, meeting anyone regardless of what they look like.
I understand what you're saying. But having sex with someone that you don't find attractive, is a huge no in my book. It's shallow and desperate all rolled into one x "
To me he came across as shallow as I took it as he was saying if they have a hot body he don't give a fuk what the face looks like. Would he meet if they weren't slim/athletic size 10 but had a pretty face ? If no then yes he is shallow imo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Isn't shallow and desperate, two totally different things?
Shallow, is usually judging people by their looks etc. Only wanting to meet a certain type.
Desperate, that implies, meeting anyone regardless of what they look like.
I understand what you're saying. But having sex with someone that you don't find attractive, is a huge no in my book. It's shallow and desperate all rolled into one x
To me he came across as shallow as I took it as he was saying if they have a hot body he don't give a fuk what the face looks like. Would he meet if they weren't slim/athletic size 10 but had a pretty face ? If no then yes he is shallow imo "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've often told people that they aren't for me. If there is no physical attraction then my mind isn't stimulated.and there is a certain criteria too be met . |
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That's so shallow.why is that shallow?. surely only meeting someone if they have a nice face is more shallow.its not all about a pretty face u know,some may be more attracted to a nice body that comes with some easy going banter and personality.
I don't just meet someone for looks. I'm not that shallow, but for me, looks are part of the whole package. If that's too much for people to understand then so be it.
I think everyone understands. It was your incorrect use of the word 'shallow' that was causing confusion. "
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"Isn't shallow and desperate, two totally different things?
Shallow, is usually judging people by their looks etc. Only wanting to meet a certain type.
Desperate, that implies, meeting anyone regardless of what they look like.
I understand what you're saying. But having sex with someone that you don't find attractive, is a huge no in my book. It's shallow and desperate all rolled into one x
To me he came across as shallow as I took it as he was saying if they have a hot body he don't give a fuk what the face looks like. Would he meet if they weren't slim/athletic size 10 but had a pretty face ? If no then yes he is shallow imo "
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