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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We got so many people who don't read our profile and it is really annoying. We get questions that are answered in our profile which makes it obvious they haven't read it. And friend invites from people in England and USA.
Then they ask us for meets and we tell them how many hundreds of miles they are away and they go "oh sorry I didn't notice." It's in the username..
And then we get people who don't read the profile and we tell them to and they refuse. They just get blocked. Don't see the point in making an effort on someone who can't even spend a minute or two reading a profile.
Do we need to make it more obvious that if they don't read the profile we won't meet them or is our profile too long?
We mean we've seen plenty of profiles with novels in their bio and we still make the effort to read it if we are interested in them |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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We constantly get winks & f.requests from couples so we go check them out. Nowhere on their profiles will it say the fem plays alone..fucking annoying sometimes, but as we don't actively search for couples it gives us some pics to perve 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sick of friend requests when they haven't spoke once to us..sick of being asked what size are my boobs. Do I meet alone? Like you, it's all in the profile. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We got so many people who don't read our profile and it is really annoying. We get questions that are answered in our profile which makes it obvious they haven't read it. And friend invites from people in England and USA.
Then they ask us for meets and we tell them how many hundreds of miles they are away and they go "oh sorry I didn't notice." It's in the username..
And then we get people who don't read the profile and we tell them to and they refuse. They just get blocked. Don't see the point in making an effort on someone who can't even spend a minute or two reading a profile.
Do we need to make it more obvious that if they don't read the profile we won't meet them or is our profile too long?
We mean we've seen plenty of profiles with novels in their bio and we still make the effort to read it if we are interested in them"
Well, despite the obvious desire to read your profile after this message, I went to look (I have no idea where you live) and gave up as soon as I saw a numbered list  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have a list due to number of rules we have and these are questions we get asked daily by over 50+ people. So would you suggest bullet points?"
Dunno, I do understand your reasoning, but not sure how to get round it, sorry!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone knows that many people don't bother to read profiles, so that's why it doesn't bother me if people have one or not. I don't expect people to read mine, I have/had the filters there for who could message and because I'm not looking for a certain type of person I don't have those requirements in my profile, as there are none.
I've looked at profiles before and thought, is there really need for all that? What is there left to talk about. All I want to know is what they look like and if they can have a decent conversation and that is done through messaging. Only thing I'd like to see on a profile is whether or not they have a partner that isn't aware they are on here. |
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1.ah pointless things we moan about.
2.mainly nothing of consequence.
3.dont want messages from people then use your filters
4. Don't like friend request.Then delete them
5. You Want people to read your profile.lol.your young so you have youthful optimism on your side.soon reality will crush you.
6.Maybe just be tolerant,less up tight about easily deleted messages and chill
7. Have a good day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I see a numbered list on a profile that is simply a list of NO then I move on.
No need to keep shouting NO at me. I know where I'm unwelcome, I've been married for 17 years. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"1.ah pointless things we moan about.
2.mainly nothing of consequence.
3.dont want messages from people then use your filters
4. Don't like friend request.Then delete them
5. You Want people to read your profile.lol.your young so you have youthful optimism on your side.soon reality will crush you.
6.Maybe just be tolerant,less up tight about easily deleted messages and chill
7. Have a good day "
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You guys just smashed it up. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honey probably attracts more flies than vinegar OP.
Use the filters supplied. Just block everyone and only message those who you deem suitable and up to your standards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally, I look at pictures first then compliment on the boobage  "
compliments are nice. I just don't get why people want to know the size. What do you gain from it? Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most guys don't read profiles
Only look at the pictures..I put most of my filters on for that reason but unfortunately bi guys don't have a block filter so those are the messages that get the same reply...
Please read the profile  |
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"Personally, I look at pictures first then compliment on the boobage compliments are nice. I just don't get why people want to know the size. What do you gain from it? Lol."
I don't need to know the size! I can see they're bloody massive!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally, I look at pictures first then compliment on the boobage compliments are nice. I just don't get why people want to know the size. What do you gain from it? Lol.
I don't need to know the size! I can see they're bloody massive!! "
and that's my reply to them lol. X |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"1.ah pointless things we moan about.
2.mainly nothing of consequence.
3.dont want messages from people then use your filters
4. Don't like friend request.Then delete them
5. You Want people to read your profile.lol.your young so you have youthful optimism on your side.soon reality will crush you.
6.Maybe just be tolerant,less up tight about easily deleted messages and chill
7. Have a good day "
Wonderfully wise words of wisdom from Wales. Don't let the 'background noise' effect your enjoyment of fab; having checked out these guys pictures, it's quite clear that they don't - way ahead!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This does go to extremes sometimes. I get the usual few a week from guys who want me to fuck them...or want to suck my juicy cock etc. They havent seen the straight bit.
But this morning a guy calking me hun. Wanting to lick my pussy and to teach him how to treat a woman properly. ...ffs he didnt even get the gender right. That's not reading in extremis!! |
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After a while you learn to ignore messages that ask the already answered questions. Many use the question as an opener to a conversation as they can't think of anything else, no realising it makes them appear to have an IQ of 50.
I opened your profile to read it, saw a numbered list of 10 no's and hit the back button.
And OP, use the '+quote' button so people know who you are talking to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"After a while you learn to ignore messages that ask the already answered questions. Many use the question as an opener to a conversation as they can't think of anything else, no realising it makes them appear to have an IQ of 50.
I opened your profile to read it, saw a numbered list of 10 no's and hit the back button.
And OP, use the '+quote' button so people know who you are talking to "
Yeah we realise the list can be daunting but wasnt too sure of a solution. Would bullet points be better or paragraphs? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After a while you learn to ignore messages that ask the already answered questions. Many use the question as an opener to a conversation as they can't think of anything else, no realising it makes them appear to have an IQ of 50.
I opened your profile to read it, saw a numbered list of 10 no's and hit the back button.
And OP, use the '+quote' button so people know who you are talking to
Yeah we realise the list can be daunting but wasnt too sure of a solution. Would bullet points be better or paragraphs?"
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Having a load of nos and then a shit load of text is daunting. I wouldn't turn them into paragraphs that'd just create more text. Some of the points don't need to be there, or at least some go together, like the no giving your social media/number and don't do sexting, pretty obvious you're not going to sext if you don't give out your info. As for the rest I've forgotten what points were there and I didn't read the text. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"After a while you learn to ignore messages that ask the already answered questions. Many use the question as an opener to a conversation as they can't think of anything else, no realising it makes them appear to have an IQ of 50.
I opened your profile to read it, saw a numbered list of 10 no's and hit the back button.
And OP, use the '+quote' button so people know who you are talking to
Yeah we realise the list can be daunting but wasnt too sure of a solution. Would bullet points be better or paragraphs?y
Having a load of nos and then a shit load of text is daunting. I wouldn't turn them into paragraphs that'd just create more text. Some of the points don't need to be there, or at least some go together, like the no giving your social media/number and don't do sexting, pretty obvious you're not going to sext if you don't give out your info. As for the rest I've forgotten what points were there and I didn't read the text."
Fair enough and thank you |
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"After a while you learn to ignore messages that ask the already answered questions. Many use the question as an opener to a conversation as they can't think of anything else, no realising it makes them appear to have an IQ of 50.
I opened your profile to read it, saw a numbered list of 10 no's and hit the back button.
And OP, use the '+quote' button so people know who you are talking to
Yeah we realise the list can be daunting but wasnt too sure of a solution. Would bullet points be better or paragraphs?y
Having a load of nos and then a shit load of text is daunting. I wouldn't turn them into paragraphs that'd just create more text. Some of the points don't need to be there, or at least some go together, like the no giving your social media/number and don't do sexting, pretty obvious you're not going to sext if you don't give out your info. As for the rest I've forgotten what points were there and I didn't read the text."
Some do seem to expect sex talk on here, that could come under sexting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just use it as a filter. It's supposed to be fun. If they do something you don't like, don't meet them or waste time thinking about them.
I'm old and cynical and jaded by the whole fucking disrespectful internet shit. Don't end up like me. Just engage with the people that you're compatible with. Negativity attracts negativity. Cheer up. |
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"1.ah pointless things we moan about.
2.mainly nothing of consequence.
3.dont want messages from people then use your filters
4. Don't like friend request.Then delete them
5. You Want people to read your profile.lol.your young so you have youthful optimism on your side.soon reality will crush you.
6.Maybe just be tolerant,less up tight about easily deleted messages and chill
7. Have a good day "
8. First world problems. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not surprised no one reads you profile OP..
I looked and thought 'life's too short'  "
We like to keep it safe and aren't into most of the things listed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have filters doesn't work. And no optimism just find it irritating they expect us to make an effort but won't do it themselves."
so your block filters don't work?
never known that before..get in touch with administration and ask them to have a look.
when they fix it, block everyone and do your own searching.
problem solved thank you very much |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have filters doesn't work. And no optimism just find it irritating they expect us to make an effort but won't do it themselves.
so your block filters don't work?
never known that before..get in touch with administration and ask them to have a look.
when they fix it, block everyone and do your own searching.
problem solved thank you very much "
No what I mean is they just make new profileso one guy has done it over 20 times now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Know that bloody feeling very well xxx"
It's so irritating. It takes a few minutes to read a profile at worst. People who don't make ano effort just deserve a reply |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have filters doesn't work. And no optimism just find it irritating they expect us to make an effort but won't do it themselves.
so your block filters don't work?
never known that before..get in touch with administration and ask them to have a look.
when they fix it, block everyone and do your own searching.
problem solved thank you very much
No what I mean is they just make new profileso one guy has done it over 20 times now"
but if you block everyone..not one at a time. As in block EVERYONE then they could come back with a thousand profiles..NOBODY can message you at all except people you initiate contact with first it just means you have to do all of he searching but no more unsolicited messages ever again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile clearly states "winks don't mean anything to me and will be ignored...
also it states I wont add people I haven't met and trying to add me will lead to being blocked if we have never even spoke....i made that change to my profile early jan...and i only had 6 blocked then...now i have over 60 blocked.
but i still get winks....friends request...oh yea n i get the US and Aussie ones too....
if someone cant be bothered to write a proper message then why should i be bothered to even consider them lol... |
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By *asyukMan
over a year ago
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I'll have long conversations extended periods with people who have definitely looked at my profile but not taken in any information from it at all.
Women not knuckle-dragging men.
Sigh and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My profile clearly states "winks don't mean anything to me and will be ignored...
also it states I wont add people I haven't met and trying to add me will lead to being blocked if we have never even spoke....i made that change to my profile early jan...and i only had 6 blocked then...now i have over 60 blocked.
but i still get winks....friends request...oh yea n i get the US and Aussie ones too....
if someone cant be bothered to write a proper message then why should i be bothered to even consider them lol..."
Yeah totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately I can't filter people out that don't do club meets. I do get annoyed with the messages from people that want private meets. I'm sure some of them read it but choose to ignore it, they just pick out the parts that they think apply to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We can take the messages from people who have clearly not read our profile. We generally delete or block. If we just delete, then it's the abusive follow up messages which are hard to take, since these people clearly have no idea how to behave with any dignity or recognition of our right to set out our terms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well it starts with a lot of rules, which is rather off putting. I only read as far as rule 5 then got bored and gave up. Try switching it about and putting the interesting bits first then the rules at the bottom. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well it starts with a lot of rules, which is rather off putting. I only read as far as rule 5 then got bored and gave up. Try switching it about and putting the interesting bits first then the rules at the bottom. X"
Will try. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a good profile we think answers plenty of questions people may ask. Then you get them messaging you can you meet in a few hours. It's obvious they have not read our profile because it's says we have a young family and we can't do short notice meets.
It's so annoying when you know they don't read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whenever I write a message I do my best to write it on a way that is clear I've read their profile, yet I still get messages saying that I've clearly not bothered to read their profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We have a good profile we think answers plenty of questions people may ask. Then you get them messaging you can you meet in a few hours. It's obvious they have not read our profile because it's says we have a young family and we can't do short notice meets.
It's so annoying when you know they don't read it. "
Yeah is irritating |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Whenever I write a message I do my best to write it on a way that is clear I've read their profile, yet I still get messages saying that I've clearly not bothered to read their profile. "
Yeah get a few like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a message off a guy the other day, saying he looked at my profile, and saw that I was new to the site, and that he would love to show me the ropes... Have me experience clubs and parties... Really enjoy the proper swinging scene... That did make me laugh more than get annoyed though. He clearly did not get past my pics, to read my profile text!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Whenever I write a message I do my best to write it on a way that is clear I've read their profile, yet I still get messages saying that I've clearly not bothered to read their profile.
Yeah get a few like that"
It's frustrating isn't it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Had a message off a guy the other day, saying he looked at my profile, and saw that I was new to the site, and that he would love to show me the ropes... Have me experience clubs and parties... Really enjoy the proper swinging scene... That did make me laugh more than get annoyed though. He clearly did not get past my pics, to read my profile text! "
What an idiot  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Whenever I write a message I do my best to write it on a way that is clear I've read their profile, yet I still get messages saying that I've clearly not bothered to read their profile.
Yeah get a few like that
It's frustrating isn't it."
Can be yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If people get bored with profiles, that's fine. Move on. The point of our "rules" being set out as they are is it means we don't have to answer hundreds of messages that ask e.g. "does she take it up the arse, can I cum in her mouth?" It really does save people wasting a lot of their time. |
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"Know that bloody feeling very well xxx
It's so irritating. It takes a few minutes to read a profile at worst. People who don't make ano effort just deserve a reply"
I agree it doesn't take long to read most profiles (some are way too long! )
I appreciate your points are trying to get a certain message across -though the kitten play.. won't until you use the phrase!! That's taking it a bit far 
Perhaps it's not about the points more how things can be phrased to seem less negative , negative , negative ?
Unfortunately as others have said your options are
* filters on and you do the searching
*don't reply to the messages just block and use as a filter
There's no perfect answer
You will never change others so you have to deal with it one way or another
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If people get bored with profiles, that's fine. Move on. The point of our "rules" being set out as they are is it means we don't have to answer hundreds of messages that ask e.g. "does she take it up the arse, can I cum in her mouth?" It really does save people wasting a lot of their time. "
Exactly |
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