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Is unicorn a derogatory term?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Me and my wife a relatively new to this site and this lifestyle generally. That said the fantasy of it all is a massive turn on. When we first set up our profile we stated that we were looking for the elusive unicorn yet reading through the forums it's become apparent that some single bi females find term derogatory. We obviously arent on this site to upset or offend anybody. Basically we are just seeking any advice from single bi females and couples alike on how to get our profile more noticed and hopefully make new friends along the way. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We appreciate your advice. I took the pictures of my wife and they turned me on so I thought I would share them. Didn't really think to put any of myself on there though it's something we will definitely be working on over the next couple of days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I quite like the term and have been proud to be one. X"
Glad we got on track with this thread again. I too would like to know how the term "unicorn" could be degratory to those single bi females out there. I would like to be able to consider a point a view that I have not considered before.  |
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"I quite like the term and have been proud to be one. X
Glad we got on track with this thread again. I too would like to know how the term "unicorn" could be degratory to those single bi females out there. I would like to be able to consider a point a view that I have not considered before. "
I think some people on the scene get upset about labelling people, but in my eyes unicorn is fun and sweet and quite an apt metaphor!
Us single bi girls are so rare though, that we get pounced on by loads of couples wanting the ellusive mff experience, and you do end up feeling a bit used and more like a service to them. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Me and my wife a relatively new to this site and this lifestyle generally. That said the fantasy of it all is a massive turn on. When we first set up our profile we stated that we were looking for the elusive unicorn yet reading through the forums it's become apparent that some single bi females find term derogatory. We obviously arent on this site to upset or offend anybody. Basically we are just seeking any advice from single bi females and couples alike on how to get our profile more noticed and hopefully make new friends along the way. "
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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im not bothered by the term. im more interested though about seeing 'full equal way dynamic' or similar terms, and what the couple offer/ want/ don't want on their profile.
make it easy for us.
you may know what you want, but make sure youve told your prospective audience.
you may wish to add where you prefer to meet, do you do socials, do you 'expect' anything.
being honest your profile is vague, and therefore is easily discarded.
i didnt look at the pics, but i would want both people in them and face pics public (or said that they would be available in first message)
hope this perspective helps you find what you are looking for xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I quite like the term and have been proud to be one. X
Glad we got on track with this thread again. I too would like to know how the term "unicorn" could be degratory to those single bi females out there. I would like to be able to consider a point a view that I have not considered before.
I think some people on the scene get upset about labelling people, but in my eyes unicorn is fun and sweet and quite an apt metaphor!
Us single bi girls are so rare though, that we get pounced on by loads of couples wanting the ellusive mff experience, and you do end up feeling a bit used and more like a service to them. "
Thanks - I play with most people, single fems, couples and the select single man. What I have found is couples are just seeking sex, single people bit less so. I guess there are some labels out there that are the male equivelant of unicorn, such as bull in cuckold couples.
I guess that's the thing with highly sexual labels applied to men such as stud and bull - they sound good and I'm pleased to be labeled that way at times where I want to be used for sex but at other times they would appear offensive. Of course there's a whole range of labels for women such as MILF etc etc etc!
Single guys and single girls don't go about seeking a unicorn as such, just a single girl to play with them, so I guess the term unicorn is somewhat exclusive to couples? As such it's a very sexual label.
I sweetness would be implied in the complimentary nature of the word. Everyone likes a unicorn and finding one is very valuable. But I guess the terms Bull and MILF could also be seen as complimentary in the same way?
So what we are dealing with is the sexual nature of a label be it MILF, bull or unicorn being seen as somehow derogatory? That I do get.
This is of course discounting truly derogatory labels used such as slut, tramp or bastard used to label people.
As such I do take the point that the label unicorn, by way of its sexual nature objectivifies the person that its applied to.
So I think to answer the OPs question. I do beleive the word unicorn is used in much the same way as the words such as MILF and stud are used. As such they can be seen as derogatory - This stems from the fact sexual labels of this nature do objectify the persons that they are applied to.
The complimentary nature of these labels also need not stop them being seen as derogatory. The complimentary nature of these labels is very diverse however I would say stud and bull are very raw and sexual and imply some dominance, MILF would reflect a sexual and sweet nature whereas Cougar might be seen as more preditory. Which brings me onto other point - What do we mean by the word unicorn? As I think of it a unicorn is a magical horse with a horn (like a rhino?). A horse is a very independent, strong creature that is much like a cat - beautifull creatures that you cannot own. If I'm wrong about the word unicorn why not just call single bi fems "hens teeth" for example?
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I quite like the term and have been proud to be one. X
Glad we got on track with this thread again. I too would like to know how the term "unicorn" could be degratory to those single bi females out there. I would like to be able to consider a point a view that I have not considered before. "
because its that feeling of being hunted, objectified, labelled for usage that can come across from the people looking. its not the term itself, its the way its used.
its the only label i can really tolerate. anyone looking/ using terms milf/ cougar/ mature woman / bbw etc gets an instant 'no' from me..im a person not a mental association for others fantasies.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thanks - I play with most people, single fems, couples and the select single man. What I have found is couples are just seeking sex, single people bit less so. I guess there are some labels out there that are the male equivelant of unicorn, such as bull in cuckold couples.
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That may be your opinion or your experience with couples but it isn't true of all couples, we aren't just looking for sex and we know plenty of others who arent, we like a connection with someone, we like to embark on a friendship, hence we have a social first, we like to feel comfortable and would prefer a regular friend with benefits rather than just someone to "use" for sex
Maybe it is different with couples who seek single guys I don't know? But for us that is certainly not the case, with couples and singles we much prefer there is a connection. But of course if we both found someone amazingly attractive and all they wanted was a one off I'm sure we would give it a go, we just find the sex better when you can feel relaxed and have a laugh together.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are so many standard accepted terms in the swing scene, non of which are supposed to be derogatory. Just helps describe something IMO. But some people don't like being labelled. I label myself as a hotwife, but I guess for those who don't like labels, it would not be a good idea.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been in here over a year WTF has a unicorn got to do with a single bi woman?
Explain anyone?
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I had always understood the term to mean a lady who joins an MF couple for an all inclusive MFF threesome. They would likely be bi as they would playing with both, and likely be single (although they may have a partner elsewhere). But of course being bi and single doesn't in itself make someone a unicorn.
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"From your profile it suggests your both looking to meet, however there are no pics of the male half. I would suggest they are needed but just my opinion"
It is a shame and not uncommon on here..I once asked why it was that couple pics often didn't include the male pics and was told,by a woman, that is what MEN want to see! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been in here over a year WTF has a unicorn got to do with a single bi woman?
Explain anyone?
I had always understood the term to mean a lady who joins an MF couple for an all inclusive MFF threesome. They would likely be bi as they would playing with both, and likely be single (although they may have a partner elsewhere). But of course being bi and single doesn't in itself make someone a unicorn.
Mrs"
Right I think I've got it now 
Thankyou Mrs
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a single straight male and we're referred to as unicorns on fab as well, I take no offence at that "
What! So men can be unicorns too? Fuck me this is getting confusing lol
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Some people do not like any terms referring to animals, especially if they are fiercely against animal cruelty. For this reason a new vegetarian version has been introduced which is hopefully acceptable.
Swingers can now look for a UniQuorn. |
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I suspect the male suggesting they can be Unis too is takeing the proverbial. Sheep might be a better term given the numbers.
Our fem and I and she has been a Uni in her time both love the word Unicorn. It has such lovely connotations.
In the very remote chance that a single Indian girl from Newcastle happens to read this and fancies playing with two couples who are very capable and experienced players please do get in touch.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess there are some labels out there that are the male equivelant of unicorn, such as bull in cuckold couples."
I'd say the male equivalent to a unicorn would be a stunt cock.
"I label myself as a hotwife, but I guess for those who don't like labels, it would not be a good idea."
It is not so much about disliking lables... The key here is that you self-describe as a hotwife, that's great! You are using this label to define and project your ID, this is positive. I have been called a hotwife plenty of times because I fit the profile, but I don't feel the label applies to me, I feel it gives a wrong idea of who I am, what I do or why, and I find that people who will call me this have precut expectations or ideas of what I am like, what drives me, what my preferences are etc. Therefore I don't like being called a hotwife!
Ultimately all these terms ARE objectifying. The problem is not the term itself but the attitude behind it - as long as couples remember it is not really a unicorn they're seeking/meeting, but an actual human being with unique wishes and desires, we can call each other what we want |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess there are some labels out there that are the male equivelant of unicorn, such as bull in cuckold couples.
I'd say the male equivalent to a unicorn would be a stunt cock.
I label myself as a hotwife, but I guess for those who don't like labels, it would not be a good idea.
It is not so much about disliking lables... The key here is that you self-describe as a hotwife, that's great! You are using this label to define and project your ID, this is positive. I have been called a hotwife plenty of times because I fit the profile, but I don't feel the label applies to me, I feel it gives a wrong idea of who I am, what I do or why, and I find that people who will call me this have precut expectations or ideas of what I am like, what drives me, what my preferences are etc. Therefore I don't like being called a hotwife!
Ultimately all these terms ARE objectifying. The problem is not the term itself but the attitude behind it - as long as couples remember it is not really a unicorn they're seeking/meeting, but an actual human being with unique wishes and desires, we can call each other what we want "
Yes it's true I now label myself as a hotwife, but only because I was labelled as such my a lot of people, and I felt it was said in a complimentary way. I thought if that's how people see me, I was happy to regard myself as that. I guess if I started playing with mf couples on my own, and as a result was described in a complimentary way as a unicorn, I would accept that label too. But that's just the way I am, we're all different. I've never felt I haven't been treated like a human being. It's probably a different matter if someone feels they have been dehumanised as a result of the label. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So does this mean every single bi female is a unicorn. I think not.
A unicorn is a mythical creature, rarely seen and hard to catch. Not an old nag with the horn. There are plenty of bi women on fab so I doubt that could be the case.
More than likely a few more attributes may be required. Personality, demeanour, looks, sense of humour. Maybe my comments are a bit controversial but a unicorn is not a sweeping statement to be banded about.
As a derogatory term I think not. I know a lot of girls proudly would call themselves a unicorn and would be happy with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess there are some labels out there that are the male equivelant of unicorn, such as bull in cuckold couples.
I'd say the male equivalent to a unicorn would be a stunt cock.
I label myself as a hotwife, but I guess for those who don't like labels, it would not be a good idea.
It is not so much about disliking lables... The key here is that you self-describe as a hotwife, that's great! You are using this label to define and project your ID, this is positive. I have been called a hotwife plenty of times because I fit the profile, but I don't feel the label applies to me, I feel it gives a wrong idea of who I am, what I do or why, and I find that people who will call me this have precut expectations or ideas of what I am like, what drives me, what my preferences are etc. Therefore I don't like being called a hotwife
Ultimately all these terms ARE objectifying. The problem is not the term itself but the attitude behind it - as long as couples remember it is not really a unicorn they're seeking/meeting, but an actual human being with unique wishes and desires, we can call each other what we want
Yes it's true I now label myself as a hotwife, but only because I was labelled as such my a lot of people, and I felt it was said in a complimentary way. I thought if that's how people see me, I was happy to regard myself as that. I guess if I started playing with mf couples on my own, and as a result was described in a complimentary way as a unicorn, I would accept that label too. But that's just the way I am, we're all different. I've never felt I haven't been treated like a human being. It's probably a different matter if someone feels they have been dehumanised as a result of the label."
Rightly so. You are hot and I assume you are a wife. Again not a term to be used lightly.
Although no doubt some will invent. "Not bad on the mince pies, but gives a cracking blow job wife" soon.  |
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"I've been in here over a year WTF has a unicorn got to do with a single bi woman?
Explain anyone?
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A unicorn - a single bi woman who meets and plays with couples.
Unicorns are rare (not real) and difficult if not impossible to find.
So they are really saying is - I'm trying to find the impossible, or at least the very difficult to find single bi fem who meets couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That may be your opinion or your experience with couples but it isn't true of all couples, we aren't just looking for sex and we know plenty of others who arent, we like a connection with someone, we like to embark on a friendship, hence we have a social first, we like to feel comfortable and would prefer a regular friend with benefits rather than just someone to "use" for sex
Maybe it is different with couples who seek single guys I don't know? But for us that is certainly not the case, with couples and singles we much prefer there is a connection. But of course if we both found someone amazingly attractive and all they wanted was a one off I'm sure we would give it a go, we just find the sex better when you can feel relaxed and have a laugh together.
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Fair comment - I think there's great diversity within the swinging scene and I was generallising a fair bit to simplify matters and was saying all couples have to conform to XYZ standard. Of course I should not be generalising, and I'm so glad people are different.
I thought the comment about unicorns being similar to stunt cocks was a fantastic paralel to draw. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people do not like any terms referring to animals, especially if they are fiercely against animal cruelty. For this reason a new vegetarian version has been introduced which is hopefully acceptable.
Swingers can now look for a UniQuorn."
Ha! |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I know a number of bi-fems that class themselves as unicorns and it's funny as they aren't single pmsl
Someone a while back found it offensive when I used the term, hey ho"
And when they found it offensive, did you shut it or did you try and convince them that they should not find it offensive, because you think they should not find it offensive
I have never tried to convince a Black person that they should not find the 'N' word offensive; neither have I tried to find out their reasons for finding it offensive. I learnt when I moved to this country that many Black people find it derogatory/offensive so I did not use it |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Some people do not like any terms referring to animals, especially if they are fiercely against animal cruelty. For this reason a new vegetarian version has been introduced which is hopefully acceptable.
Swingers can now look for a UniQuorn.
Ha!"
and we renamed single bi men as bananacake some weeks ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me and my wife a relatively new to this site and this lifestyle generally. That said the fantasy of it all is a massive turn on. When we first set up our profile we stated that we were looking for the elusive unicorn yet reading through the forums it's become apparent that some single bi females find term derogatory. We obviously arent on this site to upset or offend anybody. Basically we are just seeking any advice from single bi females and couples alike on how to get our profile more noticed and hopefully make new friends along the way. "
Some will find it offensive, I guess- bit silly really. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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Ive always thought it was a sarcastic term as unicorns are mythical,fairytail creature so, anyone claiming to be a single bi-female (which I believe the term unicorn refers to) clearly isn't, therefores some may take offence as it could suguest that they are lying. |
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"Some people do not like any terms referring to animals, especially if they are fiercely against animal cruelty. For this reason a new vegetarian version has been introduced which is hopefully acceptable.
Swingers can now look for a UniQuorn.
Ha!
and we renamed single bi men as bananacake some weeks ago "
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"I know a number of bi-fems that class themselves as unicorns and it's funny as they aren't single pmsl
Someone a while back found it offensive when I used the term, hey ho
And when they found it offensive, did you shut it or did you try and convince them that they should not find it offensive, because you think they should not find it offensive
I have never tried to convince a Black person that they should not find the 'N' word offensive; neither have I tried to find out their reasons for finding it offensive. I learnt when I moved to this country that many Black people find it derogatory/offensive so I did not use it"
Some words are universally accepted as rude and are only ever used to be offensive. The various terminologies that describe different roles/types within the swing/fet scene are not considered rude or offensive words. Of course everybody has the right to not want certain labelling (or any labelling for that matter). So to call someone a unicorn, bull, hotwife, dom, sub, cuckold, cuckquean etc etc, when they don't identify with the term, is of course wrong. But none of these are words that are universally considered offensive, in comparison with racist words that are generally only used in a negative context. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I know a number of bi-fems that class themselves as unicorns and it's funny as they aren't single pmsl
Someone a while back found it offensive when I used the term, hey ho
And when they found it offensive, did you shut it or did you try and convince them that they should not find it offensive, because you think they should not find it offensive
I have never tried to convince a Black person that they should not find the 'N' word offensive; neither have I tried to find out their reasons for finding it offensive. I learnt when I moved to this country that many Black people find it derogatory/offensive so I did not use it
Some words are universally accepted as rude and are only ever used to be offensive. The various terminologies that describe different roles/types within the swing/fet scene are not considered rude or offensive words. Of course everybody has the right to not want certain labelling (or any labelling for that matter). So to call someone a unicorn, bull, hotwife, dom, sub, cuckold, cuckquean etc etc, when they don't identify with the term, is of course wrong. But none of these are words that are universally considered offensive, in comparison with racist words that are generally only used in a negative context."
How do you know that?
Are you a single woman, who is bisexual and has sex with the male and female partners in a couple?
If not, then you are just like the White man telling another White Man that Black men should not find the 'N' word offensive. Very patronising |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people do not like any terms referring to animals, especially if they are fiercely against animal cruelty. For this reason a new vegetarian version has been introduced which is hopefully acceptable.
Swingers can now look for a UniQuorn."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know a number of bi-fems that class themselves as unicorns and it's funny as they aren't single pmsl
Someone a while back found it offensive when I used the term, hey ho
And when they found it offensive, did you shut it or did you try and convince them that they should not find it offensive, because you think they should not find it offensive
I have never tried to convince a Black person that they should not find the 'N' word offensive; neither have I tried to find out their reasons for finding it offensive. I learnt when I moved to this country that many Black people find it derogatory/offensive so I did not use it
Some words are universally accepted as rude and are only ever used to be offensive. The various terminologies that describe different roles/types within the swing/fet scene are not considered rude or offensive words. Of course everybody has the right to not want certain labelling (or any labelling for that matter). So to call someone a unicorn, bull, hotwife, dom, sub, cuckold, cuckquean etc etc, when they don't identify with the term, is of course wrong. But none of these are words that are universally considered offensive, in comparison with racist words that are generally only used in a negative context.
How do you know that?
Are you a single woman, who is bisexual and has sex with the male and female partners in a couple?
If not, then you are just like the White man telling another White Man that Black men should not find the 'N' word offensive. Very patronising"
No that's true I didn't know that the word 'unicorn' was a rude word, in the way that the 'N' is universally accepted as a rude word. In all honesty neither are words that I have used, but I apologise for my ignorance. I genuinely thought that the word 'unicorn' was similar to various others words on the scene such as the word 'hotwife'. I think the reason I thought this was because the only times I'd really heard it used was by women using it to describe themselves, in much the same way that other women might describe themselves as a 'hotwife'. I had no reason to believe that these ladies were describing themselves with a word that is regarded as offensive in the way. However I stand corrected. Thanks for letting me know |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I know a number of bi-fems that class themselves as unicorns and it's funny as they aren't single pmsl
Someone a while back found it offensive when I used the term, hey ho
And when they found it offensive, did you shut it or did you try and convince them that they should not find it offensive, because you think they should not find it offensive
I have never tried to convince a Black person that they should not find the 'N' word offensive; neither have I tried to find out their reasons for finding it offensive. I learnt when I moved to this country that many Black people find it derogatory/offensive so I did not use it
Some words are universally accepted as rude and are only ever used to be offensive. The various terminologies that describe different roles/types within the swing/fet scene are not considered rude or offensive words. Of course everybody has the right to not want certain labelling (or any labelling for that matter). So to call someone a unicorn, bull, hotwife, dom, sub, cuckold, cuckquean etc etc, when they don't identify with the term, is of course wrong. But none of these are words that are universally considered offensive, in comparison with racist words that are generally only used in a negative context.
How do you know that?
Are you a single woman, who is bisexual and has sex with the male and female partners in a couple?
If not, then you are just like the White man telling another White Man that Black men should not find the 'N' word offensive. Very patronising
No that's true I didn't know that the word 'unicorn' was a rude word, in the way that the 'N' is universally accepted as a rude word. In all honesty neither are words that I have used, but I apologise for my ignorance. I genuinely thought that the word 'unicorn' was similar to various others words on the scene such as the word 'hotwife'. I think the reason I thought this was because the only times I'd really heard it used was by women using it to describe themselves, in much the same way that other women might describe themselves as a 'hotwife'. I had no reason to believe that these ladies were describing themselves with a word that is regarded as offensive in the way. However I stand corrected. Thanks for letting me know "
There are a number of Black bands which write lyrics with the 'N' word in them. Some are mainstream like Black Eyed Peas. Just because they choose to use this word in their lyrics does not mean that I too can now use that word when describing a Black person
There are a number of single bisexual women who have stated that they either don't mind or actually prefer this term. Some use it to describe themselves. That is fine for they are equivalent to the Black Eyed Peas band
Other such women have stated that they find it derogatory or offensive
The nicer people have chosen not to use a term which some/many of such women do not like. Others have chosen to take the attitude of "oh well" |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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I don't understand the term unicorn, implying that single bi women are a myth. There are loads. Obviously not as many as there are single guys. But there are loads. They're not elusive or special. The single bi females I know (myself included) just don't like being treated like free hookers by some couples that want to use them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a Feb on the site (still got her sometimes, but not on site anymore and moved away so rare meets now). She was a unicorn....but the first verification I left called her "rocking horse shit" that's even rarer....? She wasn't offended....but I wouldn't normally use the term.
Unicorn seems OK to me....but then I'm not likely to be called that.
I'm just a single guy....and we are as common as.....muck? |
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Mart always says we have never played with a single bi female, however we have played with loads of friends who, coincidentally, just so happen to be single, bi and female.
They are out there, and we like playing with them, but we don't hunt them, we let them know we are interested and see how it goes. Seems to work  |
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over a year ago
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"I know a number of bi-fems that class themselves as unicorns and it's funny as they aren't single pmsl
Someone a while back found it offensive when I used the term, hey ho
And when they found it offensive, did you shut it or did you try and convince them that they should not find it offensive, because you think they should not find it offensive
I have never tried to convince a Black person that they should not find the 'N' word offensive; neither have I tried to find out their reasons for finding it offensive. I learnt when I moved to this country that many Black people find it derogatory/offensive so I did not use it
Some words are universally accepted as rude and are only ever used to be offensive. The various terminologies that describe different roles/types within the swing/fet scene are not considered rude or offensive words. Of course everybody has the right to not want certain labelling (or any labelling for that matter). So to call someone a unicorn, bull, hotwife, dom, sub, cuckold, cuckquean etc etc, when they don't identify with the term, is of course wrong. But none of these are words that are universally considered offensive, in comparison with racist words that are generally only used in a negative context.
How do you know that?
Are you a single woman, who is bisexual and has sex with the male and female partners in a couple?
If not, then you are just like the White man telling another White Man that Black men should not find the 'N' word offensive. Very patronising
No that's true I didn't know that the word 'unicorn' was a rude word, in the way that the 'N' is universally accepted as a rude word. In all honesty neither are words that I have used, but I apologise for my ignorance. I genuinely thought that the word 'unicorn' was similar to various others words on the scene such as the word 'hotwife'. I think the reason I thought this was because the only times I'd really heard it used was by women using it to describe themselves, in much the same way that other women might describe themselves as a 'hotwife'. I had no reason to believe that these ladies were describing themselves with a word that is regarded as offensive in the way. However I stand corrected. Thanks for letting me know
There are a number of Black bands which write lyrics with the 'N' word in them. Some are mainstream like Black Eyed Peas. Just because they choose to use this word in their lyrics does not mean that I too can now use that word when describing a Black person
There are a number of single bisexual women who have stated that they either don't mind or actually prefer this term. Some use it to describe themselves. That is fine for they are equivalent to the Black Eyed Peas band
Other such women have stated that they find it derogatory or offensive
The nicer people have chosen not to use a term which some/many of such women do not like. Others have chosen to take the attitude of "oh well""
That's fine. I didn't know it was an offensive word, only to be used by single women who play with MF couples. However I have never had cause to use the word, and will make sure I don't now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't understand the term unicorn, implying that single bi women are a myth. There are loads. Obviously not as many as there are single guys. But there are loads. They're not elusive or special. The single bi females I know (myself included) just don't like being treated like free hookers by some couples that want to use them. "
It's a shame some couples do that. We like to share and share alike. Everyone is there for their own enjoyment and treated welcomingly amd equally. |
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I hate the term with a passion. Bisexual women aren't particularly rare. They're certainly not something to catch, and I don't find them particularly elusive. |
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Worth considering as well that the primary historical symbolism of the unicorn is one of purity and youthful virginity when it's depicted with young women.
That doesn't sound like me... |
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