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By *otgirl32 OP Woman
over a year ago
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I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly. |
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always did love the pre cuddle or spooning with the lady, it always led to other things 
but I wasnt the only one that was naughty either as some ladys do love wiggerling there hips whilst your spooning up to them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a quite beautiful cuddle on Saturday night; with a quite wonderful person... I think we (well at least I) was a bit too sleepy for anything vigorous but it was quite wonderful to hold a beautiful woman in my arms as she sat cross-legged in my lap..... funny old world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
nothing wrong with that, I do it all time. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle."
Me neither, I find it quite cold if a guy just jumps up and disappears into the bathroom. |
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Cuddles rock anytime anyplace but especially after or before intimacy, I'm the best cuddler apparently and if you are ever cold I'm ya man. Can't guarantee the warmin up process would be nudge in bum free lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like cuddles from anyone I'm not really close with. I don't mind a hug but cuddles with strangers, acquaintances, friends and even the majority of my family. No thanks
I like keeping cuddles for the people I love and really care about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not really a cuddler (Mrs) after sex with Mr. I do it for about a minute then move over lol
I will hold his hand and lie close but too hot for cuddles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We cuddle after sex but as a sub I expect that from mr SnT and he is more than happy to oblige. Aftercare is a very important part of our play. Not into cuddling with a stranger though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The good lady had her fair share of cuddles on our last meet ... she cuddled me while our ' friend ' had sex with her then cuddled him while i had sex with her then cuddled me then him then me then started all over again in the morning  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
This is not white knighting or any such nonsense I was raised by a single parent my mum so cuddles are in me. add into that fact that as a small boy I would climb into my mums bed in the middle of the night for cuddles plus that I crave true intimacy to feel sexually fulfilled and truly excited and you have a guy who can not do cold in any shape or form even when the sex is over .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle."
intimacy and sex are not the same thing. I want sex with meets not intimacy and that is the same if not more so when I was on as a single.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
Agreed, definitely love a post-match cuddle! Feels so intimate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cuddling is intimate but it also leads to more enjoyable sex. I (Mrs) however would instantly go to sleep after a little wriggle so as a meet defenitly don't think it Wld be appropriate incase we all had other places to go lol . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle. intimacy and sex are not the same thing. I want sex with meets not intimacy and that is the same if not more so when I was on as a single.
Cali x"
I love a cuddle but i dont view them as intimate
What makes something intimate, to me, is the feelings you have towards the person, if its just a meet off here then a cuddle is just that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
I think it's all part of the fun. Love a cuddle. Especially a snoozy one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think thats why my past fuck buddies have always ended up asking about stepping up and turning into a relationship, because I always cuddle after sex. It just feels right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
Why wouldn't anyone want to cuddle close after sex? The warmth and togetherness and oooohh those little neck nibbles. It's the warm recuperation before more fun mmmmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cuddles aren't normally my thing to be honest. I only have this with my most trusted chap. The last time I had an unsolicited cuddle was beautiful and broke my heart a little as he was moving to that London. Sometimes there's a little string that a cuddle exposes and I'm not a fan of finding the strings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love sharing a special cuddle with someone I care about. Even if it doesnt lead to sex, sharing that intimacy, can still give a warm, fuzzy feeling.
Of course, if the scenario is open to shenannigans, then cuddles before and after, is even better
Some fab forum comments, typically suggest 'cold and clinical', is the norm. I don't think I would (or could) have sex with someone in that way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would someone cuddle you after sex if they are not emotionally attached to you?
Cuddling is a very personal thing for a lot of people and it's often a sign of closeness which in this world that's not going to be the case unless it's a couple or people who've known each other awhile.
Cue the row of men who start Cuddling now to make a point when in reality they would be uncomfortable with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very touchy feely naturally, so a post coital cuddle is lovely. I don't do the fuck and run scenario. It doesn't do it for me at all. Anyone who wants to just leave straight after sex, with not even a bit of cuddling, can pass me by every time. I wouldn't want to meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree! I love cuddling after when ur both out of breath! And then cuddle up spoon and just have my cock there inbetween a juicy big ass!! Gives me a rocker again and its time for the next round! ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle. intimacy and sex are not the same thing. I want sex with meets not intimacy and that is the same if not more so when I was on as a single.
Cali x
I love a cuddle but i dont view them as intimate
What makes something intimate, to me, is the feelings you have towards the person, if its just a meet off here then a cuddle is just that"
 Ditto. It's just a physical act like any other. It's the person that makes it mean something or otherwise. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle. intimacy and sex are not the same thing. I want sex with meets not intimacy and that is the same if not more so when I was on as a single.
Cali x
I love a cuddle but i dont view them as intimate
What makes something intimate, to me, is the feelings you have towards the person, if its just a meet off here then a cuddle is just that
Ditto. It's just a physical act like any other. It's the person that makes it mean something or otherwise."
I agree with this but I must just add cuddling a woman makes me feel more manly in some strange way it appeals to my protectorate side and my masculinity therefore makes me feel like a man .which is very important to me as a male and as a sexual being especially in the sex meets world where one is often left feeling like a object by the actions of so many who in swim in its murky waters . |
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By *otgirl32 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle.
Me neither, I find it quite cold if a guy just jumps up and disappears into the bathroom. "
OHHHHH I hate that so much !  |
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"If I had to, I'd choose the cuddle over the sex.Real intimacy "
I love sex but it as to have intimacy too. I love kissing, caressing and cuddling. Especially if I'm skin2skin with someone before, during and after sex 
I perform better when it's passionate, without passion and desire, it may as well be my right hand, or see a prostitute 
Ive heard lots of guys cum turn over fart and go to sleep, I like to keep the fires stoked. It's normally good for me and good for my partner, till part 2, 3 and 4 etc  |
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle.
Me neither, I find it quite cold if a guy just jumps up and disappears into the bathroom.
OHHHHH I hate that so much ! "
Some men are real pandas, I much prefer exploring the mind and body before during and after and hopefully the next time, be it in an hour, in the morning or as a fwb, real pleasures comes from finding out what pushes each other's buttons and I don't care how good you think you are, it can get better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably wouldn't sleep with someone I wouldnt cuddle, unless it was at a club or something, then thats a bit different. I love the feeling of rolling over into an embrace in the morning, a hand on my hip, the other striking my hair, pulling me closer for a morning session... Best way to start the day |
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"I probably wouldn't sleep with someone I wouldnt cuddle, unless it was at a club or something, then thats a bit different. I love the feeling of rolling over into an embrace in the morning, a hand on my hip, the other striking my hair, pulling me closer for a morning session... Best way to start the day "
Oh my yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hated being cuddled as a child and even now it makes me feel smothered...it was only when I let buns cuddle me that I knew he was the one...with meets we have a cuppa and a laugh but no cuddles.
if I was meeting as a single woman I would be exactly the same... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm very touchy feely naturally, so a post coital cuddle is lovely. I don't do the fuck and run scenario. It doesn't do it for me at all. Anyone who wants to just leave straight after sex, with not even a bit of cuddling, can pass me by every time. I wouldn't want to meet them. "
Exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hated being cuddled as a child and even now it makes me feel smothered...it was only when I let buns cuddle me that I knew he was the one...with meets we have a cuppa and a laugh but no cuddles.
if I was meeting as a single woman I would be exactly the same..."
this sounds like me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
It depends how connected I feel with the guy as to whether I seek a cuddle. I'm guessing guys could be similar.
You'd think that sex was the ultimate connection with another human being, but the truth is, sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't. A cuddle can be more intimate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly.
It depends how connected I feel with the guy as to whether I seek a cuddle. I'm guessing guys could be similar.
You'd think that sex was the ultimate connection with another human being, but the truth is, sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't. A cuddle can be more intimate."
Totally agree I also find kissing is more intimate than sex at times |
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My first long term gf used to love me staying inside her after I'd cum. We'd cuddle with me still deep in her, gradually going down. She liked it even more if we fell asleep like that and once or twice we woke with me still in her. |
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
I like a post sex cuddle  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cuddling after one-on-one sex is very important to me. After such an intense experience, cuddling provides a lovely wind-down phase with the chance to continue connection, get a sense of a person, and creates a possibility of more sexy play... Perhaps even more intense! Spooning & cuddling are true joys!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very touchy feely naturally, so a post coital cuddle is lovely. I don't do the fuck and run scenario. It doesn't do it for me at all. Anyone who wants to just leave straight after sex, with not even a bit of cuddling, can pass me by every time. I wouldn't want to meet them. "
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By *imky69Woman
over a year ago
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Me and my master do sometimes have really hard rough kinky sex what ever you want to call it we really go for it but no matter if it's love making or hard we always cuddle afterwards it's a big must for me after I have got all that out of my system it's good to just cuddle afterwards X |
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"Cant beat a good cuddle after sex. Legs wrapped around each other and caressing"
And ladies, Wurzel is very good at this. I've got first hand experience. Give him a try, you won't be disappointed in any way |
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"I had a quite beautiful cuddle on Saturday night; with a quite wonderful person... I think we (well at least I) was a bit too sleepy for anything vigorous but it was quite wonderful to hold a beautiful woman in my arms as she sat cross-legged in my lap..... funny old world "
Aww sounds delightful hope she liked it too lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
It's one of my favourite parts |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Not a big fan of cuddling others after sex. I'll happily lay there naked and have a chat/giggle. If they're really lucky, I'll bring them tea and biscuits up to bed once I get got my breath back. |
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"Cant beat a good cuddle after sex. Legs wrapped around each other and caressing with a partner agreed.. with a meet.. I would utterly freak
Better with a partner.
Think most things are lol"
In a lot of ways they are. |
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"Cant beat a good cuddle after sex. Legs wrapped around each other and caressing with a partner agreed.. with a meet.. I would utterly freak
Better with a partner.
Think most things are lol
In a lot of ways they are."
Yeah I'd love to have an FWB that i can share things with, nothing heavy just enjoy doing things like going out etc plus having the benefit of some mind blowing naughtiness with each other. |
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Pre or even during sex I'm not interested in cuddles in the slightest
But afterwards, whether it's hormonal release or whatever I get the desire to hold and cuddle and have that closer intimate time - much prefer that to the having to get dressed and go quick alternative |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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I get all the the cuddles I need and want from my partner - for me swinging is just about the nsa sex not cuddles or emotional intimacy - I really wouldn't want someone I had just played with to cuddle me (though more sex would be fine!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with OP there are some guys who just do not really cuddle. Some women as well no doubt. I love cuddles and spooning after sex before sex and at any time to be honest. Mmmm |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
Empty sacks, clear mind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I generally have built up a connection with someone before I get intimate with them so cuddling feels a natural part of it...and let's face it, if you have done the job properly you need the time to help ground them again to avoid sub drop... |
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
Personally I love post sex cuddles and kissing, it completes it all for me and could lead to round 2 with a bit of luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love to cuddle with my man before and after sex just to lie there and hold each other ,i love spooning as well and have to admit im an ass wiggler lol my man gives the best cuddles always feel better after a cuddle off him |
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By *ad-GirlWoman
over a year ago
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
A lot of guys are looking for no strings and some see this as getting too close. Well thats what one guy I asked said on this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its called after care! Its really important i feel."
not if its just sex.. if aftercare is required .. then id expect it wasn't with a random person anyway...
believe it or not women can have sex without needing a guy to cuddle them after...
If its important that you want cuddles then meet others that want cuddles but even as a single id hate a guy to want to cuddle up.. once he had cum id be expecting him to go... but i dont meet 121 only in 2 or more anyway when ive met as a single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's just standard isn't it? Is with me, cuddles, tickles etc .. it's just nice and relaxing and most of the time leads to other things.. that's just me though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
Anybody who doesn't engage in this, in my opinion, isn't really into the individual but more into their own requirements....the post sex antics should be nearly as rewarding as the sex itself
Or am I just old fashioned  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly.
A lot of guys are looking for no strings and some see this as getting too close. Well thats what one guy I asked said on this. "
It can totally ruin an ego |
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By *otgirl32 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I get all the the cuddles I need and want from my partner - for me swinging is just about the nsa sex not cuddles or emotional intimacy - I really wouldn't want someone I had just played with to cuddle me (though more sex would be fine!)"
But that's the point - cuddling and kissing after sex leads to more sex inevitably. |
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with the person ive been with at the time, Ive actually cuddled into her whilst still inside of her and on top.
Then roll to one side and cuddle each other face to face, On other occasions its been spooning until shes close to sleep or so I think.
then I turn to the other side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really need a hug/kiss after sex it just finishes the meet perfectly x"
It would be criminal not to finish in such a way done the right way it can lead to more fun too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it quite disturbing that a lot of men don't engage in it. For me, sex is brilliant but the post-sex cuddling and kissing and touching is just as amazing. Pity some men just deflate instantly."
Disturbing is a bit strong no? It's sex. You can still lay there and have a chat but I don't want a cuddle afterwards tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Cuddles are intimacy in their own form and they are important to me after a hot sex session. Don't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy a cuddle. intimacy and sex are not the same thing. I want sex with meets not intimacy and that is the same if not more so when I was on as a single.
Cali x"
Agree with this. I won't just cuddle up with someone I've not long met. In my 4 years on here, I think I've only felt comfortable to do this with 2 people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Episode 4 of 'Class' (Doctor Who spinoff)...
Shadow Kin king (Demon-like alien from a darkness realm), shares a heart across space/time, with a human girl. Girl has sex, prompting alien king to also want bonkies.
Post-coital alien (awkwardly): "I don't suppose... we could have a moment of cuddling?" - lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We find cuddles a bit like kissing. Without it feels really hollow for us and more akin to having a wank. But that's why we only play with people we genuinely like and want to get to know.
Maybe not in a group play at a club though, then we have each other. |
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