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How open are you? do people know you swing? friends, famiy etc...
I'm very sex positive, nudity etc isnt a taboo for me. My friends know im promiscous and swing go o clubs and parties etc few family im in touch with know, mainly sister and aunty (aunty swings) I spent time in holland and they have a much better attitude to sex. ut i think things are slowly changing here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's great to be open but I don't think I'd have to guts to be public about it good on you though I'm not ashamed about it but feel people don't really need to know lol  |
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over a year ago
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Speaking for me I would not broadcast it very far however I would not lie and if the topic comes up At work I discuss it openly. There are a couple of people at work who know and others that have known over the years. I don't think they will have gossiped but I don't know for sure. Close friends and family are different and we do not discussed it that close to home. Mr Classy |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Paul has told 2 friends- one his best friend and the other a friend who was disclosing information so he disclosed information back.
I almost told a friend once but I decided not to at the last minute as wasn't sure what her reaction would be.
I do feel for couples it's harder as it goes against the tradition of a married couple, people don't understand open relationships.
In saying all this though I have started to see some single men alone and meet in public for drinks etc, if I was seen by someone I know (which is a concern of mine) I would rather that they knew Paul and I have a open relationship than them think I am cheating on him, thus I would be open and tell them in that event. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't tell anybody, not sure why I would discuss my sex life with family and friends
Some people are to open and I think they like to get a reaction out of telling others, some seem to like as many people as possible to know what they are upto
I saw a couple in a club once that i knew and they told everybody they saw me there, they didn't see any problem with that, this is why I never meet local guys because I don't want to be walking down the street and be pointed out by somebody I met to their mates
Personally I don't understand why anybody would want others to know where they are meeting their sexual play mates and what they are upto, but that's just me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would love to be more open about what we do, Mia has often said she wants to tell friends and family that she is bisexual but I guess it's just taking that first step and the unknown of people's reactions.
But as it stands it's our dirty secret. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc"
For me its not a case of being ashamed its more discretion and privacy
A woman I work with once was talking about a swingers club I go to regular, she was saying she was interested to see what it was all about
I've been going to said club for many years but I wouldn't have dreamed of saying....oh yeah I go there....and carried on giving her information about the place, because to me that would be inappropriate as i have to work with this woman and I don't want her or anybody else she may have told knowing I go, not because I'm ashamed of going but because my private life is just that....private |
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"How open are you? do people know you swing? friends, famiy etc...
I'm very sex positive, nudity etc isnt a taboo for me. My friends know im promiscous and swing go o clubs and parties etc few family im in touch with know, mainly sister and aunty (aunty swings) I spent time in holland and they have a much better attitude to sex. ut i think things are slowly changing here..."
I don't feel the need to discuss my private/sex life with family or friends. I wouldn't trust people who aren't discreet: if they feel the need to share the minutiae of their lives with everyone, they'd share mine.
I don't see the correlation between being open minded and discreet. Do people share their bank detail information? How many times they take a dump during the day? So why the details of your sex life?
Really, who cares? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't tell anybody, not sure why I would discuss my sex life with family and friends
Some people are to open and I think they like to get a reaction out of telling others, some seem to like as many people as possible to know what they are upto
I saw a couple in a club once that i knew and they told everybody they saw me there, they didn't see any problem with that, this is why I never meet local guys because I don't want to be walking down the street and be pointed out by somebody I met to their mates
Personally I don't understand why anybody would want others to know where they are meeting their sexual play mates and what they are upto, but that's just me
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I hate those types that think because they tell the world their every bodily function, that they think it's ok to tell the world about people they see at clubs. It's totally disrespectful and rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How open are you? do people know you swing? friends, famiy etc...
I'm very sex positive, nudity etc isnt a taboo for me. My friends know im promiscous and swing go o clubs and parties etc few family im in touch with know, mainly sister and aunty (aunty swings) I spent time in holland and they have a much better attitude to sex. ut i think things are slowly changing here...
I don't feel the need to discuss my private/sex life with family or friends. I wouldn't trust people who aren't discreet: if they feel the need to share the minutiae of their lives with everyone, they'd share mine.
I don't see the correlation between being open minded and discreet. Do people share their bank detail information? How many times they take a dump during the day? So why the details of your sex life?
Really, who cares?"
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
Germany / Manchester |
We only have one friend that knows about our lifestyle and only because he used to be a swinger himself. Apart from that, we keep our privacy. It reduces the risk of idle and potentially damaging chit chat. M |
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"It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors. "
This pretty much sums it up for me too.
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"I don't tell anybody, not sure why I would discuss my sex life with family and friends
Some people are to open and I think they like to get a reaction out of telling others, some seem to like as many people as possible to know what they are upto
I saw a couple in a club once that i knew and they told everybody they saw me there, they didn't see any problem with that, this is why I never meet local guys because I don't want to be walking down the street and be pointed out by somebody I met to their mates
Personally I don't understand why anybody would want others to know where they are meeting their sexual play mates and what they are upto, but that's just me
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"Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc
For me its not a case of being ashamed its more discretion and privacy
A woman I work with once was talking about a swingers club I go to regular, she was saying she was interested to see what it was all about
I've been going to said club for many years but I wouldn't have dreamed of saying....oh yeah I go there....and carried on giving her information about the place, because to me that would be inappropriate as i have to work with this woman and I don't want her or anybody else she may have told knowing I go, not because I'm ashamed of going but because my private life is just that....private "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're quite open about most things. Most of our close friends and family know that we're into BDSM and swinging. We don't shout it from the rooftops but it's not really something that we have an issue telling people about
MrsD xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't advertise it to anyone, a few people have suspected something.
As of yet, no one has come out and asked me about anything, but I'll be honest about it if they do |
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"I don't advertise it to anyone, a few people have suspected something.
As of yet, no one has come out and asked me about anything, but I'll be honest about it if they do "
Would you tell someone who asked how much money you earn? How much savings you had? How many times you'd been to the GUM clinic?
Not having a go, just curious as to where people draw the line at their privacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (fem) have 2 friends who know, the reason they know is because a long time ago I was on here as a single fem so they were my safety people, knew when and where I was meeting someone just in case. Apart from that none of my friends or family knows.
With Mr, quite a lot of his close friends and family knows, but quite a few are on here, or have been, themselves  |
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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago
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Had a strange experience a few years ago. We went to a friends "very up market" weddding just outside Manchester. After the wedding reception, we decided to finish off the evening in a local swingers club. Went to the bar only to find the Brides maid of honour standing there looking gorgeous and semi naked! She wasn't shocked at all, as she quite rightly pointed out, she was single and swinging was her chosen lifestyle. We often wondered if she mentioned our meeting to our friends or not! |
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We have a few close friends who know we swing.
One very close friend we told was unshocked, and admitted she and her partner have swung a few times too.
Hubbys closest female friend knows, and we have swung with her and her partner.
However we would never tell family, not sure they'd understand the "why would you" aspect of swinging!!! |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors. "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a separate entity for us, we don't 'live' the lifestyle but rather dip in when it's play time then back to the vanilla world. We've told no one, it's for us only and it's kind of nice knowing people don't have a clue we're into this, really does prove you really don't know what goes on behind closed doors. "
Totally this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a father of five I don't advertise that I swing however my eldest daughter works at one of the social venues so she is in the know so to speak so my ex probably knows ect but some close friends ect wouldn't hide it if it came up in conversation the valleys are a small minded lot at times tho grrr |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My sister, mum, and a few very close friends know. It's not the lifestyle for them, but they respect my decision and my reasons. I still respect the privacy of those I meet obviously though, would never divulge details of meets or anything! I've found people are curious about it, but thankfully have been non judgemental and pretty accepting.xx |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
Due to the media everyone in Clacton where we live know of our lifestyle & work & believe it or not we don't mind as family friends & people who live there don't give a hoot what we do.
We lead a normal life outside swinging / work so people are fine about our dark side lol, we get lots of people ask what swinging & adult industry is like because to newcomers it can be a titillating novelty compared to their hum drum lives. |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
"i dont tell people they just find out.
anyone can come on here and see your profile and people talk."
Yes this is true & if you go on Google Images & put Fab Swingers dozens of pics will pop up so its only a matter of "when" someone will find out. |
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Mum knows, have posted it on Farcebook, super open.
I'm a firm believer in sex positivity and talk very frankly about it. If it encourages folk into open up their sexuality or even into swinging, groovy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't spoken about it to anyone to be honest. I'm not ashamed, hence the face pics. I just see it as my business. If someone were to find out, I would not be too worried. I just don't discuss my sex life with others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My brother knows and several of redheads friends know, some are on here too. It's good that people outside of fab know that way then if I die suddenly there's someone to come along and wipe my hard drive and smash my phone  |
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Our two close female friends know what we get up to and are fascinated! We took one to a local club once so she could experience the atmosphere and she loved it. The other is very keen to get involved.
We've been in groups where the topic has come up in discussion. After hearing some of our friends utterly slating swingers or people who openly love casual sex as being 'perverts and weirdos', we've chosen to keep our alter egos to ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i dont tell people they just find out.
anyone can come on here and see your profile and people talk.
Yes this is true & if you go on Google Images & put Fab Swingers dozens of pics will pop up so its only a matter of "when" someone will find out."
seriously?
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
Clacton on sea, Essex |
"i dont tell people they just find out.
anyone can come on here and see your profile and people talk.
Yes this is true & if you go on Google Images & put Fab Swingers dozens of pics will pop up so its only a matter of "when" someone will find out.
seriously?
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Yep |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't advertise it to anyone, a few people have suspected something.
As of yet, no one has come out and asked me about anything, but I'll be honest about it if they do
Would you tell someone who asked how much money you earn? How much savings you had? How many times you'd been to the GUM clinic?
Not having a go, just curious as to where people draw the line at their privacy. "
I don't really have a problem with giving rough answers to those questions to friends. |
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I don't walk round and say, hi my name is Charlie and I am a swinger. But most of my close family and friends know and some people from work.
I think it's alot more acceptable to move in these circles if you a man then a woman to people on the outside |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope
People are judgemental generally as a whole, Brits do have a Victorian prudish attitude to sex - not right I know, but there it is.
Fab life is a million years away from my day to day life with family and friendship and always will be. |
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None of my friends or family know what I get up to, apart from the friends I found out were on here too, lol.
There's actually a guy I work with who keeps making jokes about my sex life and I think is convinced I haven't had a shag since I split up with my last girlfriend two years ago. I just smile and think "if only you knew".
One day I'll tell him, just to see the look on his face. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Its not like I introduce myself as a swinger but dont see why we should be ashamed etc
Why assume it's shame? For me it comes under too much information!
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I don't tell my family about every date I go on. So why would I go out of my way to tell them about people I have sex with. What is there to tell? |
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