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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don't know if it's just me but I get put off messaging couples/females when I see them posting meet adverts saying things like "looking for another female or couple but failing that I suppose a guy will do"
They've essentially said they're looking for a male too but it seems to me like they couldn't be bothered with one.
Call me over sensitive if you want I don't really care  just wondering if others are in the same boat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not?
They've some free time and have a preference for females who, compared with men, are relatively unavailable. But if no joy there would rather have man come over than a bath and an early night. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me "
I,m in agreement with you OP XXX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me
I,m in agreement with you OP XXX"
Thank you miss trouble!  xxx |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me "
Got you there. I've noticed some and they basically spell out a male is the last resort. Their choice on who the go for but the we will meet a male if we really have to stance never appeals for me. Imagine a single male playing the oh I'll meet you if theres no other option card  I reckon it would turn whoever off. |
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I've no idea as I don't look at couples.
But to hijack the thread a teeny bit - if a guy you know posts a meet is he expecting that you might send a message, or is he looking for someone new? Because he could have just messaged you if he wanted to see you? |
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I think that as there are far more men seeking meets, we have to accept that your not first choice for most couples and often not for a number of women, but I have had plenty of meets over recent years with both. Must admit though this year has been the quietest I have know.I think patience is a quality neeed for any men on here. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me "
its their insensitivity to the words they are using.....i wouldnt meet them if they did put wording like that..yes its off putting and im female..but im also a single and i know what that feels like when you are treated like an accessory xx dont dwell on it sweet, pass them by or make notes or block xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me
Got you there. I've noticed some and they basically spell out a male is the last resort. Their choice on who the go for but the we will meet a male if we really have to stance never appeals for me. Imagine a single male playing the oh I'll meet you if theres no other option card I reckon it would turn whoever off."
Don't think a single male trying that move would have much luck they would run a mile! Lol
Obviously everyone is free to meet whoever they want but if you want a male, look for a male and if you want a female, look for a female! I thought it was pretty simple stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agree with OP.
Being the last option would hardly make you feel wanted...case of "guess you will do ""
Thing is there are 100s of guys who are happy to be last resort so they can get a meet so yep it may put you off but there will never be any shortage of single guys who are willing to be a last resort |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me its their insensitivity to the words they are using.....i wouldnt meet them if they did put wording like that..yes its off putting and im female..but im also a single and i know what that feels like when you are treated like an accessory xx dont dwell on it sweet, pass them by or make notes or block xx"
That's pretty well hit the nail on the head! It was maybe a sweeping generalisation but folk seem to be catching my drift lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Agree with OP.
Being the last option would hardly make you feel wanted...case of "guess you will do "
Thing is there are 100s of guys who are happy to be last resort so they can get a meet so yep it may put you off but there will never be any shortage of single guys who are willing to be a last resort "
That was another point I was going to make, I don't doubt for a minute that many single males will happily take the backup option but it's just not for me! |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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Its as much as a turn off for a single male as it would be a cpl or female. Yeah I'm personally here for fun but part of the pleasure is the urge to meet. That urge is killed with certain behaviours or treatment. It's no pleasure meeting a fem or cpl if you ain't got that grrrrrrr to meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Its as much as a turn off for a single male as it would be a cpl or female. Yeah I'm personally here for fun but part of the pleasure is the urge to meet. That urge is killed with certain behaviours or treatment. It's no pleasure meeting a fem or cpl if you ain't got that grrrrrrr to meet "
I completely agree, I'm also here for fun and I feel the urge to meet is better to be mutual. If not then I think the atmosphere and experience of the meet would suffer. Unlike a lot of single males on this site I'm not desperate enough to meet people to make the backup option appealing. I'm happy to hold out that bit longer for someone who would genuinely appreciate the experience |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Post meet say yes to at least three and fingers crossed one just may turn up x"
I understand what you're saying, single males are notorious for their ability to be reliably unreliable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only ever posted meets for females or couples as part of a couple... we would never just accept a guy because we couldn't get what we wanted...I wouldn't want to be someone ya just settled for because ya couldn't play with who ya really wanted so doing it to a guy would just be rude  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Only ever posted meets for females or couples as part of a couple... we would never just accept a guy because we couldn't get what we wanted...I wouldn't want to be someone ya just settled for because ya couldn't play with who ya really wanted so doing it to a guy would just be rude "
Good lass! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Post meet say yes to at least three and fingers crossed one just may turn up x
I understand what you're saying, single males are notorious for their ability to be reliably unreliable."
If they all turn up then happy days x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Post meet say yes to at least three and fingers crossed one just may turn up x
I understand what you're saying, single males are notorious for their ability to be reliably unreliable.
If they all turn up then happy days x"
Sounds like a good night for someone! lol x |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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"Its as much as a turn off for a single male as it would be a cpl or female. Yeah I'm personally here for fun but part of the pleasure is the urge to meet. That urge is killed with certain behaviours or treatment. It's no pleasure meeting a fem or cpl if you ain't got that grrrrrrr to meet
I completely agree, I'm also here for fun and I feel the urge to meet is better to be mutual. If not then I think the atmosphere and experience of the meet would suffer. Unlike a lot of single males on this site I'm not desperate enough to meet people to make the backup option appealing. I'm happy to hold out that bit longer for someone who would genuinely appreciate the experience "
Indeed. Part of the fun is the pleasure & experience you give/bring the female and her to you be it a cpl or a single-f. Suppose it depends what type of guy it is. Some wont mind being a last resort whilst some do mind |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me its their insensitivity to the words they are using.....i wouldnt meet them if they did put wording like that..yes its off putting and im female..but im also a single and i know what that feels like when you are treated like an accessory xx dont dwell on it sweet, pass them by or make notes or block xx
That's pretty well hit the nail on the head! It was maybe a sweeping generalisation but folk seem to be catching my drift lol xx"
i notice it and i dont like it...simple xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Its as much as a turn off for a single male as it would be a cpl or female. Yeah I'm personally here for fun but part of the pleasure is the urge to meet. That urge is killed with certain behaviours or treatment. It's no pleasure meeting a fem or cpl if you ain't got that grrrrrrr to meet
I completely agree, I'm also here for fun and I feel the urge to meet is better to be mutual. If not then I think the atmosphere and experience of the meet would suffer. Unlike a lot of single males on this site I'm not desperate enough to meet people to make the backup option appealing. I'm happy to hold out that bit longer for someone who would genuinely appreciate the experience
Indeed. Part of the fun is the pleasure & experience you give/bring the female and her to you be it a cpl or a single-f. Suppose it depends what type of guy it is. Some wont mind being a last resort whilst some do mind "
Sums it up pretty well! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Of course everyone has preferences and I have no problem with that but being the backup option just isn't attractive to me. It seems like a male is a last resort and only being considered due to the lack of a better offer.
As I said I was just looking to see if anyone's of the same opinion as me its their insensitivity to the words they are using.....i wouldnt meet them if they did put wording like that..yes its off putting and im female..but im also a single and i know what that feels like when you are treated like an accessory xx dont dwell on it sweet, pass them by or make notes or block xx
That's pretty well hit the nail on the head! It was maybe a sweeping generalisation but folk seem to be catching my drift lol xx i notice it and i dont like it...simple xx"
xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree with you OP.
In much the same way, we're put off profiles that appear to be primarily looking for single females with couples thrown in as a back up option. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Totally agree with you OP.
In much the same way, we're put off profiles that appear to be primarily looking for single females with couples thrown in as a back up option."
I've seen a few single females/couples looking for couples, seemingly solely looking to play with the female half |
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"I've no idea as I don't look at couples.
But to hijack the thread a teeny bit - if a guy you know posts a meet is he expecting that you might send a message, or is he looking for someone new? Because he could have just messaged you if he wanted to see you?"
The day what you are saying happens, I will believe the ' only here to meet one guy' thing. |
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