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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ? "
well as most clinics now dont provide all clears just message you if there is a problem.. it would be a bit hard.. but it still doesn't mean anything except that they were tested.
I will not use condoms for oral but insist for full sex. |
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"Within the last week. That's why we have socials see if we want to meet then have a check up and meet again "
I cant see many wanting to meet like this plus its a pretty pointless as would have to go without sex for 2-3 months after a negative test and have another to actually be a clear test |
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"I've never asked about tests and never will. A clear test doesn't prove anything. STI's can take time to show up on tests.
This goes for me too.
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Same. It could get so bad if you were a bit ocd about it.
When was the last time you were checked?
How many people you slept with?
Was it fem or couples?
Etc etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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We are both checked once a month and any people we meet ask a question we are open and honest about it. If we had ever caught anything then it would stop till at least 2 clear checks had come back before we played again |
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"Within the last week. That's why we have socials see if we want to meet then have a check up and meet again "
You obviously don't play much then unless of course all your partners have sex every week and get tested every week.
Just out of interest when was the last time you two were tested? |
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"Within the last week. That's why we have socials see if we want to meet then have a check up and meet again "
I know what you're thinking but in the meantime they may have met someone and caught something from them. It only takes one time.
Some people seem to think the only people that catch anything are those having bareback gangbangs. Everyone that has sexual contact is at risk. Do what you feel is right for you.  |
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"We are both checked once a month and any people we meet ask a question we are open and honest about it. If we had ever caught anything then it would stop till at least 2 clear checks had come back before we played again "
You'll be waiting a long time for 2 clear checks from some things. So checking every month equates to seeing a result no longer than a week? |
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours."
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well. |
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"We are both checked once a month and any people we meet ask a question we are open and honest about it. If we had ever caught anything then it would stop till at least 2 clear checks had come back before we played again "
we get tested every 4-6 weeks but play with a few people most weeks... we get tested so we know and to be honest think if we caught something we woukd hang up our swinging shoes.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours."
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By (user no longer on site)
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I generally ask people if they get tested regularly. I wouldn't expect them to be exclusive to me after getting tested, and exclusivity is the only way to be vaguely sure that they might not have anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I generally ask people if they get tested regularly. I wouldn't expect them to be exclusive to me after getting tested, and exclusivity is the only way to be vaguely sure that they might not have anything."
we don't ask as people lie.. we have met people that when you talk to them realise they haven't been near a clinic recently just from the way they explain why they hate it. Like a guy told us how he hated the umbrella thing they stick down your cock... they haven't done that in a very very long time  so simply we keep ourselves tested and play safer x ( condoms for penetrative sex ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Within the last week. That's why we have socials see if we want to meet then have a check up and meet again "
Although you would minimise the risk this way, I assume you know you don't eliminate the risk?
And no, we don't expect anyone to provide health check ups to us so that we will play. Never asked others about it yet either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've never asked about tests and never will. A clear test doesn't prove anything. STI's can take time to show up on tests. "
they could have a clear test on the monday and pick something up by the weekend when they meet you
All a sti ceri proves is that they were clean 'on the day of testing' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well."
The point is that she wouldn't get tested purely on the request of a potential meet. Neither would I. When I'm active in swinging ( not meeting at the moment), I'm very conscientious of my sexual health. Protect myself the best I can, and get regular testing. But at the end of the day, I do it for myself. Not for someone else, as my sexual is MY issue. |
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well.
The point is that she wouldn't get tested purely on the request of a potential meet. Neither would I. When I'm active in swinging ( not meeting at the moment), I'm very conscientious of my sexual health. Protect myself the best I can, and get regular testing. But at the end of the day, I do it for myself. Not for someone else, as my sexual is MY issue. "
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well."
But if my sexual health was that much of an issue i needed to get checked out before you touched me id suggest you looked for somebody else |
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well."
You will NEVER play with me so MY sexual health is non of your business. It is MY business and MY issue not some random at the other end of the country. Just because we are on a swingers site what gives anyone the right to tell someone to go and get tested before they play? Get real ffs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well."
I don't agree, a recent result means nothing as many have said.
Anyone worried about sti's should treat anyone they meet as if they could potentially have something and protect themselves accordingly.
You have to take responsibility for yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Do you ask if they have abstained from sexual contact for six months and had two three monthly all clears before you play with them op?
Do you offer the same? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ? "
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results. "
I'm not sure any clinics do - usually it is part of your smear test. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results. "
And there are many different strains, some cause genital warts in some people and not in others, some cause cell changes that may or may not lead to cervical cancer in some women and some don't.
The majority of women, if not all, have had one or more strains in their lifetime if sexually active, you can treat the warts but there is no treatment for the virus itself, the bodys immune system deals with it over time, which may be weeks, months, or years.
If a man's fucked a woman with it he's able to pass it on, he may develop warts, but also may not.
Only way to be safe is to be celibate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results.
I'm not sure any clinics do - usually it is part of your smear test."
Ours does |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results.
And there are many different strains, some cause genital warts in some people and not in others, some cause cell changes that may or may not lead to cervical cancer in some women and some don't.
The majority of women, if not all, have had one or more strains in their lifetime if sexually active, you can treat the warts but there is no treatment for the virus itself, the bodys immune system deals with it over time, which may be weeks, months, or years.
If a man's fucked a woman with it he's able to pass it on, he may develop warts, but also may not.
Only way to be safe is to be celibate "
Oh and forgot to add, it can also be passed on via oral sex and is sometimes found as a cause of throat cancer too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Within the last week. That's why we have socials see if we want to meet then have a check up and meet again
You obviously don't play much then unless of course all your partners have sex every week and get tested every week.
Just out of interest when was the last time you two were tested?"
Tested Friday going to a party at the end of the week |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Within the last week. That's why we have socials see if we want to meet then have a check up and meet again
You obviously don't play much then unless of course all your partners have sex every week and get tested every week.
Just out of interest when was the last time you two were tested?
Tested Friday going to a party at the end of the week"
And you abstained from sex with each other and other people for several months beforehand? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results.
And there are many different strains, some cause genital warts in some people and not in others, some cause cell changes that may or may not lead to cervical cancer in some women and some don't.
The majority of women, if not all, have had one or more strains in their lifetime if sexually active, you can treat the warts but there is no treatment for the virus itself, the bodys immune system deals with it over time, which may be weeks, months, or years.
If a man's fucked a woman with it he's able to pass it on, he may develop warts, but also may not.
Only way to be safe is to be celibate
Oh and forgot to add, it can also be passed on via oral sex and is sometimes found as a cause of throat cancer too.
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Celibacy it is then  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results.
I'm not sure any clinics do - usually it is part of your smear test.
Ours does"
We phoned a few before finding one that does the hpv check and only use that one for the last 6 years |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"wow what a killer,hi would you like to play,yes lets nip to the docs 1st???"
i had something like this on my POF profile, about going the GUM clinic for a date if we decided the relationship was going to get sexual. 
was being serious though as many guys on there expect bareback and never get checked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
My clinic doesn't test for hpv. They also take two weeks to get the results.
I'm not sure any clinics do - usually it is part of your smear test.
Ours does
We phoned a few before finding one that does the hpv check and only use that one for the last 6 years"
Research suggests that around 75% of sexually active individuals have some form of HPV - and most of them don't even know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are both checked once a month and any people we meet ask a question we are open and honest about it. If we had ever caught anything then it would stop till at least 2 clear checks had come back before we played again "
you do know you can't get rid of hiv
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By (user no longer on site)
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How do you guys get checked once a month?
Reading Clinic told me you have to wait 6 weeks between checks and its a 2 week wait for the results?
This is something to do with gestation times between the checks apparently.
I hear people say they get the results the same day I would lo e to know where I can get that service it would be so much better as that 2 week wait is a killer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you guys get checked once a month?
Reading Clinic told me you have to wait 6 weeks between checks and its a 2 week wait for the results?
This is something to do with gestation times between the checks apparently.
I hear people say they get the results the same day I would lo e to know where I can get that service it would be so much better as that 2 week wait is a killer"
Some clinics give you the results of some tests on the same day. Usually the big city clinics, and the clinics aimed at gay men. Some of the clinics do both a 'quick' HIV test and also do a longer one as well. |
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over a year ago
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"We are both checked once a month and any people we meet ask a question we are open and honest about it. If we had ever caught anything then it would stop till at least 2 clear checks had come back before we played again "
but like previously said u wood av to go months without sex, so u suggesting this wood be a nightmare! I get checked once every couple of months, cause with ladies if ur on u can't get checked, so wood av to wait untill after u ed finished, also if uve been with a bi guy u av to go to a nurse which for me means making an appointment, an if uve ad sex oversea, or a guy from overseas! So if u was in my area I wood concider a social, but I offten go to clubs as the only pain relif is hot tubs ( but not always play) so how wood u get over that situation!???  |
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Some clinics give you the results of some tests on the same day. Usually the big city clinics, and the clinics aimed at gay men. Some of the clinics do both a 'quick' HIV test and also do a longer one as well."
Is there a way of finding out which clinics give same day results? |
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"We are both checked once a month and any people we meet ask a question we are open and honest about it. If we had ever caught anything then it would stop till at least 2 clear checks had come back before we played again you do know you can't get rid of hiv "
Not strictly true. I know a married couple in Manchester where one guy tested positive. The guy he then married is negative.
He's been treated and now tests negative and as such is no longer on medication.
They can't say he's cured because it's no officially curable but he's still testing negative.
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Having read the thread is will say that I will look after myself as best I can in this world.
Everyone else can do the same.
I will not though be trying to:-
evidence myself:
wait for approval:
follow someone's demands
Just to meet!
OP I hope you enjoy the site
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Some clinics give you the results of some tests on the same day. Usually the big city clinics, and the clinics aimed at gay men. Some of the clinics do both a 'quick' HIV test and also do a longer one as well.
Is there a way of finding out which clinics give same day results?"
Normally private clinics do not many nhs ones ours is five days |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some clinics give you the results of some tests on the same day. Usually the big city clinics, and the clinics aimed at gay men. Some of the clinics do both a 'quick' HIV test and also do a longer one as well.
Is there a way of finding out which clinics give same day results?"
Call them and ask. |
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"We are both checked once a month and any people we meet ask a question we are open and honest about it. If we had ever caught anything then it would stop till at least 2 clear checks had come back before we played again
but like previously said u wood av to go months without sex, so u suggesting this wood be a nightmare! I get checked once every couple of months, cause with ladies if ur on u can't get checked, so wood av to wait untill after u ed finished, also if uve been with a bi guy u av to go to a nurse which for me means making an appointment, an if uve ad sex oversea, or a guy from overseas! So if u was in my area I wood concider a social, but I offten go to clubs as the only pain relif is hot tubs ( but not always play) so how wood u get over that situation!??? "
We don't go in hot tubs |
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"How do you guys get checked once a month?
Reading Clinic told me you have to wait 6 weeks between checks and its a 2 week wait for the results?
This is something to do with gestation times between the checks apparently.
I hear people say they get the results the same day I would lo e to know where I can get that service it would be so much better as that 2 week wait is a killer
Some clinics give you the results of some tests on the same day. Usually the big city clinics, and the clinics aimed at gay men. Some of the clinics do both a 'quick' HIV test and also do a longer one as well."
My local clinic (which yes caters to a thriving gay community) has two different modes of operation. If you tick you have symptoms they will take your specimens and check them on the spot at their premises. If you test positive they will send you off with the needed pills/creams/antibiotics in hand. But if you say you have no symptoms you are put in the slow lane, your specimens get sent to the lab and they text you the (usually negative) results weeks later. I suspect they'd also flag/check on the spot anyone with a "high-risk" history or sex workers etc. It is about containing the spread of infection rather than alleviating personal fears. I am not sure what level of play would justify getting tested every month, it sounds excessive to me. |
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"How do you guys get checked once a month?
Reading Clinic told me you have to wait 6 weeks between checks and its a 2 week wait for the results?
This is something to do with gestation times between the checks apparently.
I hear people say they get the results the same day I would lo e to know where I can get that service it would be so much better as that 2 week wait is a killer
Some clinics give you the results of some tests on the same day. Usually the big city clinics, and the clinics aimed at gay men. Some of the clinics do both a 'quick' HIV test and also do a longer one as well.
My local clinic (which yes caters to a thriving gay community) has two different modes of operation. If you tick you have symptoms they will take your specimens and check them on the spot at their premises. If you test positive they will send you off with the needed pills/creams/antibiotics in hand. But if you say you have no symptoms you are put in the slow lane, your specimens get sent to the lab and they text you the (usually negative) results weeks later. I suspect they'd also flag/check on the spot anyone with a "high-risk" history or sex workers etc. It is about containing the spread of infection rather than alleviating personal fears. I am not sure what level of play would justify getting tested every month, it sounds excessive to me."
apparently my lifestyle... although i was a little more active back then.. and it would be double figures most months for us both. X although to be fair that's still easily done with multiple club visits in a week. |
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well.
You will NEVER play with me so MY sexual health is non of your business. It is MY business and MY issue not some random at the other end of the country. Just because we are on a swingers site what gives anyone the right to tell someone to go and get tested before they play? Get real ffs "
Lady get real. I wasn't asking to fuck you I was making a point that you should be concerned about the sexual health of a prospective partner. Whilst you said on your profile "Safer sex only - condoms and regular testing are non-negotiable." are you now saying different on this post? |
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quite right and hpv has a considerable incubation period , as does hoypeez, as for the others theres no telling how long you can go without detecting non specific urinary tract imbecile |
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By *ooking for bbwsCouple
over a year ago
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well.
You will NEVER play with me so MY sexual health is non of your business. It is MY business and MY issue not some random at the other end of the country. Just because we are on a swingers site what gives anyone the right to tell someone to go and get tested before they play? Get real ffs
Lady get real. I wasn't asking to fuck you I was making a point that you should be concerned about the sexual health of a prospective partner. Whilst you said on your profile "Safer sex only - condoms and regular testing are non-negotiable." are you now saying different on this post?"
It's each to there own! We should all look after ourselves, yes u can get someone to get tested but not to stop avin sex, as above u need to wait up to two weeks in some gum! The original statement is was ridiculous, I can get tested but can u say to people to stay away from sex! That's the main reason surely??!!!! |
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As a couple who are looking after our own sexual health we get tested regularly. We also always play safe with others by using condoms ( although we do not use them with each other). We are all responsible for our own sexual health but would definitely not play with others who didn't adhere to having protected sex with us or others
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well."
Mine wouldn't be yours if you wanted me to go to the clinic and get tested before I met you, I would tell you to take a hike. If it worries you that much don't play. X |
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well.
You will NEVER play with me so MY sexual health is non of your business. It is MY business and MY issue not some random at the other end of the country. Just because we are on a swingers site what gives anyone the right to tell someone to go and get tested before they play? Get real ffs
Lady get real. I wasn't asking to fuck you I was making a point that you should be concerned about the sexual health of a prospective partner. Whilst you said on your profile "Safer sex only - condoms and regular testing are non-negotiable." are you now saying different on this post?"
I don't march them to the GUM clinic demanding that they be tested before I play with them. I trust people to be responsible for themselves. Where do you get off with thinking you are my sexual health guardian? I don't know you and have never spoken to you so back the fuck off about MY health.
No wonder people stay away from the forums. |
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"Condoms for oral and sex
Insist. Otherwise no play"
blowjobs aint all that anyhow...add a condom in to that and i'd really rather not. sure lots won't mind though. |
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"Within the last week. That's why we have socials see if we want to meet then have a check up and meet again
You obviously don't play much then unless of course all your partners have sex every week and get tested every week.
Just out of interest when was the last time you two were tested?
Tested Friday going to a party at the end of the week"
What's that a "you show me your results, I,'ll show you mine"
party? |
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"I get tested regularly and play safer but I wouldn't just get tested to specifically play with someone. My sexual health is my issue not yours.
Actually your sexual health IS my issue if I was playing with you and mine should be yours as well.
You will NEVER play with me so MY sexual health is non of your business. It is MY business and MY issue not some random at the other end of the country. Just because we are on a swingers site what gives anyone the right to tell someone to go and get tested before they play? Get real ffs
Lady get real. I wasn't asking to fuck you I was making a point that you should be concerned about the sexual health of a prospective partner. Whilst you said on your profile "Safer sex only - condoms and regular testing are non-negotiable." are you now saying different on this post?
I don't march them to the GUM clinic demanding that they be tested before I play with them. I trust people to be responsible for themselves. Where do you get off with thinking you are my sexual health guardian? I don't know you and have never spoken to you so back the fuck off about MY health.
No wonder people stay away from the forums. "
Well said
We 'should' be concerned about the sexual health of a prospective partner should we ?
Well that puts paid to parties , clubs , dogging , random last minute meets , and pretty much anything other than a sexual relationship with someone other than a trusted partner .
And simply put , that isn't swinging in my book ....
Let others look after their own health , and we will look after ours . There is no way we would be checking out other people's records . |
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ? "
the clinic i visit every two months use a text service if there is an issue, if no issue then no notification, plus its too easy to lie, i could be lying now saying i visit a clinic for a check up every two months.
I don't think you can ever be 100% with anyone or anything, but hey you could get hit by a car tomorrow!
FYI i'm not lying i visit the Princess Royal clinic in Hudds every two months if any one wants a social next time lol |
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
the clinic i visit every two months use a text service if there is an issue, if no issue then no notification, plus its too easy to lie, i could be lying now saying i visit a clinic for a check up every two months.
I don't think you can ever be 100% with anyone or anything, but hey you could get hit by a car tomorrow!
FYI i'm not lying i visit the Princess Royal clinic in Hudds every two months if any one wants a social next time lol"
dont laugh.. we have had a day out that included a trip to the clinic together, a meal and then a club visit. Where we were all investigating the dental dams they gave me ... which id never use lol but was funny playing with as so many hadnt seen one x |
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"I've never asked about tests and never will. A clear test doesn't prove anything. STI's can take time to show up on tests. "
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"Do you do a fanny and cock inspection before playing.
I.e.
Check the vagina for signs of recent use
Inspect cock
Look in throats for cock skids?"
 take everything with a pinch of salt. If people went to the limits they're claiming, they'd be wearing full haz mat suits and I've not seen a picture of that on the most fabbed.
I'm all for safer sex, but gee whizz some of these posters sound right barrels of laugh...not, and too ocd for me.
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"How many on here don't play until you have seen a recent clear status from the other person or couple ?
We don't because they simple fact is condoms don't stop you getting a sti oral sex you can still get one and if a lady gets the hpv virus it can lead to cancer too
So how many do then ?
the clinic i visit every two months use a text service if there is an issue, if no issue then no notification, plus its too easy to lie, i could be lying now saying i visit a clinic for a check up every two months.
I don't think you can ever be 100% with anyone or anything, but hey you could get hit by a car tomorrow!
FYI i'm not lying i visit the Princess Royal clinic in Hudds every two months if any one wants a social next time lol dont laugh.. we have had a day out that included a trip to the clinic together, a meal and then a club visit. Where we were all investigating the dental dams they gave me ... which id never use lol but was funny playing with as so many hadnt seen one x "
And who says romance is dead xx |
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"OP you say you don't go in hot tubs. Do you go in swimming pools?
Sally"
I bet they don't. You can catch the AIDS from them dastardly hot tubs didn't you know? |
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It all comes down to personal risk. In the swinging world, risks are taken during every meet - regardless of previous test results - and it's up to the individual what level of risk they take.
As has been said, people should treat any partner as if they have something and take precautions that feel right for them. It's all about taking ownership for your own sexual health.
In my view, oral should be unprotected - it's really not much fun otherwise, and penetrative sex should be with condoms.
At the end of the day, there is very little that is untreatable if the worst-case scenario plays out so risks with oral sex, or skin-to-skin non penetrative contact is something I am willing to take. Not everyone is the same of course.
It's always nice to know people take care of their sexual health by being checked, especially as latest research shows that even with HIV, someone who is positive but on effective treatment can't pass it on and therefore someone who doesn't get tested at all is MORE risky than someone positive, but at the end of the day it's not something I ever really ask, and I think if someone wanted a full health screen before playing with me then it would be a total mood killer.
I work in an office where there are million strains of bacteria and viruses doing the rounds at any given time. If I get sick with something I get treated and accept the risk. If we all lived in a bubble and took zero risks then we would be hermits and completely celibate. That doesn't sound much fun to me! |
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