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verifications and how you read them
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How much weight do you place on verifications shown by someone your thinking of meeting ?
Do you read their profile,then look at veris and think they dont seem to be talking about the same person who wrote the profile ?
Or do you look at the veris,then cross reference these,by looking at the profiles of people who left the veris...and feel theres some kind of 'clique'going on ?
Im asking as im starting to get meets sorted
(hence no verifications myself yet)
And have to think of being safe
(not just in a sexual health safe way too) |
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By *iver2015Woman
over a year ago
middlesbrough |
"Fuck all - I rarely read them 
I gauge a person by the contents of their PMs or performance on the forums. "
I read all of yours. That's why I thought you were a mythical being and that my phone would spark if I tried to PM you. |
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We generally read them as part of vetting whether we should meet them outside the club scene. Some veris can just be we've seen these two about in a club, others can be more personal tribute to the fun that was had. We prefer reading the latter as it gets us tingly about the fun to be had.
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I'm nosy so i do read them and then sometimes look at the people they've met,as a comparison really.
However ,its just one tool available to use.We don't meet people based on someone elses opinion,as thats subjective.
Miss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met lots of unverified guys on here
They don't make much difference to me as everybody likes different
They could have 20 glowing verifications but I still may not like them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck all - I rarely read them
I gauge a person by the contents of their PMs or performance on the forums. "
Same here
If I have been talking to somebody and we really get on I'm not going to turn him down based in somebody else's opinion of him
That's just stupid |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I take them as a small insight into somebody, but I always make my own opinion. That applies the same, if they've got one or loads.
I have had experiences where somebody verification for someone is very very very different to my own experience. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Fuck all - I rarely read them
I gauge a person by the contents of their PMs or performance on the forums.
Same here
If I have been talking to somebody and we really get on I'm not going to turn him down based in somebody else's opinion of him
That's just stupid "
Same here. I don't make a habit of meeting forumites but it has happened on occasion and I'd be stupid to ignore any postings they've made. Veris are subjective and I know full well that what I look for in a meet with one person isn't the same as what I might look for with another. Veris reflect that so I don't tend to bother reading them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications give you a bit of an idea if someone is genuine, so you can have an inkling if you're being catfished. But that's still not that reliable.
The full on TripAdvisor reviews make us cringe.
We don't put too much stock in what's actually said, we met a guy a few years back with loads of verifications saying how much of great shag he was. My wife disagreed. |
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The day I rely on total strangers to verify whether I meet another total stranger for sex will be the day I'll have to admit to losing the plot!
Just because someone is nice/has amazing sex with A N Other, it doesn't follow the same will apply to me.
Use your own judgement and make decisions on how people interact with you as an individual.
I've met dozens of men without verifications, the last one moved in two years ago.
If you do use the verifications, use it in addition to your own due diligence.
Have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The day I rely on total strangers to verify whether I meet another total stranger for sex will be the day I'll have to admit to losing the plot!
Just because someone is nice/has amazing sex with A N Other, it doesn't follow the same will apply to me.
Use your own judgement and make
decisions on how people interact with you as an individual.
I've met dozens of men without verifications, the last one moved in two years ago.
If you do use the verifications, use it in addition to your own due diligence.
Have fun."
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I take most veris with a pinch of salt, i've yet to see a bad one. All they do is prove that someone has met someone else at some point."
Why do you think you're ever going to see a bad veri?
Would you display one? |
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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago
birchington |
"I take most veris with a pinch of salt, i've yet to see a bad one. All they do is prove that someone has met someone else at some point.
Why do you think you're ever going to see a bad veri?
Would you display one?"
That's a good point! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do take an interest in verifications to give me some idea if they are genuine and I also cross reference to who they've met. Unfortunately there are some people I wouldnt meet because who they've been with previously. Call me a snob if you like but it's just my preference.
However, I have met men who haven't been verified so it's not all just about verifications. I take time and chat to people to get my own idea of the person as verifications can be misleading. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read them all and also read the verifications of the.people they have met. Definitely. All mine are on display to read so yes they are important in deciding whether to meet |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"The day I rely on total strangers to verify whether I meet another total stranger for sex will be the day I'll have to admit to losing the plot!
Just because someone is nice/has amazing sex with A N Other, it doesn't follow the same will apply to me.
Use your own judgement and make decisions on how people interact with you as an individual.
I've met dozens of men without verifications, the last one moved in two years ago.
If you do use the verifications, use it in addition to your own due diligence.
Have fun."
I have to agree with this they mean very little apart from the person in question has met other people .
The system is not much use as its no guarantee of them turning up or that you will like them enough to play and they offer no guarantee of a great sexual experience ether .
Best to rely on your own gut instincts at all times not a few sycophantic words written by another in return for the same back . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry I think with the continued press interest in swinging and fake profiles on fab etc it is important to read as much info as you can about the person you are meeting. I wouldn't meet anyone without a few recent verifications.
My choice but I also respect other people's views on the subject too. |
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"I take most veris with a pinch of salt, i've yet to see a bad one. All they do is prove that someone has met someone else at some point.
Why do you think you're ever going to see a bad veri?
Would you display one?"
Did i say i ever expected to see a bad veri?
Don't presume to know what i think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With verifications you have to read between the lines and often take note of what they don't say rather than what they do. I look for consistency between what someone says about themselves and what others say about them.
They're also good to see the kind of people they meet to give you an idea if you'd get along. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I read them, mainly because I'm nosy! I like the ones that describe how someone is on a social level, I take much more notice of that sort of content. The really graphic ones can be hilarious!  |
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As a single bi-guy I have been caught out by so-called meets who have actually only been looking to kick my head in for not being straight. So now I read verifications and cross check theirs. It's a terrible state of affairs but I value my safety. As a single guy this limits my options even more |
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Yes I read them - they give a lot of insight into the person and how they interact IMO, who they meet, how those people experience them (both what they write and what they leave out!). Yes, I take them with a pinch of salt, and yes they can be misleading sometimes, I am harder to please than a lot of women it seems, but I find them invaluable. If I have a level choice between a guy with a string of lukewarm one liners and a guy who regularly blows people away, I may well choose the latter.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a single bi-guy I have been caught out by so-called meets who have actually only been looking to kick my head in for not being straight. So now I read verifications and cross check theirs. It's a terrible state of affairs but I value my safety. As a single guy this limits my options even more"
That's terrible  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a single bi-guy I have been caught out by so-called meets who have actually only been looking to kick my head in for not being straight. So now I read verifications and cross check theirs. It's a terrible state of affairs but I value my safety. As a single guy this limits my options even more"
That's horrific! |
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