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Racial preferences

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi all, been a bit trigger happy with the posting this morning, and decided to create a forum on this. A lot of women on here seem to prefer only white guys; is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?"

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

Personal Choice, we will play with anybody if there's a physical and mental attraction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX"

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Please everybody, take notice of Miss Tre's ideology! I do hope you went and got his number? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

Such a shame, I had more faith in the human race

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi all, been a bit trigger happy with the posting this morning, and decided to create a forum on this. A lot of women on here seem to prefer only white guys; is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below x"

No preference.

I go for intellect and kindness plus of course attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please everybody, take notice of Miss Tre's ideology! I do hope you went and got his number? Lol"

Really?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Personal Choice, we will play with anybody if there's a physical and mental attraction

That should be the only factor right, as long as there is a physical and mental attraction. Please preach this belief!

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

I think it's an outdated term but my family themselves refer to each other as coloured; I don't personally take offence to it, it's all love though, there is only one race - the human race

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm glad that you have the evolved mind which escapes many people I've encountered on here lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm glad that you have the evolved mind which escapes many people I've encountered on here lol"

Not everyone is ignorant here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I agree with the fact that colour or creed is not an existing boundary for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference... if you went to the pet shop to get a rabbit, you wouldn't look at the goldfish would you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not saying they are, it is just one of my observations

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

Really? It's personal preference. Just the same as I might prefer blondes, that doesn't make my a brunettist!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I personally have no preference, I've never been with a black girl or an asian but if I clicked with them it wouldn't bother me at all. There doesn't appear to be many black or asian women in Lincolnshire though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference... if you went to the pet shop to get a rabbit, you wouldn't look at the goldfish would you?"

The issue is deeper than that though, why have they got to be 'Like yourselves'? Surely it should be on how well the click is between the people? I'm sure you could find white people who are absolutely rude but find a truly respectful gent who is non white.

Also, us brothers are handsome too

Hahaha

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference... if you went to the pet shop to get a rabbit, you wouldn't look at the goldfish would you?"

And what's wrong with Goldfish...are you Fishest !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I prefer white men and women and Indian girls.

No other reason then that's what I prefer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

Unnecessary comment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

I agree that racism can play a part in some cases, but it's unfair to say it's mostly racism.

We fuck people who meet our tastes. If I don't find white or black people attractive then that's just how it is.

It's like saying straight people are sexist because they don't find people of the same sex particularly attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

Really? It's personal preference. Just the same as I might prefer blondes, that doesn't make my a brunettist!"

Hair colour and saying white only are two completely different playing fields; one is an environmental variable, the other is not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below x"

I'm mixrace... however find white males my prefrence for swinging.

But darker skinned men... both back and Asian, my preference for relationship... lol i knowwww xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference... if you went to the pet shop to get a rabbit, you wouldn't look at the goldfish would you?

And what's wrong with Goldfish...are you Fishest !!!!

Damn I guess I must be... I hang my head in shame

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

People are comparing preferences of hair colour and facial hair colour to race?!

AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS THIS HAS NO RELEVANCE?!?! Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

Clearly they're beardist and there is no place for that in society

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

People are comparing preferences of hair colour and facial hair colour to race?!

AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS THIS HAS NO RELEVANCE?!?! Hahaha

you'll always get nonsensical comments here.

Ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

Unnecessary comment. "

In your opinion !!! I'm just pointing out a fact that people have a rite to preference without being labelled racist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

Really? It's personal preference. Just the same as I might prefer blondes, that doesn't make my a brunettist!

Hair colour and saying white only are two completely different playing fields; one is an environmental variable, the other is not

Not at all, if I wanted to play with just blondes would it be wrong to put blonde only?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

People are comparing preferences of hair colour and facial hair colour to race?!

AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS THIS HAS NO RELEVANCE?!?! Hahaha

you'll always get nonsensical comments here.

Ignore it."

Thank you Harlot73, you're a lovely lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference... "

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

Really? It's personal preference. Just the same as I might prefer blondes, that doesn't make my a brunettist!

Hair colour and saying white only are two completely different playing fields; one is an environmental variable, the other is not

Not at all, if I wanted to play with just blondes would it be wrong to put blonde only? "

Not at all, blonde isn't specifying a race, anyone can change their hair colour or facial hair, saying 'whites only' is being specific though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

Unnecessary comment.

In your opinion !!! I'm just pointing out a fact that people have a rite to preference without being labelled racist "

it is when you say this is tedious.

if it's tedious to you then don't comment.

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By *rs DCouple over a year ago

far

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

Really? It's personal preference. Just the same as I might prefer blondes, that doesn't make my a brunettist!"
well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace."

Spot on! Nobody is calling each other racist here by the way...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace."

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By *ivnwcplCouple over a year ago

liverpool

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace."

oops....looks like this threads getting a bit personal and deep now !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

Are you offended for others who

May not be ?

Apologises if I read that wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

Spot on! Nobody is calling each other racist here by the way..."

We Know but Harriet as got a spoon in the pot and is stirring the shit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thin, fat, black, white, blonde, ginger, short, tall.

All preferences with the same relevance. Hair colour or skin colour it makes no difference, it's not racist it's a preference.

If you think it's racial then it is yourself that has an issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

oops....looks like this threads getting a bit personal and deep now !!!

I'm glad you find racism funny.

What else do you find funny?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personal Choice, we will play with anybody if there's a physical and mental attraction

You are a very sexy lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

oops....looks like this threads getting a bit personal and deep now !!!

I'm glad you find racism funny.

What else do you find funny?"

I find fanny farts funny

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

"Thin, fat, black, white, blonde, ginger, short, tall.

All preferences with the same relevance. Hair colour or skin colour it makes no difference, it's not racist it's a preference.

If you think it's racial then it is yourself that has an issue."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

Are you offended for others who

May not be ?

Apologises if I read that wrong. "

Just apologise full stop.

There, better.

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By *eemCouple over a year ago

Liverpool

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

I agree that racism can play a part in some cases, but it's unfair to say it's mostly racism.

We fuck people who meet our tastes. If I don't find white or black people attractive then that's just how it is.

It's like saying straight people are sexist because they don't find people of the same sex particularly attractive. "

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Seen plenty that say black only too, quite a few today actually. There's a multitude of reasons why people choose racial preferences on here but why get hung up on it, just go to the next profile and forget about the previous one. From what we've seen the number of profiles that don't state racial preferences far outweigh the ones that do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whether it's skin colour, baldness, size or sexuality there will always be a part of anybody that puts some people off. Don't get upset about it tho, just move on. For every person that doesn't like a particular trait there will be others that do.. I would also ask are the people complaining about the issue only looking to meet white people? Are you looking within your own ethnic groups for meets? Or are you yourselves avoiding for some reason? If that's the case it would be a little hypocritical

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thin, fat, black, white, blonde, ginger, short, tall.

All preferences with the same relevance. Hair colour or skin colour it makes no difference, it's not racist it's a preference.

If you think it's racial then it is yourself that has an issue."

I've not seen any profiles on here saying 'Blondes Only' though, so apologies if this seems irrelevant to me lol.

Secondly, if you read the thread I have not taken anything as racial, I was curious, and ethnic preferences are something completely different to environmental preferences; you're saying if I said 'I don't like to fuck white women', it's the same as me saying 'I don't like to fuck blondes'?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My 'preference' is black men only. That is because I only get turned on by black men, nothing else. And I get heaps of abuse for that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Seen plenty that say black only too, quite a few today actually. There's a multitude of reasons why people choose racial preferences on here but why get hung up on it, just go to the next profile and forget about the previous one. From what we've seen the number of profiles that don't state racial preferences far outweigh the ones that do. "

I beg to differ

Maybe it's my area lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My 'preference' is black men only. That is because I only get turned on by black men, nothing else. And I get heaps of abuse for that!

Does that make you racist ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My 'preference' is black men only. That is because I only get turned on by black men, nothing else. And I get heaps of abuse for that!

My type of woman

This is the issue though, I suppose in my world I don't see ethnicity as a dictating value as to who I want to explore my sexuality with. I have always been pleasantly surprised when stepping out of my personal confines and never base my interaction on the look of somebody - to me that's shallow

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

Are you offended for others who

May not be ?

Apologises if I read that wrong.

Just apologise full stop.

There, better. "

I was asking a question about a reply you made to someone else. I have nothing to apologise over harlot .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

Are you offended for others who

May not be ?

Apologises if I read that wrong.

Just apologise full stop.

There, better.

I was asking a question about a reply you made to someone else. I have nothing to apologise over harlot ."

O you do , voicing your opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

Lol yeah because living near or working with someone is exactly the same as fucking someone isn't it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thin, fat, black, white, blonde, ginger, short, tall.

All preferences with the same relevance. Hair colour or skin colour it makes no difference, it's not racist it's a preference.

If you think it's racial then it is yourself that has an issue.

I've not seen any profiles on here saying 'Blondes Only' though, so apologies if this seems irrelevant to me lol.

That's exactly what I'm saying, no different at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

Are you offended for others who

May not be ?

Apologises if I read that wrong.

Just apologise full stop.

There, better.

I was asking a question about a reply you made to someone else. I have nothing to apologise over harlot .

O you do , voicing your opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

Are you offended for others who

May not be ?

Apologises if I read that wrong.

Just apologise full stop.

There, better.

I was asking a question about a reply you made to someone else. I have nothing to apologise over harlot .

O you do , voicing your opinion

How very dare you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My 'preference' is black men only. That is because I only get turned on by black men, nothing else. And I get heaps of abuse for that!

My type of woman

lol"

I don't see that ethnicity dictates mine either but it's who I am. I see a lot of white guys and think they are good looking but sexually I just don't get turned on by them. It's just who I have grown into.

It's hilarious though...I get called racist for not fucking white guys and I'm white.. where's the logic in that???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My 'preference' is black men only. That is because I only get turned on by black men, nothing else. And I get heaps of abuse for that!

My type of woman

lol"

Like I said. Brush off the inane opinions dude and embrace the truly open minded people.

They do exist here AND in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX

I find it off that white people call black people coloured.

Are you offended for others who

May not be ?

Apologises if I read that wrong.

Just apologise full stop.

There, better.

I was asking a question about a reply you made to someone else. I have nothing to apologise over harlot .

O you do , voicing your opinion

How very dare you

Are you offended. If so I apologise for smiling.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace."

So; should let us say a couple profile specify a sexual preference for a certain sexuality, let's say "only those who identify as bisexual" your wild leap of imagination would mean that they were bigoted enough to only want to live near, eat near and work near bisexuals?

Glass houses and stones my dear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's all bollocks everybody does what they want they are here for their own entertainment not the entertainment of others who gives a shit who they want to fuck and who they don't ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thin, fat, black, white, blonde, ginger, short, tall.

All preferences with the same relevance. Hair colour or skin colour it makes no difference, it's not racist it's a preference.

If you think it's racial then it is yourself that has an issue."

So someone might prefer blonde hair on a partner, but it doesn't mean that they only have sex with people with blonde hair. Or someone might prefer men over 6 foot, but it doesn't mean they will never have sex with someone who is not of this description. A lot of men have a preference for boobs. Does that mean that a woman with small boobs is out of the question?Of course it doesn't. Someone might prefer oranges to apples but it doesn't mean they will never eat apples. But when it comes to racial presences these preferences are expressed as hard and fast unbreakable rules. I have to date, never been sexually attracted to a man of orientalist origen. But one day I might, who knows. It would be nonsense to rule out an entire race any more so than its nonsense to rule everybody of a particular hair colour or eye colour.

Mrs

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

"Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha"

While I understand your point.

You perhaps could consider that if a profile says

I don't like beards,hairy men, blonde,gingers and would like to meet white men

This makes it easier to avoid either side wasting their time messaging /reading something that serves no purpose in finding what they seek on here

It's a filter a way to express what intetests/turns them on

Just as you may select spanking or say not interested in bdsm

Just a thought

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

I beg to differ

Maybe it's my area lol"

Are you seriously saying that the number of profiles you've looked at the majority of them state a racial preference? If so, wow! Three years in and that hasn't been the case for us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thin, fat, black, white, blonde, ginger, short, tall.

All preferences with the same relevance. Hair colour or skin colour it makes no difference, it's not racist it's a preference.

If you think it's racial then it is yourself that has an issue.

Mrs"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I beg to differ

Maybe it's my area lol

Are you seriously saying that the number of profiles you've looked at the majority of them state a racial preference? If so, wow! Three years in and that hasn't been the case for us.

I've seen numerous couples profiles that dictate specific boundaries such as the above yes. We are obviously floating in two very different pools, please direct me to yours! Lol

At the end of the day, I thought swinging was a lifestyle of freedom and openness undictatable by factors labelled and pushed on us by years of other people's ideals. It seems I am wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I beg to differ

Maybe it's my area lol

Are you seriously saying that the number of profiles you've looked at the majority of them state a racial preference? If so, wow! Three years in and that hasn't been the case for us.

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

At the end of the day, I thought swinging was a lifestyle of freedom and openness undictatable by factors labelled and pushed on us by years of other people's ideals. It seems I am wrong

Now you that could be read in a number of ways.... :/

It could be taken that you thought just because people are swingers that it's just the sex and nothing else comes into play on desire/attraction so we will fuck anyone!

But I'm sure that's not what you mean.

Just shows how's written words can be read in so many ways. ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

At the end of the day, I thought swinging was a lifestyle of freedom and openness undictatable by factors labelled and pushed on us by years of other people's ideals. It seems I am wrong

Now you that could be read in a number of ways.... :/

It could be taken that you thought just because people are swingers that it's just the sex and nothing else comes into play on desire/attraction so we will fuck anyone!

But I'm sure that's not what you mean.

Just shows how's written words can be read in so many ways. ..

Fully understandable, however this still doesn't adhere the use of 'white only'. I also said swinging as a lifestyle of openness which I don't believe implies that it is just down to fucking, believe me I am careful with what I write lol! In addition, along with my other posts, I'm sure it wouldn't come across like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

Glass houses and stones my dear. "

My dear - there is a functional purpose to wanting bisexual men only. My biggest kink is to watch men having filthy anal sex with other men. I like to see their assholes gape after they've been fucked sideways.

That is not the same as choosing someone based on skin colour. That is almost always based on a racist upbringing thanks to our shitty society.

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

"We are obviously floating in two very different pools, please direct me to yours! Lol "

Wrong! Same pool.

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

You clearly though bypassed my earlier post around stating a preference.

And I didn't say it was

I said this is something that could be taken several ways.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

Glass houses and stones my dear.

That is not the same as choosing someone based on skin colour. That is almost always based on a racist upbringing thanks to our shitty society."

I adore Indian girls. White girls but not black. Am I a third racist thanks to my nazi parents. Bit unfair to generalise someone on your beliefs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just read your profile, fair play lol

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By *rKinkedKuntMan over a year ago

Sheffield

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

99% of the time it's most definitely not this! It's just a preference, some like black some like white, some like fat some like thin, blondes or brunettes, etc etc etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Can't all the boys and girls just meet and have a good time? Lol

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

"Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha

While I understand your point.

You perhaps could consider that if a profile says

I don't like beards,hairy men, blonde,gingers and would like to meet white men

This makes it easier to avoid either side wasting their time messaging /reading something that serves no purpose in finding what they seek on here

It's a filter a way to express what intetests/turns them on

Just as you may select spanking or say not interested in bdsm

Just a thought

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

"Can't all the boys and girls just meet and have a good time? Lol

Yes if both parties have an attraction to each other....... if not..... no point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

Glass houses and stones my dear.

That is not the same as choosing someone based on skin colour. That is almost always based on a racist upbringing thanks to our shitty society.

I adore Indian girls. White girls but not black. Am I a third racist thanks to my nazi parents. Bit unfair to generalise someone on your beliefs "

But one day you might find yourself sexually attracted to a black lady, despite your usual preferences. A preference should not be treated as a hard and fast rule.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Really

Most want that BBC myth

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha

While I understand your point.

You perhaps could consider that if a profile says

I don't like beards,hairy men, blonde,gingers and would like to meet white men

This makes it easier to avoid either side wasting their time messaging /reading something that serves no purpose in finding what they seek on here

It's a filter a way to express what intetests/turns them on

Just as you may select spanking or say not interested in bdsm

Just a thought

I understand your viewpoint, however my issue is that characteristics you may seek are available regardless of colour; of all the people in the world is it that difficult to perhaps step out of the comfort zone and open your mind to potential preferences which you yourself might not have discovered yet? Talking about physical preferences and then sexual preferences as in the above are two different things right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are no more racist people on here than there are in normal walk's of life its ugly yes.

but people must stop using the race card just because they cant get a free fuck on a sex site, preference is just that preference its what you fancy at the time of picking whom you wish to play with we all have them its in-built and it has nothing to do with race (for mosts).

if folk want to play race cards then go and fight the media and the powers above who feed all the negative shit that's stirs up racism / religion, we will always pick who to play with we have our preference no facial hair we both don't like massive tits but our biggest no no is assholes and they come in all colours /religions shapes and sizes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

Glass houses and stones my dear.

That is not the same as choosing someone based on skin colour. That is almost always based on a racist upbringing thanks to our shitty society.

I adore Indian girls. White girls but not black. Am I a third racist thanks to my nazi parents. Bit unfair to generalise someone on your beliefs

But one day you might find yourself sexually attracted to a black lady, despite your usual preferences. A preference should not be treated as a hard and fast rule."

I'm Opened minded so it's not an 100% not out the question. Just not my preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not Racist. My friend is black.

My dogs brown

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

"Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha

While I understand your point.

You perhaps could consider that if a profile says

I don't like beards,hairy men, blonde,gingers and would like to meet white men

This makes it easier to avoid either side wasting their time messaging /reading something that serves no purpose in finding what they seek on here

It's a filter a way to express what intetests/turns them on

Just as you may select spanking or say not interested in bdsm

Just a thought

No.

I have yet to find a ginger haired man attractive

I have some great mutiny racial friends but I'm yet to meet a guy that I want to rip the clothes off

I don't like hairy men be they white black or sky blue pink!

So it isn't different

It's a choice

I don't consider it about race but you seem intento on only seeing it as that

I'm suggesting that instead of people assuming it's a racist thing maybe they consider it just a choice thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha

While I understand your point.

You perhaps could consider that if a profile says

I don't like beards,hairy men, blonde,gingers and would like to meet white men

This makes it easier to avoid either side wasting their time messaging /reading something that serves no purpose in finding what they seek on here

It's a filter a way to express what intetests/turns them on

Just as you may select spanking or say not interested in bdsm

Just a thought

No.

I have yet to find a ginger haired man attractive

I have some great mutiny racial friends but I'm yet to meet a guy that I want to rip the clothes off

I don't like hairy men be they white black or sky blue pink!

So it isn't different

It's a choice

I don't consider it about race but you seem intento on only seeing it as that

I'm suggesting that instead of people assuming it's a racist thing maybe they consider it just a choice thing "

You're a gingerist then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aren't people allowed to choose who they have sex with these days?

To me swinging is about enjoying your (legal) sexual desires without justifying it to anyone.

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Aren't people allowed to choose who they have sex with these days?

To me swinging is about enjoying your (legal) sexual desires without justifying it to anyone."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference...

Yes. And I'm sure it's 'purely just a preference' if you want only 'white people like yourselves' to live next door. Or eat in the same restaurants. Or work in your workplace.

Glass houses and stones my dear.

That is not the same as choosing someone based on skin colour. That is almost always based on a racist upbringing thanks to our shitty society.

I adore Indian girls. White girls but not black. Am I a third racist thanks to my nazi parents. Bit unfair to generalise someone on your beliefs

But one day you might find yourself sexually attracted to a black lady, despite your usual preferences. A preference should not be treated as a hard and fast rule.

I'm Opened minded so it's not an 100% not out the question. Just not my preference. "

Exactly, it's not out of the question for you. You don't specify your preference as a rule in your profile. It's when preferences turn into unbreakable rules that is being questioned here. Everybody understands that we all have different tastes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

How so?

It's down to personal preference not racism

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha

While I understand your point.

You perhaps could consider that if a profile says

I don't like beards,hairy men, blonde,gingers and would like to meet white men

This makes it easier to avoid either side wasting their time messaging /reading something that serves no purpose in finding what they seek on here

It's a filter a way to express what intetests/turns them on

Just as you may select spanking or say not interested in bdsm

Just a thought

No.

I have yet to find a ginger haired man attractive

I have some great mutiny racial friends but I'm yet to meet a guy that I want to rip the clothes off

I don't like hairy men be they white black or sky blue pink!

So it isn't different

It's a choice

I don't consider it about race but you seem intento on only seeing it as that

I'm suggesting that instead of people assuming it's a racist thing maybe they consider it just a choice thing "

No my initial point was that people state it on their profiles, then it got into being on the same level as deciding on a blonde or a ginger; which is incorrect in my opinion. I for one care less of race is the point I'm emphasising.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Loving the 20p 50p comments

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

You miss my point is could easily state

No ginger

No hairy

No multi coloured aliens (unless you're a clanger they're cute!)

I don't

If someone messages I simply say sorry not for me

Now some would say I'm wasting mine and their time. If I was clearer wouldn't have messaged.

It isn't wrong to say i/we don't want xxxx we prefer yyy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldn't it be nicer to say something like 'my ideal sex partner is a tall white man with blue eyes and brown hair (Well that's what I go for in a man), and then keep an open mind for those who are outside that description? Cos let's face it, it's practically impossible to find the ideal!

Mrs

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Lots of people have preferences on their profiles, specifying or excluding features that a person is born with.

Race is an obvious one. But lots of people are ruled out of meets with others because of height, weight, looks, hair colour, intelligence, ability to spell etc etc etc.

These are peoples preferences when choosing a person to have sex with.

It does not mean the person is racially prejudiced.

They are choices in the very subtle world of sexual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wouldn't it be nicer to say something like 'my ideal sex partner is a tall white man with blue eyes and brown hair (Well that's what I go for in a man), and then keep an open mind for those who are outside that description? Cos let's face it, it's practically impossible to find the ideal!

Mrs"

This

If you've got a preference then say what it is. Don't go out of your way to insult those that you don't prefer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ism's". Bloody pain in the arse. Brings the arsehole out in a lot of people. Am I prejudiced. Yes I am. Prejudiced about arseholes. You're not born with it or you become it. It's a choice. Whether you decide to behave as an idiot is up to you no matter who you are.

A few have appeared on this thread.

Get real people this topic has been kicked to death far too many times.

Just my two cents.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sexuality and sexual attraction is a funny thing, and different people will always be attracted to different things. Preferences are normal and a good thing - but people often reveal their true colours in the way they describe and present those preferences. I've seen a lot of what I consider racist views hidden behind the veneer of "preference".

Race doesn't come into it for me, height is my big thing. And I'll still always say that "I prefer taller men" not "don't you dare message me if you're under 6 foot".

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By *andfCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"There was a well fit coloured bloke who used to work in my bank, so no preference for white only in my camp XXX"

Coloured? How backward!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Exactly!!! I say I'm a sucker for a white hottie which is true! I hate all the negative profiles with "no blacks or Asians" not racist just preference

that's very negative in my opinion! There's no need to justify a 'preference' no one has said they are racist and I certainly wouldn't say that because I'm not what they are looking for. In terms of profiles out there that state things like that, I have seen lots of them in my area.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sexuality and sexual attraction is a funny thing, and different people will always be attracted to different things. Preferences are normal and a good thing - but people often reveal their true colours in the way they describe and present those preferences. I've seen a lot of what I consider racist views hidden behind the veneer of "preference".

Race doesn't come into it for me, height is my big thing. And I'll still always say that "I prefer taller men" not "don't you dare message me if you're under 6 foot". "

Thank you for articulating perfectly what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable with the racism/preference conversation. Yes, I completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

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By *L RogueMan over a year ago

London

Race doesn't come into it for me, height is my big thing. And I'll still always say that "I prefer taller men" not "don't you dare message me if you're under 6 foot".

Thank you for articulating perfectly what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable with the racism/preference conversation. Yes, I completely agree.

100% It's not what's said, it's how it's said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below x"
you must be just being petty yourself realy , which clearly is uncalled for , as just as many women on here are saying just black men an no whites , im noy one bit racist as you can see on my verifications ive met all races an enjoyed them , its a free sex site an people have there choices an should be allowed to make them choices with out being judged

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It seems that your just as racist as your accusing everyone else to be. Do you not like women of colour?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below xyou must be just being petty yourself realy , which clearly is uncalled for , as just as many women on here are saying just black men an no whites , im noy one bit racist as you can see on my verifications ive met all races an enjoyed them , its a free sex site an people have there choices an should be allowed to make them choices with out being judged "

Asking for opinions on what I've noticed is petty?

Also I thought there was a difference between a swingers site and a 'sex' site as you so elequently put it?

No one is being judged here, the basis of my arguement was what was being judged by people who put white only or what not on their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

What a ridiculous statement

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It seems that your just as racist as your accusing everyone else to be. Do you not like women of colour?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally for me I have no preferencene in regards to ethnicity. I've had a lot of fun with a few different races. It's all about the attraction, and personality match for me, the colour skin does not play a part. I do know some who prefer to stick to their own ethnicity sexually, and haven't found them to be racist, just not physically attracted to someone not of their own colour, though they have friends of different colour. It sometimes can be preference. Not saying that it can't be veiled racism sometimes too. It's just not clever to blanket everyone with the racism card, if they are attracted to their own ethnicity only.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Black guys only here lol, we are very racist.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally for me I have no preferencene in regards to ethnicity. I've had a lot of fun with a few different races. It's all about the attraction, and personality match for me, the colour skin does not play a part. I do know some who prefer to stick to their own ethnicity sexually, and haven't found them to be racist, just not physically attracted to someone not of their own colour, though they have friends of different colour. It sometimes can be preference. Not saying that it can't be veiled racism sometimes too. It's just not clever to blanket everyone with the racism card, if they are attracted to their own ethnicity only. "

God how dare you come up with such a radical theory that just because someone doesn't sleep with black people they may have black friends? Haven't you read above anyone who chooses white people only is a raging racist and will not have anything to do with black people ever

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By *rbane PlayerMan over a year ago

London

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below x"

I don't think this is true. Really. Aside from the issue that it is a personal preference who anyone sleeps with, and no one should feel the need to explain themselves.

I think the advanced search should allow for people to look for particular ethnic groups or be found by particular ethnic groups, but that is a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a black woman on here who only meets white guys, is she racist

There are a lot of black girls who only meet black guys are they racist?

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

I think the advanced search should allow for people to look for particular ethnic groups or be found by particular ethnic groups, but that is a different matter.

I maybe wrong but thought the advanced search allows you to do that already? A tick box of what ethnicities you're prepared to meet could be an option perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm glad that you have the evolved mind which escapes many people I've encountered on here lol

Not everyone is ignorant here.

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isn't it called preference these days?? and a lot are scared to be called racist,if someone only stays in there own race fair play end of story

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

People are comparing preferences of hair colour and facial hair colour to race?!

AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO THINKS THIS HAS NO RELEVANCE?!?! Hahaha

you'll always get nonsensical comments here.

Ignore it."

It's not nonsensical though, it's simply an analogy. Although a badly explained one,

Some people don't find beards attractive, some people won't meet people with body hair, some people don't find a particular size or body type attractive and some people only find a certain race attractive.

It comes down to taste and in the majority of cases that's all it is. To tar anyone who won't meet a person of another race as a racist is just ludicrous and entirely short sighted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To me it's all about preference..

If I fancy you I fancy you...it's that simple

For some it's just the same as colour of eyes or hair or height

For others it's colour of skin..

Everyone's diffrent...Iv seen profiles that they say no white guys...so works both ways I think?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not Racist. My friend is black.

My dogs brown

"
my cat is black my car is black my coffee is brown #justsaying

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By *rbane PlayerMan over a year ago

London

I think the advanced search should allow for people to look for particular ethnic groups or be found by particular ethnic groups, but that is a different matter.

I maybe wrong but thought the advanced search allows you to do that already? A tick box of what ethnicities you're prepared to meet could be an option perhaps."

Thank you for that. Completely missed it. And I do like your idea about options concerning ethnities a person is prepared to meet. I think it would save a lot of time, and judging from this thread, some potential hurt feelings.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I generally go for darker haired girls but that doesn't mean that blondes are out, it's just preference and everyone is allowed to have their own preference. It's funny that I find a lot of profiles are only interested in black guys

We find what we want to find

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By *r WhiteMan over a year ago

bulford

To be fair, I've seen a fair few profiles who only want black men instead, so it's not just coloured blokes, it's everyone getting it,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How's this for a radical thought

Why don't all the people interested in black men meet black men

And all the people interested in white men meet white men

And anyone who is looking for both do what ever they want and people stop giving a fuck about other people's choices?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair, I've seen a fair few profiles who only want black men instead, so it's not just coloured blokes, it's everyone getting it,"
I've seen it too loads black men only especially with white couples stating it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How's this for a radical thought

Why don't all the people interested in black men meet black men

And all the people interested in white men meet white men

And anyone who is looking for both do what ever they want and people stop giving a fuck about other people's choices?"

I don't give a fuck about other people's choices - but if someone asks the question "do you think this is racist?" and I think it's racist then I'm going to answer that way. If someone's secure in their decision and preference and genuinely feels it's not from a place of racism, I don't understand why they'd be bothered by someone asking a question about it.

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By *litheroevoyeurMan over a year ago

Clitheroe

Yes, personal preference is a perfectly legitimate reason.

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By *rbane PlayerMan over a year ago

London

"How's this for a radical thought

Why don't all the people interested in black men meet black men

And all the people interested in white men meet white men

And anyone who is looking for both do what ever they want and people stop giving a fuck about other people's choices?"

Of course you are right. But what isn't said is that this is all about who is getting chances to play and who isn't and why they are not. For example, the guys, of all colours, who are getting play meets, well, you don't see them complaining, do you ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most people here are both intellectually and emotionally dishonest. When it comes to race you then have to amplify that feeling 100 fold. Its a very English thing to be completely cowardly when it comes to the topic race...masking obvious bigotry in concern trolling and meaningless fluff "I dont see color rhetoric".

Also, FYI, the "I only go for black guys" couples/women are just as bad. I have no idea what it is with people who think that because I am fucking them that I have to ignore their rubbish mentalities or juvenile behaviour. 99% of the time the "I only date black people" types are about 5 minutes away from some idiotic justification for their preference based on some lame racial stereotype. Not all...but most.

As someone rightly said. Having preferences makes a ton of sense. When people go out of their to antagonise people with them, its obvious that they're immature and insecure. And its not just race, the same can be said for height. The tall girls who say "6 FOOT ONLY" always reveal that they have massive self esteem issues about their own perceived "height issues".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most people here are both intellectually and emotionally dishonest. When it comes to race you then have to amplify that feeling 100 fold. Its a very English thing to be completely cowardly when it comes to the topic race...masking obvious bigotry in concern trolling and meaningless fluff "I dont see color rhetoric".

I find the juxtaposition between your middle paragraph and the fact you identify yourself as "a BBC" on your profile header really interesting...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the black men who say they only fuck/date white women?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find the juxtaposition between your middle paragraph and the fact you identify yourself as "a BBC" on your profile header really interesting..."

I actually have a big black dick. Either way, you actually have somewhat of a point. Its a common term here, so maybe I am guilty of the same thing myself. Either way, the point still stands. The basis of said preferences tend to lean on the side of immature.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the black men who say they only fuck/date white women? "

Yup. Exactly the same. They tend to feed into the whole farcical display. TBH I somewhat sympathise with the inevitability of fetishization when it comes to this whole thing. Maybe there is a limit, as said I myself use the BBC term quite freely. And have dealt with women who use it quite freely. I suppose it is the extent to which someone goes out of their way to state their preference. Most of the women I have met in the swinging world have been white, I see no reason why I need to tell people about this experience or preference unless explicitly asked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find the juxtaposition between your middle paragraph and the fact you identify yourself as "a BBC" on your profile header really interesting...

That you do, I can see it. It is a common term on here, doesn't really do it for me - I tend to be put off messages from guys telling me they're a big black cock whereas I might have wanted to fuck them if they were a man, who happened to be black, with a large cock.

Whatever works for you, I just wondered whether it might add to you being contacted by the people who will objectify in that way because they feel they've got license to do so, because you have identified yourself as such.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below x"

You are actually suggesting that women should have "Legitimate reasons" for preferring to have sex with white men!?

Why the fuck should anyone have to explain their preferences? What are you suggesting...a fucking Fab Inquisition!?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have played with couples who have stated white only in their profile. Its just a preference but that does not make them racists.

Well they tried the cowboys try the Indians Lol.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

But what about the Smurfs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Human if possible please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry."

Utter bollocks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For the record I "say black men only" not because of some stereotype as you claim but because white cock does not turn me on sexually! Now that is who I am, who I have become and tbh it's all about choice and taste for which we all are different. I never question anyone's sexual partners on fab or in the real world so why the hell does this site turn people so judgemental and critical. Get over all the shit and have fun!!!!!! Phew...rant over

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find the juxtaposition between your middle paragraph and the fact you identify yourself as "a BBC" on your profile header really interesting...

Objectification isnt really the problem. I am black and I have a particular kind of penis. Thats all BBC really implies. Problem is, I have met people who say that they "dont do asians" for instance. Surprise, surprise when a race related topics came up they would start to extol all the problems they had with Islam and Asians in general...it became obvious hyper fast that it was more than a "preference". People sometimes try to be clever about their "politically incorrect" on here sometimes. I just find the need to mention their "preferences" rather pointless because it never starts and stops with it simply being a preference. Whenever I see "black men only" or "white men only" or "no asians", they're making a statement...just wish they would grow a pair and be more honest about it when asked.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

"Lot of woman prefer guys with no beards to are they racist as well ??? Jesus these are tedious

Or lots of tats Vs none, BBW vs slim, old vs young, couples vs singles, etc.

There are loads of preferences, and that's all they are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Uh huh. I know I am not alone as a black guy who generally avoids non-black people who seem to be rather gung-ho about their black male "preference". You're perfectly entitled to do as you please, but I often find that people with said mentality tend to have pretty toxic ideas when it comes to race and sex in general. I have been proven too right too many times on that front.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

Utter bollocks "

Oops I didn't notice the mostly

I prefer the Caucasian look but that does not exclude non-whites nor is it inclusive of all whites

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By *P_80Man over a year ago

Waterford

Ah lads this is ridiculous. Someone commented that they prefer white couples like themselves and their words were twisted to make them appear racist. Someone actually replied and insinuated that because they 'prefer whites' then they prefer whites living next door and in restaurants etc.

People don't have to be racist to not be attracted to a particular body type. And before you say skin colour isn't a body type, it's as much a part of the body as facial features.

It's like saying I'm sexist because I don't find men attractive.

I once was seeing a black girl who didn't find black men attractive at all and only dated white men. Is she racist? No!!

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By *ornographic ArtsCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

I watch way too much Korean tv dramas and those guys and girls hot so...

And HK action movies so... I don't see this as racist to have that preference. It doesn't mean anyone of that race will get a free pass, more that they just catch my eye more.

I am mixed race myself and my preference is that I don't like men of my own ethnicity as they always remind me of family. I wouldn't say I am racist because of this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Actually amazed at the amount of people who don't see the gaping difference between race and hair colour/beard style haha"

No gaping differences when they are used as sexual attraction filters and not racism.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm white, hubby is mixed race having a African American grandfather, 1/4 black then, so this is how we see it.....

Maybe people turn us down as they don't fancy us, fair enough everyone has different tastes.

Maybe people turn us down solely because of hubbies mixed heritage, fair enough as we wouldn't want to be associated with bigots anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't have any racial preferences, but that hasn't always been the case. But we wouldn't assume people are racist due to a preference based on race, even though we might be puzzled by it.

But as another poster said, people can be very dishonest with themselves in this scene.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Donald wouldn't be happy

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think it depends what country I'm in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've played with black and Asian people so no preferred race preferences here if your fit and want to play colour aint an issue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive never fucked any1 thats not white. Not through choice, just how its ended up sadly

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By *reamweaversCouple over a year ago

Manchester

What a pointless forum topic. There are more women with a preference for Black guys on fab, than there are for white.

I am also pretty sure there is no issue with someone declaring the type of person they prefer to sleep with. That's their choice.

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By *rummiePartyManMan over a year ago

birmingham

I've seen threads like this pop up every few months over the years. It's usually by and Asian guy or less often by a black guy starting things off, and it's then followed by white people either demonstrating how politically correct they are or stating their right to have their preferances. (& one's opinion of the other and vice versa)

I've not yet seen a thread started by a white guy asking asian and black people about their preferences, let alone asian and black people responding...It'd be a change for that to happen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did such a thread and got told my wording was very outdated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I fuck humans

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

It's understandable if others have had bad experiences with non-whites, however please do not tarnish us all with the same brush, I promise you the art of gentleman-ness knows no race

Thoughts below x

You are actually suggesting that women should have "Legitimate reasons" for preferring to have sex with white men!?

Why the fuck should anyone have to explain their preferences? What are you suggesting...a fucking Fab Inquisition!? "

lol I've answered this ignorance above - read the thread. For you to explicitly state you're into one kind of person to me is boxing yourself away, that's why the 'fuck' I decide to explain my preferences. Make sure you read before you yap.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"We like to stick to white people like ourselves.. purely just a preference... if you went to the pet shop to get a rabbit, you wouldn't look at the goldfish would you?"

Would you ask for a white rabbit or a black rabbit? Black or white people aren't THAT different for one to be a different species???

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

Really? It's personal preference. Just the same as I might prefer blondes, that doesn't make my a brunettist!"

Being a brunette or a beard can be changed, not a characteristic you can't change .... but part of your identity, there is a difference, its not as trivial as you make it out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one has the right to tell anyone who to fancy!

I dance who I fancy at the time!

And it's usually white men.

I'm half black does that make me racist?

If it does I don't give a fuck!

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

......." A lot of women on here seem to prefer only white guys; is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?....."

The answer is 'yes' because they can choose who to have sex with. They don't need to give any reason. Their body, their rules. That's a legitimate reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think the issue is as much in having a preference as it is the nonsense people come out with to explain/clarify it or justify how it doesn't make them racist.

My 'preference' is red heads and brunettes. Would I/have I slept with and embarked on long and short term relationships with blonde, Asians and Black females? Yes because I am not limited to my preference and do not rule people out for any reason other than there is no chemistry/mutual attraction.

I don't sleep with, or find people more appealing because they are 'like me'. The xenophobia is strong with that one.

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By *P_80Man over a year ago

Waterford

"is there any legitimate reason to this considering we live in a multi ethnic society?

They're mostly just racist. Sorry.

Really? It's personal preference. Just the same as I might prefer blondes, that doesn't make my a brunettist!

Being a brunette or a beard can be changed, not a characteristic you can't change .... but part of your identity, there is a difference, its not as trivial as you make it out."

So by that logic a woman shouldn't be allowed to specify tall men. Plenty of women look for men at least 6 foot tall. Are they being prejudice against short men? I mean height is something that cant be changed and is part of a person's Identity as you say, so can a woman not be allowed to say that she doesn't find short men attractive?

Answer: Of course she bloody can.

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By *igSuki81Man over a year ago

Retirement Village

Just marking for a read later

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't think the issue is as much in having a preference as it is the nonsense people come out with to explain/clarify it or justify how it doesn't make them racist.

I don't sleep with, or find people more appealing because they are 'like me'. The xenophobia is strong with that one."

Preferences /filters just make life a little easier.

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By *ofia2014Woman over a year ago

Galashiels

My preference is Asians.. Indians etc........ but not very many around here.

Vacancy open.......

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

I find the juxtaposition between your middle paragraph and the fact you identify yourself as "a BBC" on your profile header really interesting...

What about those of us who have mixed race children. are we immature too?

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