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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So i am in a divorce situation... Moving out ... Is it wrong to feel a relief that i dont have to keep fab a secret anymore and can be myself again after 11 years ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it is wrong to feel some contentment that you can now persue fab in your own time and not hide. It would surprise me that in going through a divorce that you haven't other more significant things on your mind..loss..where to live...and what the hell next..each to their own tho..! I wish you well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The first couple of years after my divorce were fun and liberating.
Its now 7 years on and I'm just lonely.
Good luck "
very honest and open reply.
I'm sure many feel the same.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So i am in a divorce situation... Moving out ... Is it wrong to feel a relief that i dont have to keep fab a secret anymore and can be myself again after 11 years ??"
Am I being an idiot - your profile says you are 21???
To answer your question, no it's not wrong, leaving an unhappy relationship will bring a whole bunch of feelings with it; none of them wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would say feeling a sense of relief is natural and healthy in that situation. To remain healthy don't put yourself in a situration where you feel you can't be yourself.  |
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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"So i am in a divorce situation... Moving out ... Is it wrong to feel a relief that i dont have to keep fab a secret anymore and can be myself again after 11 years ??"
Perhaps its time to look at yourself and the situation..if you were hiding fabs from your wife and this was a reason or partly to blame on the divorce then think long and hard before bringingfabs into your next relationship. ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So i am in a divorce situation... Moving out ... Is it wrong to feel a relief that i dont have to keep fab a secret anymore and can be myself again after 11 years ??
Am I being an idiot - your profile says you are 21???
To answer your question, no it's not wrong, leaving an unhappy relationship will bring a whole bunch of feelings with it; none of them wrong "
No i am 39 ! Not 21.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been divorced 11 years. And not looked back since. Every so often the ex even see's me for sex and Then fucks off back to her husband. As a single parent it can be hard at times. Due to babby sitters letting you down at the last minute. Live life to the max. You only live once! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So i am in a divorce situation... Moving out ... Is it wrong to feel a relief that i dont have to keep fab a secret anymore and can be myself again after 11 years ??
Am I being an idiot - your profile says you are 21???
To answer your question, no it's not wrong, leaving an unhappy relationship will bring a whole bunch of feelings with it; none of them wrong
No i am 39 ! Not 21...."
So why lie on your profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The first couple of years after my divorce were fun and liberating.
Its now 7 years on and I'm just lonely.
Good luck "
I'm 5 years on and feeling that way xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So i am in a divorce situation... Moving out ... Is it wrong to feel a relief that i dont have to keep fab a secret anymore and can be myself again after 11 years ??"
Congratulations. Freedom is liberating isn't it! I came out of a sexually repressive, horrendous marriage almost a year ago. I didn't realize until very recently how 'dead' my sexuality was. It has since exploded  |
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"I feel trapped if I walk I wont see my son again for a long time."
Why not,it's incredibly wrong of a parent to stop their children from seeing the other parent when they split. Even if I was that way inclined which I'm not my kid's wouldn't have allowed that. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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"The first couple of years after my divorce were fun and liberating.
Its now 7 years on and I'm just lonely.
Good luck "
6 years for me. Have done a LOT of catching up sex. I agree, I do miss coming home to someone and waking up next to someone. Hopefully that life partner is somewhere - problem is monogamy is an impossibility for me now. To OP - enjoy it. |
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"I don't think it is wrong to feel some contentment that you can now persue fab in your own time and not hide. It would surprise me that in going through a divorce that you haven't other more significant things on your mind..loss..where to live...and what the hell next..each to their own tho..! I wish you well"
This!
Sex with strangers was the last thing on my mind. Making sure my kids felt loved and secure, making sure my ex knew he could see the kids whenever and I wouldn't move miles away was my priority. Also I felt a sense off loss.
We all have different priorities I guess.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel trapped if I walk I wont see my son again for a long time.
Why wont you see your son...fight for that right, its difficult but...."
its the bullshit threat I get she can disappear quite easily it pisses me off that he is used as a weapon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel trapped if I walk I wont see my son again for a long time.
Why wont you see your son...fight for that right, its difficult but....its the bullshit threat I get she can disappear quite easily it pisses me off that he is used as a weapon"
Mine used that on me for six years.
Abusive mentally and physically.
The look on her face when I finally threw her out and told her the kids were staying with me.
The look on her solicitors when I ran out of money and had to represent myself.
The look after that hearing when I wiped the floor with them both.
The satisfaction when I won.
The years of fun and closeness I've enjoyed with my daughters.
It's not easy but it is possible. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thank you to all those with helpful supporting stories... Those who just want to knit pick why it says 21 i changed it when i suspected mrs was looking on the net... So disgusing the main attributes and she overlooks it... As soon as i can i will update my info with all the correct bits and a new user name too... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel trapped if I walk I wont see my son again for a long time.
Why wont you see your son...fight for that right, its difficult but....its the bullshit threat I get she can disappear quite easily it pisses me off that he is used as a weapon
Mine used that on me for six years.
Abusive mentally and physically.
The look on her face when I finally threw her out and told her the kids were staying with me.
The look on her solicitors when I ran out of money and had to represent myself.
The look after that hearing when I wiped the floor with them both.
The satisfaction when I won.
The years of fun and closeness I've enjoyed with my daughters.
It's not easy but it is possible. "
I do know what I have to do but I need to get the timing right so the impact on my son is not as bad as it could be it will tear him apart that I'm not there everyday yet legally I know she cant stop contact and I would rather be a happy weekend dad than a miserable fucker all week its just taking that first step is daunting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good luck to you. Divorce does bring all kinds of different emotions, a sense of relief is totally normal.
Ignore any negative or mindless pointless commments on here, think about your own needs for a while and most of all, have fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I split with my ex in last year, I am nearly divorced- been a long process, the stupid court spelt my name wrong!! I have never nor would I ever stop my ex for seeing our kids. We both have joint custody. Hope it works out for you OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Good luck to you. Divorce does bring all kinds of different emotions, a sense of relief is totally normal.
Ignore any negative or mindless pointless commments on here, think about your own needs for a while and most of all, have fun "
Thank you... Yes my needs cum first now... Lets party like it's 1999 !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good luck to you. Divorce does bring all kinds of different emotions, a sense of relief is totally normal.
Ignore any negative or mindless pointless commments on here, think about your own needs for a while and most of all, have fun
Thank you... Yes my needs cum first now... Lets party like it's 1999 !!"
That's the spirit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel trapped if I walk I wont see my son again for a long time.
Why wont you see your son...fight for that right, its difficult but....its the bullshit threat I get she can disappear quite easily it pisses me off that he is used as a weapon
Mine used that on me for six years.
Abusive mentally and physically.
The look on her face when I finally threw her out and told her the kids were staying with me.
The look on her solicitors when I ran out of money and had to represent myself.
The look after that hearing when I wiped the floor with them both.
The satisfaction when I won.
The years of fun and closeness I've enjoyed with my daughters.
It's not easy but it is possible. "
Well done XXX |
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