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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems to be proving quite difficult.
While we have a couple of guy's who Jools plays with regularly, we are really finding it difficult to find guy's who are not after one off fucks.
Not wanting a new guy every time, would prefer to meet same guy's but not same guy every time.
Coz that's getting into relationship territory.
Does the idea of meeting people regularly put people off?
Are guy's just looking to shag once then move onto the next one?
Obviously this applies to women but as it's men we are looking for....
Or is it something we are doing, looks or?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to be proving quite difficult.
While we have a couple of guy's who Jools plays with regularly, we are really finding it difficult to find guy's who are not after one off fucks.
Not wanting a new guy every time, would prefer to meet same guy's but not same guy every time.
Coz that's getting into relationship territory.
Does the idea of meeting people regularly put people off?
Are guy's just looking to shag once then move onto the next one?
Obviously this applies to women but as it's men we are looking for....
Or is it something we are doing, looks or?
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I'm having the same problem, seems to be all about one off meets but not found a lady yet who wants a fwb arrangement. Not locally anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have the exact same problem. And because of it, ever since we moved away from a bigger city, it's been ages since I've had a threesome. I don't really know what the answer is. Maybe I'm shit in bed and that's why most guys don't want to meet regularly. Its possible.
Everyone who is reliable for regular meets lives over an hour away. I've almost given up looking now.
Anyway, I've been absolutely no help but I can tell you that you aren't alone. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Seems to be proving quite difficult.
While we have a couple of guy's who Jools plays with regularly, we are really finding it difficult to find guy's who are not after one off fucks.
Not wanting a new guy every time, would prefer to meet same guy's but not same guy every time.
Coz that's getting into relationship territory.
Does the idea of meeting people regularly put people off?
Are guy's just looking to shag once then move onto the next one?
Obviously this applies to women but as it's men we are looking for....
Or is it something we are doing, looks or?
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I can't talk for others OP .
but I much prefer regular play partners by that I mean monthly or by monthly fun as for me the sex becomes better the more at ease I am with the other person.
so I actively seek out those looking for regular meets on them grounds plus you cant beat a bit of at ease with one another flirting before the main coarse
and no I've read many a forum post of yours and in my humble opinion you sound like a lovely couple that I or anyone would be privilege to have and call friends xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well, from my perspective it's the other way round. I never seem to meet any couples who want a fb relationship. "
I never seem to meet couples full stop, just single ladies. |
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"Seems to be proving quite difficult.
While we have a couple of guy's who Jools plays with regularly, we are really finding it difficult to find guy's who are not after one off fucks.
Not wanting a new guy every time, would prefer to meet same guy's but not same guy every time.
Coz that's getting into relationship territory.
Does the idea of meeting people regularly put people off?
Are guy's just looking to shag once then move onto the next one?
Obviously this applies to women but as it's men we are looking for....
Or is it something we are doing, looks or?
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Agree with later post in that I don't understand why you are having problems, great profile and pictures.
You are what I'm looking for and sure not alone, keep doing what you are doing as the right guys are out there for you. X |
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"Seems to be proving quite difficult.
While we have a couple of guy's who Jools plays with regularly, we are really finding it difficult to find guy's who are not after one off fucks.
Not wanting a new guy every time, would prefer to meet same guy's but not same guy every time.
Coz that's getting into relationship territory.
Does the idea of meeting people regularly put people off?
Are guy's just looking to shag once then move onto the next one?
Obviously this applies to women but as it's men we are looking for....
Or is it something we are doing, looks or?
I can't talk for others OP .
but I much prefer regular play partners by that I mean monthly or by monthly fun as for me the sex becomes better the more at ease I am with the other person.
so I actively seek out those looking for regular meets on them grounds plus you cant beat a bit of at ease with one another flirting before the main coarse
and no I've read many a forum post of yours and in my humble opinion you sound like a lovely couple that I or anyone would be privilege to have and call friends xx
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"We have the exact same problem. And because of it, ever since we moved away from a bigger city, it's been ages since I've had a threesome. I don't really know what the answer is. Maybe I'm shit in bed and that's why most guys don't want to meet regularly. Its possible.
Everyone who is reliable for regular meets lives over an hour away. I've almost given up looking now.
Anyway, I've been absolutely no help but I can tell you that you aren't alone. "
Shit in bed?! Don't be silly. Remember, everyone on Fab's a shagging maestro. You obviously didn't get that memo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have the exact same problem. And because of it, ever since we moved away from a bigger city, it's been ages since I've had a threesome. I don't really know what the answer is. Maybe I'm shit in bed and that's why most guys don't want to meet regularly. Its possible.
Everyone who is reliable for regular meets lives over an hour away. I've almost given up looking now.
Anyway, I've been absolutely no help but I can tell you that you aren't alone.
Shit in bed?! Don't be silly. Remember, everyone on Fab's a shagging maestro. You obviously didn't get that memo."
Oh, right! Sorry, there's totally something wrong with them, then, because I'm awesome in bed. ![](/icons/s/cool.gif) |
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If you're particular about who you meet from here, then the chances of meeting up with people that tick ALL your boxes are pretty remote. In addition to the geography, there are a many other variables to weigh up - not least (particularly with new users) that the people are actually genuine, and not merely getting off on the idea; And then there's the initial attraction, complimentary interests / desires (sexual and otherwise), chemistry and if the other party is actually looking for more than a one off.
I find it's always best to be up front from the start, and let the other people know what you're looking for. For the above reasons (and possibly me being an old git too ha ha), my meetings from here are few and far between.
My introduction to mmf fun was with a couple I actually met through my work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe the guys who are looking for regular meets / FWB prefer that type of scenario to be with a single woman as opposed to one half of a couple..."
Yes, I think this is the case with many guys. But when we lived in Leeds it wasn't that hard finding guys who wanted a semi-regular thing. So I think there are guys out there who are happy to meet couples in this way. It's just hard - like everything else I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love a regular couple but sort of scared it would fall into the relationship, clingy stage. Ive heard it happens when jealousy jumps up because either the couple want to start meeting a different set of select men or even when the single man can't meet because of other commitments. Starts getting awkward which no-one really wants.
For many being single is a choice because we dont want that other life. |
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I am regular, reliable, and enjoy FWB with couples on a regular basis.
I am always punctual, polite, smart, and ready to play.
Couples know that they can trust me to not mess them about.
They know that with me they will enjoy themselves and have a great meet.
And all they have to do is send me a message, and I respond.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We play in clubs, which is really great for one off fucks with strangers, but some of the single guys we have hit it off with have become "regulars" for threesomes, foursomes and moresomes. Perhaps that is the easiest solution to finding a regular. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why some guys just want to fuck once and move on. When I'm onto a good thing sexually, I want to revisit as often as possible! Sex gets better the more you're with someone, as you learn each other's kinks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single guy I would much prefer having a regular/fwb relationship but only with a single lady. The idea of meeting couples even on regular basis makes me feel uncomfortable.
It's a bit like walking into someone's organised life. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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I'm looking for one, two possibly 3 couples that I could meet regularly - like the OP, I'm not after one offs.
Really struggling to find anything regular (truth be told, I'm just struggling to find anything). I do understand though, that as a single guy I'd find it hard but I'm surprised that couples have the same problem. Maybe I should move closer to the OP!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we're extremely lucky here as we prefer regular play partners and the guys we play with seem to want the same too. It's not always a weekly thing but generally see the same guys over and over again as it takes all the hassle out. I think this is where socials come in and you can find out what they are after from the start. |
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We have the same problem, I suppose if a guy is single (never had a single females just doesn't happen)then he has his life, yes more trust comes with more visits but alot of guys are playing the numbers game, some better than others. We are lucky in a sense as we have a guy we have known for 5 years but he lives the other end of the UK so meets are once every 8-12 weeks but they are full on |
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"Seems to be proving quite difficult.
While we have a couple of guy's who Jools plays with regularly, we are really finding it difficult to find guy's who are not after one off fucks.
Not wanting a new guy every time, would prefer to meet same guy's but not same guy every time.
Coz that's getting into relationship territory.
Does the idea of meeting people regularly put people off?
Are guy's just looking to shag once then move onto the next one?
Obviously this applies to women but as it's men we are looking for....
Or is it something we are doing, looks or?
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There's loads. You just haven't found any you like. ![](/icons/s/razz.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's kind of obvious really isn't it. When couples say they can't find a regular guy they mean a regular HOT guy. Trouble with hot guys is that they have plenty of opportunities so don't feel they need to restrict themself to the same dish over and over again. Couples probably get lots of guys interested in being regular participants but they don't meet the standard they want.
In case anyone thinks I'm just bitter having been rejected by couples, read my profile. I'm really not interested in couples so don't message me. If I decide I want one I'll come and find you...lol |
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" when we lived in Leeds it wasn't that hard finding guys who wanted a semi-regular thing. "
I live in Leeds. Fab says I am 15 minutes from you. I can't believe that distance is putting meets off
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you meaning a regular and reliable guy who wants to keep coming back to you and not.meet anyone else? Or someone who likes.coming back to you but you have to share with other ladies? |
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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago
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I have struggled for repeat meets, on a couple of occasions I've been promised another meet, exchanged messages to arrange it, then it's all off. Think it's the kid in the candy shop syndrome, and whoever you are, sooner or later, there's always someone on fab that ticks more boxes.
Much prefer regular meets, both with ladies and couples. You learn what they like. |
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I prefer regular meets to fcuk and run, things should get better as you get to know your playmates.
I'm shocked that some of the couples and single women are struggling to finding someone regular and reliable. Keep looking there's lots of us around, distance should never be a problem, I love an adventure ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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You're definitely not alone OP.
Had one couple who lived next street from mine when I was in Birmingham. We went to normal clubs most Saturdays as we both stayed in city centre and sometimes I bring a friend then back to theirs as they have no kids yet.
It was so fun and memorable that we didn't even go swinging clubs anymore but seems like people in the north aren't that outgoing or worry too much about life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately my regular fwb lovely guy he was became too fond of me and i ended it as he was looking for much much more.
I don't want him back but I want a clone of.him ha ha! |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
This is what some guys don't get when they think ladies and couples have it easy because there's loads of guys... If none of those are what you seek no matter the number it's no help..
I say it often..
The more niche your requirements the longer you'll need to search...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is what some guys don't get when they think ladies and couples have it easy because there's loads of guys... If none of those are what you seek no matter the number it's no help..
I say it often..
The more niche your requirements the longer you'll need to search...
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"This is what some guys don't get when they think ladies and couples have it easy because there's loads of guys... If none of those are what you seek no matter the number it's no help..
I say it often..
The more niche your requirements the longer you'll need to search...
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I agree. they just have to be more pro-active in their search. I find the people who tend to moan the most are the ones who wait to be approached instead of actively seeking what they desire. With the amount of guys on this site, they should be able to find at least one. ![](/icons/s/razz.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's reassuring to see that it is not just single males that have problems trying to find what they are looking for on FAB.
I would always rather a friends with benefits situation and regular meets as you build a connection with people. This means as you get to know each other and the inhibitions are lost you all get more excitement from each meet.
If there are any couples from the North West who like the look of my profile and believe that we would be a mutual match it would be great to hear from you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is what some guys don't get when they think ladies and couples have it easy because there's loads of guys... If none of those are what you seek no matter the number it's no help..
I say it often..
The more niche your requirements the longer you'll need to search...
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Behave...lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is what some guys don't get when they think ladies and couples have it easy because there's loads of guys... If none of those are what you seek no matter the number it's no help..
I say it often..
The more niche your requirements the longer you'll need to search...
I agree. they just have to be more pro-active in their search. I find the people who tend to moan the most are the ones who wait to be approached instead of actively seeking what they desire. With the amount of guys on this site, they should be able to find at least one. "
It's like a school disco, everybody stood at the edges waiting for everybody else to make the first move. ![](/icons/s/cool.gif) |
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"Unfortunately my regular fwb lovely guy he was became too fond of me and i ended it as he was looking for much much more.
I don't want him back but I want a clone of.him ha ha!"
Should have bought one of those clone a willy kits ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"This is what some guys don't get when they think ladies and couples have it easy because there's loads of guys... If none of those are what you seek no matter the number it's no help..
I say it often..
The more niche your requirements the longer you'll need to search...
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not really fella in my experience its the opposite to what your saying as long as your the real thing in your niche demographic the more choice you have because your the real deal in a small pond with limited choices but with plenty of bullshiters trying to pull the wall over peoples eyes means you stand out .
so if your polite reasonably fit reasonably good looking respectful intelligent reasonably funny and the real deal you will have plenty of offers and choices . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thanks for all the feedback and nice comments regarding our profile.
its interesting reading that others are in a similar position to ourselves.
ultimately we are just looking to add regular reliable fuck buddies to our friends list.
guys or girls who are not looking for a meaningful relationship, but regular no strings fun. but someone who we can both trust also mr feels comfortable enough for jools to meet alone once trust has been built.
feel free to contact us if your close enough for it to be a realistic option.
(also fems ,we cannot seem to find fems at all)
many thanks again for all the nice comments.
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By *ymph84Woman
over a year ago
durham |
I have trouble finding ladies that want a regular arrangement or a one off arrangement.
Have had regular male playmates off here in the past on my old account and it worked well. Not looking for guys atm as have a guy that meets my needs |
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over a year ago
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I never usually reply in forums but as i have been looking for one regular fwb for over a year i find the biggest problem is that those single men who say they are looking for someone regular on these forums never state that in their profiles..when i actually look it always comes across as though they want everyone and everything..people message me saying they are looking for same and they clearly arent..they are playing the numbers game..i have become much too jaded now ![](/icons/s/neutral.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never usually reply in forums but as i have been looking for one regular fwb for over a year i find the biggest problem is that those single men who say they are looking for someone regular on these forums never state that in their profiles..when i actually look it always comes across as though they want everyone and everything..people message me saying they are looking for same and they clearly arent..they are playing the numbers game..i have become much too jaded now "
It's really frustrating isn't it?
A couple of months ago I posted a thread titled.
The thrill is in the chase.
And it seems that this is pretty much the case.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never usually reply in forums but as i have been looking for one regular fwb for over a year i find the biggest problem is that those single men who say they are looking for someone regular on these forums never state that in their profiles..when i actually look it always comes across as though they want everyone and everything..people message me saying they are looking for same and they clearly arent..they are playing the numbers game..i have become much too jaded now
It's really frustrating isn't it?
A couple of months ago I posted a thread titled.
The thrill is in the chase.
And it seems that this is pretty much the case.
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The chase is fun, but a regular couple.... I'd be extremely happy with!
I suppose its difficult for everyone finding the right people? |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"This is what some guys don't get when they think ladies and couples have it easy because there's loads of guys... If none of those are what you seek no matter the number it's no help..
I say it often..
The more niche your requirements the longer you'll need to search...
not really fella in my experience its the opposite to what your saying as long as your the real thing in your niche demographic the more choice you have because your the real deal in a small pond with limited choices but with plenty of bullshiters trying to pull the wall over peoples eyes means you stand out .
so if your polite reasonably fit reasonably good looking respectful intelligent reasonably funny and the real deal you will have plenty of offers and choices ."
Which part did I get wrong ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems to be proving quite difficult.
While we have a couple of guy's who Jools plays with regularly, we are really finding it difficult to find guy's who are not after one off fucks.
Not wanting a new guy every time, would prefer to meet same guy's but not same guy every time.
Coz that's getting into relationship territory.
Does the idea of meeting people regularly put people off?
Are guy's just looking to shag once then move onto the next one?
Obviously this applies to women but as it's men we are looking for....
Or is it something we are doing, looks or?
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Personally there is nothing i can see wrong with your mrs... Very hot body. Mens mindsets are different from womens... However and i speak from experience regular sex with a friend becomes better... Because wham bams dont work for me and i enjoy trying many different positions and scemarios that you cannot possibly do in one sitting... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They do exist and luckily I've been fortunate.
Your profile is great, well wrote and lovely pictures.
Men down south must be mad not to take you up on the offer of a regular friendship with you.
Good luck ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I'm defiantly not against one off meets but I would much rather have a regular/ semi regular thing with a woman or couple.
The sex and chemistry gets better with time. You start to learn someone/ people's likes and dislikes and can constantly improve your experience. Why wouldn't you want that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh this is the single girls nightmare. Speaking as someone who had a single fem profile I would say the majority of single guys are not so much swingers but are after sex. Usually only meeting once or twice. I found recommendations are good. Look on couples profiles. See if they have several veris from a guy or ask. I was lucky and managed to find some good friends. And then a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never usually reply in forums but as i have been looking for one regular fwb for over a year i find the biggest problem is that those single men who say they are looking for someone regular on these forums never state that in their profiles..when i actually look it always comes across as though they want everyone and everything..people message me saying they are looking for same and they clearly arent..they are playing the numbers game..i have become much too jaded now
It's really frustrating isn't it?
A couple of months ago I posted a thread titled.
The thrill is in the chase.
And it seems that this is pretty much the case.
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I do think the thrill of the chase seems to be a factor when looking for a regular guy. Does it apply the other way around, I'm not so sure it does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never usually reply in forums but as i have been looking for one regular fwb for over a year i find the biggest problem is that those single men who say they are looking for someone regular on these forums never state that in their profiles..when i actually look it always comes across as though they want everyone and everything..people message me saying they are looking for same and they clearly arent..they are playing the numbers game..i have become much too jaded now
It's really frustrating isn't it?
A couple of months ago I posted a thread titled.
The thrill is in the chase.
And it seems that this is pretty much the case.
I do think the thrill of the chase seems to be a factor when looking for a regular guy. Does it apply the other way around, I'm not so sure it does."
I would disagree, there's a lot of fun to be had during the chase.
Oh and reliable guy here looking for regular fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never usually reply in forums but as i have been looking for one regular fwb for over a year i find the biggest problem is that those single men who say they are looking for someone regular on these forums never state that in their profiles..when i actually look it always comes across as though they want everyone and everything..people message me saying they are looking for same and they clearly arent..they are playing the numbers game..i have become much too jaded now
It's really frustrating isn't it?
A couple of months ago I posted a thread titled.
The thrill is in the chase.
And it seems that this is pretty much the case.
I do think the thrill of the chase seems to be a factor when looking for a regular guy. Does it apply the other way around, I'm not so sure it does.
I would disagree, there's a lot of fun to be had during the chase.
Oh and reliable guy here looking for regular fun"
Don't get me wrong I like the thrill of the chase too but I also like something regular. I get the general impression men are more about the chase than women are.
Nothing wrong with that but it probably helps to explain why there are many a thread about struggling to find a FB / FWB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes often the thrill of the chase is more fun. And that's coming from both of us.
When we first got into this, it was rare for people to discuss FWB/FB and regular meets, one ofs were the order of the game. So then regular meets were a nice bonus.
We just think having such a intense interest in regular meets from the begin can be of putting.
Don't get us wrong, regular meets are the best in so many ways. |
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over a year ago
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"Well, from my perspective it's the other way round. I never seem to meet any couples who want a fb relationship. "
Same here, ive been searching for a semi regular couple for mmf play for ages now, absolutely no chance here it seems. ![](/icons/s/rolleyes.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm thinking that having another man in the equation could be the problem (although I know men who do meet couples regularly). I have a lot of the men I've met from here want to keep meeting, some for a couple of years on and off.
It could also be that I don't have a particular taste in men (some people call that not being picky).
I do have a huge pond to fish in though. |
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By *az1Man
over a year ago
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Hi I'm looking for a couple or single lady for regular meets. I've been in this scene and the swinging lifestyle for a while now so am quite experienced and got plenty of ideas, some of which I've put on my profile if anyone would like to read x |
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over a year ago
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"Well, from my perspective it's the other way round. I never seem to meet any couples who want a fb relationship.
Same here, ive been searching for a semi regular couple for mmf play for ages now, absolutely no chance here it seems. "
I found it was difficult to find a couple where I was attracted to both, and vice versa, so I stopped looking. |
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over a year ago
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"I never usually reply in forums but as i have been looking for one regular fwb for over a year i find the biggest problem is that those single men who say they are looking for someone regular on these forums never state that in their profiles..when i actually look it always comes across as though they want everyone and everything..people message me saying they are looking for same and they clearly arent..they are playing the numbers game..i have become much too jaded now
It's really frustrating isn't it?
A couple of months ago I posted a thread titled.
The thrill is in the chase.
And it seems that this is pretty much the case.
I do think the thrill of the chase seems to be a factor when looking for a regular guy. Does it apply the other way around, I'm not so sure it does.
I would disagree, there's a lot of fun to be had during the chase.
Oh and reliable guy here looking for regular fun
Don't get me wrong I like the thrill of the chase too but I also like something regular. I get the general impression men are more about the chase than women are.
Nothing wrong with that but it probably helps to explain why there are many a thread about struggling to find a FB / FWB."
I completely agree with this. It applies to vanilla dating too... |
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