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weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try to relax more if you are nervous then it is going to be difficult also try different positions like you being on top that way you can take control if it becomes uncomfortable. |
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over a year ago
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"weve tried all that haha, get so far in and it kills! wouldnt wish him to have a smaller cock though! haha"
Have you try using smaller toys first blg up it can help loosen up and relax you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nah forget but plugs even a no 2 traumatises me lol,id love to know how some women take a good back door kicking with no problems at all? whats the secret girls? (oh i nearly forgot )and guys ? i was thinking something along the lines of bonjella it works on gums so maybe it would work on bums lol,if u do find a way to make it easier and comfy _wingers01 please let me know as hubby is an arse mad wannabe lol  |
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By *iteskinMan
over a year ago
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grit ya teeth
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get a cock mold and do it of your hubbies dick
then try fucking him up the ass like he does you
if he can take it no problem then you take it no problem too
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it is exit hole only lmao |
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"nah forget but plugs even a no 2 traumatises me lol,id love to know how some women take a good back door kicking with no problems at all? whats the secret girls? (oh i nearly forgot )and guys ? i was thinking something along the lines of bonjella it works on gums so maybe it would work on bums lol,if u do find a way to make it easier and comfy _wingers01 please let me know as hubby is an arse mad wannabe lol "
it's about relaxation,trust and wanting too.Oh and i rarey use lube. |
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over a year ago
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Ok here the secret....Get in the shower with your man. Make sure its nice and warm/hot....Heat loosens up muscle so it will relax your anus....While your in there use the time for foreplay....Do your thing...and during it make sure you get him to start fingering your ass increasing the number of fingers slowly......try a small dildo if you can but the key is to slowly increase the intensity as you want your body to relax...a massage before the shower will help with this...
once your out of the shower use a lot of lube/OIL it works wonders.try putting your legs behind your neck..whatevers comfortable.....get him to play with your ass a bit and concentrate on relaxing your ans letting him in...make him use a lot of lube on his dick too....make it as slippery as possible.....when hes abt to go in tell him to rub his cock against your ass first so your body is accalmitised to whats going to happen....do tell me how this works out
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I would suggest that you NEVER use anything to numb or desensitise the area. You feel pain for a good reason, its to tell you your body is being damaged. Too much, too soon and too fast can cause tears to tissue/muscles.
The anus has what might be compared to a 'gag reflex', such that if something tries to enter it, its natural reaction it to clam shut.
You need to learn to control this reflex action. Sorry but this is gonna get a bit graphic.. you need to concentrate on pushing like you're trying to have a dump, that dilates/relaxes the anus and sphincter.
Use a lubricant cream of some sort, E45 lotion,or a quality hand cream. Spit is nowhere near good enough (for a beginner at least) and KY tends to dry up too quick. You might do better to warm up the cream first, anything cold is likely to make you clam up all the more.
And as someone has suggested already, start with a finger, then two, then three, take you time and don't try and rush it... enjoy  |
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"I would suggest that you NEVER use anything to numb or desensitise the area. You feel pain for a good reason, its to tell you your body is being damaged. Too much, too soon and too fast can cause tears to tissue/muscles.
The anus has what might be compared to a 'gag reflex', such that if something tries to enter it, its natural reaction it to clam shut.
You need to learn to control this reflex action. Sorry but this is gonna get a bit graphic.. you need to concentrate on pushing like you're trying to have a dump, that dilates/relaxes the anus and sphincter.
Use a lubricant cream of some sort, E45 lotion,or a quality hand cream. Spit is nowhere near good enough (for a beginner at least) and KY tends to dry up too quick. You might do better to warm up the cream first, anything cold is likely to make you clam up all the more.
And as someone has suggested already, start with a finger, then two, then three, take you time and don't try and rush it... enjoy "
Well said about anything to numb or desntisise.....and to OP, if it's too big don't go any further, enjoy everyting else you like though |
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"Oh god I love anal!! All I need is a little rimming and I'm more than ready for cock! I even orgasm through anal!!
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And what about the misses, does she like anal too?
Sorry, yes its silly but I couldn't resist |
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"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "
get it wrong and its crap |
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"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips?
get it wrong and its crap "
Lol very apt Sam!  |
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I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.
You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable. |
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"I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.
You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable. "
Even better with a rabbit in pussy at the same time...mindblowing!  |
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"I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.
You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable.
Even better with a rabbit in pussy at the same time...mindblowing! "
Now that is turning me on too !!  |
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ok hear goes ,first lube up get him to finger in you as deep as he can with a well lubed finger for a while ,then i find lie on your side with your knees up towards your chest as far as you can,this will strating out your back passage have your lover lube up realy well place his cock on your bum hole push in then when he is in a little you bare down as if pooing this opens up your spincer a little do this a few times pulling out lubing up each time ,take your time then it will sudenly pop in, some times a little painfull but you will get used to it |
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"I would suggest that you NEVER use anything to numb or desensitise the area. You feel pain for a good reason, its to tell you your body is being damaged. Too much, too soon and too fast can cause tears to tissue/muscles.
The anus has what might be compared to a 'gag reflex', such that if something tries to enter it, its natural reaction it to clam shut.
You need to learn to control this reflex action. Sorry but this is gonna get a bit graphic.. you need to concentrate on pushing like you're trying to have a dump, that dilates/relaxes the anus and sphincter.
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glad someone warned you about desensitising creams not a good idea.
i find a spoons postition works for us as well as on top and on my knees. also works when i have the strap on.
a enima works to help clean you out , and lube, lube lube and then more lube.. you can buy lube in single dose tubes that put the lube right inside. these are good as a top up.. as the lube is inside as well .
and relax,, explore the area as much as possible with fingers, toys tongue what ever turns you on, and i am sure you will get there.. |
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"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "
Use something to bite down hard on |
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"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "
It is not compulsory. Only do it if and when you are ready and really want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd love to give you some advice -
But after reading this thread I'm just so damn horny that I can't think of anything but the delicious feel of a huge cock buried deep in my bum - it's been too long and now you've made me desperate for it again...waaaa!!!!!
All I can say is that it takes time to slowly stretch, but keep using bigger and bigger things and you'll get there in a few weeks... and, ohmygod - it's worth it!!!! Make it a fun thing between you to see how much you can slowly stretch and what new things you can manage to take and enjoy...
I think that I need to go and get on my hands and knees now and seriously abuse my biggest dildo...
.... hell, I'm so horny!
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"weve been trying anal for a while now but cannot get into it properly as my partners cock is around 9inches and has a very big gerth! tried all the lubes etc and tried a bit of force but it kills me, any tips? "
Try Anne Summers Booty Lube, Worked for my Ex, got a muscle relaxant and good lasting lube. And slow and easy too |
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we first tried it in amsterdam must have been the wacky backy lol.
no seriously have a drink to relax
let hubby have your pussy first to warm you up i use lube but take it slowly im in charge i lead him in so i know how far
i can take it ,but do it bit by bit till you get used to it . |
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"Lovehoney do an anal gel that desensitizes the area making anal alot easier "
oh really? do they now.
(im taking notes you know, heard all about you!) xx |
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Lubrication lubrication and more lubrication try an anal relaxant dont try it until at least one orgasm vaginally beter still try my cock which is an inch shorter but much slimer and will feel great with your guys 9 in a DP |
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"I can relate to you, my parter is 9 inches, and at first it hurt like hell, but after a bdsm session with an anal hook, I can take it all! And I now love it, try laying on your side, as in spoons, or on your stomach.
You just need to get past the bit of pain, and then wow, it is really enjoyable.
ooh yesss i can vouch on this one will blow your mind
Even better with a rabbit in pussy at the same time...mindblowing! "
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Firstly, I have to be in the mood. Then I find it's best to be really relaxed, very, very turned on, definitely post an orgasm or two, lots of lube and for me, the best way is doggie, but the man doesn't move... I am the one who controls the movement and just take it really, really slowly, bit by bit...
Mmmm.... Hope you manage it! Really does give the most intense orgasms! |
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"Firstly, I have to be in the mood. Then I find it's best to be really relaxed, very, very turned on, definitely post an orgasm or two, lots of lube and for me, the best way is doggie, but the man doesn't move... I am the one who controls the movement and just take it really, really slowly, bit by bit...
This is best way i find as well YOU have to be incontrol. The 1st little bit does hurt but push past that and your away .... enjoy
Mmmm.... Hope you manage it! Really does give the most intense orgasms! "
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