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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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I wonder if you could advise me on how is the best way to feel comfortable around meeting couples at clubs.
I have no problem at all with single guys I just feel really awkward with the whole couple situation.
I think it might be based on when I did have a playmate he really had a problem with single guys approaching us as he felt they were a threat.
Of course he's no longer around me but I'm kind of kept some kind of awkwardness I think from now.
I did push myself out a little bit and a while ago I'm separate occasions I started meeting two couples.
1 couple I became good friends with and in their time of need them them money which led to me being financially ripped off, more fool me I have learnt the hard when I'm that one.
The second couple even though we met once for a social and one supply wanted for more from me than I could ( or wanted to) provide and wanted to see me and be in touch with me so much. I really would like to be able to feel comfortable around couples as I think it would be fun.
This is not me asking for couples to be in touch to meet them this is just for advice.
thank you so much.
Lola xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's the thing, some people leave a lasting impression on us. Our subconscious kicks in and tells us to be nervous and it gives off awkward signals.
Try to relax, be you, and remember, couples can be nervous too  |
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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"thought about looking for a poly couple elsewhere online? would that suit you?xx"
That would suit me, although I'm not so much that I'mlooking, its just when its a situation where there are lots of couples, I feel awkward I would like to get over that. For example on Saturday I'm going to a Playground party, as a single lady, and it is couples and single ladies only.
I want to be able to enjoy myself the same as I do when it's a regular club night, but just something about being around only couples makes me feel a little awkward, like I am am slightly intruding, if I approach. |
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Same as anywhere
Smile, strike up a conversation! On the rare occasions we have played with single ladies in clubs we are nervous too!
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WOW that gorgeous single lady (or guy or couple) smiled at us
Don't blow it
Act cool
Smile back
Say hello
General chit chat
Ask what they look for, limits etc
Clench bum cheeks in expectation of rejection and ask the question
Would you like to play?
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All move off somewhere more cosy!
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It really is no different I promise
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"thought about looking for a poly couple elsewhere online? would that suit you?xx
That would suit me, although I'm not so much that I'mlooking, its just when its a situation where there are lots of couples, I feel awkward I would like to get over that. For example on Saturday I'm going to a Playground party, as a single lady, and it is couples and single ladies only.
I want to be able to enjoy myself the same as I do when it's a regular club night, but just something about being around only couples makes me feel a little awkward, like I am am slightly intruding, if I approach. "
you aren't the only one x the attitude towards singles from a lot of couples on the forum has added to this sense of them and us for me. Couples and single ladies nights for me are a challenge, even if im going as part of a couple. thankyou for sharing x |
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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Thank you and I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Anyway I am going through a period of pushing myself out of my comfort zone, so I will try and see if I can feel more at ease!
Thank you for all your help. |
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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Thank you and I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Anyway I am going through a period of pushing myself out of my comfort zone, so I will try and see if I can feel more at ease!
Thank you for all your help. |
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
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Thank you and I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Anyway I am going through a period of pushing myself out of my comfort zone, so I will try and see if I can feel more at ease!
Thank you for all your help.  |
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Having been a single girl and now a couple this is how I see it
Most important thing is to remember they are a couple so don't concentrate on talking to just one of them
As a couple if a single fem focus her attention on just the guy you immediately get the girls back up
Same as if a guy approached us and puts his attention on me ignoring my fella that doesn't go down well at all lol
People often think it's easier for a girl but I can exactly see what you are saying
Hope it all goes well X |
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Having been a single girl and now a couple this is how I see it
Most important thing is to remember they are a couple so don't concentrate on talking to just one of them
As a couple if a single fem focus her attention on just the guy you immediately get the girls back up
Same as if a guy approached us and puts his attention on me ignoring my fella that doesn't go down well at all lol
People often think it's easier for a girl but I can exactly see what you are saying
Hope it all goes well X "
Thank you. I do try and talk to them both or focus on chatting a little bit more with the girl.
I will take the points everyone has mentioned on board, and see if I can push my comfort zone out a little bit, it's only my head that's making me feel awkward really I think. |
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"Having been a single girl and now a couple this is how I see it
Most important thing is to remember they are a couple so don't concentrate on talking to just one of them
As a couple if a single fem focus her attention on just the guy you immediately get the girls back up
Same as if a guy approached us and puts his attention on me ignoring my fella that doesn't go down well at all lol
People often think it's easier for a girl but I can exactly see what you are saying
Hope it all goes well X
Thank you. I do try and talk to them both or focus on chatting a little bit more with the girl.
I will take the points everyone has mentioned on board, and see if I can push my comfort zone out a little bit, it's only my head that's making me feel awkward really I think."
Haha I'm the worlds worst believe it or not I'm quite shy and really like the other to make the first move lmfao especially when it comes to girls ... I'm one of those ones that wants a Dom girl go for it then I can relax
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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago
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If I'm reading the signs right and I feel comfortable I'm happy to make the first move... I have to be absolutely sure though because I've been in a couple of situations where I've had girls come across quite full on, and I find it much harder to say no to a woman than a man, I will still say no, though but I feel that's completely awkward!!! |
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"If I'm reading the signs right and I feel comfortable I'm happy to make the first move... I have to be absolutely sure though because I've been in a couple of situations where I've had girls come across quite full on, and I find it much harder to say no to a woman than a man, I will still say no, though but I feel that's completely awkward!!!"
Lol I could have written that myself haha also I am shit at spotting if a girl likes me .... Completely know if a guy does but Inked has to point it out when it's a girl ... I tend to think they are just being chatty lmfao X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That's the thing, some people leave a lasting impression on us. Our subconscious kicks in and tells us to be nervous and it gives off awkward signals.
Try to relax, be you, and remember, couples can be nervous too "
I hope we left you with good feelings about cpls 
From a col5d point of veiw we get what your saying..there are only a few cpls we meet regular other wise find alot of them quite awkward... we prefer to play with single guys and girls much easier all round |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I understand this can potentially be a difficult situation. Because in 'non swinging normal life' the dynamics of a conversation between a couple and a single wouldn't ever evolve in the same way. So socially it can be difficult to know how to deal with it in the swinging context. I guess it all comes down to the individuals involved. I think personally, in our experience, it's important that the couple make the effort because it's easier for the couple as they are in the majority of two. Sometimes we meet people and click and conversation flows easily and openly between all 3, other times it doesn't. Which is just like any meeting of people in life. |
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