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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope" You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site" i think you need to read our thread again. Im sure i put heres a few tips that may help, not heres the rules from the king of fab swingers. We do meet single guys, they have a hard time of it. We were just trying to address that. Not sure your sarcasm is helping them at all | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site i think you need to read our thread again. Im sure i put heres a few tips that may help, not heres the rules from the king of fab swingers. We do meet single guys, they have a hard time of it. We were just trying to address that. Not sure your sarcasm is helping them at all" Its not sarcasm, its a fact. One person's piece of advice is just that .... it comes from one person and no one should presume they speak for others or have the authority to do so. Personally I don't think they need help from me .... we both meet as singles as we assume that single males will figure it out their own way. In our experience, a single make gets treated very differently than a couple when messaging couples. So if anything, its the couples that need some advice. So they don't sound condescending .... | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site i think you need to read our thread again. Im sure i put heres a few tips that may help, not heres the rules from the king of fab swingers. We do meet single guys, they have a hard time of it. We were just trying to address that. Not sure your sarcasm is helping them at all" by the way the pm was a mistake, the reply was supposed to be on here. I should've mentioned ignoring angry trolls whilst i was at it | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site i think you need to read our thread again. Im sure i put heres a few tips that may help, not heres the rules from the king of fab swingers. We do meet single guys, they have a hard time of it. We were just trying to address that. Not sure your sarcasm is helping them at all Its not sarcasm, its a fact. One person's piece of advice is just that .... it comes from one person and no one should presume they speak for others or have the authority to do so. Personally I don't think they need help from me .... we both meet as singles as we assume that single males will figure it out their own way. In our experience, a single make gets treated very differently than a couple when messaging couples. So if anything, its the couples that need some advice. So they don't sound condescending ...." yes because you dont sound condesending at all. | |||
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"Wow. So a troll is someone who has an opinion different from yours then? How is this being a troll? I'd like you to explain that one .... your advice could be to anyone, by the way, so why single out single men?" im not here to entertain someone whos just out to push peoples buttons. Consider your i opinions infantile and from now on ignored.... | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site i think you need to read our thread again. Im sure i put heres a few tips that may help, not heres the rules from the king of fab swingers. We do meet single guys, they have a hard time of it. We were just trying to address that. Not sure your sarcasm is helping them at all Its not sarcasm, its a fact. One person's piece of advice is just that .... it comes from one person and no one should presume they speak for others or have the authority to do so. Personally I don't think they need help from me .... we both meet as singles as we assume that single males will figure it out their own way. In our experience, a single make gets treated very differently than a couple when messaging couples. So if anything, its the couples that need some advice. So they don't sound condescending ....yes because you dont sound condesending at all." Just giving my opinion after being on the receiving end of this type of nonsense. I don't mind sounding condescending .... | |||
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"Oh i so wish i was here earlier id have had my tea & biscuits ready "Why is that then, don't you have an opinion? | |||
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"Wow. So a troll is someone who has an opinion different from yours then? How is this being a troll? I'd like you to explain that one .... your advice could be to anyone, by the way, so why single out single men?" 
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"Thanks for the tips OP
They will help most people if not everyone "*read patronise most people* lol | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X" I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else  | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope" The same tips could be applied to all genders and demographics on here, after all we're all trying to inform and attract others.. So ladies and couples 1. Have a variety of pictures .. 2. Have a face picture and be happy to send with your messages if you contact folk first .. Yep everyone single guys included like to see who they're talking to .. 3. Treat others with respect.. 4. Everyone can say no at anytime ... Yep even guys. 5. A well written profile is a useful tool both for those who think they might be suitable and informing those who aren't suitable.. filters help .use the tools the site provides. 6. Have fun it's why were all here. | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else "Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point? | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?"I think the point he is making is that you're implying that you're struggling because of 'idiots'. Men can get sex from people on this site by their own actions and are not unduly influenced by the actions of others. | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?"Errrr....you just said it's probably because of the idiots! Not you. That's my point... | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?"You stated I know it's probably because ... They're not the reason you'be had a hard time o the reason you'reready to Jack it in  | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?"The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone. Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option "Sorry should have realised its my ego that's issue, thanks for your advice | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option "I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude? | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?"no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well | |||
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"So no one considers the actions of a few mindless idiots hampering the efforts of some of us who have more than 5 brain cells. I can't even begin to tell you the number of profiles that say 'singles guys we will find you' 'single guys please don't send cock pics' 'single guys don't send unsolicited friend requests'.... But they are only saying that because all of the 'lovely polite' messages they get from single guys I stand by words, a few mindless idiots make it a whole lot more difficult for the genuine guys' "   keep blaming those nameless faceless guys....I'll bet you've seen Sydney university warnings as well they're on lots of profiles ...
Make yourself stand out to the profiles that you've just mentioned ... It's one of the reasons I suggest guys have the best profiles you stand out.......it's one of the reasons I suggest couples and ladies do the searching themselves ...you'll stand out ..
Those 'idiots' as you say ...they don't.. | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site i think you need to read our thread again. Im sure i put heres a few tips that may help, not heres the rules from the king of fab swingers. We do meet single guys, they have a hard time of it. We were just trying to address that. Not sure your sarcasm is helping them at all" Half the threads on these forums are from single guys asking for advice. Can't see anything in the OP which isn't pretty sensible. If they don't want to follow it then fine but I can't see why offering advice is a problem? It's either good advice or it's bad advice. Bet you most single guys would improve their response rate dramatically if they followed this.....! | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well "Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text?? I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude? Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!! Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better. | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site i think you need to read our thread again. Im sure i put heres a few tips that may help, not heres the rules from the king of fab swingers. We do meet single guys, they have a hard time of it. We were just trying to address that. Not sure your sarcasm is helping them at all Half the threads on these forums are from single guys asking for advice. Can't see anything in the OP which isn't pretty sensible. If they don't want to follow it then fine but I can't see why offering advice is a problem? It's either good advice or it's bad advice. Bet you most single guys would improve their response rate dramatically if they followed this.....!" This or maybe that's my ego getting the better of me | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better."You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask? | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?"I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please? | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?"Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so? | |||
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"So no one considers the actions of a few mindless idiots hampering the efforts of some of us who have more than 5 brain cells. I can't even begin to tell you the number of profiles that say 'singles guys we will find you' 'single guys please don't send cock pics' 'single guys don't send unsolicited friend requests'.... But they are only saying that because all of the 'lovely polite' messages they get from single guys I stand by words, a few mindless idiots make it a whole lot more difficult for the genuine guys' " If you stand out as not an idiot, they will find you. | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody has started threads for tips for couples and single ladies too because some need tips too, more than some single men do." I agree with this ... we certainly get fed up with the few rude couples who spoil it for the genuine ones of us here  | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so? "Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude? Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude? | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?"No not at all but I'm not easily offended | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended "Quite, neither am I | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody has started threads for tips for couples and single ladies too because some need tips too, more than some single men do. Yep. 1 DO NOT USE CAPITAL LETTERS FOR YOUR WHOLE PROFILE 2 Don't rant on your profile. 3 Have a variety of pics, not just your tits in every bra you own. 4 Don't assume everyone here wants to fuck you, some people have standards. 5 Block people you don't want messaging you and then you won't have to rant about them on the forums or your profile. Etc." Have to add something about the males in couples, assuming they are 'better' than single males .... in terms of thinking they are suddenly more attractive to women. I wont include my OH in this as he only plays with men ... | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody has started threads for tips for couples and single ladies too because some need tips too, more than some single men do. Yep. 1 DO NOT USE CAPITAL LETTERS FOR YOUR WHOLE PROFILE 2 Don't rant on your profile. 3 Have a variety of pics, not just your tits in every bra you own. 4 Don't assume everyone here wants to fuck you, some people have standards. 5 Block people you don't want messaging you and then you won't have to rant about them on the forums or your profile. Etc." And for couples 1 Have photos of the man, especially if he's ugly. 2 Let people know who replies to messages, so we don't have to guess and upset you. 3 Don't assume every woman will fuck your woman while you wank Etc. | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I"Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you | |||
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"I'm surprised nobody has started threads for tips for couples and single ladies too because some need tips too, more than some single men do. Yep. 1 DO NOT USE CAPITAL LETTERS FOR YOUR WHOLE PROFILE 2 Don't rant on your profile. 3 Have a variety of pics, not just your tits in every bra you own. 4 Don't assume everyone here wants to fuck you, some people have standards. 5 Block people you don't want messaging you and then you won't have to rant about them on the forums or your profile. Etc. Have to add something about the males in couples, assuming they are 'better' than single males .... in terms of thinking they are suddenly more attractive to women. I wont include my OH in this as he only plays with men ..." Oh yes, I forgot that. Being in a couple somehow makes them act differently, because they have a woman to lure people in. | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 01/10/16 22:41:41]" Men in couples who assume they have proved they are worthy because they have a woman and women in couples who feel they can lend their man out as a favour ..... those who use it as a power trip. I have seen some awfully stuck up couples at parties .... some who snub Mr who is so chatty and friendly, then start talking when they realise he is now part of a couple. Then it's our turn to snub them. A lot of people get their validation from lauding something they think they have that's unique over others when swinging ... | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 01/10/16 22:41:41] Men in couples who assume they have proved they are worthy because they have a woman and women in couples who feel they can lend their man out as a favour ..... those who use it as a power trip. I have seen some awfully stuck up couples at parties .... some who snub Mr who is so chatty and friendly, then start talking when they realise he is now part of a couple. Then it's our turn to snub them. A lot of people get their validation from lauding something they think they have that's unique over others when swinging ..." | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I
Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you "Again, wrong, how can I personally be offended by someone's actions to a third party, I can be annoyed and irritated, but not offended. If you had perhaps asked me a little more about why I am 'frustrated' by the idiots actions, then I would have politely explained how I believe all of their negative actions have an impact on everyone else, but you choose the path of questioning my ego, which frankly I don't follow or understand. | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I
Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you
Again, wrong, how can I personally be offended by someone's actions to a third party, I can be annoyed and irritated, but not offended. If you had perhaps asked me a little more about why I am 'frustrated' by the idiots actions, then I would have politely explained how I believe all of their negative actions have an impact on everyone else, but you choose the path of questioning my ego, which frankly I don't follow or understand."That exactly the point everyone been trying to make to you their actions don't effect you unless you let them by getting frustrated by it, your choosing to do that instead of forgetting about them and carrying on as you are The fact you keep referring to my reference of your ego (and your seemingly sarcastic retort about it to a couple on the thread earlier) also Leads me to think that youre very offended by it | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I
Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you
Again, wrong, how can I personally be offended by someone's actions to a third party, I can be annoyed and irritated, but not offended. If you had perhaps asked me a little more about why I am 'frustrated' by the idiots actions, then I would have politely explained how I believe all of their negative actions have an impact on everyone else, but you choose the path of questioning my ego, which frankly I don't follow or understand.
That exactly the point everyone been trying to make to you their actions don't effect you unless you let them by getting frustrated by it, your choosing to do that instead of forgetting about them and carrying on as you are
The fact you keep referring to my reference of your ego (and your seemingly sarcastic retort about it to a couple on the thread earlier) also Leads me to think that youre very offended by it
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"Seems like a lot of people have been on the Stella here, best get some sawdust on the floor!!! "I'm breast feeding so not drinking I just say it how it is and don't sugar coat my opinion, to some that will make me a bitch to others that level of honesty is refreshing | |||
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"Too serious to be honest, we were joking but you seem to be spoiling for an argument with anyone." No I just responded as i felt, you choose to _iew me as looking for an argument It's all about perception | |||
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" You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site" Or worse don't follow own advice and arnt legit enough to have more than a few veris | |||
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"Best advice we can give anyone is simple . Read the profile , add a face pic to opening message which should be relevant to the profile , and hope for the best . "
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I
Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you
Again, wrong, how can I personally be offended by someone's actions to a third party, I can be annoyed and irritated, but not offended. If you had perhaps asked me a little more about why I am 'frustrated' by the idiots actions, then I would have politely explained how I believe all of their negative actions have an impact on everyone else, but you choose the path of questioning my ego, which frankly I don't follow or understand.
That exactly the point everyone been trying to make to you their actions don't effect you unless you let them by getting frustrated by it, your choosing to do that instead of forgetting about them and carrying on as you are
The fact you keep referring to my reference of your ego (and your seemingly sarcastic retort about it to a couple on the thread earlier) also Leads me to think that youre very offended by it
"So you seriously think that when people are annoyed off by the same thing happening over and over again, that that wouldn't affect how they behave!!? There is nothing I can do about how other people feel about the actions of idiots, no matter whether I have an opinion on it or not!? As I said before, and will repeat so perhaps this time you may take it in, it was the rudeness of commenting on my ego, a personal comment, unwarranted and uncalled for. Perhaps you consider it polite to insult people commenting on issues raised by the OP, I however do not, never will, as much as you may justify your actions by calling it your perception, it's a very odd way of expressing it. | |||
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"The OP seems to have been up against a certain amount of criticism for posting their advise to single men. I saw a very similar advise thread for single men a couple of days ago, and that OP too was criticised by a number of profiles for offering this advise. I don't really understand why it is wrong for someone to use the forums to give generalised advise to a particular group. But I guess some find it patronising if the advise is not asked for. I will though stand up for the OP and say that having read the original post carefully, I really don't think there is any evidence that the OP considered they were speaking on behalf of all couples. I certainly took their advise to be their opinion and nobody else's. However, I do believe that there are a lot of couples who would agree with their advise, and we certainly do. It's been commented on this thread that there should be threads offering similar advise for couples, as it is not just single men who get it wrong. That's a great idea. Perhaps all groups on Fab could benefit from advise from the perspective of another group, eg single people advising couples on how to improve their experience. Mrs" This | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else "Exact,y....and the best advice to the thousands of...."oh p,ease help me" or "why can't I get a meet" or "check my profile " threads..... get some balls, sort yourself out and stop blaming the site/couples/women/time wasters/fakes or whatever other pathetic excuse you can come up with. We all make our own decisions and our own luck on here. | |||
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"The OP seems to have been up against a certain amount of criticism for posting their advise to single men. I saw a very similar advise thread for single men a couple of days ago, and that OP too was criticised by a number of profiles for offering this advise. I don't really understand why it is wrong for someone to use the forums to give generalised advise to a particular group. But I guess some find it patronising if the advise is not asked for. I will though stand up for the OP and say that having read the original post carefully, I really don't think there is any evidence that the OP considered they were speaking on behalf of all couples. I certainly took their advise to be their opinion and nobody else's. However, I do believe that there are a lot of couples who would agree with their advise, and we certainly do. It's been commented on this thread that there should be threads offering similar advise for couples, as it is not just single men who get it wrong. That's a great idea. Perhaps all groups on Fab could benefit from advise from the perspective of another group, eg single people advising couples on how to improve their experience. Mrs" Well said. | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I
Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you
Again, wrong, how can I personally be offended by someone's actions to a third party, I can be annoyed and irritated, but not offended. If you had perhaps asked me a little more about why I am 'frustrated' by the idiots actions, then I would have politely explained how I believe all of their negative actions have an impact on everyone else, but you choose the path of questioning my ego, which frankly I don't follow or understand.
That exactly the point everyone been trying to make to you their actions don't effect you unless you let them by getting frustrated by it, your choosing to do that instead of forgetting about them and carrying on as you are
The fact you keep referring to my reference of your ego (and your seemingly sarcastic retort about it to a couple on the thread earlier) also Leads me to think that youre very offended by it
So you seriously think that when people are annoyed off by the same thing happening over and over again, that that wouldn't affect how they behave!!? There is nothing I can do about how other people feel about the actions of idiots, no matter whether I have an opinion on it or not!?
As I said before, and will repeat so perhaps this time you may take it in, it was the rudeness of commenting on my ego, a personal comment, unwarranted and uncalled for. Perhaps you consider it polite to insult people commenting on issues raised by the OP, I however do not, never will, as much as you may justify your actions by calling it your perception, it's a very odd way of expressing it."Some people it would effect negatively but only if they choose to let it. I find it egotistical to essentially blame others for your lack of success and label them the idiots instead of being able to look at yourself and see that you're the only common denominator in your lack of success, be it your selection process, the way you come across in messages or that your profile is not the best "shop window" to reflect who you are etc | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Exact,y....and the best advice to the thousands of...."oh p,ease help me" or "why can't I get a meet" or "check my profile " threads..... get some balls, sort yourself out and stop blaming the site/couples/women/time wasters/fakes or whatever other pathetic excuse you can come up with.
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Exact,y....and the best advice to the thousands of...."oh p,ease help me" or "why can't I get a meet" or "check my profile " threads..... get some balls, sort yourself out and stop blaming the site/couples/women/time wasters/fakes or whatever other pathetic excuse you can come up with.
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"I dont think ive tried it with a woman on here in over a month. I dont like womans most profiles either they are so negative and put you on a downer" Some are, but that's just their frustrations of fab getting the better of them, most aren't the miserable Twats or total bitches they seem to be | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I
Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you
Again, wrong, how can I personally be offended by someone's actions to a third party, I can be annoyed and irritated, but not offended. If you had perhaps asked me a little more about why I am 'frustrated' by the idiots actions, then I would have politely explained how I believe all of their negative actions have an impact on everyone else, but you choose the path of questioning my ego, which frankly I don't follow or understand.
That exactly the point everyone been trying to make to you their actions don't effect you unless you let them by getting frustrated by it, your choosing to do that instead of forgetting about them and carrying on as you are
The fact you keep referring to my reference of your ego (and your seemingly sarcastic retort about it to a couple on the thread earlier) also Leads me to think that youre very offended by it
So you seriously think that when people are annoyed off by the same thing happening over and over again, that that wouldn't affect how they behave!!? There is nothing I can do about how other people feel about the actions of idiots, no matter whether I have an opinion on it or not!?
As I said before, and will repeat so perhaps this time you may take it in, it was the rudeness of commenting on my ego, a personal comment, unwarranted and uncalled for. Perhaps you consider it polite to insult people commenting on issues raised by the OP, I however do not, never will, as much as you may justify your actions by calling it your perception, it's a very odd way of expressing it.
Some people it would effect negatively but only if they choose to let it.
I find it egotistical to essentially blame others for your lack of success and label them the idiots instead of being able to look at yourself and see that you're the only common denominator in your lack of success, be it your selection process, the way you come across in messages or that your profile is not the best "shop window" to reflect who you are etc
"Again you put words into my mouth, without even queationing if that's the case! I don't blame anyone for my 'lack of success' or likewise for my 'success'. I commented that a number of single guys, make things a whole lot more difficult for single guys by their obnoxious and rude actions. That is my opinion. If you need me to be more clear, please just ask. What however I find uncomfortable and uncalled for is your comment on my ego, you maywell not agree with my opinion, I question that the way you choose to challenge my opinion is to make a comment on me personally! | |||
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"I dont think ive tried it with a woman on here in over a month. I dont like womans most profiles either they are so negative and put you on a downer Some are, but that's just their frustrations of fab getting the better of them, most aren't the miserable Twats or total bitches they seem to be " Brilliant, 'their frustrations of fab getting the better of them' so people's actions DO affect the way woman react?? Priceless | |||
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"I'll take any advice anyone cares to offer, I'm just about done with this site!! We (single guys) do struggle in here, I know it's probably because of the idiots (I wanna cum fuk you now types) HG X I'm the only one responsible for my success or failure on this site....nobody else
Well who else could it be?? I'm a little lost as to your point?
The point don't blame others for your lack of success it's down to you and you alone.
Of course blaming others is the easier and less ego offending option
I'm staggered, you know nothing, nothing about me and yet you have the knowledge to comment on my ego, do you not consider that rather rude?
no I don't, I merely gave my opinion of you based on the only information I have and that's from your comments on this thread, In The same manner that you've taken my comments, without knowing nothing about me, and judged me to be rude. First impressions count and in my opinion you're not coming across well
Not coming across well because I queried your relevance to comment on my ego, when as you stated, the only thing you know about me is from a a few lines of text??
I didn't judge you to be rude, I don't know enough about you to call you rude, I asked if you didn't consider your comment rude?
Personally I would never question something so personal from a few lines of text, I wouldn't want to leave my open to being massively incorrect!!
Ofcourse everyone has a right to an opinion and for that opinion to be heard, but I find it respectful to be somewhat polite in voicing those opinions until you know someone a little better.
You did just question me though based on a few lines of text you just admitted that in that last reply when you reference the fact you "queried" me , if you had to pose the question surely you must have thought it was rude, or why ask?
I'm sorry I can't follow what you are asking, could you rephrase please?
Ok if you didn't judge that I was rude why ask me if I thought I was being so?
Because I wondered if your comment came across the way it was meant, and if it was did you not consider it rude?
Look at it from the flip side, if I had made a comment about your ego after reading a few lines of text written by you, wouldn't you consider the comment misplaced and rude?
No not at all but I'm not easily offended
Quite, neither am I
Well you seemed pretty offended by the actions of the "idiots" that ruin the site for you
Again, wrong, how can I personally be offended by someone's actions to a third party, I can be annoyed and irritated, but not offended. If you had perhaps asked me a little more about why I am 'frustrated' by the idiots actions, then I would have politely explained how I believe all of their negative actions have an impact on everyone else, but you choose the path of questioning my ego, which frankly I don't follow or understand.
That exactly the point everyone been trying to make to you their actions don't effect you unless you let them by getting frustrated by it, your choosing to do that instead of forgetting about them and carrying on as you are
The fact you keep referring to my reference of your ego (and your seemingly sarcastic retort about it to a couple on the thread earlier) also Leads me to think that youre very offended by it
So you seriously think that when people are annoyed off by the same thing happening over and over again, that that wouldn't affect how they behave!!? There is nothing I can do about how other people feel about the actions of idiots, no matter whether I have an opinion on it or not!?
As I said before, and will repeat so perhaps this time you may take it in, it was the rudeness of commenting on my ego, a personal comment, unwarranted and uncalled for. Perhaps you consider it polite to insult people commenting on issues raised by the OP, I however do not, never will, as much as you may justify your actions by calling it your perception, it's a very odd way of expressing it.
Some people it would effect negatively but only if they choose to let it.
I find it egotistical to essentially blame others for your lack of success and label them the idiots instead of being able to look at yourself and see that you're the only common denominator in your lack of success, be it your selection process, the way you come across in messages or that your profile is not the best "shop window" to reflect who you are etc
Again you put words into my mouth, without even queationing if that's the case! I don't blame anyone for my 'lack of success' or likewise for my 'success'. I commented that a number of single guys, make things a whole lot more difficult for single guys by their obnoxious and rude actions. That is my opinion.
If you need me to be more clear, please just ask.
What however I find uncomfortable and uncalled for is your comment on my ego, you maywell not agree with my opinion, I question that the way you choose to challenge my opinion is to make a comment on me personally!
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"I dont think ive tried it with a woman on here in over a month. I dont like womans most profiles either they are so negative and put you on a downer Some are, but that's just their frustrations of fab getting the better of them, most aren't the miserable Twats or total bitches they seem to be Brilliant, 'their frustrations of fab getting the better of them' so people's actions DO affect the way woman react?? Priceless " I did say it would effect SOME earlier when we were discussing if you carevto read back | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site" Haha this | |||
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"I dont think ive tried it with a woman on here in over a month. I dont like womans most profiles either they are so negative and put you on a downer Some are, but that's just their frustrations of fab getting the better of them, most aren't the miserable Twats or total bitches they seem to be Brilliant, 'their frustrations of fab getting the better of them' so people's actions DO affect the way woman react?? Priceless I did say it would effect SOME earlier when we were discussing if you carevto read back " Read back, are you kidding, I'll be here until 5am | |||
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" You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site Or worse don't follow own advice and arnt legit enough to have more than a few veris Who was this aimed at please?" Good question, I have no idea either!?! | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope" I will do the same for couples (because I am nice): 1. Are all your profile pics a close up of your partners flange... probably need to get the camera out 2. See (1) fuck it; I can't be arsed to go any further..... Heres a tip for "some" couples... if you have 6 shots of your partners flange on your profile; you are going to get sent a lot of cock pics.... stands to reason "look what I have; its like I'm the key and you're the lock"... Sheesh | |||
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" You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site Or worse don't follow own advice and arnt legit enough to have more than a few veris" What have verification numbers got to do with it? | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site." Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X | |||
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" You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site Or worse don't follow own advice and arnt legit enough to have more than a few veris What have verification numbers got to do with it? " A very good question I couldn't fathom that one out either x | |||
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"Our advice to single guys is, you better be ready to take what Mr can give you, and Mrs rarely plays .... that's just advice from us, and not representing anyone else. We don't give a damn about cock pictures as Mr has fifty or so on his single profile and so it doesn't phase us .... you run your profile how you want and don't go jumping through any hoops from anyone who demands you do. They are on a power trip ... "Loving the agressive attitude | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X" The problem is that it isn't a small number but you are right that they do ruin it for the others. | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X The problem is that it isn't a small number but you are right that they do ruin it for the others." Thank you, I honestly have no idea how bad it is, I know that some of the ladies I speak to have real problems, and that has an impact of the way the perceive all single guys, that was my point all along. Just as long as you ladies and couples know we aren't all like that x | |||
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"Crumbs this is a tetchy forum.... Surely each to their own... Your profile do what you wish... Just fun X " It's not tetchy, its called banter ... | |||
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"Crumbs this is a tetchy forum.... Surely each to their own... Your profile do what you wish... Just fun X " We had a debate
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X" This couple choose to do that their choice , still doesn't make it harder for you, unless you want to use that excuse as a cop out, as you can just choose to move on to the next profile, make sure your profile is the best it can be so you stand out to couples that do the searching for theirselves or get off your arse and go to club and meet people in the real world as opposed to just solely relying on fab. | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope" I just think the key to being successful on here is to be yourself in everything you do . So your profile must be a true repersentation of you and your personality sexual tastes . Pictures must be of you as you are now .if your proud of your cock and want to show it do it even as a profile picture .the one golden rule is make sure your pictures are off you . Forum posts must be true to who you are not aimed to impress but true expression of you as a human being .don't become a sycophant changing your _iews depending on the pair of tits in front of you .compliments are OK just not the other stuff I've talked about . Messages should be again a true repersentation of you as a human being so if your the type of person who likes to say fancy a fuck in a opening message go for it , In other words be yourself in your messages . Everything I've listed is about you being authentic to who you are as a human being and what you want from those who may choose to interact with you . So my advice to singe guys single woman couples the lot is just be authentic to who you are and also in al your dealing with others . If every one acted this way on here it would be far far easier to crate lasting relationships of every type imaginable under the sun in my humble opinion | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X" I suggest all couples block single guys, I do it's up there ^^^^ ... Then they can search for the guys who interest them.... These timewasters wannabes idiots etc ... Makes the good stand out , I've said it often if folk want to think that I'm a knob it'll be because I've given them reason to ..if folk think I'm a knob because of someone's else's actions, I'd not want to meet them anyway..  | |||
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"... ... 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. ... ..." As I have never written a first message to anyone, nor have any intention to do so, point 5 would really help anyone writing to me and save time for the vast majority of single men who do write to me Good set of guidelines, OP. Similar are stated on half of the threads here which are from single men looking for advice | |||
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"Our advice to single guys is, you better be ready to take what Mr can give you, and Mrs rarely plays .... that's just advice from us, and not representing anyone else. We don't give a damn about cock pictures as Mr has fifty or so on his single profile and so it doesn't phase us .... you run your profile how you want and don't go jumping through any hoops from anyone who demands you do. They are on a power trip ... "Are you saying all couples behave like that, or just a few? Sadly you were right to say this is your opinion only and not representing others. The OP made the mistake of not adding a similar statement to their advise, resulting in being misunderstood that they were representing all couples. My advise to s single man who is struggling to find someone he likes to meet, is to run his profile in such a way that he is fishing in the biggest fishpond. That way he'll have the most choice. For those men who like posting lots of lots of pictures of cocks, it might be worth considering, would they have more bites on their fishing rods if they use less of this particular bate, and perhaps more variety of bate. If they are doing fine as they are then crack on. My advise to couples who are inundated with offers and have too much choice, is to do the exact opposite. Design your profile so that you home in on your target market. You'll be fishing in a smaller fisher pond but the fish that bite will be the variety you want, and they'll be less time wasted chucking fish back in the water. Those fish that bite will not feel they are jumping through hoops, as the profiles will be a reasonable match. That works very well for us, and we've made some wonderful friends where there is mutual respect. What I have said does not represent anybody else except me. Mrs | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X This couple choose to do that their choice , still doesn't make it harder for you, unless you want to use that excuse as a cop out, as you can just choose to move on to the next profile, make sure your profile is the best it can be so you stand out to couples that do the searching for theirselves or get off your arse and go to club and meet people in the real world as opposed to just solely relying on fab. " I love that you choose to ignore what this couple were saying, idiot single guys actions towards them prejudice their actions to all single guys, rightly or wrongly, and that was point all along! Therefore is does make it harder for me and all the other single guys, rocket science it ain't!! I certainly wouldn't use it as a cop out, neither was I, I was merely making a observation. Yes I agree there are many options open to improving anyone's chances of meeting people, but surely that's true for anyone, but this thread was aimed at helping single men, so I fail to see the reverence of your point!? I respect your opinion, I didn't agree with the way you delivered it, can you now move on please? | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X This couple choose to do that their choice , still doesn't make it harder for you, unless you want to use that excuse as a cop out, as you can just choose to move on to the next profile, make sure your profile is the best it can be so you stand out to couples that do the searching for theirselves or get off your arse and go to club and meet people in the real world as opposed to just solely relying on fab. I love that you choose to ignore what this couple were saying, idiot single guys actions towards them prejudice their actions to all single guys, rightly or wrongly, and that was point all along! Therefore is does make it harder for me and all the other single guys, rocket science it ain't!! I certainly wouldn't use it as a cop out, neither was I, I was merely making a observation. Yes I agree there are many options open to improving anyone's chances of meeting people, but surely that's true for anyone, but this thread was aimed at helping single men, so I fail to see the reverence of your point!? I respect your opinion, I didn't agree with the way you delivered it, can you now move on please?" I didn't ignore what they were saying I acknowledged that when I said they made a choice not everyone makes the same one because they wish to label single guys idiots and let their actions effect them. I've had shit from some single guys I just choose ignore them instead of blocking them, slowing the good guys that stand out by a mile to still message me | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X" I am at a total loss to understand how the behaviour of other members could make things difficult for others. The important thing is to have an interesting well written profile which attracts attention. I prefer to concentrate on my own profile and not worry about those of other members. | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X I am at a total loss to understand how the behaviour of other members could make things difficult for others. The important thing is to have an interesting well written profile which attracts attention. I prefer to concentrate on my own profile and not worry about those of other members. " | |||
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"No gender or demographic has it easy on fab.. Guys think ladies have it easy because they're inundated ... That's all well and good if the messages are from those that you seek.. more often it's like looking for the needle in a haystack. Couples don't have it easy ...try finding four folk who find each other attractive .. Guys .. nope it's not easy ...if it was it'd be boringl it's a numbers thing maybe,.. if you make yourself stand out get out there make yourself known you know what you'll find it a great place to find fun laughs and frolic s .. it's not other folk who spoil it ...it's folk who don't use all avenues that spoil it for themselves ." | |||
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"No gender or demographic has it easy on fab.. Guys think ladies have it easy because they're inundated ... That's all well and good if the messages are from those that you seek.. more often it's like looking for the needle in a haystack. Couples don't have it easy ...try finding four folk who find each other attractive .. Guys .. nope it's not easy ...if it was it'd be boringl it's a numbers thing maybe,.. if you make yourself stand out get out there make yourself known you know what you'll find it a great place to find fun laughs and frolic s .. it's not other folk who spoil it ...it's folk who don't use all avenues that spoil it for themselves ."
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"No gender or demographic has it easy on fab.. Guys think ladies have it easy because they're inundated ... That's all well and good if the messages are from those that you seek.. more often it's like looking for the needle in a haystack. Couples don't have it easy ...try finding four folk who find each other attractive .. Guys .. nope it's not easy ...if it was it'd be boringl it's a numbers thing maybe,.. if you make yourself stand out get out there make yourself known you know what you'll find it a great place to find fun laughs and frolic s .. it's not other folk who spoil it ...it's folk who don't use all avenues that spoil it for themselves ." Maybe I should say something positive. Us as a couple are very happy with our swinging experience, and we more or less get what we want on Fab. Took us a while to get there, and of course there are irritations, and we wish we had the time to play more often than once a month. But otherwise, I can honestly say we are happy and have met our needs via Fab.
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"These kind of threads are only started because there's a daily influx of of single guy's too lazy to create decent, appealing profiles to the demographic they're trying to attract and instead prefer to whine and ask for advice, instead of looking at guys who are successful and taking tips from their profiles. I mean how simple is it to think, "Ok, that guy seems to do well, lets take a look at his profile and see what I can learn." There is no secret magic formula on here. You can have the best photos, the wittiest profile, be attractive etc but you have to realise you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. Just navigate fab the best way you can on your own merits " simple enough concept that's been said time and time again so it's shame so many can't logically use it | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope" Condescending much! | |||
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"Single guys. Heres a few tips, maybe they'll help 1. Are all of your pictures cock shots? As much as we like to see maybe one or two, if all of your pics are cock shots it makes you look disengenious and unimaginative. 2. Have at least one face pic, even if you keep it private until asked. Try to look natural and smile, its a big deal trusting a stranger, especially for a single woman, looking tough and angry even, never works so chil bro. 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. 4. Dont badger or pester if you are rejected or ignored, if you can't do this you're not going to enjoy this site. 5. Read profiles properly, it will help you start up a decent conversation and will show that you had the curtesy to read their profile and dont look like youre desperately looking for anything. 6. Have fun, don't take fabbing too serious, be respectful and oh yes as i said have fun. I hope You forgot to say .... dont take advice from couples who think they speak for everyone else on the site" Indeed! | |||
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"These kind of threads are only started because there's a daily influx of of single guy's too lazy to create decent, appealing profiles to the demographic they're trying to attract and instead prefer to whine and ask for advice, instead of looking at guys who are successful and taking tips from their profiles. I mean how simple is it to think, "Ok, that guy seems to do well, lets take a look at his profile and see what I can learn." There is no secret magic formula on here. You can have the best photos, the wittiest profile, be attractive etc but you have to realise you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. Just navigate fab the best way you can on your own merits "
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"Well that went well. I agree, the advice should not be aimed just at single men. I have also said in the past that how others act won't impede you getting meets as adults should be able to make their own minds up, but after reading a posters points on many many profiles who have shouty profiles saying single males don't contact us as you are ( insert insulting words of your choosing ) then he has a point. A lot of the time people have been put off for some reason and are treating everyone as the same until proven otherwise. The advice I would give for that is, have the greatest profile you can have to stand out and hopefully those people will be attracted to it when they are looking for men."
I agree wholeheartedly with the final piece of advice.
Regarding those put off by single male bad conduct, I can see it happens of course, but there are still plenty who are not put off, have filters set high, do the looking for themselves, and continue to meet single guys whose profiles and demeanour are up to spec.
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X This couple choose to do that their choice , still doesn't make it harder for you, unless you want to use that excuse as a cop out, as you can just choose to move on to the next profile, make sure your profile is the best it can be so you stand out to couples that do the searching for theirselves or get off your arse and go to club and meet people in the real world as opposed to just solely relying on fab. I love that you choose to ignore what this couple were saying, idiot single guys actions towards them prejudice their actions to all single guys, rightly or wrongly, and that was point all along! Therefore is does make it harder for me and all the other single guys, rocket science it ain't!! I certainly wouldn't use it as a cop out, neither was I, I was merely making a observation. Yes I agree there are many options open to improving anyone's chances of meeting people, but surely that's true for anyone, but this thread was aimed at helping single men, so I fail to see the reverence of your point!? I respect your opinion, I didn't agree with the way you delivered it, can you now move on please? I didn't ignore what they were saying I acknowledged that when I said they made a choice not everyone makes the same one because they wish to label single guys idiots and let their actions effect them. I've had shit from some single guys I just choose ignore them instead of blocking them, slowing the good guys that stand out by a mile to still message me " Acknowledge but dismiss it. Classic I never said everyone reacts the same, you may have chosen to read it that way, but you are wrong, yet again. My point stands, and now agreed with by various other posters here, that a few idiot single guys actions make things harder for the respectful others. Please move on. | |||
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"Well that went well. I agree, the advice should not be aimed just at single men. I have also said in the past that how others act won't impede you getting meets as adults should be able to make their own minds up, but after reading a posters points on many many profiles who have shouty profiles saying single males don't contact us as you are ( insert insulting words of your choosing ) then he has a point. A lot of the time people have been put off for some reason and are treating everyone as the same until proven otherwise. The advice I would give for that is, have the greatest profile you can have to stand out and hopefully those people will be attracted to it when they are looking for men."
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"Had fun reading this thread. Some good advice and some needless comments. My opinion is that as a single guy on here I can expect to be ignored a lot simply because of the amount of competition there is. That said, I do speak truthfully and respect al other site users and just hope I'm lucky once in a while. "Agree totally So you don't insult people by commenting on on something personal on them without knowing anything about them, wow fantastic advice, I wish some others have your foresight!! | |||
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"Had fun reading this thread. Some good advice and some needless comments. My opinion is that as a single guy on here I can expect to be ignored a lot simply because of the amount of competition there is. That said, I do speak truthfully and respect al other site users and just hope I'm lucky once in a while. "I wouldn't ignore you because of the competition. If you messaged me and the wasn't interested in you I would say no thank you. Some women don't, they just delete | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X This couple choose to do that their choice , still doesn't make it harder for you, unless you want to use that excuse as a cop out, as you can just choose to move on to the next profile, make sure your profile is the best it can be so you stand out to couples that do the searching for theirselves or get off your arse and go to club and meet people in the real world as opposed to just solely relying on fab. I love that you choose to ignore what this couple were saying, idiot single guys actions towards them prejudice their actions to all single guys, rightly or wrongly, and that was point all along! Therefore is does make it harder for me and all the other single guys, rocket science it ain't!! I certainly wouldn't use it as a cop out, neither was I, I was merely making a observation. Yes I agree there are many options open to improving anyone's chances of meeting people, but surely that's true for anyone, but this thread was aimed at helping single men, so I fail to see the reverence of your point!? I respect your opinion, I didn't agree with the way you delivered it, can you now move on please? I didn't ignore what they were saying I acknowledged that when I said they made a choice not everyone makes the same one because they wish to label single guys idiots and let their actions effect them. I've had shit from some single guys I just choose ignore them instead of blocking them, slowing the good guys that stand out by a mile to still message me Acknowledge but dismiss it. Classic I never said everyone reacts the same, you may have chosen to read it that way, but you are wrong, yet again. My point stands, and now agreed with by various other posters here, that a few idiot single guys actions make things harder for the respectful others. Please move on. " I dismiss it because I think it's a crock of shite which I think I've made clear I'm clearly not the one unable to let it go And at least my "insults" were directed at you not sly and sarcastically made in other comments | |||
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"We have blocked all single guys. Quite honestly it's more hassle that it's worth. Whilst we are sure there are some genuine ones about, in fact we know there are, it's a royal pain in the backside wading through the timewasters and wannabees. One last thing, at least try and have a picture that's above your neck. We are sure you love seeing your cock but we want to see who you are. This is only our opinion and we don't wish to speak for any other person on the site. Thank you thank you, you have just proved my point earlier, that a few small minded single guys can make things very difficult for the rest of us. X This couple choose to do that their choice , still doesn't make it harder for you, unless you want to use that excuse as a cop out, as you can just choose to move on to the next profile, make sure your profile is the best it can be so you stand out to couples that do the searching for theirselves or get off your arse and go to club and meet people in the real world as opposed to just solely relying on fab. I love that you choose to ignore what this couple were saying, idiot single guys actions towards them prejudice their actions to all single guys, rightly or wrongly, and that was point all along! Therefore is does make it harder for me and all the other single guys, rocket science it ain't!! I certainly wouldn't use it as a cop out, neither was I, I was merely making a observation. Yes I agree there are many options open to improving anyone's chances of meeting people, but surely that's true for anyone, but this thread was aimed at helping single men, so I fail to see the reverence of your point!? I respect your opinion, I didn't agree with the way you delivered it, can you now move on please? I didn't ignore what they were saying I acknowledged that when I said they made a choice not everyone makes the same one because they wish to label single guys idiots and let their actions effect them. I've had shit from some single guys I just choose ignore them instead of blocking them, slowing the good guys that stand out by a mile to still message me Acknowledge but dismiss it. Classic I never said everyone reacts the same, you may have chosen to read it that way, but you are wrong, yet again. My point stands, and now agreed with by various other posters here, that a few idiot single guys actions make things harder for the respectful others. Please move on. I dismiss it because I think it's a crock of shite which I think I've made clear I'm clearly not the one unable to let it go And at least my "insults" were directed at you not sly and sarcastically made in other comments " Glad you can now admit you did insult me, there is hope, or was that a sly sarcastic comment aimed at me? now please move on | |||
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"Well that went well. I agree, the advice should not be aimed just at single men. I have also said in the past that how others act won't impede you getting meets as adults should be able to make their own minds up, but after reading a posters points on many many profiles who have shouty profiles saying single males don't contact us as you are ( insert insulting words of your choosing ) then he has a point. A lot of the time people have been put off for some reason and are treating everyone as the same until proven otherwise. The advice I would give for that is, have the greatest profile you can have to stand out and hopefully those people will be attracted to it when they are looking for men.
I agree wholeheartedly with the final piece of advice.
Regarding those put off by single male bad conduct, I can see it happens of course, but there are still plenty who are not put off, have filters set high, do the looking for themselves, and continue to meet single guys whose profiles and demeanour are up to spec.
In any event, their conduct has never had any impact on my experience of the site as there are still plenty of willing players out there."Yep, as I say I have always had the _iew of we make our own minds up and it doesn't matter what other people did we wouldn't be put off by a few people behaving how we didn't like. We know not everyone is the same. I did however think the man had a point and it is valid, some people are put off by some peoples actions so much so that they treat everyone the same until proven otherwise.Obviously it is their right to do that, but saying it doesn't happen ( not you )is a bit naive I think | |||
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"Our advice to single guys is, you better be ready to take what Mr can give you, and Mrs rarely plays .... that's just advice from us, and not representing anyone else. We don't give a damn about cock pictures as Mr has fifty or so on his single profile and so it doesn't phase us .... you run your profile how you want and don't go jumping through any hoops from anyone who demands you do. They are on a power trip ...
Are you saying all couples behave like that, or just a few?
Sadly you were right to say this is your opinion only and not representing others.
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"I'm surprised nobody has started threads for tips for couples and single ladies too because some need tips too, more than some single men do." Exactly. I was just thinking that. I find that a lot of couples and single women behave really appallingly on this site as well. I think the attention sometimes gets to people's heads. The sheer number of shorty, rude profiles from women and couples on this site is unbelievable! And yes, that's not exactly advertising oneself in the right light, is it. | |||
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"The fact that a couple or single woman gets messages from idiots doesn't mean you switch to the default position of treating every single guy as an idiot and trying to avoid it by writing an aggressive, shouty profile. It does the opposite of what you seek, i.e. drives the very guys you seek in the opposite direction. I mean if you really want to meet genuine and sensible single guys, it's not that difficult. Just block all single guys and when you want to meet a single guy, you search for one and email them. " I don't block all single guys but so far all of my meets have been a result of me. Being pro active and searching for the meets myself or from my club meets. But single guys are equally guilty of ranting in their profiles and via status too, usually about how crap the site is or time wasters | |||
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" Agree with everybody that 'shouty' arrogant profiles are a turn-off. Though I'm sure these people shoot themselves in the foot, simply by self-respecting people being turned off by their profiles. I am curious though. A number of people today talked about couples expecting others to 'jump through hoops' to get a meet with them? I've seen this expression used before on the forums, so I'm curious as to when someone's preferences (which we're all entitled to) become an unreasonable requirement for soneone to 'jump through a hoop'. There's been a lot of complaints today, so maybe some could explain what behaviour from couples is unacceptable (other than not replying to all messages, a subject which had been done to death)? Or is it just the 'shouty' profiles that get people's backs up? Mrs" For me its the ones that are predominantly negative .... don't , no, etc ... you can always put a positive spin on these things. Of course, we have all seen profiles and then come across people in the flesh and thought, now they have a great way with words. We have our preferences, but they are preferences and a guideline only, if people are expecting others to jumpy through hoops, would they also be willing to do that? | |||
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" Agree with everybody that 'shouty' arrogant profiles are a turn-off. Though I'm sure these people shoot themselves in the foot, simply by self-respecting people being turned off by their profiles. I am curious though. A number of people today talked about couples expecting others to 'jump through hoops' to get a meet with them? I've seen this expression used before on the forums, so I'm curious as to when someone's preferences (which we're all entitled to) become an unreasonable requirement for soneone to 'jump through a hoop'. There's been a lot of complaints today, so maybe some could explain what behaviour from couples is unacceptable (other than not replying to all messages, a subject which had been done to death)? Or is it just the 'shouty' profiles that get people's backs up? Mrs" For me jumping through hoops is the things like "you must use this word or your message will be deleted", "you must accommodate", "you must speak to us on the phone to prove yourself", "you must bring x", "you must do x and then you must do y". It's the myriad of little things which add up to the impression that this person/couple thinks their time is more valuable than the other person's and the interaction is going to be all on their terms. | |||
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" Agree with everybody that 'shouty' arrogant profiles are a turn-off. Though I'm sure these people shoot themselves in the foot, simply by self-respecting people being turned off by their profiles. I am curious though. A number of people today talked about couples expecting others to 'jump through hoops' to get a meet with them? I've seen this expression used before on the forums, so I'm curious as to when someone's preferences (which we're all entitled to) become an unreasonable requirement for soneone to 'jump through a hoop'. There's been a lot of complaints today, so maybe some could explain what behaviour from couples is unacceptable (other than not replying to all messages, a subject which had been done to death)? Or is it just the 'shouty' profiles that get people's backs up? Mrs For me jumping through hoops is the things like "you must use this word or your message will be deleted", "you must accommodate", "you must speak to us on the phone to prove yourself", "you must bring x", "you must do x and then you must do y". It's the myriad of little things which add up to the impression that this person/couple thinks their time is more valuable than the other person's and the interaction is going to be all on their terms. " | |||
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" Agree with everybody that 'shouty' arrogant profiles are a turn-off. Though I'm sure these people shoot themselves in the foot, simply by self-respecting people being turned off by their profiles. I am curious though. A number of people today talked about couples expecting others to 'jump through hoops' to get a meet with them? I've seen this expression used before on the forums, so I'm curious as to when someone's preferences (which we're all entitled to) become an unreasonable requirement for soneone to 'jump through a hoop'. There's been a lot of complaints today, so maybe some could explain what behaviour from couples is unacceptable (other than not replying to all messages, a subject which had been done to death)? Or is it just the 'shouty' profiles that get people's backs up? Mrs For me jumping through hoops is the things like "you must use this word or your message will be deleted", "you must accommodate", "you must speak to us on the phone to prove yourself", "you must bring x", "you must do x and then you must do y". It's the myriad of little things which add up to the impression that this person/couple thinks their time is more valuable than the other person's and the interaction is going to be all on their terms. " Or the couples who say, its so much easier for single parents to get a babysitter ..... of course it is, dear .... | |||
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" 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. the whole 'we talk to each other' makes me laugh. from my experience it is usually people with way too much time on their hands and are taking it all too seriously." You only have to look at other threads on here to see that not all couples talk to each other | |||
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" 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. the whole 'we talk to each other' makes me laugh. from my experience it is usually people with way too much time on their hands and are taking it all too seriously. You only have to look at other threads on here to see that not all couples talk to each other" I took it they meant they spread the word amongst the community... | |||
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" 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. Oh my goodness, that is even worse .... cliquety clique clique .... we don't talk to any other couples .... the whole 'we talk to each other' makes me laugh. from my experience it is usually people with way too much time on their hands and are taking it all too seriously. You only have to look at other threads on here to see that not all couples talk to each other I took it they meant they spread the word amongst the community... Sorry my comment was buried in yours ..... oh my goodness, that is even worse ... cliquety clique clique and very incestuous. " | |||
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" 3. Be honest about what you're looking for. People who are fabbers will see through falsness and we talk to each other. the whole 'we talk to each other' makes me laugh. from my experience it is usually people with way too much time on their hands and are taking it all too seriously. You only have to look at other threads on here to see that not all couples talk to each other I took it they meant they spread the word amongst the community... " Sorry, my comment was hidden within your text so third time lucky. That is even worse ... cliquety clique clique, we don't talk to any couples like this, its too incestuous .... | |||
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"... We have our preferences, but they are preferences and a guideline only, if people are expecting others to jumpy through hoops, would they also be willing to do that? " Yes, but only if they respond to a profile. Why would someone write to another when they don't meet with their requirements I keep mine simple; two arms and/or two legs or a combination thereof; anyone over 4'6"; afterall, this is a swinger's site  | |||
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" Agree with everybody that 'shouty' arrogant profiles are a turn-off. Though I'm sure these people shoot themselves in the foot, simply by self-respecting people being turned off by their profiles. I am curious though. A number of people today talked about couples expecting others to 'jump through hoops' to get a meet with them? I've seen this expression used before on the forums, so I'm curious as to when someone's preferences (which we're all entitled to) become an unreasonable requirement for soneone to 'jump through a hoop'. There's been a lot of complaints today, so maybe some could explain what behaviour from couples is unacceptable (other than not replying to all messages, a subject which had been done to death)? Or is it just the 'shouty' profiles that get people's backs up? Mrs For me jumping through hoops is the things like "you must use this word or your message will be deleted", "you must accommodate", "you must speak to us on the phone to prove yourself", "you must bring x", "you must do x and then you must do y". It's the myriad of little things which add up to the impression that this person/couple thinks their time is more valuable than the other person's and the interaction is going to be all on their terms. " Ok good to know. I've also wondered what that meant, and hoped we weren't guilty of it! Yep we tend to avoid profiles like that. We do like explain our preferences clearly because we don't want to waste people's time, but the only 'demand' we are guilty of is 'face pic with first message', but that's to save embarrassment later, and it's nothing we wouldn't do ourself. Mrs | |||
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" Agree with everybody that 'shouty' arrogant profiles are a turn-off. Though I'm sure these people shoot themselves in the foot, simply by self-respecting people being turned off by their profiles. I am curious though. A number of people today talked about couples expecting others to 'jump through hoops' to get a meet with them? I've seen this expression used before on the forums, so I'm curious as to when someone's preferences (which we're all entitled to) become an unreasonable requirement for soneone to 'jump through a hoop'. There's been a lot of complaints today, so maybe some could explain what behaviour from couples is unacceptable (other than not replying to all messages, a subject which had been done to death)? Or is it just the 'shouty' profiles that get people's backs up? Mrs For me jumping through hoops is the things like "you must use this word or your message will be deleted", "you must accommodate", "you must speak to us on the phone to prove yourself", "you must bring x", "you must do x and then you must do y". It's the myriad of little things which add up to the impression that this person/couple thinks their time is more valuable than the other person's and the interaction is going to be all on their terms. Ok good to know. I've also wondered what that meant, and hoped we weren't guilty of it! Yep we tend to avoid profiles like that. We do like explain our preferences clearly because we don't want to waste people's time, but the only 'demand' we are guilty of is 'face pic with first message', but that's to save embarrassment later, and it's nothing we wouldn't do ourself. Mrs" Yep, I had to check our profile too, before I posted, just to check I wasn't doing what I hated the most on our profile .... | |||
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" Agree with everybody that 'shouty' arrogant profiles are a turn-off. Though I'm sure these people shoot themselves in the foot, simply by self-respecting people being turned off by their profiles. I am curious though. A number of people today talked about couples expecting others to 'jump through hoops' to get a meet with them? I've seen this expression used before on the forums, so I'm curious as to when someone's preferences (which we're all entitled to) become an unreasonable requirement for soneone to 'jump through a hoop'. There's been a lot of complaints today, so maybe some could explain what behaviour from couples is unacceptable (other than not replying to all messages, a subject which had been done to death)? Or is it just the 'shouty' profiles that get people's backs up? Mrs For me jumping through hoops is the things like "you must use this word or your message will be deleted", "you must accommodate", "you must speak to us on the phone to prove yourself", "you must bring x", "you must do x and then you must do y". It's the myriad of little things which add up to the impression that this person/couple thinks their time is more valuable than the other person's and the interaction is going to be all on their terms. Ok good to know. I've also wondered what that meant, and hoped we weren't guilty of it! Yep we tend to avoid profiles like that. We do like explain our preferences clearly because we don't want to waste people's time, but the only 'demand' we are guilty of is 'face pic with first message', but that's to save embarrassment later, and it's nothing we wouldn't do ourself. Mrs Yep, I had to check our profile too, before I posted, just to check I wasn't doing what I hated the most on our profile ...." There are also the sort of couples who expect single men to only live out their fantasies, not the fantasy of the single man. While this is fair in a sense, it is still unfair on the single male | |||
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"Has it calmed down in here yet or do I get tea, biscuit's popcorn or jack Daniels ....delete as appropriate, i always find treat online as if you are talking to the lady in person for the first time, be polite, if there's no response then hey there's no response, no point sending two messages, a non reply is a no thanks, guys if you get one deal with it, she has just said no, not fucked you in the ass lol " Can you make a comment about people discussing things without the refreshments? Some of us don't need them | |||
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