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By *rnortholt OP Man
over a year ago
Waveney Valley |
Is it just me, or are there a lot of angry people on the scene?
I know there are a lot of fakes, losers and nutters out there and in here, but isn't it easier to just turn the other way and move on?
So many people, judging from chat and forums, seem to let it all get to them and get terribly angry. That just seems to make, what should be fun, an even less pleasant experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me, or are there a lot of angry people on the scene?
I know there are a lot of fakes, losers and nutters out there and in here, but isn't it easier to just turn the other way and move on?
So many people, judging from chat and forums, seem to let it all get to them and get terribly angry. That just seems to make, what should be fun, an even less pleasant experience."
You are 100% right. I've seen quite a few couples air their dirty laundry in public, argue, drink too much, and generally generally make a nuisance of themselves in swinger clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Shall we start a campaign to bring a bit of humour and general silliness to the forums ?
Jo x"
That's a good idea. I'll spray a bit of laughing gas around....  |
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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had our angry moments born out of frustration with the scene, but we don't air out our dirty laundry.
We might have a whinge to each other in private but we wouldn't create a scene just because we're envious of others having fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere?"
VERY WRONG!
What I have witnessed is a result of the couple not communicating about they can and can't do when they get to a swinger club. Boundaries |
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By *edylogosMan
over a year ago
wolverhampton |
"I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere?
VERY WRONG!
What I have witnessed is a result of the couple not communicating about they can and can't do when they get to a swinger club. Boundaries"
I have never witnessed that, can only go off my experiences this far. However seems like quite the dilemma |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everything in life is about sex, except sex which is about power"
Sex is something we all desire on our own terms, and getting it can be hard. Its hard for men to meet any kind of women in general on here and women find it hard to find the exact kinda guys they need. This makes people frustrated.
The difference with places like Tinder/POF is that there is a level of courtesy that must be maintained as those sites are still rather hush about the sex and pivot themselves on the courting process. Everything is out in the open here which means people are going to expose their sexual frustrations to the world. And there is ALOT of sexual frustration, especially here in the UK. |
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"I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere?"
Mmm doesnt seem much like a fun happy site to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere?
VERY WRONG!
What I have witnessed is a result of the couple not communicating about they can and can't do when they get to a swinger club. Boundaries"
Nope.
Sex is a very, very difficult thing to actually communicate. Everyone talks big game about wanting discreet hotel meets, gangbangs, cuckold experiences...but alot of the time its easier said than done. Your wife telling you how big her bulls cock is may sound good when they're both having sex or when they're watching porn...but in person? It may not work out as worry free as either hoped. Sex is deeply emotional experience no matter how many modernist fools want to deny it. Emotionally compromising activities tend to elicit responses which may not be expected. This is what creates the frustrations for many. |
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""Everything in life is about sex, except sex which is about power"
Sex is something we all desire on our own terms, and getting it can be hard. Its hard for men to meet any kind of women in general on here and women find it hard to find the exact kinda guys they need. This makes people frustrated.
The difference with places like Tinder/POF is that there is a level of courtesy that must be maintained as those sites are still rather hush about the sex and pivot themselves on the courting process. Everything is out in the open here which means people are going to expose their sexual frustrations to the world. And there is ALOT of sexual frustration, especially here in the UK. "
Yes there is a lot of sexual frustration it seems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere?"
There are a lot of single/married blokes on here who are not getting sex and have joined thinking they will find a female willing to provide them exclusive regular sex. I find once I have met someone they think I am their FB and will meet again. That's what I find frustrating as I am looking for fun casual encounters and one offs, not being a cling on in a married man's life or substitute gf..x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere?
VERY WRONG!
What I have witnessed is a result of the couple not communicating about they can and can't do when they get to a swinger club. Boundaries
Nope.
Sex is a very, very difficult thing to actually communicate. Everyone talks big game about wanting discreet hotel meets, gangbangs, cuckold experiences...but alot of the time its easier said than done. Your wife telling you how big her bulls cock is may sound good when they're both having sex or when they're watching porn...but in person? It may not work out as worry free as either hoped. Sex is deeply emotional experience no matter how many modernist fools want to deny it. Emotionally compromising activities tend to elicit responses which may not be expected. This is what creates the frustrations for many."
A lot of truth to that. It's surprising how many couples and singles don't discuss boundaries and expectations before getting into it.
'go with the flow' is something we hear a lot but it sets of alarm bells for us. We're by no means a 'smug couple' - swinging is partly about the fun of risk taking, but you need to do a risk assessment and balance things out. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I think a lot stems from frustration, couples are frustrated because of being inundated by single males who don't get it! Or harass or abuse if they don't get a response
Single males get frustrated as there's so many of them the competition is ridiculous, then you consider the ones I've mentioned before makes it even harder.
Everyone needs to calm down and relax. I swear every other profile has a rant of some descript! I thought this was supposed to be a happy site for like minded people?
I suppose the message got lost somewhere?"
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A lot of forums get very angry and stressy, I don't think the subject matter has much to do with it.
Sit a ton of strangers hidden behind screens and keyboards and get them to talk about knitting and there will be fights within an hour.
As far as trouble in clubs goes, have you been to many popular nightclubs or pubs recently? There are idiots everywhere.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some people who always seem Angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting isn't with you it's with themselves!
I just try to be Happy.....it drives them crazy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of forums get very angry and stressy, I don't think the subject matter has much to do with it.
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Lot of truth here - I'll take Fab over your average Youtube comments thread anyday.
That's not to say there aren't.....issues for some people. I've found swingers tend to be people who are incredibly secure or incredibly insecure as a rule, but I'd take you crazy gits over your average redditor or youtube commentator anyday.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me, or are there a lot of angry people on the scene?
I know there are a lot of fakes, losers and nutters out there and in here, but isn't it easier to just turn the other way and move on?
So many people, judging from chat and forums, seem to let it all get to them and get terribly angry. That just seems to make, what should be fun, an even less pleasant experience."
I agree, there is one particular nutter local to me who continually moans on her status updates, we all get frustrated but if it makes you angry and unhappy don't come on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Everything in life is about sex, except sex which is about power"
Sex is something we all desire on our own terms, and getting it can be hard. Its hard for men to meet any kind of women in general on here and women find it hard to find the exact kinda guys they need. This makes people frustrated.
The difference with places like Tinder/POF is that there is a level of courtesy that must be maintained as those sites are still rather hush about the sex and pivot themselves on the courting process. Everything is out in the open here which means people are going to expose their sexual frustrations to the world. And there is ALOT of sexual frustration, especially here in the UK. "
Very well worded.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me, or are there a lot of angry people on the scene?
I know there are a lot of fakes, losers and nutters out there and in here, but isn't it easier to just turn the other way and move on?
So many people, judging from chat and forums, seem to let it all get to them and get terribly angry. That just seems to make, what should be fun, an even less pleasant experience.
I agree, there is one particular nutter local to me who continually moans on her status updates, we all get frustrated but if it makes you angry and unhappy don't come on here "
We just block people like that. |
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