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"Having a bi fem friendly profile to entice the unicorns may increase your chances."  | |||
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"Having a bi fem friendly profile to entice the unicorns may increase your chances." This! | |||
"Having a bi fem friendly profile to entice the unicorns may increase your chances." We never seek a single female however if one contacted us we would meet, however we've had a few that have contacted us wanting to meet us but all have proven to be fake,so whilst it's a nice to have we don't waste our time or energy seeking a single girl | |||
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"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail "Join the queue. | |||
"You might want to rethink your profile. And realising that we're not the 'holy grail', we're just ordinary people." Exactly | |||
"You might want to rethink your profile. And realising that we're not the 'holy grail', we're just ordinary people." Pretty much this. Hate when people attach some kind of "win" to sex. Besides, I think swinging is something geared more to couples than singles in general. It requires a level of trust and experience. This often ends up ruling inexperienced single dudes looking for a perceived easy shag and single women who will be apprehensive due to the perceived dangers which come with any kind of anonymous sexual liaison. | |||
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"You might want to rethink your profile. And realising that we're not the 'holy grail', we're just ordinary people. Pretty much this. Hate when people attach some kind of "win" to sex. Besides, I think swinging is something geared more to couples than singles in general. It requires a level of trust and experience. This often ends up ruling inexperienced single dudes looking for a perceived easy shag and single women who will be apprehensive due to the perceived dangers which come with any kind of anonymous sexual liaison. " I tried to read your comment, but.... god damn those pics | |||
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"We were using the term "holy grail" simply as a figure of speech. But maybe that's the problem! Maybe were almost trying to hard to find it" Speaking for myself, I find terms like 'holy grail' and 'unicorn' to be a massive turn off. It almost always puts me off communicating further with a couple. What I look for in a m/f couple are things like, a genuinely bisexual woman (definitely *not* bi-curious), a couple who are secure in their relationship and who will ideally be open to meeting me separately in time, no hangup about playing with other men (I want them to be open to playing with men as women, on their own or as a couple), and who are open to activities I want to do as well as what they want to do (I'm not a sex toy for them). | |||
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"Having a bi fem friendly profile to entice the unicorns may increase your chances. We never seek a single female however if one contacted us we would meet, however we've had a few that have contacted us wanting to meet us but all have proven to be fake,so whilst it's a nice to have we don't waste our time or energy seeking a single girl " | |||
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"You might want to rethink your profile. And realising that we're not the 'holy grail', we're just ordinary people." we are?..poof there goes my glitter theory  
yes dont know what you want, make it easy for us xx | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. " Really! | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! " yes really xx | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! " Was that a question or an agreement? | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Was that a question or an agreement? " Question | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! " Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. | |||
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"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high." Totally this! | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high." Totally agree. I stopped meeting couples a year ago because of those things. Got caught up in far too much drama | |||
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"Having a bi fem friendly profile to entice the unicorns may increase your chances. We never seek a single female however if one contacted us we would meet, however we've had a few that have contacted us wanting to meet us but all have proven to be fake,so whilst it's a nice to have we don't waste our time or energy seeking a single girl " Pretty much this. But to be fair, we have no expectations on anyone on here, if something happens it happens, if it doesn't we're not going to get all twisted about it. | |||
"We are easy to find....2nd pink fluffy cloud to the right, down the rainbow and at the end of the golden pebble beach "Knew id find you there | |||
"Having a bi fem friendly profile to entice the unicorns may increase your chances. We never seek a single female however if one contacted us we would meet, however we've had a few that have contacted us wanting to meet us but all have proven to be fake,so whilst it's a nice to have we don't waste our time or energy seeking a single girl Pretty much this. But to be fair, we have no expectations on anyone on here, if something happens it happens, if it doesn't we're not going to get all twisted about it. "Totally agree we are exactly the same | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. "  | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high." Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
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"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
"The hostility from couples usually comes from the fems insecurity. Says alot about their dynamic when couples are that hostile to the demographic they are trying to attract. However when you do find that special couple it is worth it and makes you realise some you would never touch with a barge pole. | |||
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"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
"I've had a couple of personal experiences of it. I would never tar all couples the same way though, that's why I'm more cautious these days, and like to get to know a couple first. | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
"We would happily play with a single lady but not because it's what one or the other of us wants or to make our sex life better far from it,to us it would be no different if we met a couple,single guy or a single girl,for us it's everyone involved having fun and not left out | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
"In my case it's from personal experience. I'd had a couple of 'iffy' meets with couples from here and in clubs, but for me the final straw was when one couple who had been on the scene for years started arguing mid play because I apparently was sucking his cock too good (  ) and she stormed off with him running after her. I was left like some discarded toy.
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"We were replying to the lady who called us young. And in this environment I'd like to think we were pretty youngish. You may have had 16 years of whatever but it's different strokes for different folks really. We only started about six months ago and have had a few experiences. No doubt if we'd have started 16 year ago we'd be the hardened seasoned veteran that you are. " If you click "+quote" rather than just "reply" you get the quote you're replying to in your message. I was merely commenting on the fact you said that age and inexperience go hand in hand. With that comment I expected you to be in your very early twenties. Unfortunately you're old like me. :D | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! yes really xx Wasn't responding to you ,are you the bouncer for all single women Seriously!? You are very good at following the crowd aren't you You're very good at being a massive dick. We all have our talents... Aww bless is that the best you can do DaveyJane - is this the male or female half commenting in this thread? " Like everything we do both | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! yes really xx Wasn't responding to you ,are you the bouncer for all single women Seriously!? You are very good at following the crowd aren't you You're very good at being a massive dick. We all have our talents... Aww bless is that the best you can do DaveyJane - is this the male or female half commenting in this thread? Like everything we do both " I'm very impressed that you manage to both type at the same time. | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! yes really xx Wasn't responding to you ,are you the bouncer for all single women Seriously!? You are very good at following the crowd aren't you You're very good at being a massive dick. We all have our talents... Aww bless is that the best you can do DaveyJane - is this the male or female half commenting in this thread? " Sorry that came across a bit abrupt...both of us | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! yes really xx Wasn't responding to you ,are you the bouncer for all single women Seriously!? You are very good at following the crowd aren't you You're very good at being a massive dick. We all have our talents... Aww bless is that the best you can do DaveyJane - is this the male or female half commenting in this thread? Like everything we do both I'm very impressed that you manage to both type at the same time. "Glad we've impressed you | |||
"We were replying to the lady who called us young. And in this environment I'd like to think we were pretty youngish. You may have had 16 years of whatever but it's different strokes for different folks really. We only started about six months ago and have had a few experiences. No doubt if we'd have started 16 year ago we'd be the hardened seasoned veteran that you are. If you click "+quote" rather than just "reply" you get the quote you're replying to in your message. I was merely commenting on the fact you said that age and inexperience go hand in hand. With that comment I expected you to be in your very early twenties. Unfortunately you're old like me. :D" Ahhh we see how this works now. Thanks lol | |||
"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail "see how not to do it..i am sorry another couple hijacked your thread..i wish you every luck in your search xx (for the OP) xx | |||
"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail see how not to do it..i am sorry another couple hijacked your thread..i wish you every luck in your search xx (for the OP) xx"Thank you. | |||
"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail "Hi OP, as previously mentioned do add some more detail to your profile, it's great to have a feel for who someone is so that I can make some decisions as to whether I'd like to reply to an approach or indeed if I would like to proactively approach a couple myself. You're aware that yours doesn't have any real detail to help with this process. Also, you mention you wouldn't use the terminology of holy grail in a message or approach, but be aware that people will be able to see comments in threads here in the forum - and you can see that the forums themselves are great filters to help gain insight as to potential compatibility or not - so be consistent with who you are and how you want to represent yourselves. Good luck with it all. | |||
"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail "Aren't we all but we have met a stunning one.. Hopefully again soon Still open to offers btw | |||
"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail "So OP if this thread has taught you anything it should be that it's tough for single fems too. Just be yourselves, try clubs and socials, build up your network of friends and most of all don't alienate your target audience, who amazingly talk to other fems about who to avoid or who is fun. Enjoy | |||
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"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail
So OP if this thread has taught you anything it should be that it's tough for single fems too. Just be yourselves, try clubs and socials, build up your network of friends and most of all don't alienate your target audience, who amazingly talk to other fems about who to avoid or who is fun.
Enjoy" | |||
"Have to say it's proving extremely difficult to find a single bi fem on here. Plenty of lovely couples however but still searching for the holy grail "We are here | |||
" You can still get your point across without being aggressive. Give over,if giving an opinion or calling someone a follower is aggressive you need to toughen up " You are both really quite aggressive. And unkind too. | |||
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"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
In my case it's from personal experience. I'd had a couple of 'iffy' meets with couples from here and in clubs, but for me the final straw was when one couple who had been on the scene for years started arguing mid play because I apparently was sucking his cock too good ( ) and she stormed off with him running after her. I was left like some discarded toy.
Never again"I guess it's like any experience isn't it? Once you've had a few bad ones you become more and more wary. Human nature I guess? Like the old adage, "once bitten, twice shy" So how do you get around that and work out the genuine (or mentally/emotionally capable) couples? Or is it a complete gamble? Or do you just become indifferent to it? We've never played with a single female strictly, only when we met a couple and the male half didn't play (for reasons I won't go into and out of respect), we could have been annoyed, but we take each experience as it comes, as long as it's fun, we'll go along with it, so the three of us played, and we all enjoyed it with no negative emotions, and it was that experience which led us to adding single females to our "looking for" list. | |||
"We put a similar post up last week... Listened to some sound words... Changed our profile and turning out we are a little closer X "Good for you both! I'm very pleased to hear that x | |||
"We put a similar post up last week... Listened to some sound words... Changed our profile and turning out we are a little closer X
Good for you both! I'm very pleased to hear that x"Me too! | |||
"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
In my case it's from personal experience. I'd had a couple of 'iffy' meets with couples from here and in clubs, but for me the final straw was when one couple who had been on the scene for years started arguing mid play because I apparently was sucking his cock too good ( ) and she stormed off with him running after her. I was left like some discarded toy.
Never again
I guess it's like any experience isn't it? Once you've had a few bad ones you become more and more wary. Human nature I guess?
Like the old adage, "once bitten, twice shy"
So how do you get around that and work out the genuine (or mentally/emotionally capable) couples? Or is it a complete gamble? Or do you just become indifferent to it?
We've never played with a single female strictly, only when we met a couple and the male half didn't play (for reasons I won't go into and out of respect), we could have been annoyed, but we take each experience as it comes, as long as it's fun, we'll go along with it, so the three of us played, and we all enjoyed it with no negative emotions, and it was that experience which led us to adding single females to our "looking for" list.
"To be honest I'm not entirely surely I will get around it. At the moment when I think of playing with a couple it just makes me think of drama and turns me straight off. I would imagine the only time it would probably happen again is if I were to stumble across a couple socially and one thing leads to another, but I swear if one more couple drags me into their domestics I'll break down haha | |||
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"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
In my case it's from personal experience. I'd had a couple of 'iffy' meets with couples from here and in clubs, but for me the final straw was when one couple who had been on the scene for years started arguing mid play because I apparently was sucking his cock too good ( ) and she stormed off with him running after her. I was left like some discarded toy.
Never again
I guess it's like any experience isn't it? Once you've had a few bad ones you become more and more wary. Human nature I guess?
Like the old adage, "once bitten, twice shy"
So how do you get around that and work out the genuine (or mentally/emotionally capable) couples? Or is it a complete gamble? Or do you just become indifferent to it?
We've never played with a single female strictly, only when we met a couple and the male half didn't play (for reasons I won't go into and out of respect), we could have been annoyed, but we take each experience as it comes, as long as it's fun, we'll go along with it, so the three of us played, and we all enjoyed it with no negative emotions, and it was that experience which led us to adding single females to our "looking for" list.
To be honest I'm not entirely surely I will get around it. At the moment when I think of playing with a couple it just makes me think of drama and turns me straight off. I would imagine the only time it would probably happen again is if I were to stumble across a couple socially and one thing leads to another, but I swear if one more couple drags me into their domestics I'll break down haha "Awwe, really hope you don't have any more bad experiences.
I guess FAB really does have it flaws, though I guess even meeting people in person, like at a club, you don't truly know.
You have to rely on your gut instinct I'd imagine, and take a bit of a gamble too.
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"Yeah, it's definitely difficult for us singles females, too! Trying to navigate through the couples who are comfortable and confident enough to introduce another female to the mix is difficult. Really! Yes really. Why are you surprised? The number of couples who have serious issues and think introducing another fem into the mix will help, the number of couples where the fem is doing it to please her man,the number of fakes etc etc etc is quite high. Wow, see quite a few of the single females on this thread seem to agree with that
That's quite a pessimistic view, can I ask (in a completely intrigued and non-hostile way) is that from personal experience or general opinion?
I ask because it would not surprise me in the slightest that there are couples out there that fit that statement, but there are equally couples who do genuinely enjoy the company of a single female in their play.
I guess differentiating between the genuine and the pretenders is equally as difficult for any demographic on here?
In my case it's from personal experience. I'd had a couple of 'iffy' meets with couples from here and in clubs, but for me the final straw was when one couple who had been on the scene for years started arguing mid play because I apparently was sucking his cock too good ( ) and she stormed off with him running after her. I was left like some discarded toy.
Never again
I guess it's like any experience isn't it? Once you've had a few bad ones you become more and more wary. Human nature I guess?
Like the old adage, "once bitten, twice shy"
So how do you get around that and work out the genuine (or mentally/emotionally capable) couples? Or is it a complete gamble? Or do you just become indifferent to it?
We've never played with a single female strictly, only when we met a couple and the male half didn't play (for reasons I won't go into and out of respect), we could have been annoyed, but we take each experience as it comes, as long as it's fun, we'll go along with it, so the three of us played, and we all enjoyed it with no negative emotions, and it was that experience which led us to adding single females to our "looking for" list.
To be honest I'm not entirely surely I will get around it. At the moment when I think of playing with a couple it just makes me think of drama and turns me straight off. I would imagine the only time it would probably happen again is if I were to stumble across a couple socially and one thing leads to another, but I swear if one more couple drags me into their domestics I'll break down haha
Awwe, really hope you don't have any more bad experiences.
I guess FAB really does have it flaws, though I guess even meeting people in person, like at a club, you don't truly know.
You have to rely on your gut instinct I'd imagine, and take a bit of a gamble too.
And there is no method to appealing to someone's gut instinct, than by being honest and sincere I suppose. "Absolutely! You never know, maybe one day I'll try again | |||
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but that's just me and we're all different.
I am always looking for couples to play with but don't actively search them out as I'd rather them come to me as a joint decision. Don't start off on the wrong foot then
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"A lot of people do use the term tho, and unicorn. For me personally I find it instantly adds an air of pressure to almost be perfect, and I'm far from that! Right away my brain starts with the "there's no way I'll live up to expectation, I'm just me" thoughts."
The first time I played 'unicorn' as it were was when I met a couple I had previously met during an MFMF. My regular squeeze had previously had an MFM with them, introduced me to them once we got together and we all got on well enough for me to feel comfortable with them and their dynamic to meet them on my own afterwards. All of my other MFFs have been with two other singles with similar friend of friend approaches. I'm sure there are couples I would really enjoy meeting. But adding me to their already existing dynamic is fraught with potential pitfalls for me (and I know they may be imaginary but I think things through so once thought there's no avoiding them) so it's not been worth the hassle. So far, anyway. | |||
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"Looks like a few very pertinent posts got deleted. Great shame. " Was still an interesting thread, but overall has rather put a downer on the whole thing for us tbh. So much negativity & angst..Every time we read this type of thread the same bad experiences come out, usually (not in this case) I'm not putting on a show for him, female jealousys Etc. Etc.. Oh well.. S | |||
"The thing I find is that they are intimated by my sexiness " Huh huh says you
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"The thing I find is that they are intimated by my sexiness Huh huh says you
S"And my strap on | |||
"Looks like a few very pertinent posts got deleted. Great shame. " Yes, I'm surprised to see I've been edited. | |||
) and for a long time just thought nope; no more couples. However of late I have met a few couples and it's worked; partly because I am getting better at spotting "signs", partly because we have sat in a bar for a few hours first and I get to witness the dynamic...
I don't think couples appreciate how intimidating it can be for the single and how much they need to do to allay those fears... if they aren't prepared for that, then that can lead to both frustration and disappointment. | |||
"To be frank (my better looking brother) for a moment... Being a single in an established couple dynamic is fraught with issues (regardless of your gender).. and yes many couples do seem to want a "performing seal"... my profile alludes to this. I have been given a black eye on a meet purely for "performing"; I have witness arguements; seen men and women cry (I am da bomb! ) and for a long time just thought nope; no more couples. However of late I have met a few couples and it's worked; partly because I am getting better at spotting "signs", partly because we have sat in a bar for a few hours first and I get to witness the dynamic...
I don't think couples appreciate how intimidating it can be for the single and how much they need to do to allay those fears... if they aren't prepared for that, then that can lead to both frustration and disappointment."Really good point. | |||
"Looks like a few very pertinent posts got deleted. Great shame. Was still an interesting thread, but overall has rather put a downer on the whole thing for us tbh. So much negativity & angst..Every time we read this type of thread the same bad experiences come out, usually (not in this case) I'm not putting on a show for him, female jealousys Etc. Etc.. Oh well.. S " You would be crazy to let other people's forum experiences put you off. Live your own life, negativity just breeds negativity. None of the FFMs we've experienced have been anything like the negative ones people regularly describe. It's unfortunate when people have unfortunate experiences, but that doesn't mean that all experiences are unfortunate for people. So thank you Fab for the wonderful women we've met, and the wonderful times we've all had together. | |||
"The thing I find is that they are intimated by my sexiness Huh huh says you
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And my strap on "Already got one thanks & a rather large double ender, Don't look at me I didn't choose it!. Anyway we are off to play with a pinwheel cheer ourselves up
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"The thing I find is that they are intimated by my sexiness Huh huh says you
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And my strap on
Already got one thanks & a rather large double ender, Don't look at me I didn't choose it!. Anyway we are off to play with a pinwheel cheer ourselves up
S"Enjoy you guys | |||
