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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?! |
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!"
Block the number - problem solved  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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 No thank God. It's always been a worry though, you run the risk on a site such as this. Me personally? Definitely ignore, and then black the number, and block the guy on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Eeeeek, had this once before but managed to bluff her that it was just an online and text thing! Told her I lived 400 miles away. Obviously she was still upset but not as bad  felt bad for her as he had told me he was single  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, we got a disgruntled message from the real spouse of a 'couple' we'd met. Maybe shouldn't feel guilty as we were non the wiser but still do feel a kind of empathy for the aggrieved party. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!
Block the number - problem solved "
Do I need to phone Vodafone to block the number? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I always ask to speak to the wife or girlfriend to check they really do have permission as so many are such good liars it's easy to get caught out xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What did she mean by colleagues, does she think you are a hooker? "
Yep I found that strange as of course I am not!...he may have pretended to HER he was seeing hookers of course..or it could be she was being snidey and sarcastic about the ladies he has obviously been in touch with! |
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!
Block the number - problem solved
Do I need to phone Vodafone to block the number?"
No you can do it on most phones - iPhones do it - usually there's an info or settings bar on the page of the message from that number where block will be one of the options |
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"Just message and say you want the fucking address for the CSA 
Hey that would be worth doing.... !"
I'm not sure I would want to upset the wife just for the sake of it, not her fault she's married to a lying cheat. I would actually say 'I am sorry I was told he had your permission' and then block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never give my number to anyone on fab
Ignore the message
Put it down to experience
And in future just us kik as an option to keep in contact away from fab :-/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never give my number to anyone on fab
Ignore the message
Put it down to experience
And in future just us kik as an option to keep in contact away from fab :-/"
use not us |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never give my number to anyone on fab
Ignore the message
Put it down to experience
And in future just us kik as an option to keep in contact away from fab :-/"
I won't be giving.my.number out again put it that way! I don't use kik but may do this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!"
Is this from one of those who said his wife was like his sister?
Block it would be the best thing to do and deny all knowledge  |
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"Be honest, apologise, it's his problem that he got caught cheating."
Why should she apologise. He is the one that lied. And if she replies it invites further contact. I would block and let him deal the the problem that he created himself. |
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"Be honest, apologise, it's his problem that he got caught cheating.
Why should she apologise. He is the one that lied. And if she replies it invites further contact. I would block and let him deal the the problem that he created himself."
I don't mean apologise for doing anything just like a 'sorry he said you were fine with it' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it is her any message other than one saying he told you he had permission would be unkind. So either do that or block and move on.
I'm wondering what she would want evidence for  "
Divorce. Proof of adultery |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had it, it was horrendous. Guy set up a totally double persona... Facebook, Instagram.. And I got a message from an angry mother of his 5 children.. I deleted my profile, email, everything, and have only just set it up again. Good luck OP. And don't reply! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be honest, apologise, it's his problem that he got caught cheating.
Why should she apologise. He is the one that lied. And if she replies it invites further contact. I would block and let him deal the the problem that he created himself."
I agree. The OP has nothing to apologise for. She wasn't aware the guy was cheating on his wife. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!"
Block and ignore don't let yourself be dragged into his problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The "aggrieved" other party is looking to lash out and I am afraid you will be in that firing line as he will probably deflect all blame and she will accept that because... well because...
Step away from the firing line.. block.. move on. Don't try to placate; quell or justify... it won't work. Shut down comms. Let him take the flak. He lied it's his problem |
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"Be honest, apologise, it's his problem that he got caught cheating.
Why should she apologise.."
Because it costs her nothing and the woman is bound to be hurting - you are in effect saying 'I am sorry you have been hurt by this' - is that so hard? |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"I never give my number to anyone on fab
Ignore the message
Put it down to experience
And in future just us kik as an option to keep in contact away from fab :-/
use not us"
This. Kik is best, never use WhatsApp |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!"
Don't reply to her. But I'd want to know why he didn't cover his tracks as she wasn't aware imho. |
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OP, you felt you had good reason to believe him that he had his wife's permission/blessing to see you. Ergo you haven't really done anything wrong but you can still offer an apology to the wife, for how she feels.
If it were me, with an angry hubby, I would simply say that I was sorry for their hurt, and that the spouse had explicitly told me they had permission to play. Then block.
In future, it might be worth talking to wives in this situation, to be sure for your own peace of mind. |
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"OP, you felt you had good reason to believe him that he had his wife's permission/blessing to see you. Ergo you haven't really done anything wrong but you can still offer an apology to the wife, for how she feels.
If it were me, with an angry hubby, I would simply say that I was sorry for their hurt, and that the spouse had explicitly told me they had permission to play. Then block.
In future, it might be worth talking to wives in this situation, to be sure for your own peace of mind. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had this when we first started swinging, we met a "single" guy, awhile later we had messages from his wife, on here and via emails ( he had forgotten to delete messages ) she threatened all sorts from posting it all over facebook to contacting our employers, she calmed down eventually.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I once had a call from a wife of a 'single' guy. I apologised and said I think you need to talk to your husband. "
Exactly this! It's his fault not the wife's (oh) she's obviously found out about his infidelity. Not nice to rub her face in it x |
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"I never give my number to anyone on fab
Ignore the message
Put it down to experience
And in future just us kik as an option to keep in contact away from fab :-/
use not us
This. Kik is best, never use WhatsApp "
Exactly.
That's what it's there for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm the type of person that would let her beat on me (verbally) if she needed it. I have so much empathy. She prob has a million questions. It's not the person she is mad at its the situation.
Poor girl.
(I know it's a bit weird to put up with all that but nobody deserves to be cheated on!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never give my number to anyone on fab
Ignore the message
Put it down to experience
And in future just us kik as an option to keep in contact away from fab :-/"
My number is for people I personally know and not for people on here, in a fantasy life. I use KIK, as no phone numbers are involved and you can also block on that too, what's the point of safe sex, safe meeting points, if you give out your number to all and sundry?
I also have a note in my profile that says I will not accept anyone's number, and if they still offer it, the mail will be deleted. I'm not here to collect numbers, nor give mine out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm the type of person that would let her beat on me (verbally) if she needed it. I have so much empathy. She prob has a million questions. It's not the person she is mad at its the situation.
Poor girl.
(I know it's a bit weird to put up with all that but nobody deserves to be cheated on!)"
Exactly what I said |
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"I'm the type of person that would let her beat on me (verbally) if she needed it. I have so much empathy. She prob has a million questions. It's not the person she is mad at its the situation.
Poor girl.
(I know it's a bit weird to put up with all that but nobody deserves to be cheated on!)"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met a woman for mff a little while ago she then started texting my husband .... Every day it got worse till one day it was 200 messages
When I politely asked her to reign it in she accused me of being unstable in my marriage!!! Errrr excuse me love I've just watched you fuck my husband and we are still very much together!!
We use the block button a lot not and never give our phone number out!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm the type of person that would let her beat on me (verbally) if she needed it. I have so much empathy. She prob has a million questions. It's not the person she is mad at its the situation.
Poor girl.
(I know it's a bit weird to put up with all that but nobody deserves to be cheated on!)
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Exactly!! And to reply back you want your Knickers back is immature and cruel! As I said above to somebody. That's just not nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i received a message on kik from a wife calling me a dirty slut and whore and she had my address and was coming over. I thought he was single and i am still newish. i said i was sorry but if she came to mine to cause trouble i would call the police. she sent me a threatening message which upset me so i told her, that her husband was on a sex site which is where i met him. I know i should have handled it better and not responded. |
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"This is why I always ask to speak to the wife or girlfriend to check they really do have permission as so many are such good liars it's easy to get caught out xxx"
How do you know it's his wife or girlfriend your speaking to. Could be a female friend of his, one of his Feb, the list is endless. Talking to the female proves jack shit I am afraid. It could be anybody |
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By *arkaCouple
over a year ago
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!
Is this from one of those who said his wife was like his sister?
Block it would be the best thing to do and deny all knowledge "
My FWB always says her and her hubby are like brother and sister!
Do you think she may be lying? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i received a message on kik from a wife calling me a dirty slut and whore and she had my address and was coming over. I thought he was single and i am still newish. i said i was sorry but if she came to mine to cause trouble i would call the police. she sent me a threatening message which upset me so i told her, that her husband was on a sex site which is where i met him. I know i should have handled it better and not responded. "
You weren't in the wrong there. You were telling her the truth Hun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" No thank God. It's always been a worry though, you run the risk on a site such as this. Me personally? Definitely ignore, and then black the number, and block the guy on here. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We met a woman for mff a little while ago she then started texting my husband .... Every day it got worse till one day it was 200 messages
When I politely asked her to reign it in she accused me of being unstable in my marriage!!! Errrr excuse me love I've just watched you fuck my husband and we are still very much together!!
We use the block button a lot not and never give our phone number out!!!"
Why didn't your husband tell her to leave him alone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be a bit concerned about the threat of "evidence ".
She may be hurting but that's not your fault. I'm afraid that I would have to retort with an equally threatening message!!! |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!"
Given the use of the word holiday, she (if it was the wife / partner/ girlfriend) might mean they're taking a break ?
Either way why get involved any further . Block move on  |
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!
Is this from one of those who said his wife was like his sister?
Block it would be the best thing to do and deny all knowledge
My FWB always says her and her hubby are like brother and sister!
Do you think she may be lying?"
Might be, might not be. It's a chance we all take when meeting people, all of us can tell anyone anything we want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just ignore the message and block the number.
Ive never had this before because I, Feebs, never give my mobile no out. Mr Iconic gives his number on the odd occasion for directions, confirmation of meet, etc. We don't get involved in texting people on here socially. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I actually have thought about this and I am now wondering if it was he himself who sent the text!! Reason for saying this is that I didn't want to meet up with him again as I didn't think we gelled and I had not responded to a few texts and an online message from him prior to this text.
I seldom ever ignore folk but I felt that it would have prolonged the contact with him even more!
Just a thought.
Anyway I won't be giving phone numbers or email addresses out ever again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP get a fuck phone or use kik to avoid the same issue in the future. Tell him to sort her out- she's his problem not yours."
It does amaze me how many people can't invest £15 in a fuck phone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP get a fuck phone or use kik to avoid the same issue in the future. Tell him to sort her out- she's his problem not yours.
It does amaze me how many people can't invest £15 in a fuck phone "
I just chipped my old phone when l upgraded hey presto play phone! |
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This is why we use a seperate phone for this site. It gives us some privacy in normal life ...if we are not playing we turn it off.
I personally would have a conversation and find out the truth in it all. Hes been caught cheating and its not your fault.....remember evidence goes both ways abd you have it of him saying his wife knew and was ok with it all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!"
To be honest most married or attached people are playing without permission, if you believed him you have been naive. He has obviously been careless and indescreet to have got caught, some men like the risk.
Do not reply to his wife, she is likely to be very distressed and is within her rights to have messaged you as she has.
It would be unkind to further distress her and at the end of the day you and him are to blame.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP get a fuck phone or use kik to avoid the same issue in the future. Tell him to sort her out- she's his problem not yours.
It does amaze me how many people can't invest £15 in a fuck phone "
Well my sons would think it was pretty funny if I suddenly got an extra phone, US I don't want the added expense of 2 phones. People can Kik me or I will fk someone else.
It never ceases to amaze me how members love to tell other members what to do.
I don't WANT a second phone, my choice. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!
To be honest most married or attached people are playing without permission, if you believed him you have been naive. He has obviously been careless and indescreet to have got caught, some men like the risk.
Do not reply to his wife, she is likely to be very distressed and is within her rights to have messaged you as she has.
It would be unkind to further distress her and at the end of the day you and him are to blame.
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No I won't be getting back to her! However I have two female friends, one who is disabled and another who has lost interest in hubby and both have told their hubbies to play if they wish....not with me however! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP get a fuck phone or use kik to avoid the same issue in the future. Tell him to sort her out- she's his problem not yours.
It does amaze me how many people can't invest £15 in a fuck phone
Well my sons would think it was pretty funny if I suddenly got an extra phone, US I don't want the added expense of 2 phones. People can Kik me or I will fk someone else.
It never ceases to amaze me how members love to tell other members what to do.
I don't WANT a second phone, my choice."
I didn't tell you what to do, I don't give a rats ass what you do. I simply commented on my own lack of ability to predict the behaviour of people like you. |
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"OP get a fuck phone or use kik to avoid the same issue in the future. Tell him to sort her out- she's his problem not yours.
It does amaze me how many people can't invest £15 in a fuck phone "
You can't get a decent smartphone for £15, and who wants to carry two phones round all day! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!
Block the number - problem solved
Do I need to phone Vodafone to block the number?"
Most handsets have a block option on them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"sexual services from myself and colleagues!
does she think your some kind of escorts service?"
Yeah I found that odd! However if it was her texting me he could have told her he used an agency..who knows. I've blocked him now and blocked number so won't hear again! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is exactly the good thing about us genuine single guys, we have no wives or girlfrinds lurking in the background, we can do whatever or whoever we choose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is exactly the good thing about us genuine single guys, we have no wives or girlfrinds lurking in the background, we can do whatever or whoever we choose."
But some women love drama  |
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"This is exactly the good thing about us genuine single guys, we have no wives or girlfrinds lurking in the background, we can do whatever or whoever we choose.
But some women love drama "
As do some men and some couples |
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"sexual services from myself and colleagues!
does she think your some kind of escorts service?
Yeah I found that odd! However if it was her texting me he could have told her he used an agency..who knows. I've blocked him now and blocked number so won't hear again!"
Its seems that way. Good that you've blocked it all. Stay safe x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is exactly the good thing about us genuine single guys, we have no wives or girlfrinds lurking in the background, we can do whatever or whoever we choose.
But some women love drama "
Nail on the head!! |
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"Ouch! Just received a text from this guys wife....said to me he had her approval for being on fab - to say that "we are on holiday and he will no longer be requiring sexual services from myself and colleagues! All pics/telephone numbers copied in case of evidence needed"!
Anyone else had this kind of message before?
Phew...should I reply or ignore?!"
Ignore. His fault for lying. Let him deal with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would be rather tempted to do play the victim yourself! You could soon figure if it's him or his wife bu texting back that you're so shocked and disappointed to find out he's already got a wife as you got engaged to him last week. He had said he would cancel the holiday as the ring had been so expensive. Either the wife then then sympathises with you as a fellow victim and rounds on hubby or hubby admits it's him and brzenly accuses you of lying! It makes things much clearer and gets you off the hook! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just don't say " Crumbs you poor thing! He's been shagging me for years! I'd kill him if I were you!" If she acts on your advice you might end up in the case! |
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