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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just a quick one! We have been getting a lot of messages recently from single males,
what happened to introducing yourself with a few face pics?
It's mainly 'I want to fuck your wife' with about 4 dick pics attached  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife said, Fab is getting bored for the same reason, what happened to all the guys in their suits with a lovely smile. All we get is guys holding a cock pic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My wife said, Fab is getting bored for the same reason, what happened to all the guys in their suits with a lovely smile. All we get is guys holding a cock pic. "
Yes I defo agree mr p just deletes them straight away when u can see the subject saying 'fuck your wife' etc.. a man with a smile, suit, or fully dressed is more of a turn and and more lickely to get a response!
Don't get me wrong I love a good dick pic but when it's every messages it gets a bit tedious
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think FAB's recent outings in the media (swingfields and other stories hitting the papers) has attracted a knobish element to the site. They aren't swingers, don't understand the scene and just think we are all here for a quick fuck. It's not restricted to just single men tho. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
Kinky "
Agree totally!!
MrsP xx
Love your pics btw  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
Kinky
Agree totally!!
MrsP xx
Love your pics btw "
Thank you so much  You have some gorgeous pics too
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
Kinky "
exactly. .. xxx
we've blocked non site supporters for the same reason. if they can't contribute towards the site they wouldn't bother taking time to put an effort when we meet.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a single chap I always say hello and try and chat first. I don't always send a face pic straight off but most the time messages just get deleted!
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Maybe having a profile picture? I know mrP deletes if you can't see one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
Kinky
exactly. .. xxx
we've blocked non site supporters for the same reason. if they can't contribute towards the site they wouldn't bother taking time to put an effort when we meet. "
Agree also |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
Kinky
exactly. .. xxx
we've blocked non site supporters for the same reason. if they can't contribute towards the site they wouldn't bother taking time to put an effort when we meet. "
Are we site supporters? Sorry we are quiet new to the site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
Kinky
Agree totally!!
MrsP xx
Love your pics btw
Thank you so much You have some gorgeous pics too
Kinky "
Thankyou very much
MrsP xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a single chap I always say hello and try and chat first. I don't always send a face pic straight off but most the time messages just get deleted!
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A profile pic (public) would help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's so hard finding a couple who you can connect with socially and sexually. Then those couples who you do connect with tend to be in a similar situation to us with having children and very little free time. So the chances of actually both couples being free at the same time is small. We do chat to people on here but we mainly find new friends in clubs now. Keep trying, you'll find a match eventually. X |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Just a quick one! We have been getting a lot of messages recently from single males,
what happened to introducing yourself with a few face pics?
It's mainly 'I want to fuck your wife' with about 4 dick pics attached "
I'm not surprised, I wanna fuck your missus & I've only got one dick..and a strap-on 
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Joking aside though when we joined we didn't block anyone as S is in the forums a lot & you get chats going..Pretty soon the short fuck, rank etc. Messages started coming do as we are not looking for them we blocked single guys..Now we get the odd message from couples where that same single guy mentality is there, very few have read our profile first..
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Its difficult because the guys that do tend to make an effort are generally not what we are looking for. Then the fancy a fuck ones would probably be what we want looks wise but are let down by their social skills.
We tend to get our meets at clubs and randoms in town these days . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its difficult because the guys that do tend to make an effort are generally not what we are looking for. Then the fancy a fuck ones would probably be what we want looks wise but are let down by their social skills.
We tend to get our meets at clubs and randoms in town these days . "
Agree
Randoms in town? It would be nice to meet a couple in town on a random night out
MrsP
Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's so hard finding a couple who you can connect with socially and sexually. Then those couples who you do connect with tend to be in a similar situation to us with having children and very little free time. So the chances of actually both couples being free at the same time is small. We do chat to people on here but we mainly find new friends in clubs now. Keep trying, you'll find a match eventually. X"
Story of our lives... you two are "psychics" |
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"Joking aside though when we joined we didn't block anyone as S is in the forums a lot & you get chats going..Pretty soon the short fuck, rank etc. Messages started coming do as we are not looking for them we blocked single guys..Now we get the odd message from couples where that same single guy mentality is there, very few have read our profile first..
xx
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Same here but lately we more free with a bit of time on our hands, saying that we tight up untill the new year |
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"Its difficult because the guys that do tend to make an effort are generally not what we are looking for. Then the fancy a fuck ones would probably be what we want looks wise but are let down by their social skills.
We tend to get our meets at clubs and randoms in town these days .
Agree
Randoms in town? It would be nice to meet a couple in town on a random night out
MrsP
Xxx"
We pulled twice in home and once in the slug and lettuce in the last few months lol. We do seem to do well when abroad though think people are more accepting when they are on holiday . Not managed to pull a couple yet though
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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago
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"Just a quick one! We have been getting a lot of messages recently from single males,
what happened to introducing yourself with a few face pics?
It's mainly 'I want to fuck your wife' with about 4 dick pics attached "
In a simple word some of them are complete tools, literally give normal single guys a bad name and make it incredibly hard for the rest of us. |
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"Just a quick one! We have been getting a lot of messages recently from single males,
what happened to introducing yourself with a few face pics?
It's mainly 'I want to fuck your wife' with about 4 dick pics attached
In a simple word some of them are complete tools, literally give normal single guys a bad name and make it incredibly hard for the rest of us."
On the contrary, the better guys, with decent messages and engaging profiles stand out all the more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mostly send some face pics,always suited and booted with a simple yet respectfull message,if it is well received I open up a little,if it is deleted,i just think ok there not into me that's cool x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its difficult because the guys that do tend to make an effort are generally not what we are looking for. Then the fancy a fuck ones would probably be what we want looks wise but are let down by their social skills.
We tend to get our meets at clubs and randoms in town these days . "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just put my cock out there for all to see! That's what people mostly want right??!!
I'll attach a face pic to any messages I send to people I like.
If you put your face on public alongside body pics your asking for it. Sorry but my mum doesn't need to see my cock via facebook at the end of the day!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why going to all this hustle people block all single guys and just get in touch with whom you do fancy.
Simple  "
Pretty much this.... (Can I have a gold star emoji that I hand out to people that post excellent posts? Please?)
I don't message first; if people want to meet me, they come find me. I get quite a few messages which consist of "how big are you" from couples and single females (I have single guys blocked).... I don't let it worry me..... |
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"Why going to all this hustle people block all single guys and just get in touch with whom you do fancy.
Simple
Pretty much this.... (Can I have a gold star emoji that I hand out to people that post excellent posts? Please?)
I don't message first; if people want to meet me, they come find me. I get quite a few messages which consist of "how big are you" from couples and single females (I have single guys blocked).... I don't let it worry me....."
Where is my gold star emoji then |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its difficult because the guys that do tend to make an effort are generally not what we are looking for. Then the fancy a fuck ones would probably be what we want looks wise but are let down by their social skills.
We tend to get our meets at clubs and randoms in town these days .
Agree
Randoms in town? It would be nice to meet a couple in town on a random night out
MrsP
Xxx
We pulled twice in home and once in the slug and lettuce in the last few months lol. We do seem to do well when abroad though think people are more accepting when they are on holiday . Not managed to pull a couple yet though
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Let us know when ur next in town
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why going to all this hustle people block all single guys and just get in touch with whom you do fancy.
Simple
Pretty much this.... (Can I have a gold star emoji that I hand out to people that post excellent posts? Please?)
I don't message first; if people want to meet me, they come find me. I get quite a few messages which consist of "how big are you" from couples and single females (I have single guys blocked).... I don't let it worry me.....
Where is my gold star emoji then "
Best I can do... and no its not an innuendo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not saying it's every male that messages, but 8 times out of 10 it is xx"
If 8 out of the 10 messages I got are messages I don't want, then I would take the hassle out of it by blocking that group and searching myself.... sorry... the 80% of single men are shite at messaging has worn thin over the 5+ years I have been on and off fab.
You are on the internet; with naked pictures looking for people to have sex with and don't filter what messages you receive.... logically speaking what did you expect?
((sorry sounds really antagonistic, don't mean it to be, just you know, I would be interested in trying to understand what you and others with similar issues actually expect from a fairly (if not completely) anonymous site where you display personal photographs of yourself and a desire to have sex with people you barely know in terms of the quality of messages))) eek Really don't mean to cause offence.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not saying it's every male that messages, but 8 times out of 10 it is xx
If 8 out of the 10 messages I got are messages I don't want, then I would take the hassle out of it by blocking that group and searching myself.... sorry... the 80% of single men are shite at messaging has worn thin over the 5+ years I have been on and off fab.
You are on the internet; with naked pictures looking for people to have sex with and don't filter what messages you receive.... logically speaking what did you expect?
((sorry sounds really antagonistic, don't mean it to be, just you know, I would be interested in trying to understand what you and others with similar issues actually expect from a fairly (if not completely) anonymous site where you display personal photographs of yourself and a desire to have sex with people you barely know in terms of the quality of messages))) eek Really don't mean to cause offence...."
I get what your saying about filter out the single men, but we are looking for couples, single females and single men, I was just saying that the majority of single men that message are vulgar from the start, which is a massive turn off for me.. and like I said we do get some really nice messages.
May take your advice though and filter that specific group.
Thanks for your comment
MrsP
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"I'm not saying it's every male that messages, but 8 times out of 10 it is xx
If 8 out of the 10 messages I got are messages I don't want, then I would take the hassle out of it by blocking that group and searching myself.... sorry... the 80% of single men are shite at messaging has worn thin over the 5+ years I have been on and off fab.
You are on the internet; with naked pictures looking for people to have sex with and don't filter what messages you receive.... logically speaking what did you expect?
((sorry sounds really antagonistic, don't mean it to be, just you know, I would be interested in trying to understand what you and others with similar issues actually expect from a fairly (if not completely) anonymous site where you display personal photographs of yourself and a desire to have sex with people you barely know in terms of the quality of messages))) eek Really don't mean to cause offence...."
No offence taken it make sense
And very well put too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did I get away with that then.... Suckers!!
Incoming cock pics!
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In all truth; in a few months you would have begun to use filters.... I agree that there are lots of people on fab that can be quite... rude (of all sections)... I always think that one of the best things to do (as a couple or a single) is really define yourself, what it is you are looking for; be crystal on that and then the stress of the site vanishes.... you don't have to put it on your profile (to be fair if you did, you would still get messages you didn't want), just "know" how you play and then hitting that delete/block combo becomes easier.....
... there is a word of warning attached to this though; I think fab is like an adventure; and adventures are often found down paths we wouldn't usually tread.... Happy Swinging x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. Get very bored of the same boring messages...would love to shag your wife...great tits luv etc.
On the other hand had a poem posted to me today which was funny and original.
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"Yes. Get very bored of the same boring messages...would love to shag your wife...great tits luv etc.
On the other hand had a poem posted to me today which was funny and original.
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Share it with us !! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Yes. Get very bored of the same boring messages...would love to shag your wife...great tits luv etc.
On the other hand had a poem posted to me today which was funny and original.
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We had a poem sent to us on our couples profile once, for which we gave the sender 10/10 for originality but 1/10 for poem writing ability!! |
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"I'm not saying it's every male that messages, but 8 times out of 10 it is xx
If 8 out of the 10 messages I got are messages I don't want, then I would take the hassle out of it by blocking that group and searching myself.... sorry... the 80% of single men are shite at messaging has worn thin over the 5+ years I have been on and off fab.
You are on the internet; with naked pictures looking for people to have sex with and don't filter what messages you receive.... logically speaking what did you expect?
((sorry sounds really antagonistic, don't mean it to be, just you know, I would be interested in trying to understand what you and others with similar issues actually expect from a fairly (if not completely) anonymous site where you display personal photographs of yourself and a desire to have sex with people you barely know in terms of the quality of messages))) eek Really don't mean to cause offence....
I get what your saying about filter out the single men, but we are looking for couples, single females and single men, I was just saying that the majority of single men that message are vulgar from the start, which is a massive turn off for me.. and like I said we do get some really nice messages.
May take your advice though and filter that specific group.
Thanks for your comment
MrsP
Xxx"
We are looking for single guys but agree the quality of the messages is pretty off-putting mostly. However, the good ones stand out like a sore thumb |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"I just put my cock out there for all to see! That's what people mostly want right??!!
I'll attach a face pic to any messages I send to people I like.
If you put your face on public alongside body pics your asking for it. Sorry but my mum doesn't need to see my cock via facebook at the end of the day!! "
Asking for what? |
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"We used to reply politely but now we just delete and if they are a making a nuisance of themselves we just delete. We feel if someone can't put effort into messaging they most likely won't put much effort into an actual meet
Kinky
exactly. .. xxx
we've blocked non site supporters for the same reason. if they can't contribute towards the site they wouldn't bother taking time to put an effort when we meet. "
That is wholly untrue.
Lots of our meets came when we were not site supporters.
Now obviously you choose to filter how you like and all power to you for doing so.
But suggesting that someone who is not a site supporter won't make any effort is crass and unfair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single male, I (for research, - in order to beat one's enemy one must firstly know him etc) set up a test female profile with a torso image (fully clothed) of one of my better-looking female friends, and a few lines of text listing 'her' as a 28 year old bi curious woman.
I didn't cheat and get this verified or anything. It it got 500 messages in the first day, 95% from men and only 8 of these weren't fancy a fuck type messages with dick pics. Tragic.
In a fab world where that happens, how is there any hope for the guys that put a bit of effort in but just end up in the mass-delete bucket? No one would have time to sift all those messages every day. |
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"As a single male, I (for research, - in order to beat one's enemy one must firstly know him etc) set up a test female profile with a torso image (fully clothed) of one of my better-looking female friends, and a few lines of text listing 'her' as a 28 year old bi curious woman.
I didn't cheat and get this verified or anything. It it got 500 messages in the first day, 95% from men and only 8 of these weren't fancy a fuck type messages with dick pics. Tragic.
In a fab world where that happens, how is there any hope for the guys that put a bit of effort in but just end up in the mass-delete bucket? No one would have time to sift all those messages every day."
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"As a single male, I (for research, - in order to beat one's enemy one must firstly know him etc) set up a test female profile with a torso image (fully clothed) of one of my better-looking female friends, and a few lines of text listing 'her' as a 28 year old bi curious woman.
I didn't cheat and get this verified or anything. It it got 500 messages in the first day, 95% from men and only 8 of these weren't fancy a fuck type messages with dick pics. Tragic.
In a fab world where that happens, how is there any hope for the guys that put a bit of effort in but just end up in the mass-delete bucket? No one would have time to sift all those messages every day.
I rest my case "
I think on a thread like this once I said "Everyone is here for slightly different reasons, the issue is 80% of the single guys couldn't get a fuck if they walked into a bar with three hen parties of ladies of easy virtue going on" due mainly to zero social skills & not reading what this site is about.
It is tragic, however the guy in me does feel that longer, polite messages maybe get deleted out of hand by too many, that guy might do this 5-10 times a day? After a few weeks, months of little response and his unread messages getting deleted his nice polite messages become faf's because no one reads or replies to his nice ones anyway. So I don't think 100% of the blame can be laid at the male door..& I know ladies have had nice guys that turn shitty but that's the same outside of Fab but at least on here you didn't have to date to find out
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single male, i find the best way is to introduce yourself.
Compliment either the couple's or females pictures or profile (makes it more personal)
Then something along the lines of if you fancy chatting and seeing if we connect then let me know!
9 times out of 10 i will send a face pic of me with my super cheeky grin (so i am told).
This tends to work for me, its non pushy, non intrusive and vulgar.
Respect and being able to see you goes a long way on here!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a single male, i find the best way is to introduce yourself.
Compliment either the couple's or females pictures or profile (makes it more personal)
Then something along the lines of if you fancy chatting and seeing if we connect then let me know!
9 times out of 10 i will send a face pic of me with my super cheeky grin (so i am told).
This tends to work for me, its non pushy, non intrusive and vulgar.
Respect and being able to see you goes a long way on here!
Jay."
Cheeky grin is always going to be a winner |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just a quick one! We have been getting a lot of messages recently from single males,
what happened to introducing yourself with a few face pics?
It's mainly 'I want to fuck your wife' with about 4 dick pics attached "
That seems to be the majority of our messages these days. Can get boring |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just a quick one! We have been getting a lot of messages recently from single males,
what happened to introducing yourself with a few face pics?
It's mainly 'I want to fuck your wife' with about 4 dick pics attached
That seems to be the majority of our messages these days. Can get boring "
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"My wife said, Fab is getting bored for the same reason, what happened to all the guys in their suits with a lovely smile. All we get is guys holding a cock pic. "
Some still around! Let me know if you see any. |
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