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Put "xxxx" on the subject line - does this work?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?
These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating? |
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"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?
These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?"
Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked. |
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"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?
These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?
Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked."
So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really..... |
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"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?
These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?
Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked.
So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really....."
If that's the only thing they've picked up on from our profile then yes. Ours contains all the info that anyone needs to get in touch and take things further but when the heading is correct but the message is along the lines of...
How are you finding the site?
How are you?
Can we meet in 20 mins?
xxx
?x
All the above are direct quotes from the last few scintillating messages we've received since yesterday and yes they do get ignored unless I'm in a funny mood then they either get a stupid or sarcastic reply. Those that do as we ask get a polite and personalised 'thanks but no thanks' type of reply if they're not for us. The others get a reply that always leaves an opening for a reply that could take things further and then it's up to them. Our profile is here so that people can read it and then choose to meet us as long as they're who we're looking for. If people choose to ignore what we write (apart from the code word) then why should we do anything different with the unsolicited mail that appears in our inbox? |
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"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?
These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?
Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked.
So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really.....
If that's the only thing they've picked up on from our profile then yes. Ours contains all the info that anyone needs to get in touch and take things further but when the heading is correct but the message is along the lines of...
How are you finding the site?
How are you?
Can we meet in 20 mins?
xxx
?x
All the above are direct quotes from the last few scintillating messages we've received since yesterday and yes they do get ignored unless I'm in a funny mood then they either get a stupid or sarcastic reply. Those that do as we ask get a polite and personalised 'thanks but no thanks' type of reply if they're not for us. The others get a reply that always leaves an opening for a reply that could take things further and then it's up to them. Our profile is here so that people can read it and then choose to meet us as long as they're who we're looking for. If people choose to ignore what we write (apart from the code word) then why should we do anything different with the unsolicited mail that appears in our inbox?"
Can't say fairer than that! Is that all some people can be bothered to write?
I write based on profile etc....if I get lumped in with people like that then no wonder I get very little back!! |
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"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?
These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?
Our inbox looks like quite a few people have read our profile. Doesn't mean that they've understood all the other words that it contains though which is why they get ignored/deleted and occasionally blocked.
So even if your profile has been read and the words you asked for usedyou just ignore and delete them anyway? Unbelievable!!! Makes it a bit pontless really.....
If that's the only thing they've picked up on from our profile then yes. Ours contains all the info that anyone needs to get in touch and take things further but when the heading is correct but the message is along the lines of...
How are you finding the site?
How are you?
Can we meet in 20 mins?
xxx
?x
All the above are direct quotes from the last few scintillating messages we've received since yesterday and yes they do get ignored unless I'm in a funny mood then they either get a stupid or sarcastic reply. Those that do as we ask get a polite and personalised 'thanks but no thanks' type of reply if they're not for us. The others get a reply that always leaves an opening for a reply that could take things further and then it's up to them. Our profile is here so that people can read it and then choose to meet us as long as they're who we're looking for. If people choose to ignore what we write (apart from the code word) then why should we do anything different with the unsolicited mail that appears in our inbox?
Can't say fairer than that! Is that all some people can be bothered to write?
I write based on profile etc....if I get lumped in with people like that then no wonder I get very little back!!"
Tis the way of Fab sometimes. I'm not kicking single guys either as there are similar couples and females that do the same and being an 'equal opportunities'couple we don't treat them any differently. Unfortunately with so many more single guys behaving like that it does tend to skew our _iew somewhat. |
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You're right OP. It's so easy to scan the secret magic word.
I ask for folk to read my profile, most don't and that's obvious in how they approach.
I'll never message anyone who demands one. Get off your pedestal |
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"You're right OP. It's so easy to scan the secret magic word.
I ask for folk to read my profile, most don't and that's obvious in how they approach.
I'll never message anyone who demands one. Get off your pedestal "
We don't demand one and we do reply to folks that don't use it but only when the message and profile interest us. We're all different and we all use Fab the way we want to...It works for us and that's all we care about. There's plenty of room on our pedestal for fellow Fabbers that see things the way we do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's about probability, a concept your average member struggles with. For the record, our experience is that messages with the code word are well above average in quality and accordingly much more likely to get a reply.
We pretty much reply to all that use the code word, unless someone has clearly skim read the profile to find it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're right OP. It's so easy to scan the secret magic word.
I ask for folk to read my profile, most don't and that's obvious in how they approach.
I'll never message anyone who demands one. Get off your pedestal
We don't demand one and we do reply to folks that don't use it but only when the message and profile interest us. We're all different and we all use Fab the way we want to...It works for us and that's all we care about. There's plenty of room on our pedestal for fellow Fabbers that see things the way we do."
So if you delete some messages which do include the code word, and respond to some which don't, depending on whether you like the message or not, what's the point in it? |
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It does always make me want to reply deliberately using the wrong word, just to see what happens.
We guarantee sex with anyone who uses our secret codeword. We've never had to 'pay out' yet...
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
London |
"For those who request a word or phrase to be put in the subject field to indicate that the person mailing has read the entirety of your profile - does this work for you?
These requests always stand out to me as a scan through profiles (esp. the long ones), and I think it is ironic - cos I've picked out the request, often put in CAPITALS so hard to miss, but I hadn't actually read the profile. In other cases, when I have read every single line with baited breath, I feel stupid putting in "bananas" or whatever has been requested as the subject. How does the inbox look with the same subject repeating?"
I use to have a code word, Evian, people use to think it was "Naive" backwards (just had a bottle of water) 
I don't have it now, but was a way of at least filtering to see if people even put the effort in to get past my pictures and at least attempt to read or skim my profile. |
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I think it depends what the rest of the content of the profile is like. If the profile has interesting content then it isn't such a terrible thing.
However, the request to add a specific line in a message or in a reply to a "DO NOT CONTACT ME IF/IF NOT" profile simply doubles the unattractiveness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oops are we meant to have a phrase?
Makes no difference for me.. any (almost) message received is always fun, we just hope that our profile has been read  |
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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago
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I have a paragraph stating if you've read so far yadda yadda phrase in the title & so on.
But in the paragraph before hand if they have read the profile they'll have read to ignore using the phrase. Makes it easy to see who just skims for the phrase.
Not that it makes much difference, haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We might put "block and delete" as our code word/phrase, I wonder how many people will fall for it? Ess"
 I totally would! What a loop.
"I have a paragraph stating if you've read so far yadda yadda phrase in the title & so on.
But in the paragraph before hand if they have read the profile they'll have read to ignore using the phrase. Makes it easy to see who just skims for the phrase."
... but then you can only identify who's skim-read. Those who have read entirely or not at all fall in the same category, what's the use of that? heh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair we have messaged people who ask for a code word and never used it and still had replies and meets,because the message probably caught their attention... My point therefore is if you are not going to stick to your own rules why have them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to scan a profile before messaging, and rarely look at them in depth. Code words sometimes work for me, but sometimes they don't. I've also messaged people with code words on their profile that have messaged back, apparently not expecting people to use code words. I've also had people insisting that I used code words. |
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By *xxxMan
over a year ago
Bedford & Chester |
I don't mind using a codeword if it seperates me from the rest and if couples of singlr ladies feel it s out timewasters. Presonally though i always read the profiles and try to make any first message reflect what I've seen, admittedly i often look at the pics before i read the text but im only human  |
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Yep, bugger that for a lark