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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no. i was with someone for 11 years and never felt the urge for anyone else at all. we had a miscarriage though and i wasn't the supportive one any more and wanted him to be that so that changed everything.
i did cheat on him because he emotionally went looking for someone else.
so it's more whether you enjoy stability or variety i think. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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No, I don't.
No relationship is perfect and they take work for them to last.
There will be up and downs, along the way. It's whether, both people think they're/it's worth the effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...the seven year itch? I think it more 7 years together, rather that 7 years married, but I think there might be something to it. What do you think? "
arrr which 1 of you has the itch? X
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had many itches but not one 7 years long! More like the 7-month itch! A relationship that's about seven months is the best as you're never together long enough to get bored of each other and you often graduate to a relationship with a friend of your partner. I went through a long train of girlfriends all of whom were in a friend-chain. Ditto many of them with my male friends. All very friendly until you accidentally graduate to going out with her sister lol!  |
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"...the seven year itch? I think it more 7 years together, rather that 7 years married, but I think there might be something to it. What do you think? "
Not really I don't see how a number can have any effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It might sound a crass comment that some might sneer at but i think the dogging has helped us tremendously."
Not at all - dogging is a very important social virtue!  |
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"...the seven year itch? I think it more 7 years together, rather that 7 years married, but I think there might be something to it. What do you think?
Not really I don't see how a number can have any effect."
Unless it's the seven day itch - in which case, get yourself tested! |
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"...the seven year itch? I think it more 7 years together, rather that 7 years married, but I think there might be something to it. What do you think? "
No. But I think some people pull out all the stops when dating, and then settle into lazily taking things for granted. When this happens, it is inevitable that eventually couples can lose their way.
Personally, if I had to start dating again, I know I'd never find anyone like Mrs ddc, which is why we still go on dates together, even now. 
(in a couple of weeks we'll be starting our 5th 7-yr period together  )
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...the seven year itch? I think it more 7 years together, rather that 7 years married, but I think there might be something to it. What do you think? "
my marriage lasted 7 yrs and 364 days, so no  |
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"...the seven year itch? I think it more 7 years together, rather that 7 years married, but I think there might be something to it. What do you think?
my marriage lasted 7 yrs and 364 days, so no "
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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago
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"It might sound a crass comment that some might sneer at but i think the dogging has helped us tremendously."
Well I guess it depends what we mean when we are talking about the 7 year itch. I think of it as when people start to question monogamy, and then often cheat, go behind each other's backs etc. So if you are dogging either together or which each other's permission, you can scratch that itch together. Perfectly healthy in my opinion. Humans aren't designed to be monogamous, so you can fight against that, or embrace it. |
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"It might sound a crass comment that some might sneer at but i think the dogging has helped us tremendously.
Well I guess it depends what we mean when we are talking about the 7 year itch. I think of it as when people start to question monogamy, and then often cheat, go behind each other's backs etc. So if you are dogging either together or which each other's permission, you can scratch that itch together. Perfectly healthy in my opinion. Humans aren't designed to be monogamous, so you can fight against that, or embrace it."
I think you should qualify that by saying "some" humans aren't designed to be monogamous. There are successful monogamous relationships.
The way forward in my opinion is to accept that relationships wont conform to one pattern and allow everyone to find a way that suits them. |
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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago
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"It might sound a crass comment that some might sneer at but i think the dogging has helped us tremendously.
Well I guess it depends what we mean when we are talking about the 7 year itch. I think of it as when people start to question monogamy, and then often cheat, go behind each other's backs etc. So if you are dogging either together or which each other's permission, you can scratch that itch together. Perfectly healthy in my opinion. Humans aren't designed to be monogamous, so you can fight against that, or embrace it.
I think you should qualify that by saying "some" humans aren't designed to be monogamous. There are successful monogamous relationships.
The way forward in my opinion is to accept that relationships wont conform to one pattern and allow everyone to find a way that suits them."
No, I would say that humans aren't designed to be monogamous. There are multiple studies looking at various biological traits relating to issues including penis shape and the role that has in displacing sperm from another partner, or the human female menstrual cycle and how it deliberately hides when a woman is at her most fertile period.
Although human's are not designed to be monogamous, there are indeed many happy monogamous couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How long have you two been together? Is this a confessional?
Well we started swinging around the 7 year mark, we thought it was better to swing rather than cheat. "
Ditto! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The phrase 7 year itch originated from the biological sense that over a period of 7 years each cell in your body regenerates, so you should technically only get it at the ages of 7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49, 56..
It should technically only apply to your relationship if you got together when you we're one of these ages OP |
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No, I would say that humans aren't designed to be monogamous. There are multiple studies looking at various biological traits relating to issues including penis shape and the role that has in displacing sperm from another partner, or the human female menstrual cycle and how it deliberately hides when a woman is at her most fertile period.
Although human's are not designed to be monogamous, there are indeed many happy monogamous couples."
While there are obviously distinctions between sexual and social monogamy, I have to say that sounds more like a justification than a scientific study. Many higher mammals are monogamous since being so increases the likelihood of the survival of their offspring, and hence their genes. The "sowing wild oats" method works well when you're playing the numbers game, but humans can't realistically do that.
Besides, if monogamy weren't the norm, how would Channel 5 be able to peddle so many "Feckless Single Mother" programmes?
So I still stick with what I said above: all relationships need constant renewal or they risk withering.
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"It might sound a crass comment that some might sneer at but i think the dogging has helped us tremendously.
Well I guess it depends what we mean when we are talking about the 7 year itch. I think of it as when people start to question monogamy, and then often cheat, go behind each other's backs etc. So if you are dogging either together or which each other's permission, you can scratch that itch together. Perfectly healthy in my opinion. Humans aren't designed to be monogamous, so you can fight against that, or embrace it.
I think you should qualify that by saying "some" humans aren't designed to be monogamous. There are successful monogamous relationships.
The way forward in my opinion is to accept that relationships wont conform to one pattern and allow everyone to find a way that suits them.
No, I would say that humans aren't designed to be monogamous. There are multiple studies looking at various biological traits relating to issues including penis shape and the role that has in displacing sperm from another partner, or the human female menstrual cycle and how it deliberately hides when a woman is at her most fertile period.
Although human's are not designed to be monogamous, there are indeed many happy monogamous couples."
There may be many studies that show that humans aren't designed to be physically monogamous however we aren't physically designed to walk upright either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it's pretty obvious that no men are naturally monogamous. Monogamy is a discipline we impose on ourselves. It's not something we, if given a free pass by society and our partner, would naturally practice. Women are different as they risk getting pregnant so they willingly police themselves. But even here it seems once that risk is mitigated through contraception they too may feel monogamy is more of a discipline than something innate and natural to them.
Some people are better at maintaining this discipline of monogamy than others and in many cases it is a hugely rewarding discipline if practiced with the right person. But it's not "the norm". If it were it wouldn't be so bloody difficult lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Although human's are not designed to be monogamous, there are indeed many happy monogamous couples.
There may be many studies that show that humans aren't designed to be physically monogamous however we aren't physically designed to walk upright either. "
We aren't 'designed' at all.
We evolved to walk upright that's why we can and have been doing so for millennia. Monogamy is a forced/learned behaviour and relatively recent (in terms of human evolution ) trait. In time we may evolve to become monogamous and some of us may well be more evolved than others.
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Although human's are not designed to be monogamous, there are indeed many happy monogamous couples.
There may be many studies that show that humans aren't designed to be physically monogamous however we aren't physically designed to walk upright either.
We aren't 'designed' at all.
We evolved to walk upright that's why we can and have been doing so for millennia. Monogamy is a forced/learned behaviour and relatively recent (in terms of human evolution ) trait. In time we may evolve to become monogamous and some of us may well be more evolved than others.
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I'm not sure that monogamy was a forced or learned behaviour for everyone from its inception.
I agree that not everyone is monogamous I just think that nobody should have either state imposed on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't believe in it. The idea of everybody naturally falling into the same cycle seems ridiculous to me. In my experience of friends and family, those who were going to split up did so in the first 3-5 years of being together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Although human's are not designed to be monogamous, there are indeed many happy monogamous couples.
There may be many studies that show that humans aren't designed to be physically monogamous however we aren't physically designed to walk upright either.
We aren't 'designed' at all.
We evolved to walk upright that's why we can and have been doing so for millennia. Monogamy is a forced/learned behaviour and relatively recent (in terms of human evolution ) trait. In time we may evolve to become monogamous and some of us may well be more evolved than others.
I'm not sure that monogamy was a forced or learned behaviour for everyone from its inception.
I agree that not everyone is monogamous I just think that nobody should have either state imposed on them. "
Maybe not in all cases, however it's more prevalent in some Colturri than in others for the exact reason that it is imposed or taught as "what's right" from an early age.
I agree with you though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think what explains the confusion we see in our culture is that coupling is natural, perhaps even for life, but "faithfulness" is a cultural construct.
Plonk 100 single people in a utopian free love commune and about 70 will couple up... but about 80 will continue having sexual encounters with non-partners. However... give them all membership to Fab and all they'll all remain single and just start playing with themselves lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to go completely off topic, but does anyone else have the Cher song playing in their head, every time they see the title thread pop up? Driving me bloody loopy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to go completely off topic, but does anyone else have the Cher song playing in their head, every time they see the title thread pop up? Driving me bloody loopy. "
I didn't before but now I do...goddamit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to go completely off topic, but does anyone else have the Cher song playing in their head, every time they see the title thread pop up? Driving me bloody loopy. "
Literally as soon as I read the title. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to go completely off topic, but does anyone else have the Cher song playing in their head, every time they see the title thread pop up? Driving me bloody loopy.
I didn't before but now I do...goddamit!"
Sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to go completely off topic, but does anyone else have the Cher song playing in their head, every time they see the title thread pop up? Driving me bloody loopy.
Literally as soon as I read the title. "
Glad I'm not the only one. I don't even like the song  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to go completely off topic, but does anyone else have the Cher song playing in their head, every time they see the title thread pop up? Driving me bloody loopy.
Literally as soon as I read the title.
Glad I'm not the only one. I don't even like the song "
Me either. But it's now become and ear worm and is likely to be sang out loud at some point creating all sorts of strange looks in the office |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to go completely off topic, but does anyone else have the Cher song playing in their head, every time they see the title thread pop up? Driving me bloody loopy.
Literally as soon as I read the title.
Glad I'm not the only one. I don't even like the song
Me either. But it's now become and ear worm and is likely to be sang out loud at some point creating all sorts of strange looks in the office "
I've already done that. Luckily the only audience is my little one, and she seems to like it... She'll learn |
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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago
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Although human's are not designed to be monogamous, there are indeed many happy monogamous couples.
There may be many studies that show that humans aren't designed to be physically monogamous however we aren't physically designed to walk upright either.
We aren't 'designed' at all.
We evolved to walk upright that's why we can and have been doing so for millennia. Monogamy is a forced/learned behaviour and relatively recent (in terms of human evolution ) trait. In time we may evolve to become monogamous and some of us may well be more evolved than others.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Monogamy's entirely redundant as a social construct in our modern society. It was a construct given to us by organised religion. Both religion and monogamy have been consigned to the dustbin of history. Human society is consequently happier and much more in touch with its base instincts. Few creatures in the wild indulge in monogamy. I also believe women are at least as naturally promiscuous as men. Men are programmed to seed as many women as possible and women are programmed to get the best quality sperm. They're always on the lookout and will take it whenever and from whomsoever they can. That's human nature!
The condom has freed sex up to the most natural want of all - fun! We all want fun and rarely get enough. Sex works for both sexes hence why many regard sex as their fave hobby. I have some non-fab friends who go to a sex party every week - just like they go to golf or the local WI. Casual sex is a fun past-time. Share the joy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Monogamy's entirely redundant as a social construct in our modern society. It was a construct given to us by organised religion. Both religion and monogamy have been consigned to the dustbin of history. Human society is consequently happier and much more in touch with its base instincts. Few creatures in the wild indulge in monogamy. I also believe women are at least as naturally promiscuous as men. Men are programmed to seed as many women as possible and women are programmed to get the best quality sperm. They're always on the lookout and will take it whenever and from whomsoever they can. That's human nature!
The condom has freed sex up to the most natural want of all - fun! We all want fun and rarely get enough. Sex works for both sexes hence why many regard sex as their fave hobby. I have some non-fab friends who go to a sex party every week - just like they go to golf or the local WI. Casual sex is a fun past-time. Share the joy! "
Speak for yourself haha. I've never slept with another man when I've been in a relationship with someone. |
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"It was a construct given to us by organised religion. Both religion and monogamy have been consigned to the dustbin of history. Human society is consequently happier and much more in touch with its base instincts."
And the award for most ideologically motivated statement least grounded in reality goes to... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was a construct given to us by organised religion. Both religion and monogamy have been consigned to the dustbin of history. Human society is consequently happier and much more in touch with its base instincts.
And the award for most ideologically motivated statement least grounded in reality goes to... "
I was paraphrasing a speech by Trump! |
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"It was a construct given to us by organised religion. Both religion and monogamy have been consigned to the dustbin of history. Human society is consequently happier and much more in touch with its base instincts.
And the award for most ideologically motivated statement least grounded in reality goes to...
I was paraphrasing a speech by Trump! "
Oh God! |
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"It was a construct given to us by organised religion. Both religion and monogamy have been consigned to the dustbin of history. Human society is consequently happier and much more in touch with its base instincts.
And the award for most ideologically motivated statement least grounded in reality goes to...
I was paraphrasing a speech by Trump!
Oh God! "
No, not God... Trump! They're quite different beings although of course Trump thinks God would like to be as powerful as him! |
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"...the seven year itch? I think it more 7 years together, rather that 7 years married, but I think there might be something to it. What do you think? "
Nope...
We've been together over 16 years and only started swinging about 3 years ago. We would both happily stop if either was no longer happy to swing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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CRISPS??? Yes, I believe in crisps!
And pussies! I believe in pussies too! Lots and lots and lots of pussies! I believe in all of them! But only salt and vinegar crisps! |
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"How long have you two been together? Is this a confessional?
Well we started swinging around the 7 year mark, we thought it was better to swing rather than cheat. "
Good on you both, play together stay together
Bloody hot pics too!!  wow if only closer  |
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