FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Blocked
Blocked
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
Would depend whether your message was relative to their profile or not. We would block if someone hadn't read our profile, saves wasting each other's time. Good luck next time!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
I sometimes use the block button as a filter. If I know someone's not my type il just block, saves a lot of hassle |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Ah - you've made it at last my friend!
Welcome to the club, you're not a fully fledged Fabber until you've suffered a random block and delete, see it as a badge of honour!
Keep smiling and don't worry about it!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
Maybe they use block as a tool, if they are not interested for any reason they may block then there is no confusion at all.
Plus a polite message that isn't responded to becomes an abusive second message my many guys on here.
Don't be offended, don't be frustrated and remember nobody has to justify how they use this site. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Is really difficult to reply to every message and then have to block the ones that don't appeal to stop the endless questions of 'why?' or the abuse. I used to, but it's time consuming. Before anyone mentions FILTERS, I have filters, they're strict, they don't stop the numbers of messages I get!
I'm sorry that is rude, I really am, but it's the only way I can deal with the interest effectively for me. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Try receiving a nice message and then going to reply and being blocked, what kind of madness is that?"
Try being in your way to meet someone you'd been chatting to for a while to be blocked in here, amd whatsapp and their phone ffs!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just got to love reading a profile, see that they emphasise hating bad manners, then are bad mannered. "
Blocking on here isn't bad manners, sending an abusive reply to you is. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I use block for filtering. Had one young chap come back to me saying he had left the site because of the block. Came back on to the site with a different profile specifically to find out why I had blocked him. Quite desperate and abusive.. Guess what I did? If you can't take rejection you shouldn't be on the site. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I use block for filtering. Had one young chap come back to me saying he had left the site because of the block. Came back on to the site with a different profile specifically to find out why I had blocked him. Quite desperate and abusive.. Guess what I did? If you can't take rejection you shouldn't be on the site. "
We can all take rejection
It's the manner in which it's done that's the issue |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Try receiving a nice message and then going to reply and being blocked, what kind of madness is that?
Try being in your way to meet someone you'd been chatting to for a while to be blocked in here, amd whatsapp and their phone ffs! "
Wow, that's a whole other level of crazy! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I use block for filtering. Had one young chap come back to me saying he had left the site because of the block. Came back on to the site with a different profile specifically to find out why I had blocked him. Quite desperate and abusive.. Guess what I did? If you can't take rejection you shouldn't be on the site.
We can all take rejection
It's the manner in which it's done that's the issue"
And there's the rub.. Why is it an issue? Don't waste energy in something you have no control over! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Try receiving a nice message and then going to reply and being blocked, what kind of madness is that?
Try being in your way to meet someone you'd been chatting to for a while to be blocked in here, amd whatsapp and their phone ffs!
Wow, that's a whole other level of crazy!"
If I hadn't chatted to them on the phone several times I'd have called man pretending to be woman. But guess nerves go the better of her. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I use block for filtering. Had one young chap come back to me saying he had left the site because of the block. Came back on to the site with a different profile specifically to find out why I had blocked him. Quite desperate and abusive.. Guess what I did? If you can't take rejection you shouldn't be on the site.
We can all take rejection
It's the manner in which it's done that's the issue"
How about 'thank you, I'm sorry you're not what I'm looking for on fab, but thank you anyway'.? Fairly innocuous, I thought. Clearly not by some of the responses I've had to it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Same 4 me. I warn them that if they continue I'll blk. Then usually have 2. Be strong girl."
if somebody says no I will always back off, if theres no interest I can handle that but i'd rather be told in words, a blocking for sending a polite message just seems plain rude to me, I can't understand rudeness in that respect at all
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter?"
to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I use block for filtering. Had one young chap come back to me saying he had left the site because of the block. Came back on to the site with a different profile specifically to find out why I had blocked him. Quite desperate and abusive.. Guess what I did? If you can't take rejection you shouldn't be on the site.
We can all take rejection
It's the manner in which it's done that's the issue
How about 'thank you, I'm sorry you're not what I'm looking for on fab, but thank you anyway'.? Fairly innocuous, I thought. Clearly not by some of the responses I've had to it. "
So true Lady.. I've tried polite for some reason the younger men cannot handle it at all! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter? to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness"
Because of the volume of messages, even with FILTERS.
Because of the many men who cant take rejection and have to reply to a polite no thanks with abuse. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter? to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness"
Then don't message folk,if the chance of being blocked weighs heavily on your feelings.
When I said,does it matter,I meant are you really interested in connecting with someone that has no interest in connecting with you.so they blocked you.big deal.get over it.move on.be the bigger person. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter? to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness
Because of the volume of messages, even with FILTERS.
Because of the many men who cant take rejection and have to reply to a polite no thanks with abuse. "
I'd say if a guys initial contact is abusive or rude
Or sends a cock pic when it's not wanted
Then perhaps a block
But to block a polite introduction a very crappy |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I use block for filtering. Had one young chap come back to me saying he had left the site because of the block. Came back on to the site with a different profile specifically to find out why I had blocked him. Quite desperate and abusive.. Guess what I did? If you can't take rejection you shouldn't be on the site.
We can all take rejection
It's the manner in which it's done that's the issue
And there's the rub.. Why is it an issue? Don't waste energy in something you have no control over!"
Arggghhhh
But we don't know what reaction we will get until a message is sent do we ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
Don't stress, I always send polite messages to profiles I think I fit the bill to, having messages deleted then finding myself blocked is their way of saying no thanks. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I had to block someone last night.
They sent a message, I replied saying I wasn't interested.
They asked why so I told them I wasn't attracted to them, that attraction was subjective and that just because I wasn't wouldn't mean someone else won't be.
Again, they messaged wanting to be friends and basically trying to make me feel guilty so I told them to take a not interested as a final answer and blocked them.
They weren't rude or abusive but just pushy.
Being nice on here can sometimes be very frustrating.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
Op lots of site users use a block as a way of saying your not for them .
I know its madness when you look at it in the cold light of day but hay that's how the swinging world has evolved a block is a no thanks just except and move on .
The swinging world is full of strangeness and nothing like the normal world.
guys act and approach people like they never would when approaching someone in a bar but couples and single woman act in a equally strange way they never would in a bar or anywhere but online .
Just laugh it off put it down to internet madness and move on is my advice . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter? to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness
Because of the volume of messages, even with FILTERS.
Because of the many men who cant take rejection and have to reply to a polite no thanks with abuse.
I'd say if a guys initial contact is abusive or rude
Or sends a cock pic when it's not wanted
Then perhaps a block
But to block a polite introduction a very crappy"
Yeah. I guess you didn't read my other post. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter? to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness
Because of the volume of messages, even with FILTERS.
Because of the many men who cant take rejection and have to reply to a polite no thanks with abuse.
I'd say if a guys initial contact is abusive or rude
Or sends a cock pic when it's not wanted
Then perhaps a block
But to block a polite introduction a very crappy"
But necessary,
Here's a fictitious example......
Us: thanks for the message but we're not meeting guys/find there's no attraction.
Him: why not?
Us: because we just don't find you attractive
Him: but why not?
Us: we won't be meeting you. Have fun, good luck
Him: wanna meet?
And round and round it goes.
Instead, if we don't fancy the person, we're not gonna waste more time explaining why or continuing a fruitless conversation. Blocking is the answer. Put ya big boy pants on and man up. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter? to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness
Because of the volume of messages, even with FILTERS.
Because of the many men who cant take rejection and have to reply to a polite no thanks with abuse.
I'd say if a guys initial contact is abusive or rude
Or sends a cock pic when it's not wanted
Then perhaps a block
But to block a polite introduction a very crappy
Yeah. I guess you didn't read my other post. "
Ooooooh yes I did |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF
Op lots of site users use a block as a way of saying your not for them .
I know its madness when you look at it in the cold light of day but hay that's how the swinging world has evolved a block is a no thanks just except and move on .
The swinging world is full of strangeness and nothing like the normal world.
guys act and approach people like they never would when approaching someone in a bar but couples and single woman act in a equally strange way they never would in a bar or anywhere but online .
Just laugh it off put it down to internet madness and move on is my advice ."
This really is fact. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Blocked for having an opinion on the forums....tell me on the forums instead of messaging me in private you spineless arsehole....and yes they are still cunts x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Blocked for having an opinion on the forums....tell me on the forums instead of messaging me in private you spineless arsehole....and yes they are still cunts x"
How dare you have an opinion  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Blocked for having an opinion on the forums....tell me on the forums instead of messaging me in private you spineless arsehole....and yes they are still cunts x"
blocked for having an opinion, this site is sounding more and more like naked facebook everyday
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I used to feel a bit rejected when I realised someone had blocked me but now I find it so useful both ways..saves wasting time on people who are not looking for your type and vice versa. ..Could be lots of reasons why they blocked you and it's really not worth analysing..mind you it can be done accidentally if yr thumbs clumsy! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I used to feel a bit rejected when I realised someone had blocked me but now I find it so useful both ways..saves wasting time on people who are not looking for your type and vice versa. ..Could be lots of reasons why they blocked you and it's really not worth analysing..mind you it can be done accidentally if yr thumbs clumsy! "
possible, i'm not gonna dwell on it just the initial block really just made me think what the hell did I say wrong, I wasn't rude in the slightest I was just my normal polite self asking if she wanted to chat and see where it leads
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it."
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it really matter? to me its rude to just block after 1 message, why not just say "sorry pal your not my type" I cannot understand the need for rudeness
Because of the volume of messages, even with FILTERS.
Because of the many men who cant take rejection and have to reply to a polite no thanks with abuse.
I'd say if a guys initial contact is abusive or rude
Or sends a cock pic when it's not wanted
Then perhaps a block
But to block a polite introduction a very crappy"
No its is not. If I'm not interested, I block. They know I'm not interested but can't whine at me for it, and they can't message again next week when they've forgotten they've messaged. I'm not going to reply to every fAf message, or 1 with a dick pic attached, I'll reply to say no thanks to a polite message, but then block to stop the pointless replys. Nothing rude about it, no reply=no thankyou. This is in site FAQ'S, blocking is a tool of the site.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you "
In this day and age you would think that I was used to people being rude but I guess I was just raised to believe that deep down inside everyone is nice and polite |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I used to feel a bit rejected when I realised someone had blocked me but now I find it so useful both ways..saves wasting time on people who are not looking for your type and vice versa. ..Could be lots of reasons why they blocked you and it's really not worth analysing..mind you it can be done accidentally if yr thumbs clumsy! possible, i'm not gonna dwell on it just the initial block really just made me think what the hell did I say wrong, I wasn't rude in the slightest I was just my normal polite self asking if she wanted to chat and see where it leads"
It can take a while to adjust to the different manners-set of Fab, but there are practical reasons for it that have been spelled out at length throughout the thread,...but it still smarts when it happens to you the first few times. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you "
You shouldn't be expecting anything. No reply is no thankyou!
Do you really need an actual rejection message to understand that? Do you really want an inbox full of no thanks? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you
You shouldn't be expecting anything. No reply is no thankyou!
Do you really need an actual rejection message to understand that? Do you really want an inbox full of no thanks? "
I have no problem with no reply, or deleted messages, but a blocking seems like overkill to me, but thats just me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"The amount of dick profiles is amazing."
maybe I should set up a profile especially for my dick, I can give him a sparkley costume and call the profile vlad the impaler
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you
You shouldn't be expecting anything. No reply is no thankyou!
Do you really need an actual rejection message to understand that? Do you really want an inbox full of no thanks?
I have no problem with no reply, or deleted messages, but a blocking seems like overkill to me, but thats just me"
It's stops you messaging again. You may take a no thankyou or a no reply, and leave it at that, good for you, but many don't. They message again to say why not? Or give abuse, or even to say thank you, which is actually kind of irritating, or pm again in a week as they've forgotten they've messaged already. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Just blocked a guy for sending a friend invite.
To him it might seem rude but if he had bothered to actually READ our profile he would have seen the bit about us blocking uninvited invites.
He was hundreds of miles away. Had no verifications. No photos. Virtually no info on his profile nor did he bother with anything as polite as writing any little message to accompany the invite.
Our point is this. I am sure this guy felt his invite was a totally inoffensive approach.
Our _iew is it is yet another guy who clearly didn't bother to read our profile and simply wanted the opportunity to wank over our private photos.
It is a matter of perspective. You might think your behaviour doesn't warrant a block but they clearly feel differently.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you
You shouldn't be expecting anything. No reply is no thankyou!
Do you really need an actual rejection message to understand that? Do you really want an inbox full of no thanks?
I have no problem with no reply, or deleted messages, but a blocking seems like overkill to me, but thats just me
It's stops you messaging again. You may take a no thankyou or a no reply, and leave it at that, good for you, but many don't. They message again to say why not? Or give abuse, or even to say thank you, which is actually kind of irritating, or pm again in a week as they've forgotten they've messaged already. "
admittedly I have sent thank you's and forgotten about previous messages, but the thank yous are usually just a courtesy to show respect. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you
In this day and age you would think that I was used to people being rude but I guess I was just raised to believe that deep down inside everyone is nice and polite"
We are very nice & polite to the extent of having nonsexual chats with single guys for over an hour..We reblocked all single guys last week, what does that tell you? 
S |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Same 4 me. I warn them that if they continue I'll blk. Then usually have 2. Be strong girl. if somebody says no I will always back off, if theres no interest I can handle that but i'd rather be told in words, a blocking for sending a polite message just seems plain rude to me, I can't understand rudeness in that respect at all"
Maybe you shouldn't be on here if your so easily offended. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you
In this day and age you would think that I was used to people being rude but I guess I was just raised to believe that deep down inside everyone is nice and polite
We are very nice & polite to the extent of having nonsexual chats with single guys for over an hour..We reblocked all single guys last week, what does that tell you?
S"
that 98% of single guys are horny douchbags, I get that some wont take no for an answer and for that I apologize for many of my gender |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Same 4 me. I warn them that if they continue I'll blk. Then usually have 2. Be strong girl. if somebody says no I will always back off, if theres no interest I can handle that but i'd rather be told in words, a blocking for sending a polite message just seems plain rude to me, I can't understand rudeness in that respect at all
Maybe you shouldn't be on here if your so easily offended. "
I'm getting used to it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you
You shouldn't be expecting anything. No reply is no thankyou!
Do you really need an actual rejection message to understand that? Do you really want an inbox full of no thanks?
I have no problem with no reply, or deleted messages, but a blocking seems like overkill to me, but thats just me
It's stops you messaging again. You may take a no thankyou or a no reply, and leave it at that, good for you, but many don't. They message again to say why not? Or give abuse, or even to say thank you, which is actually kind of irritating, or pm again in a week as they've forgotten they've messaged already. "
Exactly this |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Don't you think when you receive the buttons should works like this.
1 Delete - it sends an auto reply "not interested, you don't pop my cork!' It also blocks the sender. Stopping further stress both ends.
2 Mark as unread - this leaves it open for the sender to keep messaging.
3 Reply - you get to type your own message to the sender eg "not interested, you don't pop my cork!'
Or just you can just ignore and not read the message in the first place. this initiates a number 2 sequence of events.
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"And?
Just means they aren't interested in further contact with you. Man up and get over it.
There you have it folks
In a nutshell
What was all the fuss about
Damn you for expecting a polite response young man
The very thought
Crazy
Crazy I tell you
You shouldn't be expecting anything. No reply is no thankyou!
Do you really need an actual rejection message to understand that? Do you really want an inbox full of no thanks?
I have no problem with no reply, or deleted messages, but a blocking seems like overkill to me, but thats just me
It's stops you messaging again. You may take a no thankyou or a no reply, and leave it at that, good for you, but many don't. They message again to say why not? Or give abuse, or even to say thank you, which is actually kind of irritating, or pm again in a week as they've forgotten they've messaged already.
Exactly this "
That is why we use the block button, saves messaging again, any couple guy woman says we aren't for them they go straight on the block list, not because we are pissed off after all it is a selection not a rejection, but simply stops us coming across their profile and messaging again in 6 months time |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
It's stops you messaging again. You may take a no thankyou or a no reply, and leave it at that, good for you, but many don't. They message again to say why not? Or give abuse, or even to say thank you, which is actually kind of irritating, or pm again in a week as they've forgotten they've messaged already.
Exactly this
That is why we use the block button, saves messaging again, any couple guy woman says we aren't for them they go straight on the block list, not because we are pissed off after all it is a selection not a rejection, but simply stops us coming across their profile and messaging again in 6 months time"
I block people who have said no to me for the same reason above. It does stop bumping into each other again.
I've also replied and said 'thanks for acknowledging me' I thought I was using manners and being polite. I never knew I was irritating somebody. I must remember to do it more now.
If they were polite enough to read, and reply to say no. Why on earth would they be offended if I sent a polite note back? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF
welcome to fab "
Boom, quote this lady, wont be the 1st or last time this has happened, ive had it. Its the norm |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
For whatever reason, they decided you weren't for them.
Lots of people delete and block it's common practise on here.
It's something you have to get used to and learn not to take personally.
Happens to pretty much, most people on here. Know it does to us.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
It's stops you messaging again. You may take a no thankyou or a no reply, and leave it at that, good for you, but many don't. They message again to say why not? Or give abuse, or even to say thank you, which is actually kind of irritating, or pm again in a week as they've forgotten they've messaged already.
Exactly this
That is why we use the block button, saves messaging again, any couple guy woman says we aren't for them they go straight on the block list, not because we are pissed off after all it is a selection not a rejection, but simply stops us coming across their profile and messaging again in 6 months time
I block people who have said no to me for the same reason above. It does stop bumping into each other again.
I've also replied and said 'thanks for acknowledging me' I thought I was using manners and being polite. I never knew I was irritating somebody. I must remember to do it more now.
If they were polite enough to read, and reply to say no. Why on earth would they be offended if I sent a polite note back? "
But imagine you have 50 messages you reply a thanks no thanks to 45 of them and they all reply thanking you for replying, that's another 45 pointless messages so it can be annoying |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"
It's stops you messaging again. You may take a no thankyou or a no reply, and leave it at that, good for you, but many don't. They message again to say why not? Or give abuse, or even to say thank you, which is actually kind of irritating, or pm again in a week as they've forgotten they've messaged already.
Exactly this
That is why we use the block button, saves messaging again, any couple guy woman says we aren't for them they go straight on the block list, not because we are pissed off after all it is a selection not a rejection, but simply stops us coming across their profile and messaging again in 6 months time
I block people who have said no to me for the same reason above. It does stop bumping into each other again.
I've also replied and said 'thanks for acknowledging me' I thought I was using manners and being polite. I never knew I was irritating somebody. I must remember to do it more now.
If they were polite enough to read, and reply to say no. Why on earth would they be offended if I sent a polite note back?
But imagine you have 50 messages you reply a thanks no thanks to 45 of them and they all reply thanking you for replying, that's another 45 pointless messages so it can be annoying"
fair point, I try not to let it bother me, but occasionally it does |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Note to self (Dreams) let Cookie reply to all correspondence.
Oops so our first block...
Honestly I believe it was a single man, on a couples profile but there were three of them (one picture of a man) and I was polite! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I was talking to a couple that only joined 2days ago they claimed they met a guy first day being on here then he left the site and didn't verify them. The couple are not even photo verified we was talking all day arranged a meet swapped face pics then today I find out I'm blocked. I knew something wasn't right because they sounded like the just wanted me to verify them |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
I sometimes block before contact because I have not interest in meeting them - saves wasting both our time.
I block if they message me a crap message/ignore my profile text/have crap profiles, because I have no interest in them - saves wasting both our time.
I didn't use to do this and I'd get repeated crap messages from the same guys clogging up my inbox and pushing the genuine messages from other guys out.
Or I'd reply "Thank you for your interest, but no thanks" and end up with whiney message after whiney message, or abuse, or they'd message me a couple of months later hoping I'd not see on their profile that we'd spoken before or hoping I hadn't written a private note about them.
When you get quite a few guys doing this it can get VERY tiring, boring and draining, taking all the fun out of coming onto Fab. Your one polite message could be one of 10s even 100s, and not everyone has the time or energy to reply and risk the potential draining conversation to come after replying "No thanks".
So we use the tool given to us, that is even spoken about in the site's FAQ as being a "No thank you" reply, as a way of saving wasting everyone's time on a potential conversation that won't result in anything but maybe (sometimes definitely) a load of hassle for the recipient.
You aren't going to interest everyone and the quickest and easiest way for everyone to get this across to you and move on is to block you. It's not rude at all, it's just them saying "No thank you". |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
Concentrate on your inbox..when you send any messages just delete them (unless you have added a pic) then if you get a reply its like a surprise ..instead of feeling gloomy looking at the unread or deleted posts you have sent..  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Unfortunately saying thank you would be ok if u had about 4 or 5 messages.but hey I recently looked into a female friends profile and she had 1008 messages withing 2 weeks.u really think she can say thank you to all of them. We need to appreciate n understand how many messages females n couples receive. And personally if I am blocked then it's obvious they not for me and vice versa.i just move on.there are loads of people on the site. You would always get that one that would be for you. Simply move on if you are blocked. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Same 4 me. I warn them that if they continue I'll blk. Then usually have 2. Be strong girl. if somebody says no I will always back off, if theres no interest I can handle that but i'd rather be told in words, a blocking for sending a polite message just seems plain rude to me, I can't understand rudeness in that respect at all"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
But are you sure you sent only the one message only some people will keep sending me the same message over and over again, like hi how are you? so in the end i have to block them. Actualy its better to block people who you dont think you want to meet straight away so you both know where you stand, anyway it should work like that. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
Mate, honestly - it's time to stop seeing blocking as rude or a bad thing.
Make a female friend on her, get her to show you her inbox (ooh err). A friend of mine did that - it's bloomin bonkers.
She's a sweet, kind, considerate person who works for a charity, cries when there's a poorly tortoise on some animal rescue programme and would see the good side in a serial killer. She uses the block button like a beast.
Her inbox is a like stepping into the darkest recesses of the human condition and is dream subject matter for psycho-analysts.
Anything which makes it a bit more bearable to manage is helpful.
I even block now, as I hate seeing that little "you messaged them 6 months ago" and trying to remember whether it was a failed attempt or a conversation about the price of fish.
I took it as a mortal blow to my fragile ego the first time I was blocked. Then I saw the light though. If I was a woman, there's no way I'd be copying and pasting "sorry your not my type" 25 times a day and I'd be blocking all the time. Call it Effective Communications Management.
Actually, if I was a woman I'd have run a mile from this site and become a nun.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF"
I get messages begging to meet...and my profile is hidden!
Did you meet the criteria? Was it a one liner/magnum opus?
Either way, you're not what the want...*shrugs*...next! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF
Maybe they use block as a tool, if they are not interested for any reason they may block then there is no confusion at all.
Plus a polite message that isn't responded to becomes an abusive second message my many guys on here.
Don't be offended, don't be frustrated and remember nobody has to justify how they use this site."
if being blocked prompted the op to start this thread, can you imagine what his response would have been if they'd said "no thanks!" |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Blocked for sending a polite message. WTF
Maybe they use block as a tool, if they are not interested for any reason they may block then there is no confusion at all.
Plus a polite message that isn't responded to becomes an abusive second message my many guys on here.
Don't be offended, don't be frustrated and remember nobody has to justify how they use this site.
if being blocked prompted the op to start this thread, can you imagine what his response would have been if they'd said "no thanks!" "
my response to thanks but no thanks is usually ok fair do's. Happy swinging |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I got blocked last night because I couldn't make a meet. The guy asked me like, half an hour before the meet was taking place and it was 11pm. I politely stated that I couldn't make that meet, so he blocked me for no reason. People are weird |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I got blocked last night because I couldn't make a meet. The guy asked me like, half an hour before the meet was taking place and it was 11pm. I politely stated that I couldn't make that meet, so he blocked me for no reason. People are weird"
Time waster x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I got blocked last night because I couldn't make a meet. The guy asked me like, half an hour before the meet was taking place and it was 11pm. I politely stated that I couldn't make that meet, so he blocked me for no reason. People are weird
Time waster x"
Only when its with people I've never spoken to before and expect me to leap to their beck and cal |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"I got blocked last night because I couldn't make a meet. The guy asked me like, half an hour before the meet was taking place and it was 11pm. I politely stated that I couldn't make that meet, so he blocked me for no reason. People are weird
Time waster x"
thats what I thought but she verified |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
