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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Does it bother you? Would you meet them?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

No & No

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I mainly meet mf couples but they always seem to know each or both is having sex with me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No & No"

Same for me. People can do what the hell they like but not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope sorry

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

What others do is of no concern to me ,just here for my fun

Wold I neet them ..nope not my monkeys not my circus .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

Is this part 2 of 'dream man taken thingummy?"

No it doesn't bother me and yes I would.

Any people stood in glass houses, start throwing your stones in 3,2,1...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is absolutely no way we would meet a married cheat.

How on earth can they be trusted??

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By *indandfireCouple over a year ago

ashbourne

I would prepare to duck and put your tin hat on as I'm sure you will receive lively comments.

We will not knowingly meet married people unless their partner plays with them. We won't cheat on each other and don't want to be involved as 'the other party' with someone who is cheating on their partner. Too much potential for emotional trauma for all concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bother me? - no.

Would I meet them - depends. But not an automatic no by any means.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Does it bother you? Would you meet them?

Is this part 2 of 'dream man taken thingummy?"

No it doesn't bother me and yes I would.

Any people stood in glass houses, start throwing your stones in 3,2,1..."

Likewise. Just get on with it people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No and depends.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who cares. All adds to the fun lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them?

Is this part 2 of 'dream man taken thingummy?"

No it doesn't bother me and yes I would.

Any people stood in glass houses, start throwing your stones in 3,2,1..."

Made me laugh lol.

We honestly don't care. We're good friends with a lady who's left the site now, but who cheats on her husband, sometimes with us!

We make our decisions and let other people make theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would prepare to duck and put your tin hat on as I'm sure you will receive lively comments.

It's not an episode of Casualty crossed with Falcon Crest.

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By *imon_hydeMan over a year ago

Stockport

I'm with the answer 'no and if depends'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I like married women the most

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is always a reason, yes I'm married and yes I'm classed as a cheat. My wife lost her sex drive completely I haven't had sex with her for years now. Do I have to live a celibate life so I'm not branded as a cheat I could leave but then it becomes complicated with my son. I have needs and desires like everyone else if people don't like it move on.

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By *edLionScotMan over a year ago

Edinburgh

If they are honest up front, then it wouldn't bother me.

Knowing that you have to be discrete up front, and are sure that they are equally discrete, then all good.

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By *andi_shopWoman over a year ago

rotherham

No and no, I'm not looking for a relationship on here just sex

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By *edLionScotMan over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

Does it bother you?

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"There is always a reason, yes I'm married and yes I'm classed as a cheat. My wife lost her sex drive completely I haven't had sex with her for years now. Do I have to live a celibate life so I'm not branded as a cheat I could leave but then it becomes complicated with my son. I have needs and desires like everyone else if people don't like it move on."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If they are honest up front, then it wouldn't bother me.

Knowing that you have to be discrete up front, and are sure that they are equally discrete, then all good. "

Schoolboy error - you've used the 'h' word

Incoming!

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By *rpharmacist50Man over a year ago

magherafelt

No it doesn't bother me, and yes I would meet them.

I'm not here to judge anyone, people have their own reasons for being on here ... It is a sex site after all.

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By *ngel n tedCouple over a year ago

maidstone

Can't say about the fellas, but i reckon the vast majority around maidstone are cheating, we've yet to meet a genuinely "single" woman, all our meets have had a hubby/partner/boyfreind they've fessed up about. Do i agree with what they're doing? Not overly, but when they're rolling around naked with angel on our bed i'm not about to burst with forum style moralistic outrage and offence......i'm getting me some

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we are not here for a relationship..the most we want from a couple or M or F is few hours of their sexy body and good time... so it doesn't matter to us if you are married or not, as long as you are attractive ... but we don't like liars too, you just have to be upfront about it

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them?

Is this part 2 of 'dream man taken thingummy?"

No it doesn't bother me and yes I would.

Any people stood in glass houses, start throwing your stones in 3,2,1..."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

no and no; well not unless she was mid 30's / 40's slim, petite, stunning legs, pert 32B breasts, blonde ofcourse, although would also consider black, brown, redhead, light or most other colours then I guess yes, I would meet

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

What other people do really does not bother me. It's everybody's own business and I am not here to judge especially as I don't know the circumstances.

It is not for me because I don't want an upset wife/ girlfriend ringing me to ask what my mobile number is doing on her partner's phone. And yes, it has happened even though I only met the guys concerned not knowing they were married/ attached, and fortunately I could say with a clear conscience, that we only had a coffee together.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

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By *liceandandyCouple over a year ago

Brighton

Very interesting thread!

Always like to think that swingers would be the more open-minded people, but these threads always show up that there is still a lot of people who are 'black and white' and hold marital values very high!

I think we would have to take each case on merit and make a decision that way?

Just because somebody cheats doesn't automatically make them a scumbag. Yes, maybe there are people who are 'greedy' and cheat, but there are also some that may have good reason to be in their situation.

We're not here to judge.

However, we were approached on here by a young girl who was honest with us and said 'I am married and my husband doesn't know I do this', she seemed really nice, so we discussed it and chatted further, and the more we found out it just seemed the logistics of meeting would be a nightmare and it started to feel a bit weird and not ok, so we said no, mostly because we couldn't be arsed with the drama!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would prepare to duck and put your tin hat on as I'm sure you will receive lively comments.

^^^this!^^^. I've been cheated on before and it's like a pain I've never experienced. You never forget it either. I will not help anyone cheat nor will I be part of the reason his wife has been hurt. Cheaters always get caught out eventually.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be ."

In a perfectly good marriage people are honest with each other.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I would prepare to duck and put your tin hat on as I'm sure you will receive lively comments.

It kind of echoes a bit what I am thinking - if people want to play with whoever - I just don't want to be part of it. No criticism of others, implied or otherwise, just not for me.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

Isn't that everyone? lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be ."
I have tried countless times to talk to her but the barriers are up and I cant get through to her without a sex life it feels like something is missing she wont go to counselling she wont talk what am I supposed to do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .I have tried countless times to talk to her but the barriers are up and I cant get through to her without a sex life it feels like something is missing she wont go to counselling she wont talk what am I supposed to do? "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ever tried being honest with her about this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

In a perfectly good marriage people are honest with each other."
I told her I was not happy with the way things are the answer I got was if I left I wouldn't see my son again so deal with it. It went from a very active sex life to nothing overnight yet she wont say why. Judge me as you wish I have tried.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you think that sex with strangers is what you want then go for it. If you'd be happy for her to do the same if the shoe was on the other foot and you're fine with it then great but if it all goes tits up you have to live with it. "
I know what risks are involved in not stupid sex isn't the whole reason she has closed off as a person too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

In a perfectly good marriage people are honest with each other.I told her I was not happy with the way things are the answer I got was if I left I wouldn't see my son again so deal with it. It went from a very active sex life to nothing overnight yet she wont say why. Judge me as you wish I have tried."

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't meet attached and I won't judge either. My ex husband fucked half the town, humiliated me completely. I won't be a part of making another woman feel the way I did.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I won't meet attached and I won't judge either. My ex husband fucked half the town, humiliated me completely. I won't be a part of making another woman feel the way I did."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I won't meet attached and I won't judge either. My ex husband fucked half the town, humiliated me completely. I won't be a part of making another woman feel the way I did."

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I think there are two aspects being confused here : one is about the oral issue of "cheating" and everybody is entitled to their opinion, however, in my _iew should not inflict it on other people.

The other is about whether or not people would knowingly play with attached people. It kind of links a bit with the first but is different from it.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I think there are two aspects being confused here : one is about the oral issue of "cheating" and everybody is entitled to their opinion, however, in my _iew should not inflict it on other people.

The other is about whether or not people would knowingly play with attached people. It kind of links a bit with the first but is different from it."

oops "moral issue" - oral has nothing to do with it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think there are two aspects being confused here : one is about the oral issue of "cheating" and everybody is entitled to their opinion, however, in my _iew should not inflict it on other people.

The other is about whether or not people would knowingly play with attached people. It kind of links a bit with the first but is different from it.

oops "moral issue" - oral has nothing to do with it

Haha nice slip of the tongue...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't bother me, their life not mine. Wouldn't meet them though.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

I feel for you fella they start crying you know they love you .

I'm not judging you by the way my post was why would you leave her and a good marriage when the only thing missing is sex ,

Lots on here will never understand but that's ok they don't need to .

if you ever meet a male voice to vent to message me privately fella I don't judge no one on the life choices believing its easy to criticize when your not the one walking in there shoes .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

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all I can say is 90% of the people on here if they were in the same situation as me you would do exactly the same and don't kid yourselves that you wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesnt bother me and yes I would meet them, they are here for the same reasons, maibe their hubby cant satisfy them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So for the moral swingers.

When you're in a club.

Do you delve into the lives of the delicious cock/pussy staring you in the face?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

all I can say is 90% of the people on here if they were in the same situation as me you would do exactly the same and don't kid yourselves that you wouldn't."

Outrage at 90%!

Kidding.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

.i dont know your situation but surely communicating with her with the possibility of a couple profile or even two single profiles for u both to play separate would be better than just cheating.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"So for the moral swingers.

When you're in a club.

Do you delve into the lives of the delicious cock/pussy staring you in the face? "

I understand your point completely - it is why I never play in clubs. But I get where you are coming from.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So for the moral swingers.

When you're in a club.

Do you delve into the lives of the delicious cock/pussy staring you in the face?

I understand your point completely - it is why I never play in clubs. But I get where you are coming from."

Of course you don't because you stick to your morals but so many here are hypocrites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

.i dont know your situation but surely communicating with her with the possibility of a couple profile or even two single profiles for u both to play separate would be better than just cheating."

Leave him alone.

Go batter a cod or something.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

.i dont know your situation but surely communicating with her with the possibility of a couple profile or even two single profiles for u both to play separate would be better than just cheating."

If his wife was on here looking for sex it would be obvious she was only depriving him of sex, and if she wasn't, then he might not be on here himself.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Leave him alone.

Go batter a cod or something.

"
That's hilarious

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

No and no as well

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

If his wife was on here looking for sex it would be obvious she was only depriving him of sex, and if she wasn't, then he might not be on here himself."

There are so many reasons why people stop having sex - and sometimes even the couple concerned do not really know why it has happened. What people choose to do about it is really their business - some ignore it and live without, others seek it elsewhere, some try and address underlying issue by seeking help from Relate for example... but ultimately an individual and person decision, would you agree?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Here's what time think about the matter.

If someone deliberately deprives their partner of sex and intimacy they deserve what happens.

If someone is so ill they can't muster the energy, or physically manage sex, they should give their partner the blessing to have sex with others.

People who cheat purely because they can, should be fed to sharks.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Here's what time think about the matter.

If someone deliberately deprives their partner of sex and intimacy they deserve what happens.

If someone is so ill they can't muster the energy, or physically manage sex, they should give their partner the blessing to have sex with others.

People who cheat purely because they can, should be fed to sharks."

I can see the shark population rising sharply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If his wife was on here looking for sex it would be obvious she was only depriving him of sex, and if she wasn't, then he might not be on here himself.

I agree. It's a shame when one partner won't admit something is wrong and get help, but they don't. And I know some women who can't be arsed to have sex any more, regardless of how much help they get at home. There are probably men like that too. They just lose the passion and inclination for sex.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

and why batter a cod.i dont do violence lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here's what time think about the matter.

If someone deliberately deprives their partner of sex and intimacy they deserve what happens.

If someone is so ill they can't muster the energy, or physically manage sex, they should give their partner the blessing to have sex with others.

People who cheat purely because they can, should be fed to sharks.

I can see the shark population rising sharply

Possibly.

I know a fair amount of people who cheat or have cheated. The reasons were varied.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope and I have done. Many different reasons why people here and I'm not here to be judge and jury to their circumstances

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and why batter a cod.i dont do violence lol."

Nice with chips though.

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By *anes HubbyCouple over a year ago

Babbacombe Torquay

I'd like to know how some of the women on here who are so adamant that they won't meet a married man.....know for sure they are not married?

Surely 'knowingly' is the real term here?, we wouldn't knowingly meet a married man but we are not in the habit of following them back to their home and staking them out....

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By *eneral HysteriaMan over a year ago

Newcastle

Doesn't bother me and yes I would.

To each their own.

For the supercilious sanctimonious among you you know where the block button is.

That's all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.

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By *edLionScotMan over a year ago

Edinburgh

" oops "moral issue" - oral has nothing to do with it

Ha ha! Freudian Blow Joba!

Oops, I mean slip!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very good question!

And one I'm surprised nobody has asked before.

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By *enard ArgenteMan over a year ago

London and France

No it doesn't bother me, and yes I will and have.

I Just excercise caution that they are discreet ( avoiding angry husbands, exciting as it might be, is a sport I could do without)

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

" oops "moral issue" - oral has nothing to do with it

Ha ha! Freudian Blow Joba!

Oops, I mean slip!

??"
hilarious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Very good question!

And one I'm surprised nobody has asked before."

You know, I've just done a forum search and I can't find this mentioned anywhere.

You'd have thought more people would be interested in this and post it at least twice a day.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Doesn't bother me and yes I would.

To each their own.

For the supercilious sanctimonious among you you know where the block button is.

That's all."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's wrong and I wouldn't like it but yea I'd still meet its NSA discreet fun what you don't no won't hurt u x

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol."
in what way lol.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Very good question!

And one I'm surprised nobody has asked before."

Lots of posts like this they crop up one a week but you no that Mr sarcasm

There great nothing gets the swinging world typing like this type of forum post does

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.in what way lol."
Basically by seeing others as a marriage is between 2 lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them?

Does it bother you?

I won't meet them but most the best ones seem to be married. So just curious x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol."

Ah ah ah! No no no! Shag that's naughty of you! You can't go around putting facts in the way of a good old rant.

Just because couples swinging are written about in the press in the same paragraphs as dogging, bdsm and other forms of deviance; swingers are good and cheaters are bad. It's that black and white. Always. No exceptions. Ever. At all.

Oh, apart from when she's really hot.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.in what way lol.Basically by seeing others as a marriage is between 2 lol."
Interesting one, for me any "cheating" (and I want to stress I am not judging anybody seeing attached people as I stated earlier) ...cheating to me does not start or end in the bedroom.

Cheating for me starts the moment you talk/ do things with another person that you feel you have to be secretive about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.

Ah ah ah! No no no! Shag that's naughty of you! You can't go around putting facts in the way of a good old rant.

Oh, apart from when she's really hot. "
It is nothing about the press things. I was thinking more in a religious sense and what the bible say about it you know.

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

"So for the moral swingers.

When you're in a club.

Do you delve into the lives of the delicious cock/pussy staring you in the face? "

We don't do clubs but it's from this standpoint we _iew what we do. We take a profile at face value and don't judge, we don't ask personal non swinging questions or about home life to find out their 'real background', we're arranging to meet and that is the sole intent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.

Ah ah ah! No no no! Shag that's naughty of you! You can't go around putting facts in the way of a good old rant.

Oh, apart from when she's really hot. It is nothing about the press things. I was thinking more in a religious sense and what the bible say about it you know."

Oh, I know. I was just expanding on your point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and why batter a cod.i dont do violence lol.

Nice with chips though."

lots of chips here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.in what way lol.Basically by seeing others as a marriage is between 2 lol.Interesting one, for me any "cheating" (and I want to stress I am not judging anybody seeing attached people as I stated earlier) ...cheating to me does not start or end in the bedroom.

Cheating for me starts the moment you talk/ do things with another person that you feel you have to be secretive about. "
That is a good _iew point and explanation as well of it

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.

Ah ah ah! No no no! Shag that's naughty of you! You can't go around putting facts in the way of a good old rant.

Oh, apart from when she's really hot. It is nothing about the press things. I was thinking more in a religious sense and what the bible say about it you know.

Oh, I know. I was just expanding on your point. "
I see and yes and that is good too.

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.in what way lol.Basically by seeing others as a marriage is between 2 lol."
so all couples are married then lol.i myself think marriage is ridiculous but im prety sure the vows are about respect and looking after each other etc which in turn could be interpreted as swinging together or not but thats surely up to the couple to decide together is it not lol.but yea different boat entirely as the cheater mc cheatface boat is sinking due to rust caused by lies and deceit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol.in what way lol.Basically by seeing others as a marriage is between 2 lol.so all couples are married then lol.i myself think marriage is ridiculous but im prety sure the vows are about respect and looking after each other etc which in turn could be interpreted as swinging together or not but thats surely up to the couple to decide together is it not lol.but yea different boat entirely as the cheater mc cheatface boat is sinking due to rust caused by lies and deceit

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That is right too and not all are married either and yeah as it is up to each one, lol at boat sinking there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No and yes...because I'd be a hypocrite if I answered otherwise.

To those who feel the need to make snarky comments about honesty and trust, it's none of your business and not your place to judge, so just avoid if it upsets your high moral standards. However I assume then that you also undertake CRB and credit checks on all your meets to ensure they're not crims or fraudsters before shagging them too???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the facts are most have played with married if they like it or not ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No and yes...because I'd be a hypocrite if I answered otherwise.

Well said

I don't judge others and at the end of the day you've all probably played with a married person whether you realise it or not

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By *tarbeckCouple over a year ago

york

"No and yes...because I'd be a hypocrite if I answered otherwise.

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lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So for the moral swingers.

When you're in a club.

Do you delve into the lives of the delicious cock/pussy staring you in the face? "

We don't swap in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No and no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That attached husband or wife could be the best sex you've ever had ,so why not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No and yes...because I'd be a hypocrite if I answered otherwise.

Making comments about honesty and trust are not the same as judging. And besides, surely someone that you someone that you casually meet does not compare to your life partner?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

Dosent bother me and yes i would meet a cheating partner

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By *_Duracell_Bunnies_xCouple over a year ago

West Lothian

We met a married guy was one of the best meets we ever had all that pent up frustration. Truth is people that want to fuck a lot of other people should find a partner like them, same as most couples on here. Since I met my partner and started swinging I have been Faithfull however in previous relationships I have strayed due to sexual frustration it's biology man!

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By *ebbie69Couple over a year ago

milton keynes

Well as Im a cheating wife I have no way to judge others. each to ther own I guess. I always tell people straight away my situation and ask if they want to continue .The only thing I think is not so good is those that cheat but hide it from others on here- be open ,be honest and if others say no then move on -simples xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although cheaters and couples are in the same boat committing adultery lol."

True

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By *aulusMan over a year ago

Chester

I have a very close lady friend who I have been seeing on and off for 7 years now, and we do swing together now and then. I guess you would say she is cheating on her hubby, as he doesn't know about me, but he hasn't even tried to have sex with her for over 10 years, he's completely not interested in her in that way and has lost his sex drive, although they are close. She has needs that he doesn't fulfill.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

No it doesn't and yes I would.

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

No and no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Agreed. But it would make the forums less lively if they didn't

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"No & No"

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't bother me and generally if I'm meeting single guys we prefer married as they are less hassle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a very close lady friend who I have been seeing on and off for 7 years now, and we do swing together now and then. I guess you would say she is cheating on her hubby, as he doesn't know about me, but he hasn't even tried to have sex with her for over 10 years, he's completely not interested in her in that way and has lost his sex drive, although they are close. She has needs that he doesn't fulfill."

And it's just sex, no emotions or love.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "

It would be somewhat hypocritical to say anything other than no it doesn't bother me and yes I'd gladly meet them.

When I was on another site with my ex, the majority of singles both M & F we played with turned out to be attached and cheating.

We all have our reasons for the sneaking & deceit. If it's not your thing then don't contact or simply say no thanks, no need to rant or come over all holier than thou.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

For me it's quite simple: I'm here to meet like minded people. I don't play nice, so if someone wants to lie about being married that's their business how they explain the marks etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me it completely depends on the man. I have n yes I prob would do again. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them?

It would be somewhat hypocritical to say anything other than no it doesn't bother me and yes I'd gladly meet them.

When I was on another site with my ex, the majority of singles both M & F we played with turned out to be attached and cheating.

We all have our reasons for the sneaking & deceit. If it's not your thing then don't contact or simply say no thanks, no need to rant or come over all holier than thou.

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this each to their own..who are we to judge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is condemnation of the married person cheats, but I don't see much for the person who KNOWINGLY cheats with a married person.

Double standards?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Well, sometimes some people FEEL put upon?

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By *indandfireCouple over a year ago

ashbourne

"What other people do really does not bother me. It's everybody's own business and I am not here to judge especially as I don't know the circumstances.

My point exactly!!! This is supposed to be NSA fun as people put all over their profiles. Well if you have string who doesn't know you are tying knots elsewhere there will be hell to pay when she finds out!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Well, sometimes some people FEEL put upon?"

by the judgemental peeps attacking them.

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"Well as Im a cheating wife I have no way to judge others. each to ther own I guess. I always tell people straight away my situation and ask if they want to continue .The only thing I think is not so good is those that cheat but hide it from others on here- be open ,be honest and if others say no then move on -simples xx"

I'm cheating too and not hiding it either.

I'm happy to meet other people doing the same as me and, I'm also happy to meet people that decieve their families and friends - hey best friend that ive known for years and really trust "where are you going tonight?" "just off to the cinema" - "not out to a swingers club to get gangbanged by a bunch of guys that I barely know". Just saying!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Well, sometimes some people FEEL put upon?

by the judgemental peeps attacking them.

I never justify myself to people on here, but I will give reasons or explanations if asked. I have nothing to hide.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it? "

To who though? Anyone who doesn't agree with them aren't interested in their reasons for doing it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it?

To who though? Anyone who doesn't agree with them aren't interested in their reasons for doing it! "

Some people are sensitive even though they're cheating.

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By *indandfireCouple over a year ago

ashbourne

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

all I can say is 90% of the people on here if they were in the same situation as me you would do exactly the same and don't kid yourselves that you wouldn't."

I lived in a sexless marriage for 20 years and would have continued had it not been for a completely unrelated issue. Did I cheat or err swing to make up for it.... no I behaved like an adult and accepted his choice and remained faithful. My choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But still, you are on a swinger site?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

all I can say is 90% of the people on here if they were in the same situation as me you would do exactly the same and don't kid yourselves that you wouldn't.

Gold medal?

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By *imetoexplore69Couple over a year ago

Aberdeen

"No and yes...because I'd be a hypocrite if I answered otherwise.

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it becomes peoples business(better term would be slight interest ) to an extent when its posted on a open forum.i take it from your reply you are married, but its cool as u are a woman

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By *arksidesubCouple over a year ago

not far from you..

In my opinion,Sex is just Sex & feelings are feelings towards your partner..

Although being committed to one partner I've decided that I no longer desire to meet anymore or have sex either purely because my marriage is more precious to me than Sex or being desired by another.this is where I'm at.We use to play as a couple but my husband lost interest sometime ago,I guess I've reached that stage where I'm content.

Everybody is free to do what the hell they like no-one should judge! We all have are reasons for the things regarding this site we do married/partner or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not concerned about someones personal life, so YES I would meet them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No because I cheat and proud to say it. Jim

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By *eerobCouple over a year ago

solihull

"No because I cheat and proud to say it. Jim "

Wow how unpleasant...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it?

To who though? Anyone who doesn't agree with them aren't interested in their reasons for doing it! "

How do you know that? There may be people, like me, who are interested in everyone's point of _iew. It can't be just me, surely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No because I cheat and proud to say it. Jim

Wow how unpleasant..."

Hi, don't believe everything you read, I'm just fed up seeing threads about this subject, it's done to death and I do say on my profile so I'm upfront about it. Jim

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it?

To who though? Anyone who doesn't agree with them aren't interested in their reasons for doing it!

How do you know that? There may be people, like me, who are interested in everyone's point of _iew. It can't be just me, surely? "

Me too. I'm interested in the subject. Can't see why people who aren't interested are even bothering to read, let alone comment!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And

Yes if they are discreet, careful, and can either host or have a car suitable for sex.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it bother you? Would you meet them? "
no and yes I don't care

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By *indandfireCouple over a year ago

ashbourne

"But still, you are on a swinger site?"

I am a very sensual and highly sexed person and so is my new partner. We enjoy playing together...never alone that would be cheating in our mind and we have no interest in that

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By *ureTemptationWoman over a year ago

Off the grid

I chatted to a guy for ages on here last year.

Said he was single. Knew I would never go near anyone attached. I always explain I'm married (he knows I'm on Fab) and ask if they are attached. It's amazing how many admit it when you put it like that!

He said 110% single.

We arranged a meet after a month of chat. He cancelled a day before.

He was a regular on the forums too. Really made me laugh, nice guy.

Then I get a message on kik from his fiancée. She was fuming at ME. Called me every name under the sun. She also had copies of my pics and face pics and what I'd said.

I really started panicking, I didn't know what she'd do.

I finally talked her round and explained I had no clue he wasn't single. I got called a lot more names before she calmed down but it was scary as ****.

So no I won't go near anyone who is attached or I think might be. I do not need to go through that again, or worse.

The other person does tend to find out sooner or later. Discreet or not.

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By *indandfireCouple over a year ago

ashbourne

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

all I can say is 90% of the people on here if they were in the same situation as me you would do exactly the same and don't kid yourselves that you wouldn't.

Gold medal?"

In cantankerous rudeness... possibly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fella why would you through away I perfectly good marriage because your wife lost her sex drive after all love and sex are not the same thing and never will be .

Free marital advice whether you want it or not.

all I can say is 90% of the people on here if they were in the same situation as me you would do exactly the same and don't kid yourselves that you wouldn't.

Gold medal?

In cantankerous rudeness... possibly"

me or you?

I'm always impassioned with good manners except when I'm not.

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By *indandfireCouple over a year ago

ashbourne

Decide for yourself as only you know the intent of your posts. As I know the intent of mine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Decide for yourself as only you know the intent of your posts. As I know the intent of mine "

Are ya talking to the elements?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it?

To who though? Anyone who doesn't agree with them aren't interested in their reasons for doing it!

How do you know that? There may be people, like me, who are interested in everyone's point of _iew. It can't be just me, surely? "

You clearly aren't the sort of person I'm referring to. I don't hear you condemning those who cheat. You know what i mean you're just picking at what I'm saying.

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By *verysmileMan over a year ago

Canterbury

It doesn't bother me but I usually steer clear simply because it makes my life easier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I play regularly with a married woman and it doesn't bother me lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I play regularly with a married woman and it doesn't bother me lol

Your a bloke so no surprise

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

No and no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No & No

Same for me. People can do what the hell they like but not for me. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Did the husband see your reply lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I play regularly with a married woman and it doesn't bother me lol

Your a bloke so no surprise "

With a wife who doesn't know probably!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Did the husband see your reply lol "

I didn't no lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet like minded men, their marital status doesn't come into it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very well said (I'm a cheating wife too)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it?

To who though? Anyone who doesn't agree with them aren't interested in their reasons for doing it!

How do you know that? There may be people, like me, who are interested in everyone's point of _iew. It can't be just me, surely?

You clearly aren't the sort of person I'm referring to. I don't hear you condemning those who cheat. You know what i mean you're just picking at what I'm saying. "

No I'm not, you're being touchy. I'm asking if you can't see that some people think differently to you. There must be others who don't ignore what people say, just because they have a different opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've seen plenty of women rip into a cheating newbie who has tried to justify himself on the forum only to turn around & arrange to meet someone else who is attached ~ the difference?! The latter is popular....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never cheated. I can understand why some do.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

No and no

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For those people who are so against "cheaters" How many of you meet people who say they are single ?.......and you always believe them? Do you ask for proof of single status?......I somehow doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very well said (I'm a cheating wife too) "

Nothing wrong with that lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No it does not bother me and yes I would meet them.

I am and I always make sure the other person or couple know my situation so they are comfortable with it. I had one couple said they where not and I have respect for that, I hope the people I meet are the same. I often find when I'm honest like that a lot of the 'single' guys start confessing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For those people who are so against "cheaters" How many of you meet people who say they are single ?.......and you always believe them? Do you ask for proof of single status?......I somehow doubt it."

Never.

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I chatted to a guy for ages on here last year.

He said 110% single.

We arranged a meet after a month of chat. He cancelled a day before.

He was a regular on the forums too. Really made me laugh, nice guy.

Then I get a message on kik from his fiancée. She was fuming at ME. Called me every name under the sun. She also had copies of my pics and face pics and what I'd said.

I really started panicking, I didn't know what she'd do.

I finally talked her round and explained I had no clue he wasn't single. I got called a lot more names before she calmed down but it was scary as ****.

So no I won't go near anyone who is attached or I think might be. I do not need to go through that again, or worse.

The other person does tend to find out sooner or later. Discreet or not. "
That is the main reason for me - that I would not want to find myself in that position of having to deal with an upset partner who feels cheated, rightly or wrongly.

I just don't want the hassle, stress or thought of having unwittingly been part of causing that upset.

It has not really anything to do with judgment of others or even my moral landscape.

I like clarity, openness and peace in my life - my swinging practice is just an extension of those goals and values.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I was asked 2 questions, I answered without justification.

That's enough

I'm often amazed at the lengths people go to to justify their position. ...To complete strangers! !

Are they justifying, or explaining why they do it?

To who though? Anyone who doesn't agree with them aren't interested in their reasons for doing it!

How do you know that? There may be people, like me, who are interested in everyone's point of _iew. It can't be just me, surely?

You clearly aren't the sort of person I'm referring to. I don't hear you condemning those who cheat. You know what i mean you're just picking at what I'm saying.

Of course i see that others see things differently. My point was that people are very often black and white when it comes to this topic. Those people don't care the reasons why people cheat yet people often feel the need to justify themselves to those that won't ever understand. ..It's nothing to do with no one being interested and nothing to do with me not seeing others _iew points. You clearly aren't understanding what I'm saying and i can't be bothered to explain it anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shall enjoy reading this tomorrow as I have been on both sides a few times not as in marriage but as in having partners swinging and not swinging i like tjis post but i hope what I read tomorrow won't be a liturgical version of day time tv

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think i couldn't spell the words i wanted but you get the driff people

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i dont let anyone tell me which married men i can and cant have a meet with. i do what i like, with people i like..simple..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is absolutely no way we would meet a married cheat.

How on earth can they be trusted??

They can't be trusted to do what???....fuck you?

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