The thing is that numbers are massively skewed in favour of women so it isn't a reflection of you, your looks or personality if you don't get meets. You need to be able to separate it from reality if you can't and what should be a bit of casual fun starts to affect you negatively you need to walk away for your self esteem to remain intact.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Your profile is very negative and only let's people know you are negative.

It's off putting imo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don' let it get to you ... just brush it aside and keep going

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The little green arrow indicates you have posted this several times in the last year and nothings changed.

How about listening to some of the advise shared

Re do your profile and put some effort in?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes I have been here before and yes I listened to advice and changed what people told me to but still no luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd suggest going to any socials or clubs in your area.

Let people see you in the flesh. Don't just rely on here to meet people.

I rarely meet from a message on here anymore.

Good luck, don't let the site bring you down xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have to agree op your profile very negative put some spark into it and don't expect every message you send to get a response single men heavily outweigh the women and cples on here so your up against lots of competition need to make your profile stand out from the rest I don't consider myself successful but I take it all lighthearted on here. Get to some socials or to clubs don't just rely on this site too many guys think just cus they've joined it means automatic shag without any effort if you can't put the effort in don't expect results

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ta mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've updated my profile will you let me know what you think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Many women read the profile, before they open a message. Maybe therein lies your problem. "

Not just women. We always check the profile first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've updated my profile will you let me know what you think "

Reads like you're looking for mates to go to the pub with.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"I've updated my profile will you let me know what you think "

Much better, op, just stick with it and dont pander to everyone's wishes as you'll never get it right for everyone. Some people dont like overtly sexual profiles. Main thing is to get people chatting I imagine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're struggling with confidence I would never recommend this site. Male or female, although their experience will be very different, I just don't think it's sensible for people with very low self esteem.

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