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Should he have said thank you?
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The two of you have let him join in with one of the most intimate things a couple will do. He's burped his worm and then strolled off without a thank you?
Definitely rude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you? "
Did you or Louise thank him? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The two of you have let him join in with one of the most intimate things a couple will do. He's burped his worm and then strolled off without a thank you?
Definitely rude"
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you?
Did you or Louise thank him?"
Very good point but he seemed reluctant to engage verbally... And did not want to push him X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did you go there thinking someone might be there for the lady to suck and be fucked by?
You didn't thank him for helping you out with your fantasy,why should he thank you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course he should have said thank you.
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Why? She got a cock to suck and he fucked her. It was mutual pleasuring wasn't it? They aren't doing him a favour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He probably couldn't win. On another thread I can imagine a furious couple outraged that he'd presumed to speak to them, and a line up of men condemning him for it.
I don't think it's a "should" situation. He obviously decided it wasn't appropriate, you thought it would have been, the rest of us weren't there so have no idea. |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
north kensington w10 |
"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you? "
Yes no question about it! But at least all of you had fun! Some have all the luck lol.. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you?
Did you or Louise thank him?
Very good point but he seemed reluctant to engage verbally... And did not want to push him X "
maybe he has a really grating tone. So much so he now learns to keep schtum lest put people off his sausage. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Of course he should have said thank you.
Why? She got a cock to suck and he fucked her. It was mutual pleasuring wasn't it? They aren't doing him a favour."
It's only manners. They should also have said thank you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. I wouldnt expect someone to say thank you. Do you thank everyone you fuck? Pointless
That attitude is one of the things that is wrong with this site!  "
step off the angry pedal son |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to high five every time I swap ends with the husband, the wife on the other hand rarely says thankyou as she knows its rude to talk with hervmouth full. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I think it called for a high five at the end  "
He's most likely doing that in the pub over a pint with his mates as he tells the story to them
But in all seriousness he should have waved a thank you upon leaving in my opinion .
After a play meet I always send a message to my play partner once I'm home saying something like that was a great evening can't wait to do it again .
It cost us nothing to be polite and its a positive energy projection which often leads to a positive response back .
Leave a positive glow with another and you often get a repeat meet at a later date in my experience so manners do pay off in the long run .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well let's just say, hypothetically speaking that person was me. I would have fucked you and said thank you to the two of you and probably had coffee after lol  |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
north kensington w10 |
"Nope. I wouldnt expect someone to say thank you. Do you thank everyone you fuck? Pointless
That attitude is one of the things that is wrong with this site!
step off the angry pedal son "
Ok, sorry mum!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. I wouldnt expect someone to say thank you. Do you thank everyone you fuck? Pointless
That attitude is one of the things that is wrong with this site! "
You seem eternally pissed off with fab, try the UNLOS sequence to improve your experience |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
north kensington w10 |
"Nope. I wouldnt expect someone to say thank you. Do you thank everyone you fuck? Pointless
That attitude is one of the things that is wrong with this site!
You seem eternally pissed off with fab, try the UNLOS
No idea what that means thanks anyway!
sequence to improve your experience "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. I wouldnt expect someone to say thank you. Do you thank everyone you fuck? Pointless
That attitude is one of the things that is wrong with this site!
You seem eternally pissed off with fab, try the UNLOS
No idea what that means thanks anyway!
sequence to improve your experience "
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I do normally say thanks after having sex, I hold score cards up as well "
I had a sub who had to thank me for each orgasm or I'd edge her mercilessly not letting her come she had to ask my permission to come to.
The only score card we kept was a running count of how many times she would climax on a play meet .
So I'm sure you will find a guy with a kink for you rating his performance and yes I do expect to be thanked for mercilessly pushing a play partner over the edge again and again .
Its a dominance thing
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. I wouldnt expect someone to say thank you. Do you thank everyone you fuck? Pointless
That attitude is one of the things that is wrong with this site!
You seem eternally pissed off with fab, try the UNLOS
No idea what that means thanks anyway!
sequence to improve your experience "
Basically they are telling you that the way to improve your experience on here is to leave the site.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are always grateful of people that join us as enhances our experience but we were just debating if he was shy, disappointed or rude..... Ans I guess we will never know X "
It's a mystery which is kind of fun I think. |
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If he was good looking maybe he thought he was doing you a favour, maybe he felt guilty because he was married. i think dogging is different though, more casual as to meeting someone at your house. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hypothetically speaking, I would have said a brief thank you for letting me join you and left you to your fun. Both acknowledging you, and respecting that you want to carry on alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you? "
What?? Thankyou for fucking him?
Is it some sort of service you provided?
Some people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thank you? No, I don't like it when somebody says thank you to me after sex, just seems a little wierd, I never say thank you for a shag
I wouldn't just walk away though, saying good bye or nice to have met you etc seems polite |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you?
Did you or Louise thank him?"
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"Thank you? No, I don't like it when somebody says thank you to me after sex, just seems a little wierd, I never say thank you for a shag
I wouldn't just walk away though, saying good bye or nice to have met you etc seems polite "
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you?
Did you or Louise thank him?"
They arent supposed to thank the man.
That would be a bit sad especialy if it was her hubby who said thank you to him. |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
"Maybe the OP and partner and the guy should've thanked each each for the mutual preasure, I'm sure that they got something out of it as well."
Absolutely we did and in no way unthankful.. Just intrigued x |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you?
What?? Thankyou for fucking him?
Is it some sort of service you provided?
Some people "
Not at all... Not a service more mutual pleasure.... Just intrigued X |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
"Thank you? No, I don't like it when somebody says thank you to me after sex, just seems a little wierd, I never say thank you for a shag
I wouldn't just walk away though, saying good bye or nice to have met you etc seems polite "
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"Did you say thank you to him?
Sorry if that's been said 
We wanted to but he just dashed and seemed reluctant to converse... Not criticising him x"
My opinion is that if sex is a two way thing with everyone enjoying it equally nobody needs to thank anyone really |
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By *omez42Man
over a year ago
gloucester |
Manners cost nothing
But...
I was once in the situation where my fwb didn't want to know the stranger.
He remained silent, her blindfold probably gave him the hint! It may have detracted if he had spoken. |
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By *cotsguyyMan
over a year ago
Belfast and Fife |
"I quite like the fact that it was all done without a word spoken. Maybe he did too and wanted to maintain that atmosphere? "
This is what I was thinking. Maybe that was him playing out his fantasy & possibly thought it was your fantasy too. He possibly didn't want to spoil the moment.
Imagine if he did & his voice was like Joe Pasqualy's.
Getting up, pulling his trousers back up, turning to go as he does up his belt & squeaking a wobbly "thank you" as he walked away.
You'd be left in stitches as he drove off. As it was he just left you's to it. Haha
Saying that it's nice to be nice & do something to acknowledge you guys & what happened.
Maybe leave a card? Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok well, there were two of you and neither of you chose to thank him.
So what was your reason for not thanking him, I don't really buy the "He seemed in a rush" line, he wouldn't have had the chance to zip up by the time one, or both of you had said "Cheers fella" .
No harm no foul anyway |
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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago
cheshire |
Theres a guy who goes townhouse, n he has joined in with us with my wife. He's a regular there. N has joined us about four times over the past eight months , and he has never spoke. Nevermind thank you. Heard him speak down at the bar. But never when he's playing or played. we just look on the funny side of it in our situation |
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
"Ok well, there were two of you and neither of you chose to thank him.
So what was your reason for not thanking him, I don't really buy the "He seemed in a rush" line, he wouldn't have had the chance to zip up by the time one, or both of you had said "Cheers fella" .
Fair point but really we acknowledged him... Like said previously not knocking him just getting views x
No harm no foul anyway "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did you say thank you to him?
Sorry if that's been said
We wanted to but he just dashed and seemed reluctant to converse... Not criticising him x"
He might have felt guilty or dirty and rushed off to scrub himself down with Dettol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did you say thank you to him?
Sorry if that's been said
We wanted to but he just dashed and seemed reluctant to converse... Not criticising him x
He might have felt guilty or dirty and rushed off to scrub himself down with Dettol "
Ouch, if you get Dettol on your balls you know about it, also veet too |
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If there had been no words previously, he may have thought it was part of your play scenario.
If he had exchanged pleasantries, only to ruin the moment, then that would have been a shame.
He probably err'd on the side of caution.
That, or he was off to confess his guilt to his wife and is now sleeping on his mates sofa |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did you say thank you to him?
Sorry if that's been said
We wanted to but he just dashed and seemed reluctant to converse... Not criticising him x
He might have felt guilty or dirty and rushed off to scrub himself down with Dettol
Ouch, if you get Dettol on your balls you know about it, also veet too "
Why do you know what getting Dettol on your balls feels like?  |
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you?
Did you or Louise thank him?
Very good point but he seemed reluctant to engage verbally... And did not want to push him X "
Maybe he was an illegal migrant and didn't know how to say thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you?
Did you or Louise thank him?
Very good point but he seemed reluctant to engage verbally... And did not want to push him X
Maybe he was an illegal migrant and didn't know how to say thank you "
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"So we were playing outdoors last Nt. Nice looking man in car next us who watched us in the car. We got out and he ended joining in the fun, receiving oral and fucking Louise.... Respectful as in kept his distance until invited. However, when he had finished so to speak he got in his car and went. Now we thing it was nice he left us happily to play together but he never spoke... Should he have lifted a hand or said a thank you? "
Dumb fuck. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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At first I thought it was a bit strange of him.
Then I remembered the first couple of times I met a couple - I was OK with being outside and all the fun stuff, but found the aftermath way more difficult and almost embarrassing.
I'm not usually one who's stuck for words or shy, but I just didn't know what to do or say. I remember thinking "what do I say?" - I think I made a crap comment about shaking hands with them or something!
I can kinda understand it therefore.
I found it different once you know them a bit and you meet at the house etc. |
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"At first I thought it was a bit strange of him.
Then I remembered the first couple of times I met a couple - I was OK with being outside and all the fun stuff, but found the aftermath way more difficult and almost embarrassing.
I'm not usually one who's stuck for words or shy, but I just didn't know what to do or say. I remember thinking "what do I say?" - I think I made a crap comment about shaking hands with them or something!
I can kinda understand it therefore.
I found it different once you know them a bit and you meet at the house etc."
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
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"I think it called for a high five at the end
He's most likely doing that in the pub over a pint with his mates as he tells the story to them
But in all seriousness he should have waved a thank you upon leaving in my opinion .
After a play meet I always send a message to my play partner once I'm home saying something like that was a great evening can't wait to do it again .
It cost us nothing to be polite and its a positive energy projection which often leads to a positive response back .
Leave a positive glow with another and you often get a repeat meet at a later date in my experience so manners do pay off in the long run .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He's probably the type that doesn't say thanks when you give him right of way in traffic too.... Baaarstards!!!!.
BMW driver then?"
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By *odramafun OP Couple
over a year ago
Derbyshire/staffordshire |
"He's probably the type that doesn't say thanks when you give him right of way in traffic too.... Baaarstards!!!!.
BMW driver then?
Dunno I wasn't there unfortunately..... Was he in a bmw OP?"
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
He should have done the double pistols in your general direction, blown the imaginary smoke away, tipped his imaginary cowboy hat to the lady, given you both a wink and dived across his bonnet like Starsky (or was it Hutch? It's been so long) before driving away with a squeal of tyres, leaving you only with memories and the smell of burning rubber. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He should have done the double pistols in your general direction, blown the imaginary smoke away, tipped his imaginary cowboy hat to the lady, given you both a wink and dived across his bonnet like Starsky (or was it Hutch? It's been so long) before driving away with a squeal of tyres, leaving you only with memories and the smell of burning rubber."
Looooooooooool, I love this, to the op, it was a shag, get over it...... . |
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. I agree.. Definitely manners
