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It's sex not marriage

By *ungBlackTop OP Man over a year ago

salford

Why do I seem to get this message a lot?

Someone will ask to meet for sex but if I don't find them physically attractive I will say so as I won't meet people I don't find attractive for sex. The same way some people won't find me attractive. It's about personal preference. But I keep getting the "it's sex not marriage" response which makes me wonder, do people just have sex with anyone even if they don't find them attractive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope, I have to find an attraction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think that's a strong possibility as sometimes people (esp single guys) ask to meet us and I then ask - you haven't seen what we look like so how can you want to meet?

I think for some ppl it is just pure sex and releasing frustration

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say you are on a sex site and yes some but not all do. I know people that just go out for sex don't care what they look like as long as they get to the hole "pardon the pun" and relieve themselves not careing what the other person wants or even likes all around self gratification.

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By *andi_shopWoman over a year ago

rotherham

I would only meet someone if I was visually attracted to them. Yes you are meeting them for sex and not an actual relationship in most cases but why should that mean you should lower your standards?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I would, it is just a shag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No...in fact when I'm looking for someone for sex far more emphasis is placed on the physical attraction than i would when looking for a life partner.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope, I have to find an attraction

Likewise; there has to be an attraction - it can be physical, or mental (typically and ideally, both!)

Might as well have a w*nk, otherwise, lol

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

I'd meet for sex, but then i'd meet for a bag of chips, it's H that's the fussy one

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By *ungBlackTop OP Man over a year ago

salford

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off.

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By *andi_shopWoman over a year ago

rotherham

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off. "

so refreshing to find a guy who's like this!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have to find a degree of attraction in a person I would be meeting, if that were to happen. Otherwise it smacks of desperation, and that isn't an attractive quality at all!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

We wouldnt meet anyone we didnt click with and find attractive.I think most feel the same here,it might be a swinging site but we're not desperate and won't meet just anyone.

Miss

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By *ungBlackTop OP Man over a year ago

salford

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off.

so refreshing to find a guy who's like this! "

Thanks. I've always been like this. I mean you don't need to be a stunner for someone to be attracted to you but there must be something that attracts me physically to them. I guess everyone is different. I would rather have a wank (as someone said already) than meet someone I am not really into, even if it was for a 30min session. Guess this is where I'm going wrong on here

yes I agree it is just sex but sex should still be an intimate, nice activity not just to shoot a load.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off.

so refreshing to find a guy who's like this! "

Really? There are plenty out there.

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By *andi_shopWoman over a year ago

rotherham

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off.

so refreshing to find a guy who's like this!

Really? There are plenty out there. "

There are a few but the majority don't even ask me for pics before asking to meet etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off. "
That is right. I would feel more horney if they were more appealing, but it is not necessary you know, as variety is the spice of life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't make myself find someone attractive if either their appearance or personality do not appeal to me. I need both I'm afraid. Fickle, I know, but that's the way it is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off.

so refreshing to find a guy who's like this! "

I'll definitely second that lol

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By *nowstheropesMan over a year ago

Manchester

Prefer to see however also would like a meet blindfolded. Couldn't see just have the sensations

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off.

so refreshing to find a guy who's like this!

I'll definitely second that lol "

Mark is really fussy as well as he will only meet women he is attracted to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I couldn't fuck someone who made me feel physically sick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off.

so refreshing to find a guy who's like this!

Really? There are plenty out there.

There are a few but the majority don't even ask me for pics before asking to meet etc"

I guess there are benefits to having an off- putting profile after all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off. That is right. I would feel more horney if they were more appealing, but it is not necessary you know, as variety is the spice of life."

If you didn't find them attractive would you not have an issue getting a hard-on?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm guessing if you're getting that reply it means they're not bothered about the persons look, who knows!

I simply couldn't kiss let alone have sex with someone I didn't fancy, just ain't happening.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm with you on this OP. I definitely need to find someone attractive in order to have sex with someone. I need a good personality too though ( I'm a fussy sod!

) I'm sure there are others though that are happy to meet at the drop of a hat, not caring if they are attracted or not. If they like that, then that's fine. It's just not for me personally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I would, it is just a shag

I can't understand that. Don't you find sex with someone you find physically attractive more appealing and horny? I want to be able to look at someone and want to rip their clothes off. That is right. I would feel more horney if they were more appealing, but it is not necessary you know, as variety is the spice of life.

If you didn't find them attractive would you not have an issue getting a hard-on? "
No, not at all, somehow it works with everyone, foreplay helps alot too tho.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
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My Own Little World

You need a physical attraction for sex and an emotional attraction for marriage.

So I don't quite get what they are on about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a sex site, sexual attraction is probably the most important factor

Mrs

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By *ananas57Couple over a year ago

lake ariel

I don't need a handsome man to have sex with him, but he's got to have a good personality

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

I don't want to have sex with someone who is don't find a connection with. .. nor do I want to meet for 30 minutes !

I want to explore find out what other levels we are on so we can build up the excitement the entertainment and develop the trust to be ourselves

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think I must be a nightmare to ty and meet lol

I need attraction, compatibility, good conversationalist and sexual wants to match, I can go months without a meet as I need all of the above, so thank god for toys!

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By *lowercandyWoman over a year ago

Lancashire

"I think I must be a nightmare to ty and meet lol

I need attraction, compatibility, good conversationalist and sexual wants to match, I can go months without a meet as I need all of the above, so thank god for toys!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There has to be physical attraction for me, got to fancy someone to be able to have sex with them.

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By *andb69Couple over a year ago

leeds

We are on a swingers site and go to swingers' clubs to fulfil our sexual fantasies. As neither of us has a fantasy about having sex with someone we don't find attractive we only play with those that we do find attractive. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would only have sex with someone we found attractive. Luckily our tastes are hugely various.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm already married to a gorgeous man, so no looks aren't really top priority for me in a meet.

Hot sex is!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm already married to a gorgeous man, so no looks aren't really top priority for me in a meet.

Hot sex is!"

Phew!

Fancy a fuck?

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

What is the actual point in shagging someone you don't find attractive?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"What is the actual point in shagging someone you don't find attractive?"

For us no point.

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By *herealdeal90Man over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Why do I seem to get this message a lot?

I totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will have sex with any woman as long as she don't stink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sligh hint of armpit odour is totally acceptable but if they smell like an unwashed shithouse

NO CHANE

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sligh hint of armpit odour is totally acceptable but if they smell like an unwashed shithouse

NO CHANE

Chance

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

Physical attraction is needed to get physical.

There's a difference between amazing sex and alright sex...

I want amazing and lots of it

Personality certainly helps boost this.

But sex just for sex? How do you enjoy that unless you get paid??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm already married to a gorgeous man, so no looks aren't really top priority for me in a meet.

Hot sex is!"

I've had hot sex with men who the masses wouldn't call attractive. I found them very attractive.

Some women just want a battering with a big cock.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Physical attraction is needed to get physical.

There's a difference between amazing sex and alright sex...

I want amazing and lots of it

Personality certainly helps boost this.

But sex just for sex? How do you enjoy that unless you get paid??

I find it very very easy to be entirely honest, Fuk it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm already married to a gorgeous man, so no looks aren't really top priority for me in a meet.

Hot sex is!

I've had hot sex with men who the masses wouldn't call attractive. I found them very attractive.

Some women just want a battering with a big cock. "

And there's a lot

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

"Physical attraction is needed to get physical.

There's a difference between amazing sex and alright sex...

I want amazing and lots of it

Personality certainly helps boost this.

But sex just for sex? How do you enjoy that unless you get paid??

I find it very very easy to be entirely honest, Fuk it "

Okay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need to define attractive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do I seem to get this message a lot?

Anyway stop showing off you get messages

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By *ungBlackTop OP Man over a year ago

salford

"Why do I seem to get this message a lot?

Anyway stop showing off you get messages

HAHA there's a difference between getting messages and getting messages.

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