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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!?? |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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Deciding not to play and being proven to be fake are very different things. We would never judge somebody who decided that they didnt want to play. And sorry if our profile sounds brutal but after a while on here you get a bit jaded and try to sort through our preferences a bit quicker. Thanks for your input. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Genuine single women are out there but I'll be honest negativity puts me straight off, as do profiles where it's all about what's in it for the couple. I only look for single men now, much less complicated! |
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"Genuine single women are out there but I'll be honest negativity puts me straight off, as do profiles where it's all about what's in it for the couple. I only look for single men now, much less complicated! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Genuine single women are out there but I'll be honest negativity puts me straight off, as do profiles where it's all about what's in it for the couple. I only look for single men now, much less complicated! "
Completely this! I read your profile after I posted and your list of people you don't want kinda just makes you sound a bit mean... |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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After a few comments I decided to change our profile text.....read it again and thought you know what....i quite like it. Sort of sums us up neatly and it is meant a bit tongue in cheek and not to be taken too seriously. So i suppose that if people can smile and see the humour in our profile then theyre the kind of people that we will get on with. Hope that makes sense. Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Genuine single women are out there but I'll be honest negativity puts me straight off, as do profiles where it's all about what's in it for the couple. I only look for single men now, much less complicated!
Completely this! I read your profile after I posted and your list of people you don't want kinda just makes you sound a bit mean..."
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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The latest one had several verifications and lots of nice face pics sent to us on kik. Unfortunately they now have lots of our face pics and her pics turned out to be of a soft porn web model in Australia. Oh well x |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
The same basic principles apply to all genders and demographics on here after all we're all trying to inform and attract others..
What are you looking for ..
What are you offering
What are your interests
What makes you special.
When you're the ones looking / searching you need to stand out.. I'd guess the ladies will have lots of choice ..why should / would they choose you .. chances are they're already out there having fun.. make them want to meet you
Have fun looking  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Unicorn galloping in here. There are quite a few around the area we are both in, it just takes time and patience. Personally, there are few photos of the man and although everyone starts somewhere, bi-curious isn't for me as I don't want to be a play toy for a couple. Nothing about your profile particularly entices me or lets me know how I would work in your dynamic. Clubs are always a good option as there is less pressure and you can meet and work out what you like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Genuine single women are out there but I'll be honest negativity puts me straight off, as do profiles where it's all about what's in it for the couple. I only look for single men now, much less complicated!
Completely this! I read your profile after I posted and your list of people you don't want kinda just makes you sound a bit mean...
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This. I've met some lovely couples during my time on fab. I fear you are putting a lot of single women off considering meeting you, based on your profile text. I know I wouldn't consider it. Sorry OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We meet lots of single women...
First at clubs then regular after many have become good freinds..
But on talking to the single.women that we have met on the way have really had bad sittuations with cpls... one instance where when they were all getting down to it the female half just went balistic when she saw her husband enjoying him self a bit to much(in her eyes) and she chucked the single fem out... and I've heard so many similar stories...
What you must understand a single female must think of their safety too..
Hence why many like to meet at clubs.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The latest one had several verifications and lots of nice face pics sent to us on kik. Unfortunately they now have lots of our face pics and her pics turned out to be of a soft porn web model in Australia. Oh well x"
You can send pictures via Kik using the bomb(whatever it's called) deletes after 3seconds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it's just Louise looking to play, try a single woman's profile. She may well have more luck, because many of us single women don't want to message a couples profile if we only want to play with the woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The latest one had several verifications and lots of nice face pics sent to us on kik. Unfortunately they now have lots of our face pics and her pics turned out to be of a soft porn web model in Australia. Oh well x
You can send pictures via Kik using the bomb(whatever it's called) deletes after 3seconds "
You can screenshot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
surely there must be lovely couples with a nice bi female? I've met a good few over the years.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We do not want to meet you if you do drugs, smell, overweight, boring, unsure, common or lying through your teeth."
Oh, I'm common. That rules me out.
I'm technically a little overweight too according to the NHS. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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We now lose the fakers by asking for a specific picture to be sent. The harder ones to spot are the couple profiles where they say she plays alone. They are veried with lots of pics..but it either transpires that they are no longer a couple or she in fact no longer plays so its just a guy fantasizing, the pure fakes are easier to spot.
Just do what we have done. Put not into pic/vid swapping, kik is for chat only..We do not friend immediately. So you lose the pic collectors straight away..
Then no fcker will contact you 
We are just a little jaded atm of it being one way traffic regarding the searching/messaging tbh, so will ourselves concentrate on going clubbing..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Amazes me how many of the single girls are fake profiles!"
I'm more amazed at the amount of men who think calling you 'fake' will entice you to 'prove it' by sending you a load of naked pictures. They're somehow surprised when you don't want to talk to them anymore - leading to them threatening to report you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Amazes me how many of the single girls are fake profiles!
I'm more amazed at the amount of men who think calling you 'fake' will entice you to 'prove it' by sending you a load of naked pictures. They're somehow surprised when you don't want to talk to them anymore - leading to them threatening to report you."
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Amazes me how many of the single girls are fake profiles!
I'm more amazed at the amount of men who think calling you 'fake' will entice you to 'prove it' by sending you a load of naked pictures. They're somehow surprised when you don't want to talk to them anymore - leading to them threatening to report you."
Yeah we've had that, strange they always want a naked picture too? 
Even had a "girl" ask for a vid of H playing! when told the four year old was in the room "she" said "Just stick them in the garden for five mins" Huhuh, don't quite get the feminine side of being a fake do you mate? Blocked...
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Amazes me how many of the single girls are fake profiles!
I'm more amazed at the amount of men who think calling you 'fake' will entice you to 'prove it' by sending you a load of naked pictures. They're somehow surprised when you don't want to talk to them anymore - leading to them threatening to report you."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get off your bums, stop relying on fab to find single girls, get to socials, clubs & parties, we've never had a problem meeting, playing and making great friends with some single ladies.
Our pennies worth, many single ladies are simply put off of couples chasing single ladies only, they see the issues that may come up (see some of the above posts) x |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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We must admit that the majority of fakes are easy to spot. But some are very dedicated, setting up other fake profies to verify them or convincing other people to verify without meeting etc. Asking for a fem fem conversation or for a face pic whilst holding something specific often works. But its a fine line when to ask because you dont want to scare a genuine female or couple off by coming on too strong? Or maybe its a case of the genuine ones will understand? |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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Sound advice but what with kids, work, limited time together its very hard to organise a free weekend night for a club meet. And besides after playing in numerous situations we just found we prefer a private home meet. So i know we limit ourselves. This post isnt really a cry for help in meeting single women, allthough any help is gratefully accepted, but more of an observation on the sheer amount of fake female and couple profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok I read your profile and thought I don't actually know what you want.
Are you wanting to meet fem on fem alone or as a couple.
You don't appear to have any experience with girls ? Are you expecting me to teach you? Is it going to be one sided? Are you going to lay there and not want to play with me?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And whilst I like be your pics if I was wanting to play with a couple (which I don't) I wouldn't like to see few more pics of hubby. It may be that you have them in private which would be ok. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get off your bums, stop relying on fab to find single girls, get to socials, clubs & parties, we've never had a problem meeting, playing and making great friends with some single ladies.
Our pennies worth, many single ladies are simply put off of couples chasing single ladies only, they see the issues that may come up (see some of the above posts) x"
High 5 you on that |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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We have met couples and single guys but have never had the privilage of meeting a single girl. So thats why we headed up the latest profile text of wanting to do this. Happy to keep meeting couples a some single guys along the way. Louise loves to explore her bi side and certainly doesnt need showing the ropes. Allthough she is rather partial to, erm, ropes x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe the females in question are looking to play with other females with no male involvement ? Usually when there is a male involved then he is looking to play as well so this might out some ladies off!
Only my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have met couples and single guys but have never had the privilage of meeting a single girl. So thats why we headed up the latest profile text of wanting to do this. Happy to keep meeting couples a some single guys along the way. Louise loves to explore her bi side and certainly doesnt need showing the ropes. Allthough she is rather partial to, erm, ropes x"
Is mr gonna be there/join in? |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
welcome to the world of being a man on here OP or any sex meet site for that matter.
you see your now experiencing site life as a man in the fact you are looking for a single fern .
so your facing the same competition as guys face
other couples looking for a sexy fern
other sexy ferns looking for a sexy fern
guys looking for a sexy fern
single playing alone ferns are the lowest demi graph on these types of sites .so your facing heavy competition to catch there eye. hence your lack of success and your frustration .
I know if I was part of a couple on here behaving exactly how I behave on here with a sexy bi partner in tow my mail bag would go through the room .I know this fact from past experience OP.
yes me and my play partners have been know to play as a couple and invite the odd single guy to spice up our dynamic from time to time but for that to happen I do all the vetting so as to make sure they don't have to deal with timewasters fuckwits and all the other negative crap I take that on to save them all the hassle when we decide to play in that way .
you have my sympathy OP its not easy is it but at least you are seeing site life as a man which hopefully will mean you show us guys who stick it out and try to entertain others as we do so with a little bit more respect in future . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He would be there and joining in. We come as a couple and play as a couple x
But you say you're looking for a fem for louise to play with.......And????"
If you are looking for a woman to play with, you are saying that you both are looking for a woman to play with.
By saying 'you're looking for a woman for Louise to play with' you're implying that only Louise will be doing the playing. |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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Hi. Louise here just out of work catching up on Alecs forum. I guess I should describe myself as bisexual. We do only meet as couple but focus is on the other female should we meet... This is about sharing our pleasures and guess no offence meant to anyone... We are honest but genuine and after no drama relaxed fun... Guess just a little frustrated... However some nice pointers thank you x |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"He would be there and joining in. We come as a couple and play as a couple x
But you say you're looking for a fem for louise to play with.......And????"
I think it maybe should be "for us to play with".."For Louise to play with" does rather sound like its going to be f/f only..
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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"He would be there and joining in. We come as a couple and play as a couple x
But you say you're looking for a fem for louise to play with.......And????
I think it maybe should be "for us to play with".."For Louise to play with" does rather sound like its going to be f/f only..
x
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Fair point
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"The latest one had several verifications and lots of nice face pics sent to us on kik. Unfortunately they now have lots of our face pics and her pics turned out to be of a soft porn web model in Australia. Oh well x"
This is why I prefer to swop pics here as if the site pic mods are doing there jobs right web images don't get approved in order to be swopped |
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
Welcome to my world lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a unicorn, just a filthy girl that fucks people. I meet loads of couples in clubs and out of them. But I'm common and dodgy as fuck apparently lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""We do not want to meet you if you do drugs, smell, overweight, boring, unsure, common or lying through your teeth."
Oh, I'm common. That rules me out.
I'm technically a little overweight too according to the NHS."
I've seen more fat on a chip. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi. Louise here just out of work catching up on Alecs forum. I guess I should describe myself as bisexual. We do only meet as couple but focus is on the other female should we meet... This is about sharing our pleasures and guess no offence meant to anyone... We are honest but genuine and after no drama relaxed fun... Guess just a little frustrated... However some nice pointers thank you x "
I do understand that. But I still believe your profile will put a lot of single females off interacting with you both, with a potential to meet. It's quite negative and insulting in its tone. Its your profile, and as such, you are free to write whatever you choose to write, but I just say it as a way to make you aware that some frustration could be allayed with a more polite and positive approach, as more bi fems could be interested  |
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"Hi. Louise here just out of work catching up on Alecs forum. I guess I should describe myself as bisexual. We do only meet as couple but focus is on the other female should we meet... This is about sharing our pleasures and guess no offence meant to anyone... We are honest but genuine and after no drama relaxed fun... Guess just a little frustrated... However some nice pointers thank you x
I do understand that. But I still believe your profile will put a lot of single females off interacting with you both, with a potential to meet. It's quite negative and insulting in its tone. Its your profile, and as such, you are free to write whatever you choose to write, but I just say it as a way to make you aware that some frustration could be allayed with a more polite and positive approach, as more bi fems could be interested "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not a unicorn, just a filthy girl that fucks people. I meet loads of couples in clubs and out of them. But I'm common and dodgy as fuck apparently lol"
Not dodgy at all common hell yea but you know we love that bitch |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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been rereading this post and I just want to add some points .
those who are fixating on a few lines in the OPs profile really do you need to comment on them lines in relation to yourselves. are you really that insecure you need to do that .I've seen guys get ripped to pieces for similar lines that some single ferns are writing in here.
since when is it a crime on a swinging site to state what you find attractive and what you don't .
secondly guys pretending to be single ferns the mind boggle talk about lack of integrity and desperation.
I think a visit to the local mental health clinic is something guys who do this really need to sort out because there is clearly something wrong upstairs with individuals who behave in that way that in my humble opinion . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a visit to the local mental health clinic is something guys who do this really need to sort out because there is clearly something wrong upstairs with individuals who behave in that way that in my humble opinion . "
I'm not sure that using mental health as an insult is very kind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"been rereading this post and I just want to add some points .
those who are fixating on a few lines in the OPs profile really do you need to comment on them lines in relation to yourselves. are you really that insecure you need to do that .I've seen guys get ripped to pieces for similar lines that some single ferns are writing in here.
since when is it a crime on a swinging site to state what you find attractive and what you don't .
secondly guys pretending to be single ferns the mind boggle talk about lack of integrity and desperation.
I think a visit to the local mental health clinic is something guys who do this really need to sort out because there is clearly something wrong upstairs with individuals who behave in that way that in my humble opinion . "
I'd say that if those lines are the main reason why single females would not want to contact the couple, and most of us are picking up on them, them it's clearly an issue with the profile... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not a unicorn, just a filthy girl that fucks people. I meet loads of couples in clubs and out of them. But I'm common and dodgy as fuck apparently lol"
Ohhhh luckily we didn't meet at Blackpool social then   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profile looks ok & is certainly do the Mrs, she fits ....single meets with Fems without the hubby are hard for the unicorns too at times ....just give me your wife for the night |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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"been rereading this post and I just want to add some points .
those who are fixating on a few lines in the OPs profile really do you need to comment on them lines in relation to yourselves. are you really that insecure you need to do that .I've seen guys get ripped to pieces for similar lines that some single ferns are writing in here.
since when is it a crime on a swinging site to state what you find attractive and what you don't .
secondly guys pretending to be single ferns the mind boggle talk about lack of integrity and desperation.
I think a visit to the local mental health clinic is something guys who do this really need to sort out because there is clearly something wrong upstairs with individuals who behave in that way that in my humble opinion .
I'd say that if those lines are the main reason why single females would not want to contact the couple, and most of us are picking up on them, them it's clearly an issue with the profile..."
Actually im beginning to like those lines more and more. Theyre meant to be taken in a tongue in cheek kind of way but im noticing that all the people who have responded in a negative way to our profie and say they wouldnt meetbecause of it are exactly the kind of people that are not our type. So putting them off is exactly what those few lines is intended to do. Result. Fuse well and truly lit!! |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi. Louise here just out of work catching up on Alecs forum. I guess I should describe myself as bisexual. We do only meet as couple but focus is on the other female should we meet... This is about sharing our pleasures and guess no offence meant to anyone... We are honest but genuine and after no drama relaxed fun... Guess just a little frustrated... However some nice pointers thank you x
I do understand that. But I still believe your profile will put a lot of single females off interacting with you both, with a potential to meet. It's quite negative and insulting in its tone. Its your profile, and as such, you are free to write whatever you choose to write, but I just say it as a way to make you aware that some frustration could be allayed with a more polite and positive approach, as more bi fems could be interested "
But in the main you would still need to find them, because after chatting to couples on here & in clubs it would appear most do not make the first move..
Just the way it is unfortunately..
Good luck..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wounder what it is your doing wrong op ???
They are banging our door down . And we are not even meeting ???
Oh the trials you have to go through when your hot as hell lol lol  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"been rereading this post and I just want to add some points .
those who are fixating on a few lines in the OPs profile really do you need to comment on them lines in relation to yourselves. are you really that insecure you need to do that .I've seen guys get ripped to pieces for similar lines that some single ferns are writing in here.
since when is it a crime on a swinging site to state what you find attractive and what you don't .
secondly guys pretending to be single ferns the mind boggle talk about lack of integrity and desperation.
I think a visit to the local mental health clinic is something guys who do this really need to sort out because there is clearly something wrong upstairs with individuals who behave in that way that in my humble opinion .
I'd say that if those lines are the main reason why single females would not want to contact the couple, and most of us are picking up on them, them it's clearly an issue with the profile..."
you see that's where we differ I read the lines and thought well at least they have a idea of what there looking for .
I'm slim and if I was a single fern and I liked the look of them in there pictures I wouldn't be put off .
what is the point of lying about want you find attractive isn't that just going to lead you into wasting peoples time by encouraging those you not going to find attractive into taking time out of there day to message you .
if I see a profile and its says looking for a guy over 6 foot do I take the fact they are looking for someone talker that me personally and comment on it or do I just think oh well I'm not for them and move on respecting there honesty as I do so.
I do the latter obviously thinking good luck hope you find what your looking for . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He would be there and joining in. We come as a couple and play as a couple x
But you say you're looking for a fem for louise to play with.......And????"
And you really need to me say it?
Can see why you're still looking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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you see that's where we differ I read the lines and thought well at least they have a idea of what there looking for .
I'm slim and if I was a single fern and I liked the look of them in there pictures I wouldn't be put off .
what is the point of lying about want you find attractive isn't that just going to lead you into wasting peoples time by encouraging those you not going to find attractive into taking time out of there day to message you .
if I see a profile and its says looking for a guy over 6 foot do I take the fact they are looking for someone talker that me personally and comment on it or do I just think oh well I'm not for them and move on respecting there honesty as I do so. "
I think the problem is the ambiguity.
Someone who is looking for people who are 6ft+ are looking for something that is measurable. You can measure if you are 6ft or not.
- smell
- overweight
- boring
-unsure
-common
You can't measure those things. They aren't really quantifiable by the average person. And because of the influence of society, women are much more likely to feel like they don't live up to given standards (this has been proven in studies - try Talbot's book called Language and Gender) and therefore just not apply.
If you want to appeal to women, it helps to have some modicum of understanding of how sometimes women can differ to men due to societies influences. One of those things includes the fact that women are far more likely to go 'Oh, I don't have those qualities'. It is seen all the time in things like job applications, university personal statements, etc etc. It's the way it is.
So removing those things and dealing with women on a case by case basis (because lets face it, you're unlikely to get utterly overwhelmed by single, bisexual women on this site) wouldn't be a bad thing, and may help the OP have a better result from their searching. |
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You can't measure those things. They aren't really quantifiable by the average person. And because of the influence of society, women are much more likely to feel like they don't live up to given standards (this has been proven in studies - try Talbot's book called Language and Gender) and therefore just not apply.
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I like the cute of your jib. Point made very nicely. |
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"Actually im beginning to like those lines more and more. Theyre meant to be taken in a tongue in cheek kind of way but im noticing that all the people who have responded in a negative way to our profie and say they wouldnt meetbecause of it are exactly the kind of people that are not our type. So putting them off is exactly what those few lines is intended to do. Result. Fuse well and truly lit!!"
I'm glad it's working out for you OP. But maybe it's an idea to attract the kind of people you do want to meet rather than put off the ones you don't? |
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"Actually im beginning to like those lines more and more. Theyre meant to be taken in a tongue in cheek kind of way but im noticing that all the people who have responded in a negative way to our profie and say they wouldnt meetbecause of it are exactly the kind of people that are not our type. So putting them off is exactly what those few lines is intended to do. Result. Fuse well and truly lit!!"
But aren't you the ones struggling to find a single female for playtime!?
We were more just giving a bit of advice on why you might be struggling...
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"Actually im beginning to like those lines more and more. Theyre meant to be taken in a tongue in cheek kind of way but im noticing that all the people who have responded in a negative way to our profie and say they wouldnt meetbecause of it are exactly the kind of people that are not our type. So putting them off is exactly what those few lines is intended to do. Result. Fuse well and truly lit!!
I'm glad it's working out for you OP. But maybe it's an idea to attract the kind of people you do want to meet rather than put off the ones you don't? "
This was my point. Not only are they putting off the ones they don't want to meet, but potentially, the ones they would like to meet would be put off by what sounds a little offensive in general. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Actually im beginning to like those lines more and more. Theyre meant to be taken in a tongue in cheek kind of way but im noticing that all the people who have responded in a negative way to our profie and say they wouldnt meetbecause of it are exactly the kind of people that are not our type. So putting them off is exactly what those few lines is intended to do. Result. Fuse well and truly lit!!
I'm glad it's working out for you OP. But maybe it's an idea to attract the kind of people you do want to meet rather than put off the ones you don't?
This was my point. Not only are they putting off the ones they don't want to meet, but potentially, the ones they would like to meet would be put off by what sounds a little offensive in general. "
actually I think your all wrong the only people who would be put of by the lines in question are those who fall into what's in the lines,
this is about insecurities people with insecurities often foster there insecurities onto the shoulders of other and try to make it about the other person instead of about there own lack of confidence in who they are .
a confident person reading the lines in the OPs profile will just smile and more on if they don't think they fit what they are looking for .
where as a person lacking in confidence will find fault in said lines .
well that's what I think anyway I could be right I could be wrong .
PS take a look at of op veries they seem to be doing fine with there profile as it is . |
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over a year ago
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"Actually im beginning to like those lines more and more. Theyre meant to be taken in a tongue in cheek kind of way but im noticing that all the people who have responded in a negative way to our profie and say they wouldnt meetbecause of it are exactly the kind of people that are not our type. So putting them off is exactly what those few lines is intended to do. Result. Fuse well and truly lit!!
I'm glad it's working out for you OP. But maybe it's an idea to attract the kind of people you do want to meet rather than put off the ones you don't?
This was my point. Not only are they putting off the ones they don't want to meet, but potentially, the ones they would like to meet would be put off by what sounds a little offensive in general.
actually I think your all wrong the only people who would be put of by the lines in question are those who fall into what's in the lines,
this is about insecurities people with insecurities often foster there insecurities onto the shoulders of other and try to make it about the other person instead of about there own lack of confidence in who they are .
a confident person reading the lines in the OPs profile will just smile and more on if they don't think they fit what they are looking for .
where as a person lacking in confidence will find fault in said lines .
well that's what I think anyway I could be right I could be wrong .
PS take a look at of op veries they seem to be doing fine with there profile as it is . "
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"Actually im beginning to like those lines more and more. Theyre meant to be taken in a tongue in cheek kind of way but im noticing that all the people who have responded in a negative way to our profie and say they wouldnt meetbecause of it are exactly the kind of people that are not our type. So putting them off is exactly what those few lines is intended to do. Result. Fuse well and truly lit!!
I'm glad it's working out for you OP. But maybe it's an idea to attract the kind of people you do want to meet rather than put off the ones you don't?
This was my point. Not only are they putting off the ones they don't want to meet, but potentially, the ones they would like to meet would be put off by what sounds a little offensive in general.
actually I think your all wrong the only people who would be put of by the lines in question are those who fall into what's in the lines,
this is about insecurities people with insecurities often foster there insecurities onto the shoulders of other and try to make it about the other person instead of about there own lack of confidence in who they are .
a confident person reading the lines in the OPs profile will just smile and more on if they don't think they fit what they are looking for .
where as a person lacking in confidence will find fault in said lines .
well that's what I think anyway I could be right I could be wrong .
PS take a look at of op veries they seem to be doing fine with there profile as it is . "
Well personally I think you're wrong. I'm not concerned about whether I fit into their criteria or not. I would pass them by purely based on the tone. Just like I would pass by a man who came across as a little arrogant on their profile, or another couple for that matter. I get in touch with people who I think sound respectful, approachable and friendly, purely based on the fact that I want to enjoy their company, not just the sex. There is a way to word your preferences without coming across in a negative manner... And I do practice what I preach, as I make sure not make anyone feel uncomfortable reading my profile. I don't like demanding verging on rude profiles, and I'm sure others wouldn't either, thereby making their search pool even smaller than it already is. That's the point I was trying make with my earlier comment. |
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PS take a look at of op veries they seem to be doing fine with there profile as it is . "
14 men
10 couples
0 single women
And this post is about not being able to meet single women.
I would suggest that they're not doing 'fine', otherwise they wouldn't have posted... |
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over a year ago
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PS take a look at of op veries they seem to be doing fine with there profile as it is . "
Not quite. All the veris are by couples and single men. They haven't found a genuine single female yet which is what they are looking for. I think the OP wanted to have a moan about fake profiles (fair enough) and a few have tried to point out how they could meet said women only for the thread to derail a bit. They can word the profile how they choose but people pointing out the negativities isn't a projection of their own issues. Fakes are just a part of FAB life. You learn how to work out who is who they say they are. Meh.
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"While it's evident the OP could perhaps word those lines more tactfully. As an overweight person I take no offence, I just know not to bother, so I'd say their profile does what it says in the tin"
thank you someone with confidence who sees no real thought in there profile .
I'll by you a drink no strings attached any day |
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over a year ago
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PS take a look at of op veries they seem to be doing fine with there profile as it is .
Not quite. All the veris are by couples and single men. They haven't found a genuine single female yet which is what they are looking for. I think the OP wanted to have a moan about fake profiles (fair enough) and a few have tried to point out how they could meet said women only for the thread to derail a bit. They can word the profile how they choose but people pointing out the negativities isn't a projection of their own issues. Fakes are just a part of FAB life. You learn how to work out who is who they say they are. Meh.
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errr maybe because they have only just decided couples and single ferns are preferred from now on so posted this post as a come look at us post . |
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over a year ago
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errr maybe because they have only just decided couples and single ferns are preferred from now on so posted this post as a come look at us post ."
Of course that's it. Why did I not think that? Maybe because they have been interacting with fake females so not just decided? |
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
These sad blokes pretending to be women veri each other to make themselves appear genuine. I've never met anyone on here but I've had several "I will veri you if you will veri me" offers. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??
These sad blokes pretending to be women veri each other to make themselves appear genuine. I've never met anyone on here but I've had several "I will veri you if you will veri me" offers."
well said fella I hope you reported them because lets be honest here we really do need to get shot of such people as they ruin the fun of swinging for those they interact with . |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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errr maybe because they have only just decided couples and single ferns are preferred from now on so posted this post as a come look at us post .
Of course that's it. Why did I not think that? Maybe because they have been interacting with fake females so not just decided? "
have you even run a couples profile some guys will say and do anything to try and get a meet with the female half fake single fern profiles fake couples profiles you name it .
the list of how such people behave is endless and I mean endless . |
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
We have met them or should I say nikki has.
Try and find one to meet the Mrs alone.
A lot don't want to be thought of as show pieces.
If your mrs is truly bi she would be up for it |
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errr maybe because they have only just decided couples and single ferns are preferred from now on so posted this post as a come look at us post .
Of course that's it. Why did I not think that? Maybe because they have been interacting with fake females so not just decided?
have you even run a couples profile some guys will say and do anything to try and get a meet with the female half fake single fern profiles fake couples profiles you name it .
the list of how such people behave is endless and I mean endless ."
I run a couples profile and don't seem to have problems meeting single women...
We don't actually find that we really get any time wasters. Perhaps it's all about how you come across in your profile? |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??
We have met them or should I say nikki has.
Try and find one to meet the Mrs alone.
A lot don't want to be thought of as show pieces.
If your mrs is truly bi she would be up for it "
Erm...no...because we are a couple who play as a couple? |
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
You're going to have to get use to the plague until this site starts charging people and even that may not be the answer. |
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx"
Completely different OP. Very approachable. I really think you have a very good chance to find the type of woman you are looking for with that. Good luck to you both in your search xx |
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Completely different OP. Very approachable. I really think you have a very good chance to find the type of woman you are looking for with that. Good luck to you both in your search xx"
Thankyou x. And thanks for your input and advise. Much appreciated xx |
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx"
A thousand times more welcoming. |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
A thousand times more welcoming. "
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"Is it so hard to find a girl for Louise to play with?! So fed up with messaging verified single girls and then they still turning out to be sad pathetic time wasting men. So frustrating!!!!!!??"
Hang on so you saying there's woman's profiles that are actually dude behind them!? Wtf
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx"
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too! |
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too!"
Thankyou xx |
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too! Thankyou xx"
Nice chassis too OP |
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There a new website program called TinEye it scanner program with its own web engine it scans photos on the site and search the web to see if the people are real |
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"Not all are fakes.. some just dont want to meet couples "
I'm a genuine single woman and as above, I'm not interested in couples. Far to many fake couples as well. Plus I'm not interested in being used solely as a woman's sex toy. Single men for me. Can't go wrong with them |
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"There a new website program called TinEye it scanner program with its own web engine it scans photos on the site and search the web to see if the people are real"
Yes - although on my previous profile I was accused of being a fake because Google Image Search found my profile picture... except... that's because it was another profile of mine?
We might have the tools, but not everyone can interpret what they tell us... |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too! Thankyou xx
Nice chassis too OP "
Chassis? |
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too! Thankyou xx
Nice chassis too OP
As in body...
Chassis?"
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too! Thankyou xx
Nice chassis too OP
As in body...
Chassis?"
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too! Thankyou xx
Nice chassis too OP
As in body...
Chassis?
Oh thank you x"
You're welcome.. an now you know a new northern compliment lol x |
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"Anyhow.....thank you all for your comments...good and bad. Had a quick re-write of our profile so i guess feedback is welcome. Happy swinging everybody xx
Best of luck OP, you'll undoubtedly find what you are looking for now. Happy swinging to you too! Thankyou xx
Nice chassis too OP
As in body...
Chassis?
Oh thank you x
I feel educated
You're welcome.. an now you know a new northern compliment lol x"
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By *odramafun OP Couple
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"OP your profile rewrite is great. It comes across as warm and friendly with no negativity.
Hopefully you will attract some lovely people "
Thank you.. Appears Alec has been causing a stir why I am at work but hopefully all has ended well and I like our new profile x |
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