"No idea, I don't chase 
But if you werent chased would it lose its appeal"
I don' think so, what makes it appeal to me is the man and what happens when we get together.
Though flirting etc. beforehand is nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me most definatly. I think we under estimate how traditional gender roles influence how we see sex. Sex and what we get out of it is incredibly reflective of society at large. Think how the weight/shape of the perfect female has changed throughout the past century for example. If society can change such a basic function as to how we see very superfisal beauty, imagine the effect gender roles influence how we see sex and it's appeal to us as individuals.
One of the best books about this subject I've read is from a Pick-Up artist, and he looks to see how men can pick up women in this society. What I did pick up from the book was how there is a massive gender divide. Men do the picking up, and women are picked up. If a woman publicaly gives into her temptations she is labled a slut etc
So I view sex from this background. But one interesting thing is swinging has changed the way I view sex in this area. What used to be so hard to get and meant going to night clubs for weeks on end and ending up in a relationship I can get 3 times a night (if I'm lucky) in a swingers club. It's still harder for me to get sex than say a single lady in the swinging world, but it was 100 times harder getting sex in a "vanilla" setting. But I do have to say it meant so much more in a vanilla setting, and consequently felt so much better. It's almost like never live out your fantasies.
So that's my perspective from a straightish guy who has come from a vanilla world into the swinging world.
But another thing I've noticed with swinging and exploring my bi side is that chasing couples and the same sex for fun adds a whole new dimension to how we go about getting sex and the chase involved. |
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In some situations yes... As in just looking for a shag with no emotional attachment. If I really liked someone though, sex would heighten the appeal, once I'd caught them . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't like chasing or being chased. I'm neither hunter nor prey. If we hit it off after a conversation there's no playing hard to get from me; not on here. I'm only here to meet men who don't see me as a prize after a fight to hunt me down. If they think I'm too easy,they are not the man for me. If they think I'm too much effort,I am not the woman for them. |
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I love the chase as long as it remains respectful. Nothing worse than striking up a conversation with someone, getting on nicely and they become creepy and crude.
I might be a swinger but I'm human dammit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not at all. With the right person, sex can and does get better and better and better. The magic ingredients are a physical attraction, intellectual connection, ability to laugh and see the ridiculous in yourself, trust and a willingness to try things that you wouldn't necessarily have the confidence to without them by your side. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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So if a guy or a girl was really easy like total stranger "lets fuck" response is "ok" no chasing no getting to know you just pure physical attraction that would be fine |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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i don't like the fawning that comes with the archetypal chase..if someone feels equal with me they should just talk normally..i respond much better to it..i see it as a kind of game and i don't really like games, because i then tend to want to play them, at it..
i get caught out sometimes, it ends in me not speaking to them again..i don't appreciate people talking bollocks to me..i dont understand that social behaviour really..a laugh yeah, but not drivel x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Lol the real chase. Someone showing interest you giving indications back. The compliments the effort the anticipation the wait all adding to the hunger for the impending fuck |
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"Not at all. With the right person, sex can and does get better and better and better. The magic ingredients are a physical attraction, intellectual connection, ability to laugh and see the ridiculous in yourself, trust and a willingness to try things that you wouldn't necessarily have the confidence to without them by your side. "
This with bells on it. Whilst I do appreciate the thrill of the chase, I certainly wouldn't lose interest afterwards. In fact we've been swinging with the same couple for over 3 years now and we still get as excited about seeing them as the first time. |
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