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Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx |
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For many kissing is seen as the most intimate part of sex.
We love kissing, but respect others boundaries. We have cancelled one meet though where even a hug and a peck on the cheek by way of "thanks for a good evening" was too much for them. Not out of spite but just that our needs clearly didn't match theirs enough. Other no kissing meets have been great fun.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As our idea of a good meet is to enjoy real eroticism , and I love seeing my wife flirting , kissing , touching and so on , a meet with no kissing would be taking away the very essence of what we enjoy .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Golly gosh, what's hard to understand, . Strangely never see a forum saying how come no anal, or no oral, or not 3 guys at same time, preference , really simples. "
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over a year ago
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We was really into kissing but our regular f/b things changed,
To my surprise lol when I walked into the room as I nipped out side to the car , on my return there was my wife in full snog mode up against the wall being finger fucked, they was there well over ten min,
And she said it was great and had cum a few times on his fingers ,
Then spent the next hour being fucked in every way while enjoying a good snogging |
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"We was really into kissing but our regular f/b things changed,
To my surprise lol when I walked into the room as I nipped out side to the car , on my return there was my wife in full snog mode up against the wall being finger fucked, they was there well over ten min,
And she said it was great and had cum a few times on his fingers ,
Then spent the next hour being fucked in every way while enjoying a good snogging "
That sounds perfect , did you not like seeing that ? |
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over a year ago
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I've heard of that, mainly from forum posts, but haven't come across it in person. I've often wondered if people who have this rule find it more difficult to get meets. I once asked a male friend of ours on the scene if this would be a deal breaker and he said not a deal breaker but he probably wouldn't rush to go back for more. Another man we used to know had it on his profile 'if you don't want to kiss me, I don't want to fuck you'. That statement always made me laugh.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We was really into kissing but our regular f/b things changed,
To my surprise lol when I walked into the room as I nipped out side to the car , on my return there was my wife in full snog mode up against the wall being finger fucked, they was there well over ten min,
And she said it was great and had cum a few times on his fingers ,
Then spent the next hour being fucked in every way while enjoying a good snogging
That sounds perfect , did you not like seeing that ?"
Yes it was great and sexy in the bed she was fully snogging us both she let her hair down well and truly that night |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Met a polish girl local to me a while back she didn't do kissing that was reserved for her partner which was fine but must admit o do tend to start a meet with kissing fondling and a bit of oral either way  |
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"I've heard of that, mainly from forum posts, but haven't come across it in person. I've often wondered if people who have this rule find it more difficult to get meets. I once asked a male friend of ours on the scene if this would be a deal breaker and he said not a deal breaker but he probably wouldn't rush to go back for more. Another man we used to know had it on his profile 'if you don't want to kiss me, I don't want to fuck you'. That statement always made me laugh.
Mrs"
Absolutely no problem at all arranging meets or interest from people, , what's funny is this post has sprung up continually over the yrs, then a few of the , I wouldn't meet without kissing gang , actually message over time, lol I guess getting a ride is the fundamental reason for going here, however you get it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Must admit, im not fussed about kissing. I kind of reserve it for friends. Im here for sex with likeminded people compatable with me, if they want to kiss, fine, if not, im more than happy to go with it. |
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I've seen this too. and the other end of the spectrum - a profile which said that if you weren't a good enough kisser you'd get sent away without getting any further.
I think kissing is, for may people, particularly intimate; even more so than sex. They might want it as a prelude to sex, but others may want to save it only for their most special committed partners. |
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"Golly gosh, what's hard to understand, . Strangely never see a forum saying how come no anal, or no oral, or not 3 guys at same time, preference , really simples. "
Please don't get me wrong I'm not saying that people aren't aloud to say no kissing as a rule I'm purely saying I personally don't understand it as I think it plays a big part in not only the build up and for playing side of thing but also the connection... xx |
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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago
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"Golly gosh, what's hard to understand, . Strangely never see a forum saying how come no anal, or no oral, or not 3 guys at same time, preference , really simples.
Please don't get me wrong I'm not saying that people aren't aloud to say no kissing as a rule I'm purely saying I personally don't understand it as I think it plays a big part in not only the build up and for playing side of thing but also the connection... xx"
Exactly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been told to stop kissing as wasn't doing it the way she liked it but she was slightly tipsy and no matter what I did it wasn't right so in the end I made my excuses and left as I knew she wasn't really up for it her husband had thought it would be fun and despite several messages asking me back I have never returned as don't want them to feel obligated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own....I love kissing, I think, and have been told, that I'm very good at it.
For me it is an integral part and I will and have cancelled or refused meets for this reason (I've never been that desperate for a shag that I would compromise).
However I respect that for some couples they see kissing as more intimate than sex (???) and therefore keep it to themselves. In which case I'm not for you and you are not for me. But plenty others are! |
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Some see kissing as being intimate, emotionally intimate, so save it for someone they care for.
Some won't let men other than their OH cum in their mouth. Others save anal for their partner.
You don't need to understand their reasoning behind it, you just need to respect their choices. |
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When we started swinging we concluded we would have no specific rules regarding sexual acts with other people. The only rule was whether we wanted to do that particular activity or not. We don't have a sexual or intimate act that we only save for each other. For us, our life together is what we have that is exclusive to us. The fact that we have a home together, have children together, go on holidays together, and will grow old together, is what we don't do with other people's. For us intimacy with others has no baring on our relationship. Not saying this is right or wrong. It's right for us, and if we are going to enjoy sex with others we like to do that without restrictions. I can be intimate with many men, even have strong feelings for some, but I will only truly love my husband and share my life with him.
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"Some see kissing as being intimate, emotionally intimate, so save it for someone they care for.
Some won't let men other than their OH cum in their mouth. Others save anal for their partner.
You don't need to understand their reasoning behind it, you just need to respect their choices."
I respect everyone's choice 100%. And if it's just a good hard fuck they want so be it. I just find it strange that it all |
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"When we started swinging we concluded we would have no specific rules regarding sexual acts with other people. The only rule was whether we wanted to do that particular activity or not. We don't have a sexual or intimate act that we only save for each other. For us, our life together is what we have that is exclusive to us. The fact that we have a home together, have children together, go on holidays together, and will grow old together, is what we don't do with other people's. For us intimacy with others has no baring on our relationship. Not saying this is right or wrong. It's right for us, and if we are going to enjoy sex with others we like to do that without restrictions. I can be intimate with many men, even have strong feelings for some, but I will only truly love my husband and share my life with him.
Mrs"
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"Some see kissing as being intimate, emotionally intimate, so save it for someone they care for.
Some won't let men other than their OH cum in their mouth. Others save anal for their partner.
You don't need to understand their reasoning behind it, you just need to respect their choices.
I respect everyone's choice 100%. And if it's just a good hard fuck they want so be it. I just find it strange that it all "
Of course it could be because they have found, like I have, that most men are bad kissers. They seem to think that sticking their tongue so far in my mouth that I want to gag then swirling it about with copious amounts of slobber is erotic. It really isn't  |
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Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing?? |
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"Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing?? "
I could well imagine this could feel very marginalising for single lady or single man who joins with a couple, and understand why many wouldn't put themselves in that situation. Probably less of an issue with partner swaps as participants can kiss their own partner.
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing?? "
Kissing is a must for us, wouldn't meet those with this rule, each to their own though. |
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"Some see kissing as being intimate, emotionally intimate, so save it for someone they care for.
Some won't let men other than their OH cum in their mouth. Others save anal for their partner.
You don't need to understand their reasoning behind it, you just need to respect their choices.
I respect everyone's choice 100%. And if it's just a good hard fuck they want so be it. I just find it strange that it all
Of course it could be because they have found, like I have, that most men are bad kissers. They seem to think that sticking their tongue so far in my mouth that I want to gag then swirling it about with copious amounts of slobber is erotic. It really isn't "
Luckily for me I have never had this complaint but could definitely see that as an issue x |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx "
Do you like everything sexual..???? Probably not... for me kissing someone i have no connection with makes me uncomfortable and turn me off... same with caressing... cuddles and linking fingers...
With my partner whom i trust and have feelings for its amazing..just not with a meet... my partner loves to see me kiss other guys so its nothing to do with keeping it for us... its to do with how it personally makes me feel...and funny.. over a decade of swinging and never had a guy who didn't want a 2nd meet |
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"Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing?? "
i have no issue kissing women.. and love a 3 way kiss or to sit and watch my partner kiss ( he has to kiss ) but with guys... I just find it makes me very uncomfortable (there is a damned good reason)... and even with women its the fact it still feels like its naughty and the visual aspect for anyone else that is the turn on..
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
Do you like everything sexual..???? Probably not... for me kissing someone i have no connection with makes me uncomfortable and turn me off... same with caressing... cuddles and linking fingers...
With my partner whom i trust and have feelings for its amazing..just not with a meet... my partner loves to see me kiss other guys so its nothing to do with keeping it for us... its to do with how it personally makes me feel...and funny.. over a decade of swinging and never had a guy who didn't want a 2nd meet "
Well I haven't slept or fucked (or whatever way you want to put it) with anyone I don't have some form of connection with even if it is a very brief connection it makes everything so much more enjoyable... but to answer your question yes I like every sexual but do not enjoy the emptiness of feeling like a toy or empty sex so I do have to have a form of attraction (connection) ... |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
Do you like everything sexual..???? Probably not... for me kissing someone i have no connection with makes me uncomfortable and turn me off... same with caressing... cuddles and linking fingers...
With my partner whom i trust and have feelings for its amazing..just not with a meet... my partner loves to see me kiss other guys so its nothing to do with keeping it for us... its to do with how it personally makes me feel...and funny.. over a decade of swinging and never had a guy who didn't want a 2nd meet
Well I haven't slept or fucked (or whatever way you want to put it) with anyone I don't have some form of connection with even if it is a very brief connection it makes everything so much more enjoyable... but to answer your question yes I like every sexual but do not enjoy the emptiness of feeling like a toy or empty sex so I do have to have a form of attraction (connection) ..."
im talking feelings... and as i do not meet 121 how we meet will be very different... and ive usually not even found out someones name  |
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"Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing?? "
C'mon, oral sex isn't really intimate though is it... I'd go so far as to say it's the least intimate sex act going.
It's base and primal. Purely a 'getting off' act. |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
Do you like everything sexual..???? Probably not... for me kissing someone i have no connection with makes me uncomfortable and turn me off... same with caressing... cuddles and linking fingers...
With my partner whom i trust and have feelings for its amazing..just not with a meet... my partner loves to see me kiss other guys so its nothing to do with keeping it for us... its to do with how it personally makes me feel...and funny.. over a decade of swinging and never had a guy who didn't want a 2nd meet
Well I haven't slept or fucked (or whatever way you want to put it) with anyone I don't have some form of connection with even if it is a very brief connection it makes everything so much more enjoyable... but to answer your question yes I like every sexual but do not enjoy the emptiness of feeling like a toy or empty sex so I do have to have a form of attraction (connection) ... im talking feelings... and as i do not meet 121 how we meet will be very different... and ive usually not even found out someones name "
That's fair enough x |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx "
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman. |
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"Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing??
C'mon, oral sex isn't really intimate though is it... I'd go so far as to say it's the least intimate sex act going.
It's base and primal. Purely a 'getting off' act."
Seriously ?
The art , eroticism , the sheer intimacy of performing and receiving good oral sex is one of the most delightful acts out there .
The eye contact , the gentle tongue action , the teasing and then the sheer passion driven finale ....
Far from just a getting off act  |
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We much prefer kissing but it's certainly not a deal breaker. It's just another thing that falls under the "everyone to their own" category that has to be respected |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If he wants my mouth around his cock he can kiss me.
Kissing enhances sex for me, it's not a form of emotional attachment.
I won't give oral if we don't kiss and that would leave the sex as just a fuck. I'm not here for just a fuck.
Don't kiss, you won't be meeting me.
If I were meeting a couple I would kiss both or neither, not just the woman, but I wouldn't have to kiss. I understand that women don't always like seeing another woman kiss their man. |
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"Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing??
C'mon, oral sex isn't really intimate though is it... I'd go so far as to say it's the least intimate sex act going.
It's base and primal. Purely a 'getting off' act.
Seriously ?
The art , eroticism , the sheer intimacy of performing and receiving good oral sex is one of the most delightful acts out there .
The eye contact , the gentle tongue action , the teasing and then the sheer passion driven finale ....
Far from just a getting off act "
I agree, oral sex is delightful and fun. Still far from intimate |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman."
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx |
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"Oh eye it's ok for the couple to say they don't want kissing coz they have each other to kiss..leaving the single female that's come to meet them feeling cold and non turned on!
I will not meet anyone with this rule again.
Each to their own and all that but I just can't get my head around it..sex is highly intimate..oral sex is immensely intimate..why no kissing?? "
This for me too. I was chatting on here to one couple and the woman said that it was her decision on the night what I was allowed to do with her husband. This could be kiss, touch etc. She said it was the norm of Fab. I almost deleted my account. But luckily I found out that there are some couples that do share everything. I couldn't get intimate without kissing. This is my opinion and I understand it's not for everyone! X |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman.
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx"
You sat you understand that everyone has their own things then immediately say you don't. |
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"I've heard of that, mainly from forum posts, but haven't come across it in person. I've often wondered if people who have this rule find it more difficult to get meets. I once asked a male friend of ours on the scene if this would be a deal breaker and he said not a deal breaker but he probably wouldn't rush to go back for more. Another man we used to know had it on his profile 'if you don't want to kiss me, I don't want to fuck you'. That statement always made me laugh.
Mrs"
I don't know if we find it more difficult to get meets than people who do kiss however we find it easy enough. |
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"We much prefer kissing but it's certainly not a deal breaker. It's just another thing that falls under the "everyone to their own" category that has to be respected "
I don't understand the angst on preferences that some people have. I don't get arsey if we're not compatible, I just find someone who is.
Mutual respect is very important for me. It seems to be a dying trait.  |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman.
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx
You sat you understand that everyone has their own things then immediately say you don't. "
Maybe it came across wrong I understand that everyone has their own thing what I'm saying is I just don't see why people say no to kissing it's more of a curiosity than an opinion xx |
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"We much prefer kissing but it's certainly not a deal breaker. It's just another thing that falls under the "everyone to their own" category that has to be respected
I don't understand the angst on preferences that some people have. I don't get arsey if we're not compatible, I just find someone who is.
Mutual respect is very important for me. It seems to be a dying trait. "
I feel everybody has been respectful of people's preferences on this thread. It's been a good discussion
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"We much prefer kissing but it's certainly not a deal breaker. It's just another thing that falls under the "everyone to their own" category that has to be respected
I don't understand the angst on preferences that some people have. I don't get arsey if we're not compatible, I just find someone who is.
Mutual respect is very important for me. It seems to be a dying trait.
I feel everybody has been respectful of people's preferences on this thread. It's been a good discussion
Mrs"
Agreed |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman.
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx
You sat you understand that everyone has their own things then immediately say you don't.
Maybe it came across wrong I understand that everyone has their own thing what I'm saying is I just don't see why people say no to kissing it's more of a curiosity than an opinion xx "
You understand every preference but that one? You're not alone, loads of people think as you do. Vive la difference eh |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Whilst we don't quite understand it it wouldn't stop is meeting a lady, but thats rarely an issue with a solo female & is definitely more of a couples thing.
But given a choice of a meet with twins where one kissed, one didn't we'd always go meet with the kisser.
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"We much prefer kissing but it's certainly not a deal breaker. It's just another thing that falls under the "everyone to their own" category that has to be respected
I don't understand the angst on preferences that some people have. I don't get arsey if we're not compatible, I just find someone who is.
Mutual respect is very important for me. It seems to be a dying trait.
I feel everybody has been respectful of people's preferences on this thread. It's been a good discussion
Mrs"
Fair point. Respect ain't quite dead yet. x |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman.
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx
You sat you understand that everyone has their own things then immediately say you don't.
Maybe it came across wrong I understand that everyone has their own thing what I'm saying is I just don't see why people say no to kissing it's more of a curiosity than an opinion xx
You understand every preference but that one? You're not alone, loads of people think as you do. Vive la difference eh "
I understand exactly what you mean. I used to have a no MF kissing on our couples profile. It wasn't that I didn't want to kiss the other man but rather I didn't want to see my husband kiss another woman. I can't explain why I was OK watching him give and receive oral with her, have full sex, other than to say I found it to emotionally intimate. I have done away with the no kissing rule, but I still have a no cuddling rule. He can hug her when we play seperately, I don't care if he does or not, as long as I don't see him do it, he say not cuddling after having sex with a woman makes him feel like he is using her. So he can just as long as I'm not there.
Again I know this sounds strange as I trust him totally, it is just a weird little thing in my head |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman.
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx
You sat you understand that everyone has their own things then immediately say you don't.
Maybe it came across wrong I understand that everyone has their own thing what I'm saying is I just don't see why people say no to kissing it's more of a curiosity than an opinion xx
You understand every preference but that one? You're not alone, loads of people think as you do. Vive la difference eh
I understand exactly what you mean. I used to have a no MF kissing on our couples profile. It wasn't that I didn't want to kiss the other man but rather I didn't want to see my husband kiss another woman. I can't explain why I was OK watching him give and receive oral with her, have full sex, other than to say I found it to emotionally intimate. I have done away with the no kissing rule, but I still have a no cuddling rule. He can hug her when we play seperately, I don't care if he does or not, as long as I don't see him do it, he say not cuddling after having sex with a woman makes him feel like he is using her. So he can just as long as I'm not there.
Again I know this sounds strange as I trust him totally, it is just a weird little thing in my head "
I don't think it's weird. You should do what makes you happy. As long as everyone involved is happy with it too that's all that matters. |
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"Some see kissing as being intimate, emotionally intimate, so save it for someone they care for.
Some won't let men other than their OH cum in their mouth. Others save anal for their partner.
You don't need to understand their reasoning behind it, you just need to respect their choices.
I respect everyone's choice 100%. And if it's just a good hard fuck they want so be it. I just find it strange that it all
Of course it could be because they have found, like I have, that most men are bad kissers. They seem to think that sticking their tongue so far in my mouth that I want to gag then swirling it about with copious amounts of slobber is erotic. It really isn't "
This!!
I only kiss people after I've found out whether they are any good with their mouth on other areas first.
We state no kissing so it isn't expected but then if it happens further down the line it's a nice bonus. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman.
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx
You sat you understand that everyone has their own things then immediately say you don't.
Maybe it came across wrong I understand that everyone has their own thing what I'm saying is I just don't see why people say no to kissing it's more of a curiosity than an opinion xx
You understand every preference but that one? You're not alone, loads of people think as you do. Vive la difference eh
I understand exactly what you mean. I used to have a no MF kissing on our couples profile. It wasn't that I didn't want to kiss the other man but rather I didn't want to see my husband kiss another woman. I can't explain why I was OK watching him give and receive oral with her, have full sex, other than to say I found it to emotionally intimate. I have done away with the no kissing rule, but I still have a no cuddling rule. He can hug her when we play seperately, I don't care if he does or not, as long as I don't see him do it, he say not cuddling after having sex with a woman makes him feel like he is using her. So he can just as long as I'm not there.
Again I know this sounds strange as I trust him totally, it is just a weird little thing in my head "
We signed up for Fab then hid our profile for three weeks while we sat here together reading forum threads like this just to see what issues others had, what issues touched a nerve if you like, we then discussed them, some we worked with, some we had heated debates about, most were resolved, niggles removed, some you can't tell how you'll feel till it happens, but when we were ready we popped out to say hello..
It's working well so far
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We have the kissing rule as we find it to be an emotional thing and we like to keep that just for us. If it's a deal breaker on a meet so be it. We've had lots of successful meets with this requirement and many repeat meets and it's never been an issue and still all had a great time. |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
You contradict yourself in your second sentence.
For us it has nothing to do with Pretty Woman.
Sorry I'm lost what contradiction do you mean ? Xx
You sat you understand that everyone has their own things then immediately say you don't.
Maybe it came across wrong I understand that everyone has their own thing what I'm saying is I just don't see why people say no to kissing it's more of a curiosity than an opinion xx
You understand every preference but that one? You're not alone, loads of people think as you do. Vive la difference eh
I understand exactly what you mean. I used to have a no MF kissing on our couples profile. It wasn't that I didn't want to kiss the other man but rather I didn't want to see my husband kiss another woman. I can't explain why I was OK watching him give and receive oral with her, have full sex, other than to say I found it to emotionally intimate. I have done away with the no kissing rule, but I still have a no cuddling rule. He can hug her when we play seperately, I don't care if he does or not, as long as I don't see him do it, he say not cuddling after having sex with a woman makes him feel like he is using her. So he can just as long as I'm not there.
Again I know this sounds strange as I trust him totally, it is just a weird little thing in my head "
ohhhh im totally the same with the no cuddling thing.. ive been known to give a death stare and its involutory... yet i can watch him kiss.. fuck.. play and do everything else.. but i cant deal with playing separately lol x |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx
Do you like everything sexual..???? Probably not... for me kissing someone i have no connection with makes me uncomfortable and turn me off... same with caressing... cuddles and linking fingers...
With my partner whom i trust and have feelings for its amazing..just not with a meet... my partner loves to see me kiss other guys so its nothing to do with keeping it for us... its to do with how it personally makes me feel...and funny.. over a decade of swinging and never had a guy who didn't want a 2nd meet
Well I haven't slept or fucked (or whatever way you want to put it) with anyone I don't have some form of connection with even if it is a very brief connection it makes everything so much more enjoyable... but to answer your question yes I like every sexual but do not enjoy the emptiness of feeling like a toy or empty sex so I do have to have a form of attraction (connection) ..."
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over a year ago
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"Sex with out the kissing just seems wrong I can't imaging trying it as it's one of the most natural things to do while enjoying sex lol"
This
No kiss and I will give it a miss thanks |
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx "
If you understand everyone has their thing what is there not to understand about people not kissing?
I don't assume everyone plays the same way I do. If I come across a profile I'm not compatible with I move on: no one has to justify their preferences. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"We much prefer kissing but it's certainly not a deal breaker. It's just another thing that falls under the "everyone to their own" category that has to be respected
I don't understand the angst on preferences that some people have. I don't get arsey if we're not compatible, I just find someone who is.
Mutual respect is very important for me. It seems to be a dying trait. "
totally agree with this |
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"Some see kissing as being intimate, emotionally intimate, so save it for someone they care for.
Some won't let men other than their OH cum in their mouth. Others save anal for their partner.
You don't need to understand their reasoning behind it, you just need to respect their choices."
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"Have seen a no kissing rule on quite a few profiles and it has always baffled me. I understand everyone has there own things they will and won't do but just don't understand it what's your thoughts.. seems to me pretty women has alot to answer for xx "
Kissing is a massive turn on for us. |
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"Sex with out the kissing just seems wrong I can't imaging trying it as it's one of the most natural things to do while enjoying sex lol"
for you perhaps... but honestly its rare i have to actually prevent kissing as most guys are quite happy to get straight to having me suck their cock...
Having cum all over me is the norm for me and yey plenty of women dont enjoy that and as something i very much enjoy I do think how can they not enjoy it but do accept not everyone does.
For me it needs trust and to be honest while I was experimenting with trying to include kissing during meets i was left very disappointed....also found majority of couples the women liked to kiss my partner but the guys werent permitted to kiss me... but in general it felt to icky.. slobber all over me.. tongues shoved so far in i felt like i was being licked and horrible noises... I love kissing my partner.... and have found it suits me not to kiss guys on meets. |
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